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🚨don't waste your time messaging me if you just want to sext/hook up. NO ONE under 25.

Hey there! Im Kai (like hai) im not looking to rush into anything. Im more into just flirting and seeing where things go naturally. I love a man that knows how to serve and yearns to make a beautiful girl happy. If you're a man who loves to feel inferior then you might be the one im looking for. Mean girl princess vibes with the matching valley girl accent. Very feminine. I ONLY bottom. I will NOT penetrate you.

As a femdom im into: cucking, cum feeding, Chasity, denial, bullying, humiliation, degradation, probably more lets explore.

Im going to get my hard nos out of the way first so you dont have to waste your time reading before getting into the sfw

Hard nos(non-negotiables): NO trump supporters or voters. And im talking ANY election, idc if you've found the light recently.

NO gun owners

Zero tolerance for bigotry.

Anyone who struggles with their mental health but refuses to go to therapy and/or start medication

No nicotine/tobacco users.

No military or police (security guards can stay but youre on thin ice 👀🤣)

No one who already has or wants kids

No one looking for something poly/enm

About me: I teach preschool but I am happily childfree and intend on remaining childfree

Huge stoner and weed nerd. I love learning about and discussing the science behind different cannabinoids and our endocannabinoid system. (I also make a ton of edibles)

Introverted homebody who likes the occasional spontaneous adventure

Big animal lover. My cat Milo is my whole world

Diagnosed Audhd so expect direct blunt communication and questions on clarification haha not afraid to call you out

Definitely have a thing for nerdy gamers. Specifically those that play d&d, mtg, rpgs, etc

Half weirdo half brat. You'll never meet someone like me again. Whether that's good or bad depends on you 😉

Certified yapper

About you (hopefully): silly and goofy. Please dont take yourself too seriously

Full of whimsy ✨️ let's have a picnic in the park and frolic

Guy who loves being held and his head/back scratched

A guy comfortable enough in his masculinity to get a little girly sometimes but still able to treat me like a princess

Goes to therapy!!!!!

Bonus points if you play rpgs or tabletop games AND let me watch

PLEASE be willing to send face pics right away. Im not going to pretend physical attraction isn't important. I have pictures on my profile and will gladly provide more

Anyway if you're someone who isn't looking to jump into anything right away but just wants to casually get to know someone and see where things go and my post resonates with you send me a message ☺️. Just include your name, age, location and youre favorite Pokémon (if you don't have a favorite Pokémon you can tell me your favorite fun fact) low effort messages will be ignored ✌️

Hi everyone, I’m 25 and I’m from California. Appearance wise I’m 5’4, pale skin, dark hair and green eyes. Personality wise I’m sarcastic, funny, thoughtful, ambitious, and slightly shy at first. My interests are history, music (I love the smiths, arctic monkeys, lana del rey and Fleetwood Mac) art and art history, as well as beauty and fashion. I’ve tried dating apps, but it’s difficult to find this particular dynamic on them so I’m trying this! As far as kinky stuff goes I have pretty tame kinks which we can discuss further later, I’m definitely a more gentle dominant so anything extreme is completely out of window for me personally. I also prefer to have normal conversations instead of getting right into things, getting to know a sub makes it easier for me to dominate you! Ideally im looking for something that will turn into a relationship, not just a dom/sub dynamic. My ideal sub someone who is ambitious, gentle, funny, and empathetic. Physically I love the pretty boy type, a pretty face will get you a long way with me! But I also love tall men with nice accents. If you’re interested, please be from 22-28 and message me an intro message and be comfortable providing a selfie early because attraction is important! (I’ll do the same). I’m excited to hear from you all :)

It's a long read, so buckle in.

I want to be your partner, not your kink dispenser. I don't need someone to proclaim devotion, but never show it. Spending hours talking about a fantasy life without taking any solid measures doesn't appeal to me on any level. Take the time to get to know me, and don't bring desperation into the mix. It isn't special if you're just looking for anyone who will take you.

I'm back, with 30% more pessimism, but still won't settle for less than a genuine connection.

Let's work together and create something magical.

I'm older, mid to late 40s. I like to go out and do things, but there is no place like home. I won't say no to a nice dinner out, especially if sushi is involved. Let's get high and watch Bob's Burgers, or maybe Letterkenny.

I'm 420 friendly, but don't do it all the time, typically just edibles at bedtime and to unwind some days. I don't drink alcohol. I love hockey, but I'm down to watch any sport, except golf.

I'm not religious, but I would consider myself to be a little bit spiritual.

I don't have any kids. It's okay if you do. I've been a foster parent in the past, so I've actually had parenting classes. However, I won't be having any of my own, unless it's more fostering or adoption.

I'm pet free and don't mind if you have them, but I'm only used to cats, so if you have dogs, it could take me time to acclimate.

I'm tall, I'm fat (ssbbw), I'm tattooed. I've been ghosted after exchanging pics, so I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Another thing to note is I'm chronically ill. So, if me having to use a walker or wheelchair for long distances is an issue, no problem, just move along.

I also recently had weight loss surgery, just so you're aware. I'm still healing from that.

I'm also perfectly fine to navigate without assistance in a house or dinner outings.

That being said, I like the visual that the public would have from this. They see a cute, caring partner who takes care of me, and have no idea the choke collar and leash I keep for you at home.

I proudly boast all As: anxiety, autism, adhd, artist.

Sometimes I have a hard time understanding what is going on, so if your communication style is direct and to the point, please get in my inbox!

As for art, I do all kinds of things. My favorite ways to create are hand embroidery and needle felting.

I enjoy holidays and believe that decorating a Christmas tree is lots of fun, especially if it's ornaments we make or things we enjoy. Riding around and looking at holiday decorations is one of my favorite things to do. A perfect date around the holidays would be to make some hot chocolate, put it in a travel mug and then drive around looking at light displays. Bonus points if you want to be locked in chastity while we do fun holiday things.

I've never had a partner who was enthusiastic about decorating for the holidays, so that would be a huge bonus.

On Halloween, let's watch horror movies, where you realize I'm a scaredy cat and need you to hold my hand.

I would like someone who can be kind and understanding, but also open to dark humor. It helps if you are attracted to chaotic adhd gremlins, such as myself. I don't have a preference for age, but a significant age gap could leave us at a loss for conversation at times.

Laughter and good conversation are very important. I enjoy guys who make me laugh. Goofball would be an accurate description of my type. I'm silly in the streets, but kinda sadistic in the sheets.

Looks aren't important.

I'm not looking for anything super fast, but I don't want to just have an extended talking stage with no forward movement. I want to build a good foundation with the right person.

I live in the Midwest and really like it here. I'd prefer you be local to Ohio, but I also enjoy Michigan. I'm also willing to acknowledge that for the right connection, I would consider relocation to almost anywhere.

Kink wise, I'm domme leaning, but can switch with the right person, though it's not a necessity.

I don't just want a submissive, I want an actual relationship. I want a very sweet and tender relationship, where we both feel secure together and can be our authentic selves. I want to be romanced.

In other words, be yourself, and don't be a doormat. I want to lovingly disrespect you, which means you've got to have self-respect. Be confident and willing to recognize that a real relationship has to exist outside of the bedroom.

I mention kink only because we need to be on the same page, but it's not all I want, and I definitely don't want it right away. If you'll show me your dick before you'll show me your face, I'll never be able to respect you, so don't bother.

I don't want just any submissive. I want someone I click with on multiple levels, not just in the bedroom.

