My sub has had metal cages that we have used for playtime for years. For many reasons, I think it’s time to wearing them at work. But he has a very serious job where it ABSOLUTELY CANNOT BE SEEN. I have another sub that has worn his while doing his job as a personal trainer, and he has said all plastic, with the waist strap is important. However, if the personal trainers cage was noticed his life wouldn’t be ruined, where with the other sub that is potentially the case. The sub in question is over weight and wears baggy pants and shirts and has a small dick, so I don’t think it will be an issue. Can anyone here offer advice on how to proceed?

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Is there anyone who gets off on just watching the guy struggle in bondage?

My wife does extreme positions with me and then, just lets me be, and uses her hitachi while looking at me. Trying to see what she gets out of it, or any other people who are into this.

I’ve been thinking a lot about this, I find it fascinating how people see pegging. There seems to be an idea that pegging:
- Has to be an act of dominance, could never be a part of vanilla
- Has to be violent and hard, could never be soft and romantic
- Is always immediatly pleasureable and doesn’t need careful training and trying out how you both like it
- Has to be connected with feminization and could not be between a masculine man and a feminine woman

I know these are ideas from p@rn, so I don’t have to ask you ”why do we think about pegging like this?”. Or, well, I could ask, why does p@rn look like this? Is it because the male gaze makes it nescessary to make everything look violent, hard and gendered?

I also want to ask how this affects us. Has any of these ideas ever stopped you from trying pegging, because you felt you didn’t fit the stereotype?
Has it ever made you feel like you’re doing it wrong or fantazising about it the wrong way?

I’d like to add there’s nothing wrong with wanting pegging as an act of dominance and so on, it just fascinates me that we so rarely get to see romantic, soft and careful pegging (when that is how it should start out, so we don’t actually get hurt).

Some people start as a switch. Some people were Dommes from day one.

Some people had an awakening later; some always knew.

What was your moment when you knew that you wanted to be a Domme for certain?

So here it is. My wife and I getting into the BDSM scene. She is totally submissive and has embraced the dynamic of being collared and used for my pleasure. It has been a great experience and she is now my 24/7 free use toy. After lots of reading and taking some basic tests and questionnaires, it seems my personality type is more switch than dom or sub. That being said I have always fantasized about having a mistress to use me for her personal pleasure. I want a mistress who will command me to get on my knees and eat her pussy. I secretly want to be restrained and pegged. I think it would be really hot for a mistress to command me to get on my knees and suck on her strap on, slobber all over it so she can bend me over and use me like a piece of meat for her pleasure. Spanking, restraints, leashes while being forced give oral. Let me know what you think and if you have either given or received.

Ok so this is obviously mainly just fir the women, but why do you enjoying pegging, is it a control thing ?

Obviously if it was the other way around (guy doing it to you) theres more than one reason, like pleasure the guy has pleasure from obviously from the nerve endings but ladies why do you like as you dont get any physical pleasure as theres no actual dick there to feel things; so is it a control thing ? Or are there any other reasons im not thinking off

Control makes sense as one reason but why do you like it, certain things like this confuses me sometimes - like if u cant feel anything why do it, for your partners satisfaction? Cos you like control?

This is genuine 100% curiosity, im actually curious why do you like pegging ? What does it give the woman, if the male has 'pleasure' of his prostate, what do you get ? (To me seems kinda one sided but I thinking im only looking at it in one angle)

Hi everyone,

Ive been sessioning with a dom since July and we agreed to do a four month run of sessions to see how it all went and after November im extremely busy.

But now as im winding towards the end im sad its mildly ending and kinda want to know what I can do to maintain the dynamic with my dom in the months when I can't physically see her.

When I saw her for the first time, I wasn't sure what to expect but for a pro domme, shes actually very warm and nurturing of my desires and exploring my kinks and we get on really well in and out of session (during downtime) and we even have a giggle during the session.

I dont want to lose what I've built with her but also I dont have the time to see her till at least april next year.

Any advice?

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