I’m a guy in my late twenties, living in Amman, and lately I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships, marriage, and honestly, whether I’m falling behind in life.

I’ve spent most of my twenties focusing on my career, trying to become financially independent, and building a decent future for myself. I make around 1,200 JOD a month before deductions, which I know isn’t bad by Jordanian standards, but I also have a car payment of almost 300 JOD for 2 years, regular expenses, and I’m trying to save whatever I can but honestly im failing miserably.

And when I think about marriage, getting an apartment, furnishing it, wedding expenses, and everything else, I genuinely don’t understand how people our age are managing it.

But honestly, the financial side isn’t even what bothers me the most.

I’ve fallen in love twice in my life. Both times, I got rejected.

I don’t blame either of them. You can’t force someone to feel something they don’t. But I’m also not the type of person who develops feelings easily, so when it happens, it means a lot to me.

And sometimes I genuinely wonder what it’s like to have someone love you back. To have someone excited to see you, someone to talk to after a long day, someone who chooses you as much as you choose them.

I don’t want to get married just to say I’m married. I want to actually love the person I’m with and build something meaningful together. While i reached a conclusion based on what i see in society that the traditional way is the right way, i do not think i would be suitable, i feel too much of a "weird" person, idk how to explain it but thats not me plus my social circle is too small for such thing.

Meanwhile, life just keeps moving. Work, home, friends, sleep, repeat. Weeks turn into months, and suddenly another year has passed.

I see people around me getting engaged and married, and while I’m genuinely happy for them, I sometimes wonder if I’m missing something everyone else seems to have figured out.

And where do people even meet someone nowadays? University is behind us, work isn’t the right place, and social circles don’t suddenly expand as you get older.

Part of me thinks I should just focus on my career, earn more, pay off my car, save enough money while idk how i would do that, and worry about marriage later.

But another part of me is scared of that idea.

What if I reach my mid-thirties, financially comfortable, professionally successful, but still haven’t found anyone?

And what if I meet someone now? Am I financially ready to take that step? Or am I supposed to wait until everything is perfect?

I know I should be building my future for myself, and I am. But sometimes, especially when I’m alone at night, I can’t help wondering who I’ll eventually get to share that future with.

I’m not miserable, and I have things in my life I’m grateful for. But I’d be lying if I said the loneliness doesn’t get to me sometimes.

I guess I’m posting this because I want to hear from people in a similar situation, especially here in Jordan.

How are you dealing with rejection, loneliness, and the financial pressure of marriage? Are you waiting until you’re financially stable, or are you trying to find someone and figure things out together?

And for those who actually found someone, how did it happen?

I’m not looking for sympathy or the usual “just focus on yourself” advice. I’m genuinely curious about other people’s experiences, because sometimes it feels like I’m doing everything I can to build a good life, but I’m missing one of the most important parts of it.

قدّمت على وظيفة مبيعات داخلية في شركة بعمان، والمقابلة كانت ممتازة جدًا. الشخص اللي قابلني واللي اكتشفت لاحقًا من مصادر علنية إنه مليونير ومالك الشركة كان معجب فيّ جدًا وبإجاباتي، وحسسني بشكل واضح إنه مقتنع فيّ ومتحمس لتوظيفي.

بعدها وصلني عرض عمل براتب 750 دينار شهريًا، بالإضافة إلى عمولات وبونصات، مع موعد محدد لبدء العمل. قرأت العرض ولاحظت إنه في تفاصيل مهمة ناقصة أو غير واضحة، مثل نسب العمولات وشروط البونص، طبيعة الشغل بالتحديد، موعد التسجيل بالضمان، موعد أول راتب، والعقد العربي النهائي.

بعثت إيميل محترم جدًا وسألت عن هاي التفاصيل قبل ما أوقّع. ما طلبت زيادة راتب ولا حكيت بطريقة سيئة؛ كنت فقط بدي أفهم شو العقد اللي رح ألتزم فيه.

بعدها بساعتين تقريبًا فتحت رابط العرض، ولقيت مكتوب: «تم سحب هذا الطلب»، مع إنه الرابط ما كان منتهي وما وصلني أي إيميل يخبرني إنهم رفضوني أو سحبوا العرض. بعتت للـHR أكثر من مرة وما ردوا.

اتصلت بالموظفة اللي عملت معي مقابلة الفرز، ولما شرحتلها كانت مستغربة وقالت إنها مش بالدوام، وإنها رح توصل المشكلة للشخص المعني. سألتها إذا ممكن أتصل ثاني يوم لو ما صار إشي وقالت نعم. اتصلت اليوم مرتين وما ردت، ولسه ما عندي أي تفسير.

ممكن يكون خطأ بالنظام، وممكن فعلًا سحبوا العرض بسبب أسئلتي—ما بقدر أجزم لأنهم اختاروا ما يوضحوا. لكن ترك شخص استلم عرض عمل يلاحقهم أيام عشان يعرف إذا العرض ما زال قائمًا أو لا تصرف فوضوي وغير مهني جدًا، خصوصًا من شركة صاحبها مليونير وبتحاول تظهر بصورة احترافية.

هل أسئلتي كانت مبالغًا فيها؟ وهل صار مع حدا موقف مشابه، إنه الشركة تسحب رابط العرض مباشرة بعد أسئلة طبيعية عن الراتب والعمولات والعقد؟ 🫩

Hello guys,

It is my first time in middle east countries and I‘m still learning how things are here. I’ve experienced some good things and some not so good and have some questions to improve for the bad ones when i encounter these situations in the future. Hope someone can guide me.