While I would love to reply to everyone who messages me, I tend to skip over ones that just say 'hey' or things like that. I also don't answer anyone who opens with any kind of 'Mommy' or sexual overtones like that. I'm not looking for that in my person.

Things I absolutely don't want:

-to sext right away or see unsolicited body parts.

-to be begged for nsfw photos

If you have read this far, and you're interested in chatting, send a message that includes the following:

-Your Age (if you are below 30, please also include your thoughts on why you would be interested in a serious relationship with a woman in her 40s)

-Your general location (Country and State mininum)

-Acknowledgement that I'm disabled

-An interesting fact about yourself you would like me to know (keep it SFW)

P.S. I want to be your passenger princess in the car because I don't care for driving, but lucky for you, I get the best parking in town.

Hi! I'm a 31 year old British guy with many kinks and interests, ranging from chastity and bondage to trading cards to collecting Ema from Shrines across Japan. (I'm aiming to get one from every prefecture in time, but for now I seek interesting ones!)

I'm spending a lot of time in Tokyo for a mix of work and pleasure and will be there from October 8th - November 21st and if you're in the same corner of the kink community as me, you know what October means! If you don't and are curious...feel free to ask!

Anyway, I once met up with a stranger in Tokyo for drinks after they saw one of my posts and knew I was locked, and it was exciting. It didn't lead to anywhere beyond the drinks - and that's totally fine. Just hanging out with that little extra knowledge between us can make the mediocre so much more - and well, even finding the mediocre in Tokyo is hard! I've spent about 2 years in Japan to this point so if you're a tourist and want a little tour for a day we could have some fun! But I'm not exactly looking for a keyholder - it'd be fun to hold my keys for a date, and if we got on maybe you'd keep them, but the default is lets aim to have a fun day together doing something and go from there. What kind of things could we do? Great question!

My main interests in Tokyo are -

- Card shops/Nerdy items - I love window shopping all the card shops and anime/gaming goods around Tokyo - almost as much as I love buying things!

- Good food at a good price - I'm not the most extravagant, but it's hard to go wrong in Tokyo.

- Bubble Tea walks - I adore getting a boba and just walking through Tokyo, and I know some good ones!

- Live concerts - I already have about 12 concerts booked for my time in Japan, ranging from Rock to Idol, so if you're curious we could go to something together

- General exploring - better with a boba in hand, but I just love walking around this city and seeing what I can find. My record is a walk from Tokyo to Yokohama with a bunch of stops along the way, my legs were DEAD afterward but I enjoyed the challenge.

I've met two people in Tokyo from reddit and while I enjoyed the aforementioned drinks, and I gave a Shibuya tour that was fun, the vibes weren't right to go any further than that and there's no pressure or expectation for anything down that road. I'd like to meet some cool people where there's a vague awareness we're both open to something if the cards line up right, but as much as one can chat and flirt online beforehand, only that in person connection can really reveal this.

I'm Schrodingers 6 foot, White British with an optional beard and fairly long hair often kept in a bun. I have a medium build - I don't work out, but I don't especially dislike my body. It's just normal.

If this is interesting to you and you're in the Tokyo area while I am, feel free to send me a message with a little about yourself. While this post obviously has a focus on the Locktober, I'm here into November so a November sentence is just as possible, just not my default.

Thanks for reading! I can share my face once we vibe a bit, but here's a little preview.

My name is Moustafa, but most ppl call me Mic. I juggle a few side gigs—I’m a theatre actor, a Dungeon Master for TTRPGs, and occasionally an instructor for a leadership and teamwork course (courtesy of my dad’s company—nepotism perks, I guess 😅) and computer engineer.

Theatre is a big passion of mine, and I also dedicate time to humanitarian work in the Middle East—sometimes even with the assistance of the US Air Force, which is ironic given my socialist views, but hey, mutual aid comes in strange forms. I also do community service, like beach cleanups and other local initiatives.

When I’m not working, you’ll usually find me playing guitar, going to the gym, running D&D sessions, or watching F1—Max Verstappen is my favorite driver though I am not much of a fan of the Red Bull team. I also love hiking and camping, which I used to do extensively between the ages of 17 and 19, traveling with friends to different locations. At my university, I’ve gained a bit of a reputation as a communist (though I’d argue I’m more of a socialist).

Most of my days are spent writing gothic horror for my TTRPG business, hanging out with friends, organizing gatherings (and the occasional party), running my university club, and wrapping up my studies as I near graduation. Hopefully, I can add you to my day too. 🥰

I live on my own in Alexandria atm, but, hould be able to move more freely and visit Cairo whenever after I finish shipping everything from abroad back to my apartment in Aex.

Kinks & Preferences

I’m a switch, but I lean mostly submissive, I am really into a person being into me, the more the person is into me the sluttier I become for them. Some of my kinks include pain play, CEI, CBT, foot fetish, worship (I am big time into this), light exposure, gagging, edging/JOI, bondage, degradation, praise, humiliation, edge play and more kinks too, I am mostly into pleasing my partner so I will likely go for whatever you want out of me (that means all kinks are negotiable, as long as you don't cross my limits). I want to be your fucking slut please🫣

Limits: Scat, gore, and findom.

My looks:

• Height: 185 cm

• Weight: 78 kg so 23 BMI

• pics of me: https://imgur.com/gallery/me-dN4ewV9

Hi,

I'm 32M, and work as a tech consultant at a FAANG company in Bangalore. I'm also a graduate from one of the best B-schools in India.

I've been into kink from a very early age, and I've always been interested in exploring a kink-baser lifestyle. I started out as a Dom at first, but soon realized my orientation when I met a dominant woman. I loved the dynamic, and ever since then, vanilla relationships have just not worked out for me.
I'm looking for someone who is interested in a long term female-led relationship, and want to nurture and develop a relationship with me, before getting into the dynamic.

Kinks: TPE, chastity, orgasm denial, verbal humiliation, bondage and impact play among others.

Limits: Blood, scat.

Aside from my kinky side, I'm an avid reader and love sci-fi and fantasy. I also enjoy deep conversations over mindless chatter and love the occassional debate.
Other than that, I'm into formula 1, and recently got obsessed with chess.

If this post interests you, please drop me a message.

Hey! I’m Matt. I’m 26, live in central NJ, and I'm currently holding down a part-time retail job while I'm finishing my Bachelor’s degree in Cybersecurity online.

If I'm being honest, writing personals ads always feels a bit awkward, so I'm just going to write this how I talk. Outside of work and classes, I'm a giant nerd! I spend a lot of time playing video games (mostly the Assassin's Creed series Fallout 4, and Skyrim). I'm also big into music, especially metal and hard rock (Three Days Grace and Avenged Sevenfold have been on constant repeat lately, so I'll always take recommendations), Greek mythology, D&D, Marvel/DC, and anime.

When I’m not doing computer or nerd stuff, I’m really into MMA, martial arts, grappling, and weightlifting. I wrestled all through middle and high school, and was in an MMA club early in college before COVID hit, and honestly, if you let me talk about it, I will probably ramble your ear off! I'm short, well-muscled, and built pretty compactly (5'3", and about 135 lbs), with short dirty-blonde hair and blue eyes. I also survived being in the NICU as a preemie, which left me with some old medical scars across my body. They’re just part of who I am, but they mean a lot to me when someone treats them with actual care. (And yes, there are a few pictures of me on my profile if you want to see what I look like and see the scars for yourself.)

