Hey guys ❤️ So, somebody asked me how things have been going since I posted two months ago. Honestly, time flies, but unfortunately, things haven't really improved.

The job situation is still uncertain. We went from being told we would start on 9th October to 20th October, and now I'm worried it might be postponed again.

My landlord is really on my neck right now. My door was closed, and I had to stay with a friend for three days. I eventually went to the chief and made a promise that I would pay my rent on 12th November because we had been told the contract would start on 9th October. Now that the job has been pushed to the 20th, I honestly don't know what I'll do. If I don't come up with the money before the 10th, I'm out. 😅😅

I know it's not funny, but I'm honestly tired of crying these days. Sometimes I just laugh because what else can I do?

The housekeeping jobs come in maybe two days a week, and then I have to figure out how to survive the rest of the week with my three kids.

My daughter was sent home on Friday because I hadn't paid the KES 1,750 the school was asking for. I later asked and was told the money is for feeding and exam materials because she's sitting for her KPSEA exams.

Yesterday, she was home again because I hadn't cleared the full amount. Today, I managed to send her with another KES 500. I honestly don't know if she'll still be in school by 10 a.m. or if she'll be sent home again, but I'm praying she gets to stay and continue with her exams.

I even sent someone to talk to her dad, hoping he could at least help with KES 500, but the answer I got was, "I don't have any money." I wasn't even asking for the whole amount.

These are just some of the things I've been going through over the past two months. Mentally, I'm drained. Sometimes I feel like I'm running on empty, but I keep standing because I'm a mum and my children depend on me.

The hardest part is hearing my kids say things like, "It's okay, Mum, wacha tukunywe uji jioni, tutakula shule." They try to comfort me by saying we'll have porridge in the evening and they'll eat at school the next day.

Then I realise I can't even afford the KES 15 for their lunch.

Imagine being a mother and having to listen to your children comfort you because they can see how hard you're trying. They don't ask for much, but even the little things have become difficult.

And this is how I'm about to turn 29 on the 24th of this month, with most of the same problems I had two months ago still hanging over my head.

I'm not sharing this for pity. I honestly don't even know why I'm writing all this, maybe because sometimes I need somewhere to let it out. I'm still trying, still looking for work, and still hoping that something will finally work out.

If anyone knows of temporary work around Riruta, Kilimani, Lavington, Westlands, or nearby areas, please let me know. I'm available for housekeeping, laundry, errands, meal preparation, or any honest work.

Weeh, life has really humbled me. I'm tired, but I haven't given up. One day at a time.

Its there. I feel myself really irritated, disgusted and hateful of queer men. It started with hate towards men as a collective and then the more time I spent online it developed into a special hate for queer males.

I guess id call myself homophobic now.. But I dont care about women with my hate i wven love them.. Thing is its gotten so bad that when I walk, I brand every male gay

. In the past I used to get so irritated by males because of constantly pestering me when I walk outside but now, its developed into "this man ata akinisumbua haezi nitisha, why would he when they all bend ova for each other" So I now walk around with feeling powerful, amd like no man can touch me...Like now im disregarding men and branding them all gay and I believe this aint normal lol . I need exorcism or something.. I need a way to figure this out and leave it behind.

I logged off x for abit and it got better but i still dont like them.. I think my inherent beliefs must be wrong because im so accepting and egem blind to female queerness but very hateful and thats when I hold opinions that acting like this isnt natural, when males emgage in such activities...

Hey ladies I have been seeing this conversation of how men kujiondoa themselves after a huge salary increase to their girlfriend's / wives'. And I saw most men complain vile we change ,kiburi inapanda ,we start cheating and madharau and it got me thinking. Is it really a thing ama a societal norm?

Is it just me? When its a couple of days to my Period I have the Hunger of a Fundi, A Body builder and a teenage boy and someone who just smoked weed...and its not that I am hungry per say but my body just wants food. But when my period comes I go back to factory settings eating once or twice a day ....Am I the only one? Should I go and get checked for a hormone issue ama?

