Born and raised here, make 110k as an engineer, single (male), and still live at home with parents. Can I slow down on retirement if I worked really hard in my youth days, gave up most of my 20s and social life to save? I currently have the following (everything was saved from me working and being frugal, no inheritances or help from family other than living with them):

1. Retirement Accounts Total: $210k saved. Been contributing a lot for the last couple of years, at the cost of not really having fun and not experiencing big life events. But, if I stop contributing today, I will still be a millionaire when I'm 60 (assuming I don't touch it ever, with 7% returns, landing at about $1.1 million).
2. Regular brokerage (can sell/liquidate stocks whenever): $72k saved
3. Checkings/Emergency: $4k (I keep this as low as possible to invest elsewhere)
4. Paid off 2020 Toyota Camry, will drive it until it breaks so that I don't have a new monthly car payment.
5. I currently take home ~$2,300 biweekly while maxing 401k ($1,021 gone per paycheck), so if I reduce contributions to ~10%, I could take home around ~$2,800 biweekly (or $5,600 monthly) to make up for moving out and living alone.

Should I sell my entire brokerage account for a down payment and buy a 1-2 bedroom apartment in the $300-450k range and feel "house poor"? I won't be able to save aggressively anymore, and will probably feel like I'll be living paycheck to paycheck.

Or, should I just rent somewhere nice to be able to keep saving a bit still, keep growing the regular brokerage account stocks, and not stress about home ownership? Can I splurge a little bit for a $2,750 to $3,500 2-bedroom apartment with air conditioning in Ewa Beach or Aiea?

I know that living at home with family in Hawaii is very common, but I have the urge to break out of my shell and really learn how to be an adult. I feel that the stigma of living at home in my 30s will also affect dating. I feel a bit embarrassed when I tell people that I still live at home, and feel behind when I see all my friends on social media living on their own with their partners and going on cool trips.

Mahalos for listening and appreciate any advice.

mid 30's dudes looking for a peep or 2 to play board/card games.

planning a night this friday, october 16.

my game collection is somewhere around medium-light complexity but with some heavy ones.

waikiki/ala moana/kakaako area, couple times each month.

we know of the prominent game meetups but we sometimes just have friday after work or sunday free. Also open to be assimilated into another collective.

we can chat first or whatever. feel free to DM.

Howzit everyone,
I'm writing a book about growing up in Hawai'i in the 1980's. Does anyone remember when the Toys N Joys in Kaimuki opened up? If not, where else did people go to get Japanese toys back in '88?

Aloha! I’m trying to reconnect with the old Quake II Deathmatch community in Hawaii from around 1997–1999.

I played under DTR, sometimes Down2Rock or Destined2Rule.

I remember playing on local servers, possibly one called KOTONK or KATONK, with player rankings and very low ping. I also remember players with names like Smoovy and Caps / Capbz / Cappz.

We had a small LAN party in Kailua with approximately 10–12 players, and I remember communicating with people through ICQ.

I’m mainly hoping to reconnect with the old Hawaii players. Does anyone remember these servers, player handles, or that Kailua LAN party?
Would be great to hear from anyone who was part of that scene. Mahalo!

Is the University of Hawai'i at Mãnoa good for premed? I am thinking of applying there, but I'd like to hear from others about their experience. How are the management, academics, campus culture, etc. like? Do they have good opportunities and resources for premed? I appreciate all input, even if you are not a premed student there

What would Hawaii gain and/or lose if groceries and drug were not taxed.

Example: Washington State does not tax grocery and drug

Game rooms are nothing compared to this

Saw my chance, took the shot

Looking to find some Sim racing friends on island. I've been playing Ac (no hesi) but I'm open to other games too.. hmu!

I'm thinking of switching from Spectrum to Tmobile 5G Home Wifi. I'm just worried about lags and such. Anyone have any experience switching? How was it? The cost savings is appealing. We have around 10 devices that get regularly used (streaming, browsing, games, etc.). We are in town.