As for kink, I’m pretty submissive and fairly new to actively exploring all of this, which is why I like to take things slow and steady. The kind of Femdom that actually appeals to me isn't about being bossed around by a stranger; it's about presence, guidance, and earned authority. I do best in a "good boy" mindset with a kind, firm, protective partner who cares about an actual emotional connection. My main interests are things like gentle Femdom, praise, pegging/prostate play, latex, leather, restraints, collars, and pet play. I’ve also got a mild masochistic streak. Mostly just light biting, scratching, or marking, nothing extreme.

On the flip side, I've figured out some hard limits. I have precisely ZERO interest in financial domination, tributes, or pay-to-play stuff. I also draw the line at extreme pain, permanent damage, sharp objects, bloodplay, feminization, bodily waste, psychological trauma, or sharing private details with anyone else. I'm only looking for a real connection, not a transaction.

Communication is a massive deal for me. I’ve dealt with brutal ghosting in the past, so follow-through and honesty mean everything! Radio silence or flaking without letting me know what's going on first is an instant dealbreaker. I also need grounding aftercare to stay healthy after a scene, whether that's physical touch, praise, or just talking things through.

To put all my cards on the table, I like to get this out in the open early: I have an overactive bladder (OAB), which is managed by a sacral nerve stimulator implant, and I'm also diagnosed with ADHD and Bipolar 2, and I'm fully medicated and proactive about managing both conditions. I really value a space where health and neurodivergence are met with maturity rather than weirdness.

Above all, I genuinely want to get to know whoever messages me as a person, way beyond just kink. Both cis and trans women are equally welcome! I honestly don't care what's in your pants as long as you're kind and respectful. (Though if you've got tattoos or piercings, I will definitely melt into a puddle on the spot!) Note: I'm straight, so men (cis or trans) please pass on this one!

Please feel free to reach out even if you just want to ask questions first. I’d love to chat, build a real foundation, and see if we click. I’m happy to send a verification picture early on, and I'd appreciate if you did the same.

If a soft, devotion-focused dynamic based on honesty, a steady pace, and open communication sounds like your thing, shoot me a message and tell me a bit about yourself and your approach to Femdom! And if you made it all the way through my rambling, feel free to let me know who your favorite Marvel or DC character is!

Hello, I am looking to find an extremely kinky domme that would enjoy turning me into her sex toy/ boy toy. Have complete control over me, tpe. Treat me like an object and slave. I will worship you for it. I have 3 days off in a row, so I would like to be taken during that time every week to be trained and used. I'm a 30 year old man in the IE. I am willing to travel pretty much anywhere in SoCal for the right domme. Not looking for online or relocation.

A perfect first date for me would be meeting at a park, then 5 minutes later, I'm tied up in the back of your car as you take me back to your place. My biggest fantasy is being owned completely and objectified. Kept in a room in bondage, edged, forced to watch porn, and just kept like that, just waiting for my domme to use me. I like the full range of soft sweet mommy domme to strict unforgiving goddess domme. No age preference. I also have a vacuglide that could milk/edge me endlessly, so that's something we could use too.

Me: Irl, I am pretty quiet and reserved. Good conversationalist. Masculine presenting. Pretty attractive. Pretty kinky. I have a job that I love and am good at. I am 5'8, 160lbs, white, red/brown hair, healthy, ddf, clean, single. Kinks are pretty much everything that's not a limit, but I have a proclivity for smothering, bondage, and edging. Limits: Illegal stuff, toilet stuff, gay/bi, sissy, heavy pain, findom.

You: Clean, single, can host in SoCal.

If I left anything out that you want to know, ask me. I tried to be consice. Send asl in first message please.

Stray puppy lf owner, be that sexual, non sexual or both (ideal).

About me (Non kink): I am a jazz trumpeter, learning trombone, piano, and to a lesser extent bass on the side. I aspire to either take this career pro or become an educator and/or composer in the field. I love music and can't see me doing anything else with my life career wise. In a gap year (unfortunately), next year should be my first year as a music major at my local university. Outside of that, I am a great cook and a great baker, and I love doing it for others just for funsies. If for whatever reason I hypothetically got injured to the point where music was no longer possible (incredibly unlikely that I wouldn't find a way around it), my next step would be a culinary career. I just now hit a gender crisis as well, fairly certain I'm not just a boy anymore, somewhere in the middle of something. Please be patient with me on that front if possible as well 💛 Oustide of that, huge yapper. I just talk for hours. I play some video games as well.

About me (kink): Into pet play (obviously), bondage, sensory play, praise/degradation, a reward/treat system, a training system, temp play, masochism/knifeplay, hypno, conditioning, feminization, watersports, overstimulation and/or denial. Those are the ones I've experimented with at least and I am very open to trying more things. Limits scat, vomit, bad gore (like permanent side effects). I can do without any of the kinks those arent all requirements to share but thats what im open too off the top of my head:)

Looking for: Kinks I'd like to share is petplay (again obviously), bondage, sensory, praise/degradation. Everything else is optional but desired. I again ask whoever responds to be patient about the gender thingy going on, hopefully I'll have a clear end point soon but it is currently all over the place. Hobbies and whatnot, I don't really care! Ideally we could share some games so we could play together and you could fathom what I am yapping about. Fully open to training however you see fit as long as its clear whats going on. If im missing any info you'd like feel free to ask, I'm an open book. Thank you for reading :)

I'm 21, 4'8 and weigh 90lbs. I am very submissive and know that I am nothing compared to beautiful curvaceous dominant women.

I would love to be of use to someone who is better than me in every way. Taller, more curvaceous, more womanly, more successful, more beautiful, bustier than me, just more woman than.

I have a dominant Daddy who is 6'6 and would like to meet someone who is more woman than me also and has set me a task of seeing if I am worthy of any dominant women.

In terms of kinks I am very much into humiliation, contrast, belittling, breast play, bondage. Limits are scat, gore and underage.

I would very much love to meet someone who knows they are better than me and is not concerned with shoving that in my face. Someone who would be willing to humiliate me, belittle me, show me what a real woman should be like. Someone who will mock me for my pathetic 28aa breasts, if they can even be called that. Someone who will make fun of my lack of height and flat useless figure.

I am open to anyone from anywhere and I hope you might find a use for me.

Thank you x

Hi so a bit about me I’m 25 been on hrt for about a year I’m 6ft ish and on the heavier side but losing weight but more importantly keeping it off. I have a ton of hobbies and interests but to list off a few I love to watch movies and tv shows I game fairly often and I also pretty much have music playing 24/7 I’m also a huge animal and nature lover. Last important thing I can think of to mention is I struggle a fair bit with stuff like autism adhd and bipolar.

What I’m looking for is someone who’s fem or fem leaning I’m not interested in any cis men sorry just don’t swing that way. Besides that there isn’t anything I care about physically I mean we will all be raisins some day anyways. Would love to be with someone who’s into spending time together and enjoying each others hobbies also enjoys going out. Last thing I can think to mention is I want something IRL someday.

While I value a romantic connection more I also need that sexual and kinky intimacy and I do have a fairly high sex drive. I’m a pure domme top. Some of my favorite kinks are TPE, pet play, chastity, feminization, bondage, shibari and a ton more but those are the big ones that come to mind but I’m really into most things. My hard limits are needles, gore, scat, vomit, anything that involves not being able to consent like drugs or alcohol cause consent is the sexiest thing on earth.

I think that’s everything if you did read all this thank you for your time and I hope you have a lovely day and or night.

