Warning long post ahead! My husband (40m) and me (33f) currently make about ~160k a year. We bring home ~$8500 a month AFTER taxes, health insurance, and a 1300k contribution in 401k/Roth between the two of us (before employer matches). I’m an LCSW in a non profit and he works in the agriculture industry. We are offering 490k on a home with 20% down, at the current interest rate we will have a PITI payment of ~$3000 a month. We live in a relatively LCOL area in rural Midwest. It’s a brick home is on several acres with a pool, and has been very well maintained. We honestly both loved it.
Currently we are sitting at around 115k in retirement between the two of us, he has a guaranteed $1200 pension as well from a previous job. We’ve had a few income jumps in the past 3-4 years, roughly increasing our salary of about 30k. About a year ago we moved for his job and have been living in a small rental. Rent is stupid cheap like $850 a month but we are busting at the seams ready to get out. We have always dreamed of a home in the country/on acreage as that’s how we both grew up and being in town is just not for us. Originally we had wanted to spend about 350k-450k on a home but quickly realized that in our area that was not going to happen unless the home needed some work, was lacking space, or our “must haves”—big kitchen, acreage, basement, 1800-2000sq foot and enough room for guests as family is not local.
After the 20% down we would have about 15k in our savings. As a part of my husband’s job, he receives an annual profit sharing bonus that the company has always done. I know we can’t always RELY on a bonus but this has been the structure for years and it’s how they retain talent, according to husband it’s not changing. This year his bonus grossed 75k, after deductions and investment in 401k he took about 35k. So essentially we grossed about 245k. His bonus could essentially be anywhere from 10k-120k gross depending on profit. We have no debt at all aside from my student loans which I’m doing PSLF for with 3.5 years left and that is $211 a month. Will probably need a new vehicle for myself in the next couple of years but I work remote and he has a work vehicle/company card for gas. No children, yet, but planning on 1-2 MAX and we will have to pay for some sort of childcare but average costs around here are $650-$800 a month for one infant. We live relatively frugal with cooking most meals at home, taking 1-3 trips a year, fancy dinner out a couple times a year, thrift most of our clothes, quick meal/coffee out 1-2 times a month. No credit card debt at all and overall we are homebodies. This mortgage payment freaking scares me but husband thinks we will be good to go. Should we continue to wait on the sidelines and stack up cash? These rates only seem to keep going up and the houses are not coming down. Needing some honest feedback.