r/SanDiegoR4R • • Oct 02 '25

Mod Post 99 [R4R] - A few STD testing resources in San Diego NSFW

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For the sake of covering mine and the subs ass, this post isn't an official endorsement of any of these places. Just a recommendation of resources available. Also, before taking my word on anything, be sure to contact these places ahead of time and/or research their websites to get all the info you'll need before going in


Everyone has a different risk assessment and what they are and aren't open to doing. Safe play is recommended, and always will be. But, some do meet up to play and choose go without

Which is their right. As long as you aren't removing protection without a partner's consent or knowledge, everyone involved is an adult who knows the risk. But, whether you choose totally safe play, or not, regular testing in this scene is still recommended. And in the lifestyle in general, really


So, some options in SD County:

AHF

AHF Wellness Center - San Diego. 3580 Fifth Ave 2nd floor, San Diego, CA 92103 Hours: Monday - Friday 10 am - 6 pm

Totally FREE testing. Drawback, is that they run out of spaces pretty quickly, so last minute walk-ins are a roll of the dice. Call ahead, or take a chunk of your day to get in early so you can get a slot


FHCSD

There are a few locations around San Diego. ONE FREE TEST EVERY THREE MONTHS if you have MEDI-CAL insurance. Otherwise, low cost, but you'll still pay. Hillcrest location has a night clinic, from 5P-9P So, perfect for those who are only free after regular business hours.


Planned Parenthood

Number of locations around San Diego, and open on Saturday. Walk-ins for STD testing are a longshot, so appointments are recommended. Also free with MEDI-CAL insurance, otherwise you'll be paying out of pocket. HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia will probably run you at least $250, if prices haven't increased since I last went there. But, that's STILL less expensive than medication you'll have to take for the rest of your life, so...


stdcheck.com

Purely out of pocket. Throwing this in there because they have a 24-48 hour turnaround time for a full panel to include HSV-1 in addition to the ones mentioned above. And if you want to add in tests like m-gen, trichomoniasis, and other ones that aren't commonly tested for, this is a good option. This site links you to a number of labs around San Diego, so you'll just have to choose one that works for you, set an appointment to get the labwork done, and go about your day. If you've gotten drug tested as part of a job application, it's similar, but for STDs.


That's it. Hopefully this is a helpful resource. Absolutely nothing wrong with having fun. That's what this whole scene is about. But, nothing any of us does here should necessarily follow us home, let alone be something you have to deal with for the rest of your life

So, as always, be safe, have fun, and stay kinky


r/SanDiegoR4R • • Dec 19 '25

Mod Post MOD POST 12/18/25 - Mod Application and general feedback NSFW

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We are recruiting new mods for the remainder of the year and into 2026, to help review posts, assist users posting, and with verifying.

This is volunteering, would be suited for users who are active on Reddit, have patience, possess a good understanding of the county geography, and ideally have prior mod experience (optional).

We have also been taking a firmer stance against phishing and scam accounts that Karma farm in other subreddits. ThrowawayBull has been proactive in sharing advice and resources focused on General User Safety and STD Testing. In the past, we have moderated users who have blackmailed others, or share fake test results. This behavior is not acceptable, and offenders will be banned.

Basic Requirements

  • You have not been banned from SanDiegoR4R in the past
  • You can moderate 15-20 minutes a day
  • You have an account that is at least one year old with 200 or more combined karma*If you prefer not to publicly associate your main account with your NSFW account, you are welcome to use an alt for the role.

If you are interested in helping keep the community safe, we encourage you to apply here: Mod Application. The app includes a feedback section at the end for general comments.

Shoutout to Ivan and ReleasetheDragon for their base questions, and Happy HolidaysšŸŽ„šŸŽ„


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 3m ago

Male Seeking Females 28 [M4F] #NorthPark - super fit guy for big bbw ass NSFW

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I’m just here for discreet fun and have been craving a curvy woman with a giant ass, I’d love to give you some special attention, maybe a nice massage with lots of oil and then let you relax while I make you cum a few times. I’m 5’10 with a muscular build, super girthy average length cock, white, clean and respectful


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 3h ago

Male Seeking Females 41 [M4F] #Downtown - Seeking an educated, intelligent slut. NSFW

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I know you're out there. There's many of you. You're an intelligent woman with a repressed slutty side hiding deep down inside. On the outside you're the perfect, wholesome girl. No one would ever suspect you'd ever even be reading an post like this. You are pretty. Smart. Employed or still in higher education. But there's much more underneath. Maybe you're a busy working professional who has no outlet. Your friends are all "normal". Maybe you're married to the "perfect guy". The kind who treats you well and buys you flowers on Valentine's Day. Also the kind who gives you nothing more than boring, lifeless bedroom. If you are reading this you know it's intended just for you. You're tired of dull sex or NO sex and are absolutely starved for adventure. Something (and someone) new. Someone who can treat you like the dirty little slut you are deep down. You spend so much time hiding it because no one would understand.