Hi everyone! I’m posting because I’d love to connect with someone who shares my interests and is open to exploring a kinky connection, whether that starts online or potentially develops into meeting in person somewhere in the UK.
I’m particularly interested in pegging and enjoy the idea of being in a more submissive role with someone who’s confident, dominant and comfortable taking the lead. I’m very much into latex as well, and it’s something I’d love to share with someone who appreciates it as much as I do.
For me, it’s about more than just the physical side of things. I’m interested in finding someone I can build a good connection with, communicate openly with and feel comfortable exploring my submissive side around. I appreciate confidence, patience, a playful personality and someone who understands that trust and communication are important when exploring BDSM or kink.
I’m happy to start by chatting online, getting to know each other and seeing whether we click. If we get along well, I’d definitely be open to discussing meeting in person in the UK. There’s no pressure to rush anything; I’d rather find the right person than force a connection that isn’t there.
If you’re dominant, into pegging, enjoy latex or think we might have some interests in common, feel free to send me a message. Tell me a little about yourself and what you’re looking for, and we can see where things go.
Looking forward to meeting someone genuine who shares the same interests!

Hey 👋🏼 I'm 30 years old, blue eyes, 6'2, slim build,
medium-long hair, "pretty" face, from Texas.

I've been in the community for about 12 years, mostly as a dom (ironically). More recently however l've been leaning toward my "switchy" side, realizing I'm a bit burnt-out from always doing the work, the caretaking, the dominating, leading, etc. Knowing myself well by now, 1 think I'd click best with a soft/gentle/mommy femdom style, perhaps with their own switchy sides, as I absolutely adore being taken care of in a sweet yet insatiable or deviant way.

I also prefer a genuine connection (as opposed to something purely just physical/superficial), so a bit about me: l'd say I'm laid back, intelligent, humorous, spiritual, emotionally mature, perverse, sentimental, irreverent, gooty - and a lover of reading, music, and spending time with family/friends. We don't need to be identically compatible, but I'd preter someone who's at least likeminded in some ways.

If I seem up your alley, l'd love to hear from you. Tell me a bit about yourself as well as what you look like so that l'll know you actually read all of this. :) And please - for the love of god, don't be a short or dry type of communicator.

About me:
Hey! I’m a 30 year old male living in South Carolina and I’m looking for a gentle domme for an online dynamic. I have a decent amount of experience in real life being a sub but havnt gone too far into it and I’m really looking to explore my sub side more. I don’t just want sexting or strictly sexual type of dynamic, I know that I need to be comfortable with someone and trust them to really feel open and be able to get into my sub head space. So I also need a part of the dynamic to be like a close friend/good friend kinda thing.

About me - Physically: I am 6’4” tall and pretty thin, at about 150lbs, and I’m white/caucasian. I do have alot of strength/muscle but it def doesn’t show on me physically. I have medium length brown hair, in a professional comb over kinda style, and a short beard that kinda looks like it’s a week past 5 o’clock shadow all the time lol. Also I have brown eyes, and a great smile . I’m happy to send pictures in dms.

About me - Personality: I absolutely love learning and very often deep dive into random rabbit holes and hobbies. I love physics, philosophy, psychology, law, and computer science. For hobbies, I like gaming, building/repairing/refurbishing/recycling computers and servers, as well as running and maintaining several home servers that run various services like my own streaming service, ad blocker, and learning and getting better at Linux servers and Linux admin stuff. I also love woodworking/furniture making, pool/billiards, rock climbing, snowboarding, and I’m a huge movie nerd. As for who I am as a person, I’m rather introverted but have my moments of being an extrovert. I’m understanding as fuck, I’m a great listener most of the time, supportive, caring, funny, playful, always fucking around, but I’m a great hype man for my friends and very encouraging and reinforcing their positive things and I’m seriously such a great listening. There’s a huge difference between listening in order to think of a response and listening in order to understand. Everyone has their own type of logic or reasoning while communicating and talking and some people never catch on to that cause they only thinking of what to say next, not understanding where you’re coming from or going with that train of thought. I hope that made sense lol.

About me - Life: professionally, i work in a law enforcement type of career in a supervisor role. I’m responsible for about 50 people below me, teaching, leading, guiding, encouraging, reprimanding, disciplining, and paying attention to all them dumb “kids” who are just learning to be adults. It’s extremely rewarding but also extremely mentally draining and extremely frustrating at times. It’s like herding kittens all day. But they’re good kittens at their core and I’m proud of em. I’m also divorced and have 2 kids 50/50 so my time is literally at work or dading so I def don’t have too much free time. I can usually text most of the day tho, and can usually pretty fast but I do get caught up in shit sometimes lol.

What I’m looking for:
Im mostly into gentle domme types but I’m a bit flexible on that. I very much reflect my sub side to the specific domme so I’m open to other types. I’m into alot as a sub so I’ll end up naturally going with your own flow. I’m not looking for someone to dominate my whole life, and I admittedly don’t have the most amount of time for constant texting. Ideally id like to be friends and talk as much as possible but when my time is limited it’d mainly just be sexual for a little. I like to sext / dirty talk, send pictures/videos, video calls, and phone calls, etc. looking for mutual masturbating, JOI, getting teased a little and I’m open to like certain types of tasks. I’m looking for someone near my age, ideally 24-35 but I’m open to women 21-40ish as long as we can respect/understand each others every day type of struggles.

Kinks: I’m into a lot of different stuff, like I said. I love submitting completely and being told what to do, like JOI, or any type of instruction/leadership. I love servicing, like eating you out for hours and not asking anything in return or like focusing on your pleasure only. I also REALLY love worshiping my domme both as a person and also their body. I’m also into edging, chastity, cuckolding (and way more things within that), light humiliation / degradation, being a good boy or good cuck, very light amounts mental/emotional torture/mind fuck, giving praise/attention, worshiping, and a Little bit of tease & denial. And yeah a whole lot more honestly but this is the gist.

Limits: anything bathroom related, findom, blood, control over my daily life or affecting things outside my own sub space or sub time, or anything abusive.

You: ideally you are the type of woman who loves attention/praise. Someone who’s turned on by a guy jerking off to you, who gets lowkey obsessed, begs. Someone who enjoys having power or control over a guy but doesn’t abuse it. Someone who enjoys an obedient sub.

I’m open to and enjoy more than just what I have listed here as far as kinks or personality of the domme I’m looking for goes, so feel free to message me and see if we connect!

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I'm an introverted, educated, decent looking, and presentable white male. Slim-fit. 5'11" 150lb. I'm seeking a high maintenance partner that craves and absolutely needs constant attention; someone who needs my presence in the room and demands my attention even if she is ignoring me and doing other things. Someone to heavily encourage my adoration of you. Someone who needs reassurance, and affirmation. Someone who has an insatiable desire to feel wanted and chased after, who wants and craves obsessive devotion on a daily basis; who will encourage and nurture an intense, passionate addiction to you that is impossible to satisfy. I want a codependent relationship centered on you. I want everything to be about you. That even in our "getting to know each other" stage, I should put you above all of my friends, hobbies, and any social activities.

It might seem weird, but I intensely desire an incredibly possessive partner. I want you to feel comfortable blowing up my phone.. to demand information.. .to know where I am, or who im with, and what im doing, any time you wants. To go through my phone whenever you want and keep me from having any control over it when you are around me. You can actively crave attention and encourage me to give in to your needs as much and as often as possible. More than im even capable of giving. To enjoy convincing me to stop whatever I'm doing to give it to you: to develop a chemistry with playful demands and sexualized games between us.. to be as needy and as clingy as your heart desires, to the point that you become a complete priority over my social life. To even be so possessive that you keep me from spending my time or attention on anyone or anything but you, or to encourage my hobbies to be centered on you, be disappointed that I am not looking at you and admiring you even though you are busy with something else and not fully reciprocating the attention back.