People trying to sell services/stuff

How do you guys deal with this effectively? When I arrived to Petra I got approached by a guy trying to sell me a taxi. I said no thank you about 3 times, he finally leaves me alone. Good.

After a couple seconds another guy approaches me trying to sell me the same thing. I was like ok, apparently telling them no thank you doesn’t work here, maybe ignoring and not making eye contact will work.

The guy got mad so I acknowledged him and said no thank you. He tells me they are not going to bite me and to show some respect. I was like bro I am showing respect by not making you lose time and energy with someone who will not be your customer and you are also showing me none … but ok.

Took his advise today inside Petra. I acknowledged people before hand and said no thanks. No one would take a no for an Answer and kept pushing, and i kept saying no thank you. One of the donkey guys got mad at me and ask me “tell me why you come here” “you dont have a heart you dont support people” … wtf.

Then I ran into some guys who i told no thank you on My way to the monastery, and they rushed to get me tea. I read that it is rude to reject tea and they tell me that but at the same time i was like brother you only giving me tea to pressure me into buying from you, so i said i was in a rush. They asked me to come have a look at the shop on My way back and I agree, and they made eye contact with me telling me “because you are man” … whatever.

On My way down they of course are waiting for me so I say yes I will have a look as we agreed. I have a look, they don’t have anything that I want to buy so I tell them there is nothing that I want to buy and thank them. Then the guy starts flipping telling me I didn’t keep My word.

I agreed to look, not to buy? That is the exact reason i rejected their tea to begin with …

In the end, I ended up buying a scarf from a woman who was never pushy. She still tried to scam me with 70JOD which I need up buying at 25, and even then a friend i made from a restaurant told me he would sell for 10 … but ok whatever, I wanted to support her.

Dealing with personal questions

What’s up with guys asking you personal questions after 5 minutes of interacting with you? Example i was at a coffee shop and a guy takes a seat. We chat a bit and he asks me “are you alone?” “where are you staying” … like bro chill. If it felt so uncomfortable for me I can’t imagine how a woman would feel. This One I am not sure how to react to. I of course tell them a lie and move on to another topic.

Thanks guys appreciate your feedback.

مرحبا لاحظت اخر شهرين او تلات انه التقلبات النفسيه عم تيجيني بعد انتهاء الدورة او النزيف عم باكل كتير وبنام كتير وزعلانة ٢٤ ساعة وحساسة من كل الناس مو متحملة حدا وبعرف الطبيعي او العلمي تكون هاي الاعراض العشر ايام قبل البيريود بدي اعرف لو حد جرب هاد الاشي واتأكد لاني خايفة يكون اشي مش هرموني عم بصلي يكون هرموني

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عندي بسة مريضة قلب فمسبب سوائل على الرئة عندها والعلاج جدا بيكلف والسوائل كل كم يوم بترجع ودورنا ملاجئ ما لقينا مين بعرف ناس او دكاترة بيطرية او عيادات بيقبل هيك حالات يعالجوها تطوعا وعادي لو يظل عندهم على طول بس المهم يظل يتعالج لأنه مستحيل نتركه في الشارع بس ما بنقدر على علاجه ولا إنه نشوفه يموت

مرحبا بدي اجيب ايباد للجامعه بدي يكون معي ٥ سنين ومش عارفه شو اجيب ما بدي اشي يكون أغلى من ٤٠٠ مع اغراضه
انه قلم وكفر و الكيبورد
انصحوني ايش اجيب ومن وين

وين في اماكن معتمدة بقدر اطلع منها شهادة ال ايلتس و كم تكلفة الاختبار و هل في معاهد معتمدة تأهيلية ؟

شو مدى صعودة الامتحان لشخص متحدث باللغه الانجليزية

الباص الي بيوصل عالمطار من مجمع الشمال، موجود يوم الجمعة؟

Hello I have finally started my guitar journey in classic and electric guitars the question is, do I need a musical institution or I can learn it at home? I know like the very basics and knowledge I picked up over the past week but I feel like I’m locked behind those app’s paywalls and stuff would love to take your opinions on it

بمحلات البصريات شو في حل نجيب نظارة طبية مضمونة وكيف نتأكد من شغلهم لانه في كثير ناس بروح يفصل نظارات على اساس طبية واخر اشي بعد ما يدفع تطلع بس عدسة بتقرب والله المستعان

Hello! My name is Dana. I’m a master’s student and I’m currently writing my thesis on Audience preferences regarding subtitling and dubbing of animated movies. If you’re based in Jordan, please help me fill out the survey.
It only takes around 5 minutes 🙏🏻 I NEED TO GRADUATE PLEASE HELP PLEASEEEEEEhttps://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdBQ9DhROvZGjKGIIOmGF7qaVlMrK2bsMRLTqb35t1xJX-pvA/viewform?usp=publish-editor

مش عارف

مضغوط لدرجة اني بدي انهي حياتي

انا بحب بنت وميت فيها وهي بتحبني بس خايفه او متضايقة من التجارب الشنيعة الي بنشوفها بمجتمعنا شو اعمللها عشان ترضى افديها بدمي بروحي شو اعمللها خلص البنت هاي مش قادر استوعب انه في بنت على الأرض غيرها والله إني تعبت معها حاولت معها بكل الطرق حكيت معها وقالت انها سافرت ومو مفكرة بالموضوع انا محترم رأيها بس نفسي تشوف حالها بنظرتي الها وكيف بحبها بدون مسخرة والله إني مخلص بحبها اكتر من روميو وللحد الي ما بيستوعبه عقلها

كان صعب عليكم تشتغلوا QA لو فريشات؟

Any recommendations for wedding planners in amman that are tried and trusted?

Any thoughts about working with feelings wedding planner as a bride / groom?

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