I rarely ever, actually never, post on Reddit. But I need some serious advice.

I (F22) recently found out that I am six weeks pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend (M23) for about a year and we’ve been friends for two years prior to that. This was totally unexpected and I’m overwhelmed with a lot of intense feelings on what to do. Part of me knows that this is not the best time to have a baby nor have the adequate resources to do so. But also I have always wanted to be a mother and know I would be able to be the best I could possibly be for this child.

We graduated college about a year ago and he is currently in his second year applying to med schools. He is hoping to start next fall. I don’t really have an established career as I am still young and I am to start a new job in about two weeks.

I am very torn on whether to keep or terminate the pregnancy. I have yet to tell my parents because I fear I know my mom will insist I keep it.

I want to know if it is possible to have one parent in med school while raising a child. My boyfriend says that he will not be able to continue because he wants to be involved but I feel that he can still be involved and continue to work toward his goals and aspirations.

Is this possible or am I living in a dream fairytale land ?

My wife is a first year attending surgeon. I am proud of her for how hard she is working at it, but one thing is driving me nuts, she is always staying late to work on notes or coming home and working on notes untill it is time to go to bed.

She asks me almost every single night if I can solo parent out 3 year old so she can stay at the hospital and work on notes uninterrupted or will tell me she is coming home, but needs me to solo parent because she needs to work on notes.

When I ask her about her notes she gets defensive and will complain that she is so far behind on notes that she is still working on last months notes. She is constantly telling me that hospital administration is breathing down her neck about how far behind she is on notes. I ask her if she can schedule like one less patient a day to get her work done during business hours and she tells me that is impossible and she will get fired if she doesn't keep up this work load.

I feel like a single parent. She might overlap with my daughter for an hour a day on average and that hour is often low quality time, because she is working on notes. Recently she has been begging me for a second child, but I feel like she barely sees the one we have.

So I guess my question is if this is normal or not? I have been doing my best by sacrificing my personal life and parenting full time so she can succeed at work, but I am getting burned out. Is being overwhelmed with notes and being a month plus behind normal the first year as an attending general surgeon? How can I help her, I already do the lion's share of the housework, cooking, and parenting? Do I need to become a medical assistant too so I can transcribe her notess so she can be present in our personal life or is something going to click for her and suddenly she discovers work life balance?

How often do you get to spend quality time with your partner? My (23F) bf (24M) is an M1. We have been together for a year and I really do think he’s the one for me. Since starting med school a couple of months ago we haven’t really spent any quality time together. I live about a 3 hour drive away from him and have seen him for about 1 night every three weeks. Ideally id like to spend 2-3 nights when I come to visit but he has a roomate and i also feel like i distract him from studying so he isn’t as productive and thus has been apprehensive about me staying longer. Even when I am over, most of his time is spent studying. If we go out to eat he is doing anki until the food comes, if we are cuddling in bed he is doing anki, when we are facetiming he’s always studying so we only get to talk for 5-10 minutes at the beginning of the call and the rest is silent. After exams when he has the weekend off he likes to go visit his family and spend them with them since he lives kinda far from them now so I usually don’t get to spend that time with him. We do call 3-4 times a week and will sit on the phone for 1-2 hours but again it’s not quality time. I understand he doesn’t have a lot of time and mental bandwidth but an occasional date night would be nice where I could get a few hours of his undivided attention. How do you guys do this? How much time did your partner dedicate towards you in med school? Will it get better? What should I expect of him and what is feasible during this time? I just miss my boyfriend so much.