But I understand.

It's time to let it out.

Maybe you just need the adrenaline rush of giving yourself to a relative stranger? To be put on your knees and used for someone else’s pleasure. Or to feel the sting of red butt cheeks after a spanking? Or having your hair pulled back while being used like the slut you want to be? Just tell me what you really need.


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 12h ago

Male Seeking Redditor 24 [T4R] #Escondido - looking for some friends NSFW

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Hey San Diego! I am 5’4ā€ and 160 lbs ftm. I like playing video games and watching anime; always down for karaoke! I am not opposed to FWBs but I’m mostly looking for good company.


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 8h ago

Male Seeking Males 25 [M4M] #LittleItaly - Seeking long term master with large balls or cock or belly. NSFW

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r/SanDiegoR4R • • 10h ago

Male Seeking Males 32 [M4M] #SanDiego - Married Bro Hotel Fun NSFW

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Married here. Super discreet and down low. In town for work staying at a hotel downtown. Really just looking for a bro to walk in and jerk/oral with. Bring a fleshlight so we can share or just use mouth/hands. Also into Gloryholes and cock rings. If this interests you then send your AGE in message to me.


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 10h ago

Male Seeking Females 26 [M4F] #LaJolla - 6’1ā€, married, needs to be discreet. NSFW

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6’1, 195lb, dad bod, solid but not gym cut, white. Married a few years. Not looking to complicate my life, just something private that doesn’t feel empty.

Home is comfortable but very vanilla. I’m looking for a woman who wants to give up control… light bondage, being degraded, the kind of attention that feels a little dirty and a little addictive. Someone who gets off on the secrecy as much as everything else.

I’m not looking to rush straight into meeting. I want to spend time talking and getting each other worked up first, build the tension, see if the chemistry is real, make sure we both feel that pull before anything happens in person.

I don’t need you to be experienced. If you’re into it, tell me what you’re looking for.


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 11h ago

Male Seeking Females 44 [m4f] #SanDiego - Sneak in now that my wife is asleep NSFW

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My wife is now asleep and I'm still awake and looking for a little fun. We'll have to keep it quiet though because we don't want to wake her up. Located in Central San Diego.


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 18h ago

Male Seeking Males 25 [m4m] #Lamesa - looking to get my throatfucked tonight by some big cock NSFW

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r/SanDiegoR4R • • 9h ago

Male Seeking Females 34 [M4F] #SanDiego - asian guy looking for fwb NSFW

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Asian, 5'11, fit, hygienic, ddf, healthcare professional. Like to travel, stay active, work out, and explore the new casual eats in the city. Would be nice to chill and blow off steam with a fwb to explore and potentially be a travel buddy. We can meet in a public initially...no pressure or expectations. Girls who like to give head are my weakness.

If interested, please dm me with a little bit about yourself


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 17h ago

Couple Seeking Males 34/28 [MF4M] #SanDiego - Seeking well endowed bi men for a regular threesome with BBW couple. NSFW

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Hey all! As it says, a couple of friends who love to play seeking a bi man to join us. Preferably someone bigger than me for her pleasure. I’m a top but I also like to give oral. Anal is not required, just be okay sucking/getting sucked and being okay with a BBW woman. Must be able to communicate and verify live on snap.


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 20h ago

Male Seeking Females 35 [M4F] #SanDiego - Looking for female servers for poker games NSFW

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Chill, respectful, clean group of guys who would like to find 1-3 fun women who would be interested in being ā€œserversā€ for a few upcoming poker games.

Dress up, bring us snacks and beers, tips included. If you’re into it turning into more after the game, even better!

Looking for women who are 21-45, HWP, clean, and classy.

If you’re interested and reach out, please be ready to send pics, verify, and chat a bit about both desires and boundaries.

No men… we have enough for the games already.