I need someone who has always naturally wanted these things, but constantly tones it down in every relationship because she is afraid it is too toxic or unhealthy, or it pushes potential partners away. I want to be the guy that embraces these impulses, and compliments them, even sexualizes them.

I actually do have a very intense isolation kink. For my partner to play a manipulative role in keeping all of my attention for herself.. You can be extremely selfish with my attention even if it is borderline toxic. To use and leverage sensually and sexually manipulative advances to keep me from going out and to encourage me to be weak to my compulsive needs for you instead. If I have plans, you can convince me to blow them off or even coerce me to stay home. Sexual sabotage and being teased into ruining my plans to give you attention and intimacy instead is a huge kink of mine. If im about to leave, just play dress up, strut around, or pose in something that you know will distract me and take my eyes away from anything else. convince me to stay as you hold my crotch and show me how much better it would be if I stay with you. Make me prove love by giving you attention. Encourage and train my compulsive male weakness to prioritize you and goon to you. Show me that the only friend I need is you. Completely sabotage my plans by sitting on my face for prolonged periods of time instead of letting me go out, having rituals of you wearing skimpy outfits around me and tease me into spending hours admiring you, giving you back rubs, or leg massages, or have me goon to you for long periods of time as you ignore me and read a book, or watch a show, or doomscroll on your phone, or to have the most prolonged softcore foreplay, for hours at a time, denying each other (or just denying me) while constantly intensifying our intimacy.

I enjoy long sessions of foreplay and intense adoration. Even if I want to go out, or am out, to convince me to stop what I'm doing and go home because my obsessive and addictive need for you is more important. Your pussy's needs are more important, and your pussy should always be a complete priority. I love the idea of you dressing up just to keep me gooning to you, keeping my attention constantly on you, even though you are doing something else like reading a book, or playing on your phone, or watching something. Demand I sit in a corner and look at you as I jerk off with a pair of your dirty panties while you spend the next several hours ignoring my presence and doing whatever it is you want to do without me bothering you. Even to have you just sit on my face for long periods of time, periodically bounce and wiggle on my lips while you binge a show, not caring at all how much time is being spent like this. To be dressed up in lingerie as you straddle and bounce on my lap, denying penetration so I spend more and more time being attentive to your body with my hands and lips with constant necessity for more. Sessions of being extremely attentive to you is something I would very thoroughly enjoy.

We can both be dominant and submissive to each other in our own ways. The only power I really want in our dynamic is to be able to choose and buy outfits and lingerie for you, to collect them for you to wear for me when we are at home, just for you to use as a tool to manipulate me with and keep me home. To be a complete cock tease as you let me spend hours admiring and adoring you, gooning to you in whatever canvass of fabric that I pick out for your beauty. I need you to be as possessive and as selfish as you want. Perhaps it could simply be a part of our dynamic, that i am able to dress you however i want, so you can keep me as malleable and weak to you as possible, to keep me from going out, to encourage my obsession and adoration of you, to keep me gooning for you even longer, to make you my priority... and you can control everything else. You control where I can go, who I can hang out with, or to just perpetually keep me home as you constantly encourage my adoration of you. You choose whatever tv show or movie you want, and I focus on you.

I do crave consistent playfully manipulative sabotage and control over my social life, so that you will be a priority over everything else. I want someone who will enjoy developing a chemistry and learning what makes me tick so she will always know how to make me choose her over everything else. All while I also learn the intricacies of your desires, that we can build a world for each other that constantly caters to our most intense fantasies within our established boundaries.

I crave codependency. I crave a relationship dynamic that others might consider unhealthy, but will actually be considered healthy for us. I would really want to become obsessed and desperate for you.... to have an absolute necessity to constantly adore you and be intimate with you, and for this to become the most important part of my life. I want to be the worst addict for you. Obsessed and hopeless without you. I'd want you to become my priority to the point that I'd give up time with friends or family to be with you instead, but more importantly, that you want it, and need me to give up friends to make you feel more important. I crave a relationship so engulfed in obsessive passion and sexual intensity that both of us will be unable to escape our desirous addiction for more sensually intimate play, or to create more and more experiences for each other that cater to each of our most desirous needs. To be lost in this world of fantasy, and roleplay, and lust crazed love that we perpetually explore.

The ideal person is someone who craves constant attention.. who is never sexually satisfied... even being or manipulatively pretending to be easily jealous can make our dynamic more intense; who enjoys mind games, and is even interested in hypnosis or psychological conditioning ; who craves control and enjoys the idea of molding a male to be weaker for her. Someone who would truly enjoy using love, sensuality, and the desire to cum, to pry away deeper into a male psyche and encourage intense obsession and weakness for her; to ever more increase my dependency, necessity, desire, and sexual addiction for you while also making it nearly impossible to function without you. To really enjoy becoming the center of my life and enjoy being the center of my entire world.

I'm a 40 year old 5'8" heavy set Latino good boy from the Inland Empire in Southern California. I have standard brown eyes, light olive skin, close shaved black hair and a salt and pepper beard, and yes, I can speak a little bit of Spanish, if you're into that. I'm hoping to find a woman whom I'm physically attracted to, that wants a long-term relationship, who really enjoys the intimacy, trust, and closeness in a monogamous relationship with kink involved, I want to experience all that with a woman who I am madly in love with. I'm looking for someone monogamous, child-free, possessive, clingy, and passionate, who's willing to commit, is present, consistent, understands the importance of communication and wants tons and tons of physical affection.

I'm a stocky (fat,) awkward, introverted, anxious guy, who would self-describe as a charmingly self-deprecating, innocuously misanthropic, consummate indoorsman armed with an irreverent and dark sense of humor. In my spare time I enjoy playing video games (xbox) and desperately want to make the switch to PC gaming, listening to music loudly (mostly rock and electronic) and I'm almost always listening to something, please don't be afraid to make me a Playlist or send a song, cannabis (420 friendly,) learning about the the paranormal, occult, and extraterrestrial, and cooking, I've really come to enjoy preparing meals and trying new recipes, tell me all about your favorite foods, and please let me cook for you.

I'd like to meet an attractive, nurturing, doting, child-free, woman who's kind, compassionate, understanding, affectionate, and a little possessive. Ideally I want someone who's as inexperienced in the bedroom as I, and less vanilla, beside a lovable sub I am also a gentle dom with a switch lean and love both being dominant and submissive for the right woman, I really enjoy soft/gentle femme doms, Mommy doms, breast play, breast worship, adult breastfeeding (wet or dry,) adult nursing relationships, anal (giving,) cock worship, pleasing my partner, light teasing, rules, anailingus, cunnilingus, praise, pet play, water sports, ddlg/mdlb, somnophilia, taboo roleplay, cnc, free use, and would have no problem with a female led relationship, especially with a soft/gentle domme but none of these are deal breakers.

I'm attracted to cute faces primarily and most body types, from petite, to muscle mommies, to bbws, and adore large busts, glasses, red hair, pale skin, accents, and a fluffy bush, I have a thing for more alternative styled women (goth, emo, nerd, scene, stoner fairy, cottage etc) but this style is not mandatory for there to be physical attraction. Well, that's all I can think to say, that's me and what I'm hoping to find, I know I may not be the perfect candidate but I can almost guarantee no one will love you like I can. If you choose to reply, please reply with your favorite food or song, and be willing to send your picture and I'll reply with mine, happy hunting and good luck everybody.

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I need to be broken

A few things about myself

I’m 37, and I live in Europe , and work in tech.

