Just wanted to ask a few questions in this subreddit. I have seen other subreddits related to the merchant navy but literally every post I see warns people to stay well away from this career. It seems a lot of those people are speaking from their experience being a seafarer from South Asia or other Asian countries, but it's hard to tell.
I have good A level grades but have found it difficult to secure apprenticeships in other fields in the past year, possibly from not searching hard enough or an especially competitive market nowadays. I've received an offer for an ETO cadetship from a well regarded shipping company, and I increasingly interested in the career. By the time I complete my cadetship I will be in my late twenties.
Initially I heard that there is a massive demand for engine/electrical cadets, but I also about companies hiring officers from countries with cheaper labour, and UK officers finding it more difficult to find secure jobs/ having to settle for less pay. Is this the case?
I'd call myself an ambivert and I think I can handle time away from family and friends, as long as I have contact with them through the internet. Are there any of you who also thought this was the case for them but was proven wrong by the reality? or on the other hand, affirmed and pleasantly surprised about how it was to deal with the isolation, if it even felt like that?
What is day to day life and structure like for an ETO on ship? I've seen descriptions of people working day shift hours, but also other people describing it as "12 hour shifts". What is the average day like? On busy days, is it stressful, is it fulfilling, is the reward worth the effort? What is it like decompressing after these days, and do you ever get to recover from this while still on ship? I am well aware of the fact that you will often be the only ETO on board, so if any issue arises you will have to respond to it, no matter the expected day structure you have.
What do you spend quiet/rest time doing on ship. Studying, lounging, using the gym, watching videos/ playing games?
Which contract rotations do you find work best for you? Do you find it's true that the pattern of long time on and off ACTUALLY gives you more quality time with your family, and is this more important to you than seeing them every day? Do you spend time off studying, relaxing, travelling, do the extra long breaks get mundane?
My biggest concern is what it would be like to find a partner/ maintain a relationship. I understand with patchy connectivity and long time at sea, it puts a lot of strain on relationships, and both parties have to communicate well and be realistic about expectations. I am in mid twenties now and It's something I am thinking about more, would anyone say that their life as a seafarer actually fared better in ways for navigating relationships and life with their kids?