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 16h ago

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r/SanDiegoR4R • • 18h ago

Male Seeking Females 40 [m4f] #anaheim - looking to worship lovely breast NSFW

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Pretty much as the headline details , looking to suckle and worship your lovely breast while your stroke my hard cock, love to find someone to play with and enjoy often to worship her body and more . Females only and no pros wanted at all , Temecula area


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 1d ago

Male Seeking Males 33 [m4m] #oceanside - Looking for Top. NSFW

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Hey, Latino guy here looking for a top. I’m 5’11 180. I have a few images from previous posts, ideally looking for some that is 7 or bigger in size. my booty

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r/SanDiegoR4R • • 19h ago

Male Seeking Males 36 [m4m] #Clairemont - Jizz down my throat please NSFW

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Looking for a guy to fuck my mouth and throat aggressively and when he's ready to cum, to stuff it deep down my throat and force me to swallow every drop. don't pull out until I've been a good cum dumpster and fully drained your balls, and your cock goes soft. Also down to let you piss in my mouth in the shower. YOU MUST HOST and must be completely std free


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 20h ago

Male Seeking Females 50 [M4F] #LaMesa - discreet fun, online or irl NSFW

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Looking for some discreet fun, online or irl. Let's get each other off. Love going down, my tongue game is strong. I can host during the day. Or meet in public/car fun.

Into stranger sex, public, voyeur, voice, and age gap.


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 21h ago

Male Seeking Males 37 [M4M] #GoldenHill - FREE quality massage, for bodybuilders, first responders, MMA/BJJ fighters, USMC/USN NSFW

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I’m offering FREE, quality massages for those who workout a lot, do bodybuilding, wrestle, box, do MMA or BJJ.

If you’re USMC, or Navy, I’ll also massage you for free.

These are quality massages done on a massage table. I have years of experience and it would be my pleasure to work on you as often as you’d like, always for free, so long as our schedules align.
I do a mixture of deep-tissue and Swedish massage, along with some stretching.
You’ll love it and you’ll leave feeling relaxed and your stress drained.

If possible, send a face pic and availability and we’ll go from there!

Thank you!

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r/SanDiegoR4R • • 1d ago

Male Seeking Females 28 [M4F] #LaJolla - Journey from flirting to fingering NSFW

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WANTED: flirty stranger who I can’t get out of my head. Should be shamelessly sensual, extra points for a freaky dork with an attitude. Most importantly….should laugh at my jokes :p

About me? Movie buff. Soccer boy. Soft/punk rock head with a soft corner for pop. Mango habanero chicken wings. Philosophy. Deep conversations with accidental oversharing of secrets. A listener for your tales. A penchant for your details.

I usually wouldn’t quit at your first orgasm, I’m stubborn when it’s useful. Some fav topics: reverse cowgirl, couch sex, foreplay, deep throat, risky fondling, dirty talking, dom play.

What’s that one filthy fantasy you’ve been aching to try out with a stranger?


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 18h ago

Male Seeking Females 37 [M4FF] #SanDiego - Type of greed they talk about in the Bible šŸ˜‚ Looking for two ladies for a FFM threesome NSFW

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I've actually been a bit successful with this in the past. Haven't had luck on Reddit with this yet. But, have been lucky enough in other places, and even organically a couple of times. It's a threesome dynamic I enjoy a lot, and like to seek out every now and then. Some of my "credentials":

  1. Friend I met here posted a success story of our first time connecting. Shared here with her permission: https://reddit.com/user/psyduckgw/comments/1v7i1ya/success_story/

  2. Self-written success story of one of the organic ones. I don't know how organic you consider a connection at an adult theater to be. Buuuuuut, we were all strangers when we first met. At least right up until we weren't LOL https://reddit.com/r/SanDiegoAdultTheater2/comments/1tx7412/ffm_threesome_success_story_in_one_of_the_private/

Just to give a bit more of an idea about me, both from my perspective and someone else's.

I'm looking for within about 9 years of my age, over or under, though I'm open to bending this a bit if we click well. Looking for in San Diego or a reasonable drive nearby. As far as body type goes, I'm open to most, though at the end of the day it all comes down to that individual attraction and chemistry.

Whether you present more femme, or more masc makes no difference to me. More important to me are those who take care of themselves. Those who bring the level of hygiene to any play sessions they'd want back. Please interpret that last sentence in good faith LOL. And, those who are comfortable enough in their skin to fully embrace their sensuality in the moment, rather than feeling self-conscious.

I find I get along well with those who are

  1. Fairly easygoing
  2. Open to exploring, and secret freaks
  3. Able to clearly communicate desires, limits, and expectations. It has been depressingly hard finding people who meet this standard LOL
  4. Not remotely conservative or right-leaning. We would not get along, and I don't want to waste my time or yours

My expectations if we connect? Let's chat, get acquainted, link in person if we're all feeling it, and see where things lead. I'm not pushy and, considering the nature of this dynamic, only going at a pace we're all comfortable with.