Between the heaven of being an obedient slave for a strong women and the social stigma around it deeply internalized inside me , I find myself a tortured soul , between what I need , a strong women to guide me around and make me her puppy and sissy slut, peg me and humiliate me but I got a vanilla life because I am scared.

That’s probably part of why I became interested in D/s.

I assumed what interested me was submission itself. Over time I’ve realized that what fascinates me most the process of breaking me , the patience it take The feeling of being understood by someone.

Looking for the one who breaks me and break the chains around me go as far as they can , despite my resistance.

To think of me as a project to finish a challenge to take on, using their imagination to break me into their perfect slave.

Open to a lot of kinks but without a lot of experience. Open to any age as long as we are in the same time zone.Open Io dark personalities too

If you’ve ended up here, feel free to say hello

Hello there!

we (34/F sub, 42/M switch, both heteroflexible) are seeking a Domme to take over our (very active) sex lives, as well as enjoying us in person. That is not to say that it’s exclusively sexual: we are interested in finding someone we can enjoy dinner with, for example.

It’s not our first time, but our previous Domme entered into a monogamous relationship and had to hang up her riding crop.. She dictated when and how we had sex, when we could touch ourselves, if one of us had to be in chastity, and so on.

we love group play, and once we connect we’d be happy to enumerate our kinks and desire, but of course, Your desire is paramount. we are down for a lot, though, and both love anal, bondage, etc. we can picture various configurations—us both serving You, one of us acting as Your assistant, etc. In our prior dynamic, She often used her as a tool to torture him, and entrusted her with the key to his cage, for example.

we live together uptown and have various friends that could join if You wanted (we are ENM, with the caveat that we only hook up with people that are willing to join us together, even if we sometimes see them solo). we’re also fairly well equipped when it comes to toys and restraints, and love to dress up to Your specifications. in the past we’ve typically hosted, but we would be more than willing to come to you. Sundays have become almost ritualistic, in that we almost always are doing something sexy that day—take us to “church” Miss!

we would also love for you to direct us in making videos for you, or facetiming in to direct when we can’t be together (we get it—we all have lives and crazy schedules).

we are not interested in findom or anyone that asks for tributes—we are interested in finding someone that truly enjoys being in control. Also, probably best that You live in or near the city, but we don’t have any real requirements re: age, ethnicity, or experience—enthusiasm for being dominant is the main qualification. With that said, if you’re visiting and intrigued, we’re always down for one off adventures.

It’s probably fair to say we’re both attractive, he’s 5’10", lean, dark brown hair and blue eyes—erudite, witty, and charming, and usually in a suit. she is a 5’8" (even taller in her stripper heels, of which she has a solid collection) doll, blonde and blue eyed—Southern Belle meets UES socialite. we have unique careers that we love, and in some ways bleed into our kinky life—more on that once we get to know You. With that said, one probably wouldn’t guess, if you saw us at a bar, that he is in chastity and she is wearing a butt plug—no tattoos (cool if you do!), pretty preppy, but in a unique, stylish way.

she is a bit newer to this space than he is, but is eager and a real people pleaser. we are both divorced and found each other at just the right moment—we’re deeply in love and make each other laugh as much as we make each other come.

he has been in the scene for years, and to clarify, does not typically switch with the same person; the dynamic with an individual is one or the other, although he is great at both ends of the spectrum. she is a sub through and through, and bit more into pain than he is, while he understands that it is a means of control and punishment for disobedience. she loves being a doll for him (and hopefully You), and has so many cute outfits that we are trying to come up with a Dewey Decimal-like system to organize all the thigh highs, school girl skirts, and lingerie (she is a VIP at Fleur du Mal and Agent Provacateur). she is new to being with women, but has also been the driving force of this post/search.

we hate to have to say this but NO SINGLE MEN. we might consider a couple in an FLR, but you will be blocked if you’re a single guy. Check the username—I have a crew of able bodied gentlemen available at a moment’s notice, so save your DM and our time. The only men we are interested in at this time need to have professional level video equipment, and a willingness to watch without reciprocation.

Does any of this resonate with You? we are eager to serve, and likely will make You very happy.

Buckle up, because this is going to be a long one. Also like a tentative age range is like 23-40. The upper limit is especially negotiable.

Some dealbreakers so as to not waste our time:

1) I am married and ENM. She knows I'm putting the feelers out. Depending on how far anything goes with me, you may need to interact with her. She's very big into reading so if you're a book girlie, you may have a common interest.

2) Physical stuff that will not be everyone's cup of tea: My hairline is receding so my hair is short 99% of the time. I am overweight and working on it. I am relatively short for a man at ~5'7. To my tall queens, your height will not offend me in the slightest. If you're like really tall for a woman then its just optimal hug height, I don't make the rules. I am down to swap pictures, but I don't like including them in posts like this because it makes me feel self-conscious and I'd rather be judged for who I am, not what I look like.

3) Practical experience is a bit limited as dominant women are somewhat hard to come by. I am pretty well-read/researched on most things when I do not have direct experience with them(related to kinks). If I am missing something, I will fix it.

What I'm looking for (genuine connection required and hopefully some combination of who/what I'm looking for):

- First and foremost, a genuine connection. I need a feel for who you are as a person to really feel anything toward you. I don't do one offs.

- Some form of long term relationship, whether that's potential to be live in/as exclusive as that kinda gets or simply to have a safe, reliable environment explore and have fun.

- I prefer pursuing relationships that are open to having an in-person element. My job allows me the benefit of making traveling less expensive, both myself personally or having someone travel to me.

Who I'm looking for (first two are Non-negotiable):

- Someone who genuinely values honesty and is a good communicator.

- Someone willing to also put in effort. I often find myself always reaching out/setting stuff up with people.

- Gentle or Mommy Dominant/Switch with an optional enjoyment of helping people explore/experience new things

- This is not a hard ask, but feel like I would enjoy more of a pleasure domme. I give excellent service in every facet of my life, but I love getting pampered/played with too. I feel this kind of goes hand in hand with the above point of effort. God this makes it sound like I want to just use someone as a kink dispenser, but I kinda just want to be a pillow prince every once in awhile.

- Appearance does not really matter much to me. I find women of all shapes, races, sizes attractive. I go crazy for skirts/dresses, crop tops, thigh highs/stockings, and some other stuff I'm missing, but I'm just including stuff that I like.

Who I Am:

I think my defining traits would be the fact that I'm emotionally intelligent, honest, kind, thoughtful, competent, and passionate. I also like to believe that I tend to be firm, but fair inside and outside of the bedroom. I lean left politically, but I try to not pay attention to most things going on because it usually ruins my mood. I'm neurodivergent in some degree. I've had too many autistic people ask me if I was sure I wasn't autistic to think I'm not. I heard someone put a similar situation as, "I'm not diagnosed, I'm peer reviewed." As such, I can be a bit awkward and just genuinely miss obvious social queues. I also sometimes make inside thoughts outside thoughts on accident and have a hard time phrasing things in a warmer manner. I'm employed and currently work overnights so my schedule is a bit wonky.

I kind of have boring hobbies and am open to more. I spend most of my free time playing video games (WoW is the big one atm), reading, watching shows/anime(one piece is my favorite). I'm already really wordy so I'm intentionally keeping this short. I can literally talk for hours about my interests.

Appearance:

5'7 or so and overweight but working on it. I'm caucasian. My hair is brown, but the top of the head is usually kept pretty short. I have hazel (green inside, brown outside) eyes. I have thick, dark eyebrows. I usually sport a short beard thats also mostly brown, though there's a lot more stray colors in it like blonde/auburn. Just reiterating that I am willing to share pictures, I just dont like it being the central focus of the post.