Hi ladies my goal this year has been to gain more confidence in speaking and articulating my thoughts.

I have decided to create a group of women with similar goals the group will also serve in holding ourselves accountable in terms of exercising and moving our bodiex

Fit bodies fit minds

How it works .

Every twice a week .I will give out random topics to everyone then 20 minutes to research (no ai) .

Then we hop on video call and everyone gets a chance to explain in under a minute we then review each other's articulation and score based on filler words ,pause etc

Anyone curious to join DM

​I remember around this time last year, I was here ranting after finally coming to terms with the fact that I was SA'd as a child. Groping is SA. I wanted justice back then, but eventually, I felt so overwhelmed that I just stopped thinking about it for a while. The love and support I got from this community back then meant everything to me.

​This past year has been a complete roller coaster. Some days were good, but other days I would get so triggered hearing other women share their SA stories on social media. I felt deep empathy for them (some had gone through things far worse than mine) and I truly commend them for their strength in speaking up💔.

​When I shared my story here back then, I remember a guy commenting: "They were still kids though." (My perpetrators were teenagers around 12/14, while I was only 4 or 5). That comment icked me so bad that I deleted my post and took a long break. It felt so invalidating when it was already so hard to speak up.

​That experience made me realize how desperate we are for spaces where women are actually believed, held, and protected.

​In April, I formed The Audacity Room (a ladies only community on WhatsApp) because I realized I was trying to numb my thoughts with random hobbies. Connecting with amazing women through our physical meetups made me feel so much safer. I’m endlessly grateful to everyone who attended my events and believed in my vision (more women are welcome)🤍.

​But I knew we needed something bigger, quieter, and permanently safe.

​So, I’ve spent the past few months building IBLVU (I Believe You)—a verified, algorithm free digital sanctuary built by women, for women.

​It’s an everyday safe space for:

• ​The Sanctuary & Whispers: Algorithm-free feeds and anonymous support threads where you can vent, ask questions, or connect without performance, judgment, or invalidation.

• ​Everyday Community & Circles: Spaces to talk about health, PCOS, wellness, career, and life alongside local meetups.

• ​My Vault: An encrypted, private logbook where women can safely document personal notes, dates, and experiences for their eyes only, completely protected from external takedowns or leaks.

• ​Verified Care: Access to vetted female practitioners, counselors, and legal advocates when you need guidance.

​We wanna build this with so much care & intention.(I have an amazing lady dev on my team,I'm more than grateful to her😊). We just opened our early access waitlist today, and every single signup helps prove that women deserve safer spaces online.

​If you want to be among the first to receive a Founding Pioneer pass, please take 30 seconds to join our waitlist here: ​🔗 joiniblvuwaitlist.lovable.app

P.S. For the ladies around Nairobi, we are also hosting an Audacity Room end of year luncheon on December 20th to celebrate closing out the year together! If you’d love to join our physical meetup, feel free to drop a comment or DM me for details.

​Thank you all for being part of my healing journey and helping me build a space where every woman's voice is believed✨.

Are there any Atheist/Agnostic , child free women and women who decentered men on this sub?

Why are there so many male centered women out here?

Hello! I’m 28F, living in Githurai 45, and I’m looking for a female bestie to hang out with. My work schedule is quite busy, but I’m usually free on Saturday evenings or Sundays.

I’m not rich , but I can comfortably pay for my own food and drinks when we go out (not expensive restaurants). I’m just looking for someone to hang out with, have good conversations, explore Nairobi, and build a genuine friendship.

If you’re also looking for a bestie to spend time with, kindly DM me.

Ladies why do you want to get married?

Good morning Girlies

I am looking for 9 ladies interested in reading The Richest Man in Babylon with me. In total we shall be 10 including me.

I would like us to really dissect the book after reading it, and if possible, turn into an actual book club.