Lastly, whether you're single with a FWB, or attached in a relationship are all the same to me. I'm just not into cheaters, or playing with anyone who's moving behind their monogamous partner's back, or violating whatever rules you've agreed on. This is a non-negotiable for me, just to be upfront.

P.S.

To the downvoters, cuz it happens every time. Listen, I don't care about karma on here. I've had success from posts with 0, and gotten radio silence off posts with double digit karma. I care about actually meeting people, more than I do invisible internet affirmation points.

That said, guys who come on here to downvote other M4A posts, either to make theirs look better, or because they feel there are too many on here? Extremely lame behavior. If no one's ever told you. We can save the downvotes for the scammers, serial flakes, catfish, or the actual chuds who make the rest of us single guys look bad. And the sub would be healthier for it. Downvoting from saltiness? Weak


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 1d ago

Male Seeking Females 36 [M4F] #MissionValley - Married dad looking for unsatisfied married woman NSFW

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I'm going to guess that if you're reading this, you might be missing some of the same things I am.

The flirting. The anticipation. The feeling of being wanted by someone who genuinely can't wait to hear from you. Having someone who makes an ordinary day a little more exciting and puts a smile on your face when their name pops up on your phone.
Remember having a crush on someone and getting those butterflies when you realized they liked you back?

Yeah…I miss that feeling.

I'm 36, married, and a dad. I've made the decision to stay in my marriage for my kids, but the romantic side of things has been missing for a long time. We have a DB, and even when intimacy happens, it feels more like going through the motions than sharing a genuine connection.

I'm not looking to change my entire life overnight. I just miss having that connection with someone. Someone I can flirt with, laugh with, talk to about anything and everything, and slowly get to know on a deeper level.

I'd love to find one woman who understands that feeling. Maybe you're married too. Maybe, from the outside, everything looks fine, but behind closed doors, something important is missing. Maybe you miss feeling like a woman someone is genuinely excited about, rather than just another part of the daily routine.

If any of that sounds familiar, maybe we'll have something to talk about.

A little about me: I'm 36, Asian, 5'10", athletic, and active. Outside the gym, I'm easygoing, enjoy playful banter, and appreciate a woman who can make me laugh just as easily as she can make me blush. I've been told I'm attractive and well-groomed, but I'll let you decide for yourself šŸ˜‰

More than anything, I'm drawn to confidence, warmth, a good sense of humor, and chemistry that feels effortless.

What I'm looking for: A woman around 28–42 who wants something ongoing rather than a fleeting distraction. Someone who enjoys good conversation, isn't afraid to flirt, and wants to build a connection that gives us both something to look forward to.
I'm specifically looking for someone local to San Diego. I'd love for this to become more than an endless exchange of messages—something where we can eventually meet, spend time together, and escape the usual routine every now and then. I'm happy to exchange pictures once we've gotten comfortable with each other.

I work remotely a few days a week, so I have some flexibility. Maybe we start with a few messages, discover we have more in common than expected, and find ourselves looking forward to talking every day. Maybe there's a little teasing, some late-night conversation, and chemistry that keeps getting harder to ignore.

Who knows? That's the fun part of finding out.
If you're a married woman who misses those butterflies and wants to feel that spark again, send me a message. Tell me a little about yourself, what you've been missing, or simply give me your best opening line.

I have a feeling we might have more in common than either of us expects šŸ™‚

If post is still up, DM’s are still open!


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 1d ago

Female Seeking Females 33 [F4F] #northpark - seeking sensual fun NSFW

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hi ladies. wanna make out and sensually massage each other tonight? i can host, looking for an intimate passionate experience. i love kissing. i’m petite asian and very sexual. not looking for men or couples or boyfriends setting up their girlfriends. looking for the baddies hotties that wanna have a good time :)


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 1d ago

Male Seeking Females 26 [M4F] #Clairemont - Attentive, attractive, and looking for an older woman that deserves my undivided attention. NSFW

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I’m not looking for something complicated, I’m not looking to get involved in your life or your situation. I want to be an outlet, someone you go to when you want to feel sexy, desired. I’m looking for someone that will beg me to taste every inch of their body. I have recent clean tests and I’m happy to send photos.


r/SanDiegoR4R • • 1d ago

Male Seeking Females 32 [M4F] #LemonGrove — Looking for smoke buddy NSFW

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Hey, what's up, new to the San Diego area. I want to start exploring and finding new smoke buddies. 420, looking for someone chill that just wants to vibe for the most part. Would like exploring new places to eat, chilling at the beach or even some hikes around SD, im a big fan of Julian

Interested in a fwb situation but am more than fine with just smoke buds, i am hung as a plus. Bars are always fun too, with good people im down for anything. Excited for Halloween as well