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I hope this is the right sub to ask all that but pls let me know if it's not

Hi, so i am a trans man (feel pretty binary if one could say so). I am kinda struggling with understanding the "mechanics" of being out of binary system. As you know there is lots of different trans- cis- de-trans- experiences that are very much different from one another but i always find some internal understanding of almost every story i encounter. What sems to be a struggle for me is that at the point of non-binary i just can't put it together. I didn't have much nb friends to ask all that.

So what is your identity to you? How do you feel it physically AND emotionally? What have you achieved after coming to understanding that you are non-binary? Do you feel any disphoria and how? Why would you decide to go or not to go on hrt? Is passing matters for you? How if so? Is it even a thing for nb people?

And probably what's most important for me to know is how do you experience gender euphoria and what should one do to make you feel seen and accepted?

Wanna explain myself in advance: I've encountered very few non-binary people in my life and tried to be very respectful (u know u don't need to understand deep reasons for give a person respect they deserve) but i feel like walking on a thin ice here just because i am not educated enough. I am afraid of making person in front of me feel less valuable and comfortable or even not valid just because of lack of knowledge. I know that everyone has a different experience so I'd gladly read and put some thoughts in every answer.

And if you feel like chatting in general i would be so happy as well

Edited: its important to mention that English is not my first language and my first language does not have pronouns for non-binary people so if it is the case for your language as well pls share how would you prefer people referring to you in your language.

I also understand that nobody owns me explanation on this topic so let me know if i overstepping here please

Hiii please correct me if I use harmful language or I'm just been plain stupid 😭, so I'm a cis queer woman Aroallo and I've always been sapphic inclined but I am attracted to everyone but on a principle I don't date cishet men and most times men in general(my country is very misogynistic). But I have been in community with people of all gender identities and I don't have what I've come to understand is "genitalia preference" but I also have a very strong fear of getting pregnant like big big fear and that's kind of why I've been mostly hooking up with people with vaginas mostly and I know I can use condoms or get on birth control,etc but the fear is still there. So anyway, I tend to shut down anyone I perceive as male from my dating pool but there have been a few times I've vibed with nonbinary individuals(I'm trying not to use AMAB but it feels relevant to this conversation 😭) and I never know how to let them know of my fears without making it seem like I view them as man?? Like with trans women, it's been okay since they've been mostly bottoms. Like how do I say, yeah we can hookup but I don't want your dick in me??😭😭😭

I’m in dfw and going to an indie concert tomorrow wondering if anyone wants to join :3 im 26 and open to chat in messages !

So, I'm 35, m (ish) and bisexual. I've been having a lot of mental health struggles recently and, although I have a fair few battles going on that I'm working through in therapy, it often comes down to gender dysphoria and an identity crisis that I never had the tools to work through.

Growing up in the 90s and going to high school in the early 00s in a small town in north-west England, gender dysphoria wasn't a thing we talked about. Coming out as bisexual was a difficult enough thing to deal with. I grew up in a hyper masculine bubble and actually only came out to my parents a few years ago, despite the fact that I was and still am in a relationship with a woman.

She had been amazing about it and is more concerned with me being ok with who I am, the idea of me exploring my gender identity is something she's willing to help me to do which is huge. I'm going to take it a step at a time and I have some huge internalized barriers to break down but I'm ready to start my journey as someone who has always felt they live outside the confines of traditional gender duality and now feels a lot safer being able to express that. I'm terrified but I'm also really excited about it.

I recently got binding tape because I've been feeling really dysphoric over my chest and how it looks in shirts I used to love. But I'm super anxious about things and putting it on makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong and that if anything bad happens I'll be questioned on how said thing happened and I'd rather not explain why I had tape on my chest.

I haven't worn a bra in several years because I hate how they feel and I hate the pressure on my chest so I know that a binder would make me incredibly uncomfortable. Its very frustrating because I've been breaking down over how I look but I finally get the thing to change it and my anxiety freaks me out so bad that I get out of breath and have to take it off.

Does anyone have any tips on how to bind safely with tape that way I'm not risking anything? Any reassuring words would be helpful so I can hopefully get my anxiety to a point to where its not freaking me out about this.

Thank you, and much love :)

Now that i am chronically ill and post OP i have noticed how much i have valued my strength my whole life, even as a kid I'd make sure to carry heavy things explicitly to show i was as strong as the boys – i remember always volunteering when the teachers said they needed "strong boys" to carry/push around tables.

Apparently as an adult it was also the case at the gym and especially at my blue collar work, since the cis men kept telling me to carry less weight or trying to get things off my hands – i was definitely making an effort to carry as much weight as possible to make a point.

I am posting here just because i see this as being heavily tied to my non binary identity and to being treated/seen as a girl, so i wanted to know if anyone else feels this way.