Kink/Bedroom Stuff:

As I alluded to above, my experience is a bit lacking so a lot of this is hypothetical. I'm really open to most less extreme kinks. Some of my favorites are praise, bondage, edging, forced orgasms, body worship, and overstimulation. I do really like to show off as well! Limits are degradation, illegal, most bathroom things, TPE, feminization, cbt, anything violent or will draw blood.

Thanks for reading and feel free to reach out if you have any questions.

About Me

I come across as serious and driven (because I am), but deep down I think I might crave being used. On the outside I look like a dominant, confident, and attractive guy. And in most of my relationships that’s who I’ve been. But I’ve always been curious to know what it might be like to have that role reversed.

I love staying active and take my fitness very seriously. In the interest of discretion, I’ll just say that I’m highly educated and absolutely love what I do. I’m fortunate to have a career that makes the world a better place (at least in small ways), and I care a lot about that mission.

What I’m Looking for

The list of kinks I want to explore is pretty basic. Orgasm control/denial, bondage, spanking, discreet public play, and tasks/rewards/punishment. Not interested in any anal play, pegging, sissification, or findom. Our lists don’t have to match perfectly; I want to try new things and am looking for someone who helps me find and stretch my limits.

Ideally, I’m looking for something very casual. I don’t want something one-and-done, but I also don’t want to commit to any kind of lasting FLR dynamic since I’m not sure it might really be for me. Enjoying each other’s company outside of sex is a big plus.

About You

Outside the bedroom, I like women who are affable, kind, and clever. I’m inquisitive and highly attracted to passionate people who let me pick their brains. A sense of humor is a must. If you make me laugh or I make you laugh that’s great (warning: my jokes are terrible), but mostly I’m looking for someone who doesn’t take life too seriously. I’m an optimist and hope you are, too.

Other miscellaneous things: I’m not looking for anything online so you’ll need live in or regularly visit New York. Age is less important to me than your demeanor and physical presence - I am open minded, I just ask that you be fairly fit/thin.

If you think we’d hit it off, send a message that’ll give me an idea if we might be compatible. What you’re passionate about and a picture are a good start if you’re not sure what to write.

More than anything else I’m looking for chemistry, and I’ve learned the hard way that chemistry online doesn’t necessarily translate to real life. So once we’ve established we’re probably real human beings who might be interested in each other, lets meet up for a low-pressure drink and see where that takes us.

Thanks for reading this far and I hope to hear from you soon!

Hello! I am putting my toe in the water for the first time after trying to do this unsuccefully other ways.

I am a 39 CIS white male seeking preferrably a domme (trans is fine too as long as you are femine enough). I have been into the BDSM scene for about 15 years but only from the sidelines watching and reading.

So what am I looking for? From the title you can probably guess at the theme. I'm seeking someone to deny and control my orgasms with blackmail. Why? Well I masturbate 2-3 times a day. That may not be a lot for some people, but it used to be more and it still feels like a lot even as I've aged.

How do I want this to ultimately work? Well at least in the beginning I figured information could be currency. Ex: I have to answer x questions in order cum.

I want to make a point here: My kink is not really Blackmail fantasy. Its truly information control.

We’d have to figure out the next step but that’s how I’d like to start.

My hope is to find someone younger than me with a softer persona that is understanding and willing to compromise when needed. Preferably White, Asian, and Indian Dommes only. Ideally someone in North America

Kinks: Information control (duh), Exposure, SPH, and Orgasm denial/control

Limits: Family, Friends, Work, Scat, Blood, Injesting bodily fluids, pain

Please by all means send me a message with questions if you may have them.

Hello!

After a while of feeling content by myself I've found myself looking for companionship, and I am finding myself increasingly submissive leaning as well lmao. So to reddit I have come, hoping to find my person or a play partner.

About me:

As the title mentions I'm a fairly nerdy guy living in Arlington, Virginia. Some of my hobbies include video games (either alone or over with friends), reading, movies/anime, MTG, TTRPGs (been far too long), and do love board games but I'm not able to play them nearly enough. I love Tolkien, Dune, star wars, Stargate, and just all things sci fi and fantasy really. I am a metalhead/rocker when it comes to music though I can listen to almost anything, with Sabaton, Blind Guardian, and WindRose being my favorite bands and I have been commonly referred to as a paladin irl. I work in tech (go figure), and I do have a college degree in a STEM field. I'm 5'10 and chubby, heavier than I want to be but think I wear it well, with a nice full beard I keep trimmed and shaved head. Trying to slowly cut down but I don't think I ever want to be truly skinny, so dad bod is def apt to describe me. I do not smoke anything and drink socially. DDF and plan on keeping it that way.

My Ideal Domme:

I am looking for someone nearby within the general metro range of the DMV, but a bit farther out is ok. Ideal age range would be 21-32 for a romantic connection, though I could go older for something more casual connection/fwb. No exact requirements on body type, just be healthy or working towards it like I am, also I am more than fine with someone taller than I am, and I am more of a boobs guy but all bodies have beauty in them. I am also looking for a nerd like me, someone I can cuddle with and watch movies and shows, someone warm and kind. Play co-op games together (BG3 maybe) and maybe ren faire dates once that season arrives again. Someone I can just gush about whatever I'm playing and then listen to them gush about something along with lots and lots of cuddling. I think I would work best with a mommy dom/gentle dom, but I would be more than willing to experiment with all types of dommes. Please do not be a smoker and please be ddf. Liking cats is also a big plus!

My Femdom Preferences:

I want to preface and say I'm not looking for a strong dynamic outside of the bedroom, I want someone I can be a partner to and then have an amazing time in bed with, but a light dynamic would fit well. I know I am for sure looking for a gentle domme, someone more nurturing and sweet, maybe with the occasional harder domme tendencies to shake things up. My primary kinks as I know them now would be lingerie/stockings, boots, edging, joi, affection, praise, and anr/breast play. I do want to try pegging and face sitting but have no experience in either right now. This would be a monogamish at most(for a dating connection), I have no interest in going truly poly/enm and inviting any other women to play with us/you would be something we have to work towards and heavily discuss. For limits it would be the standard gambit of blood and bathroom stuff, along with choking and age regression included. While I was in one short lived relationship with a dynamic I am a newbie and I am interested in exploring more kinks with someone who could help nurture this sexual side of me.

Next steps:

If I have caught your interest at all, which I hope I have, shoot me a message! I will want to verify using a video call before anything nsfw happens or before we plan any physical dates.

Hope to be hearing from you!