DM me if interested

Hi ladies. I'm just getting into wigs and I'd like to know if anyone has a good seller. I'm an intern sahii (retained by my old attachment place) so I can't afford the Cambodian stuff. Also, where do you guys get shoes? I'm tired of getting stuff off of Bata or Emirates just for them to expand or kutoboka after a few wears.

I've been seeing this man for a year and 2 months now. Things haven't been okay for me financially and I'm trying to get my footing. So we recently moved in together (July) and he's been footing all the bills. Before moving in, he was still supporting me and he's generally a really good man. Point to note is we're out of the country and I met him here. Bills here are costly and he was holding his end of the bargain. Now, 2 or 3 weeks ago I casually said that I'd like to go home for a little while to get my mind in check because I'm currently not earning independently. He wasn't happy and we talked at length about it but something stuck with me. He said that I've benefitted in this relationship more than him. We've been through rough patches together financially and we've always come back up. That statement really made me feel some type of way considering that I've been there for him in all the other ways. His dad passed on last year and we've been navigating it together.

Girlies, what do I make of it? Feel free to ask questions and I'll clarify.

Growing up I used to think it was a phrase used to discourage us from having sex before marriage , but right now I don't think it's that .

If asked , I'd say having someone from my past cross my mind is a soul tie , maybe because it's bad to a point that I get restless for a week or more and it stops when the person reaches out or if I do .

*Crossing the mind in a natural neutral way (remembering their favourite song or their cologne).

So , is soul ties a thing ama ni Jaba Tu ? 🥲

I didn't know that 🤔.

If you're looking to bridge the gap between 'freshly got my DL' to 'Independent driver', I'm happy to help you practice on the major roads and get you ready for your first mini roadtrip!

This is for you miss or mister, for your friend or partner ... Or your child.

Alternatively also if you need a private driver for occasional trips or a designated driver while you unwind, drop a PM!

Last year, I decided to start a handmade scented candles business. I decided to also have an option for diffusers and car scents, all handmade but candles were my main thing. The first year was somewhat good. People were discovering my products and testing them out. I delivered orders to as far as Malindi and Mtwapa from Nairobi. I also did a few popups which helped push sales and get discovered but the last few popups have just been a waste. Unfortunately, the past few months have been a real struggle. To make matters worse, I have a few repeat customers but not enough which makes me wonder if my products are bad. Are businesses generally struggling right now or is it just mine?

Hey ladies
I wanted recommendations on any book clubs that are active. Also sites that have books

I used to read a lot then life kinda took that away and I need it back. Also as a reader would you say the experience is different for you when it’s soft copy or hard copy or are they all the same

I know AI has taken over especially writing but still I'm here to deliver well edited to a human level article. So I'm looking for writing opportunities, or anyone who needs a writer. I have experience with SEO, and am also good with sports topics.

If you know anyone hiring writers, need articles, or have leads to share please reach out. I'd appreciate it.

Thank you.

So with the presence of social media you find you compare your lives with others and in a great way it has created a sisterhood for the women of all ages ...kwanza this anonymous sites eg kenyanladies .

Or tiktok search bars ..you get me .

So a question to the mothers who kinda have learnt motherhood ...intentional motherhood ...from the mtandao ....you know... because you dont want to be your mother to your daughter.

How are you intentionally breaking the cycle?

Also please give a comparison or context to your answer.

Hi guys im gonna be starting nursing soon but with diploma stuff and I really want to do nursing but I go on social media and everyone is complaining about they wish they chose something else and hate the job na I know i shouldn't be listening to other people's opinions on the internet lakini i also cant say their experiences are invalid.

I've been seeing ppl say just move to another country and im open to that option but I just want to know if its possible in Kenya?

So pls if ur a nursing career, student or just have advice on nursing can yall pls advice?

I've seen some ppl say to specialize and not stay in bedside but sijui so im asking you.

And also what are some good courses or short courses that can pair up well with nursing career?

The kind or response you recieve from slightly older ladies after wamejua ur age like c'mon njoo mahabuba nikupe usuba miaka n mapenzi inaingilia wapi