In Honolulu. I hear Gorilla Ogo is highly invasive and I am trying to make some seaweed solution for some homemade plant fertilizer, so might as well also do some invasive control! Does anyone by chance know anywhere on island I could easily harvest some without having to swim out too far? Mahalo nui!

Aloha all, My dog Kupe‘e escaped from my yard at around 1pm yesterday. If anyone has any leads on where he might be/if you saw him please let me know. 🚨‼️DO NOT CHASE‼️🚨 He will run farther. Please message me when you spot him with the location. Mahalo💖 — at Kapolei Aeloa.

My family and I have lived in Aina Haina for the last few years, but due to our landlord's declining health we need to move out. A friend is offering us a great deal on a 17th story condo near downtown - my wife and I like urban living but haven't done it with kids (we have a 3 and 1 year old). I was wondering if anyone here has done it and has any insight or can share their experience about the good and the bad. Thanks!

https://www.sunbeltrentals.com/equipment-rental/general-construction-tools/1-2-4-hydraulic-knockout-set/0740150/

None available locally from sunbelt

Any other leads? TIA

Besides a few references, I've not seen any real discussion about the upcoming charter amendment votes. I used the reddit search function and only found this.

The Honolulu City Council webpage is here: https://www.honolulucitycouncil.org/oahuvotes

It provides links here: https://www4.honolulu.gov/docushare/dsweb/View/Collection-17112
With PDFs for the text of each amendment.

I mention this because Honolulu Civil Beat just posted an article regarding ranked choice voting, which is question #5.

Maybe the mods should create and pin a post. Then allow readers to fill in their thoughts on each issue.

Can you tell me ANYTHING else about this song? More lyrics I forgot, the names of the DJs who sang it, where I can listen to it again, etc?

I can recite (incompletely, in most cases) a bunch of media from my youth, growing up townie from the late 80s to early 2000s. (I just commented some extra lines of dialogs on the "we are Hawaiian, use your libary" post.) Old commercials, PSAs, music, movies, TV shows, and in today's case, this Jay-Z send-up they played on the radio all the time to the beat of Hard Knock Life.

It was performed, recorded, and replayed by two local DJs, probably on 104.3 Xtreme Radio or Star 101.9 Hawaii's Only Alternative. I'd guess 1998+ for year, since the source album also dropped then.

Do you, too, remember this gem?

Lyrics I remember:

... as Don Ho's schlong is long

Parents always complainin' JIMMY, WHY YOU PLAY DAT SONG

Like when Cypress Hill is talkin' 'bout them hits from the bong

Look, just because we play some songs with questionable lyrics

Doesn't mean we're all evil, so man I don't wanna hear it

Don't judge us if you don't know us and just base it on a hunch

We're just people havin' fun, don't get your panties in a bunch, yeah

We all may be a little crazy and sometimes a bit naughty

But uh "la-di-da-di, we likes to party"...

Recently moved here and I know that obviously you call older people “auntie” and “uncle,” but I’ve also noticed that lots of people call girls around their age or younger “sis/sister.” Now I’m curious if you should call guys your age or younger “bro/brother”? Or “cousin”? Sorry if this is a stupid question!!

(Edit: idk if this is relevant or changes anything but I am a girl)

Some dumbass pigeons with stupid pigeon faces made a nest on my lanai and now at least one idiot pigeon has hatched and now there are annoying pigeon noises and pigeon crap all the time and they need to go. Is there a way to relocate them that won't just result in them getting eaten by the feral cats?

I looked online for animal control stuff and it looks like nobody will really do anything for them because they're invasive. I would feel kinda bad for the morons to get eaten, but also I can't let their shit drip down onto the neighbors.

Craving it like crazy rn, preferably not an outrageous price lol. Thank you!

I was born in 98. I remember a song growing up pretty dang young and loved it. I’d put it between 2002-2012. All I remember it was a bit upbeat fast like the music then on the radio, and assuming it’s the chorus cause I feel it was repeated from my memories. It went something like “you can be my shanana shanana shanana giiiiirl” now idk if it’s “you can be” or “will you be” “can you be” or what. Also if it’s shalala. I have never forgotten this song, and have never been able to find it. Someone pleeease! Ik someone’s got it