My girlfriend is doing residency right now, she's in her last year of family med. We're both in our 30s. 

It feels like she has two modes - stress at work and a resulting disassociating from life. She comes home from work and immediately escapes by playing video games during pretty much every waking hour outside of work. She'll put in 200 hours over a couple of weeks. 

Her mom, who is staying with us, and I do 90% of the chores like dishes, laundry, and food prep. 

On inpatient and night shift rotations, it's definitely like this. Even during other rotations, this pattern is there. 

I get it. I'm a gamer myself... but I also feel like I want to connect with her, do things with her, and talk about life and the future (we do have things to figure out) and there's no space for that. 

I don't know... is this normal? How do I support her while also considering my own needs? How do I distinguish real residency stress from her reaction to life while under stress? I've had stressful jobs working 60+ hour weeks... but I feel like I still managed my time outside in a certain way - a lot of me time, but also doing chill things with my partner and friends/family. I'm not sure if residency is a different kind of brutality. 

My SO and I are looking at getting a prenup. He has the initial appt with a lawyer next week and he would like me to come along. We know that I would need to be represented by a different lawyer. I am wondering if I should share any thoughts on the clauses or not at his prenup consultation appt? We have not talked about any clauses on our own; and I am wondering if we should be negotiate through both lawyers... or asked another way, will me sharing anything with his lawyer "show my cards" and put me at a disadvantage later on in the prenup process (given that we haven't come to an agreement on anything)?

I rarely ever, actually never, post on Reddit. But I need some serious advice.

I (F22) recently found out that I am six weeks pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend (M23) for about a year and we’ve been friends for two years prior to that. This was totally unexpected and I’m overwhelmed with a lot of intense feelings on what to do. Part of me knows that this is not the best time to have a baby nor have the adequate resources to do so. But also I have always wanted to be a mother and know I would be able to be the best I could possibly be for this child.

We graduated college about a year ago and he is currently in his second year applying to med schools. He is hoping to start next fall. I don’t really have an established career as I am still young and I am to start a new job in about two weeks.

I am very torn on whether to keep or terminate the pregnancy. I have yet to tell my parents because I fear I know my mom will insist I keep it.

I want to know if it is possible to have one parent in med school while raising a child. My boyfriend says that he will not be able to continue because he wants to be involved but I feel that he can still be involved and continue to work toward his goals and aspirations.

Is this possible or am I living in a dream fairytale land ?