Hi, Mistress 💕
I’m a \\\*\\\*27M submissive from the NYC/Long Island area\\\*\\\*, and I’m looking for a woman who genuinely wants a needy, eager, horny little golden-retriever-type sub to make hers.
I’ve been craving a real D/s dynamic again for a long time. Not just a couple horny messages before one of us disappears, but that intoxicating feeling of \\\*\\\*knowing I belong to someone\\\*\\\*, waking up wondering what she wants from me that day, checking my phone hoping there’s a message from her, and knowing my pleasure might not even be mine anymore.
I’m about \\\*\\\*5’9”, 135 lbs, skinny, with long blonde hair and hazel eyes\\\*\\\*. Between the blonde hair, affectionate personality, and embarrassing eagerness for praise, “golden retriever sub” fits me painfully well.
I’m caring, affectionate, attentive, and very eager to please. I want a Mistress whose attention I can become a little addicted to. I want to make her smile, make her proud, hear that I’ve been a good boy, and get that stupidly happy feeling when I know I’ve done exactly what she wanted.
And yes, I’m very horny. Unfortunately, nature has burdened you women with men like me.
\\\*\\\*What I’m craving\\\*\\\*
I want a \\\*\\\*kinky, consistent D/s relationship\\\*\\\* that becomes part of our normal daily lives.
I love the idea of texting throughout the day and keeping my Mistress updated on what I’m doing. Once we’re comfortable, I want you knowing where I am, what I’m up to, whether I’ve behaved, whether I’ve followed your rules, and whether I’m sitting there desperately hoping you’ll finally let me get off.
Tell me what you want me doing.
Give me assignments.
Make me check in.
Decide when I’m allowed to touch myself.
Tell me what I can watch.
Keep me edged when I’m desperate.
Make me ask permission.
Praise me when I’ve earned it.
Tease me when I haven’t.
I want that feeling where just seeing a notification from my Mistress makes my stomach drop because I have no idea whether I’m about to be praised, teased, given an order, or told I’m absolutely not getting what I’ve been begging for.
I’m happy sending \\\*\\\*pictures and videos\\\*\\\* once we know each other, and I can verify with a SFW photo first. Once there’s trust and I’m comfortable, I’m also open to \\\*\\\*video calls\\\*\\\* and scheduled sessions.
I would absolutely love having actual sessions planned around your schedule, especially knowing beforehand that a certain evening belongs to you and spending half the day thinking about what you might make me do.
You can also create additional rules, rituals, assignments, or expectations as our dynamic develops. I actually like the idea of gradually realizing that more and more little pieces of my routine belong to my Mistress. Anything new would obviously be discussed and mutually agreed on first.
I’ve had an online Mistress before, although it was several years ago, and I badly miss having that kind of control in my life.
\\\*\\\*The things that make me weak\\\*\\\*
My biggest kinks are:
\\\*\\\*Orgasm control • denial • edging • JOI • teasing • consensual forced orgasms • porn control • bondage • anal play • light pain • praise • roleplay\\\*\\\*
\\\*\\\*Orgasm control, edging, and denial are especially huge for me.\\\*\\\*
I love being turned on and then having control taken away from me. I want to be aching for permission, begging for release, and knowing that whether I actually get to finish depends completely on whether my Mistress thinks I deserve it.
The frustration is half the fun.
Maybe you let me.
Maybe you keep me right on the edge.
Maybe you tell me I have to wait until tomorrow.
Maybe you make me prove how badly I want permission.
That helpless, needy feeling does something ridiculous to my brain.
\\\*\\\*Praise is another major weakness.\\\*\\\* Call me your good boy and there is a very real chance my remaining dignity simply evaporates.
I love being told I’m doing well, that you’re proud of me, that I’m pleasing you, or that I’m exactly the kind of submissive you wanted.
I’m also very interested in \\\*\\\*roleplay\\\*\\\*, and I’m open to exploring new kinks with the right Mistress once trust is established.
For public play, I’m only interested in discreet things that \\\*\\\*don’t involve nonconsenting strangers\\\*\\\*.
\\\*\\\*Toys you’d have to work with\\\*\\\*
I currently have:
• Vibrator
• Bullet vibrator
• Electronic pocket pussy/stroker
I’m very open to being told how and when to use them.
There’s something incredibly hot to me about owning toys that I technically bought for myself and then realizing someone else gets to decide whether I’m allowed to enjoy them.
\\\*\\\*Hard limits\\\*\\\*
\\\*\\\*Bathroom/toilet play, blood, and permanent things\\\*\\\*, including permanent marks or body modification.
Outside of those limits, I’m pretty open-minded and would rather explore gradually with someone I trust than pretend I already know every possible thing I could enjoy.
Giving up control is incredibly hot to me precisely because I want to trust the woman I’m giving it to.
\\\*\\\*When I’m temporarily pretending not to be horny\\\*\\\*
I’m naturally pretty laid-back and a homebody.
I like \\\*\\\*morning walks, watching TV, gaming, listening to music, and relaxing at home\\\*\\\*.
My favorite show is \\\*\\\*South Park\\\*\\\*. Music-wise, I’m mostly into \\\*\\\*punk rock and Juice WRLD\\\*\\\*.
I’m also extremely \\\*\\\*420-friendly\\\*\\\* and genuinely nerdy about cannabis. I love learning about strains, genetics, terpenes, different products, and all the science and little details behind it.
So if you’re also into weed, there is a very real possibility I’ll excitedly explain terpene profiles to you and then immediately go back to begging you for permission to cum. Humans contain multitudes.
I’m also a Pisces, which may either explain everything or absolutely nothing.
\\\*\\\*The Mistress I’m hoping finds me\\\*\\\*
Ideally, you’re around \\\*\\\*22–32\\\*\\\*.
I’d especially love someone in the \\\*\\\*NYC/Long Island area\\\*\\\*, because although I’m completely comfortable beginning online, if we develop a strong connection and both feel comfortable, I’d love the possibility of eventually meeting in person.
I’m in \\\*\\\*EST\\\*\\\*, so a similar timezone is ideal for texting and sessions, but it isn’t mandatory. If you’re reasonably close timezone-wise and we really click, please don’t let distance stop you from messaging me.
You \\\*\\\*do not need to be monogamous with me\\\*\\\*. I’m completely comfortable with my Mistress having other subs or partners.
Honestly, there’s something pretty submissive about knowing you could have several boys wanting your attention and still desperately wanting to be the one who makes you proud.
Your dominant style can be \\\*\\\*sweet, nurturing, teasing, strict, possessive, playful, controlling, praise-heavy, or some combination of all of them\\\*\\\*.
What matters most is that you genuinely enjoy having power over an eager submissive and want something consistent enough that I can actually start feeling like \\\*\\\*your boy\\\*\\\* rather than just another username in your inbox.
I want to crave your attention.
I want to wonder whether I’ve made you proud.
I want to get embarrassingly excited when you call me a good boy.
I want to be teased until I’m desperate enough to beg.
I want rules I find myself thinking about even when you aren’t around.
And I want that moment where our dynamic becomes comfortable enough that when you tell me, \\\*\\\*“You know who you belong to,”\\\*\\\* I don’t even have to think before answering.
If you message me, tell me your \\\*\\\*age, general location/time zone, dominant style, favorite kinks, and what kind of D/s relationship you’re looking for\\\*\\\*.
And please tell me what about my post caught your attention.
If you’ve been wanting a needy, affectionate, eager-to-please \\\*\\\*golden retriever sub\\\*\\\* who genuinely wants to be trained, teased, praised, controlled, denied, and made desperate for his Mistress…
I’m very much hoping you find me. 🐶💕

I am a retired older submissive male living in Las Vegas. I am seeking a FemDom for a Female Led Relationship. I like women that are intelligent, confident, dominant and like to lead. If this is what you are seeking or something that you have thought about please get back to me. I am open to a woman that hasn't experienced this before but would like to explore it.

I do have some feminine traits and am open to you exploiting them.

Curious, respectful, and emotionally intelligent guy looking to connect with a confident, assertive woman who enjoys taking the lead. I’m drawn to strong feminine energy, clear communication, playful control, and a dynamic built on trust, chemistry, and mutual respect.

Not looking for cruelty or drama, well maybe some cruelty. Open to online chat, friendship, or seeing where chemistry leads in real life.

If you enjoy a man who listens, follows directions well, and appreciates a woman in charge, say hello.

I am 5'8", 135 pounds, workout regularly and am in good shape.
I will answer any serious and reasonable questions.
Open to age and race.
Photos available on request.