I think it’s safe to say that after so many years together, you’ve probably hurt each other in one way or another. Growing together means learning, making mistakes, and evolving as individuals and as a couple. How did you work through those difficult moments, heal from the hurt, and move forward without holding on to the past?

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My wife (38F) and I (36F) have been married for three wonderful years, and for our third wedding anniversary, I’ve made her this handmade, leather-bound book filled with Reddit posts I think she’ll love reading and some favourite ones. The ones we constantly talk about, laugh over, and bring up in conversation days after we’ve read them.

I’m asking if anyone in this community could leave a short message wishing my wife a happy 3rd anniversary as an epigraph . I’m hoping to print your comments and include them on that page, so one day, she’ll reopen this book, revisit all these posts, and re-read all the anniversary wishes.

Thank you in advance for helping add this personal touch.

And to my incredible wife: Happy 3rd anniversary, baby. I’d choose you — and all our wonderfully unhinged conversations — every single time.
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My husband (35M) and I (36F) dated when we were freshmen in high school and we broke up on awful terms. I would try talking to him (bc it was all my fault) and he would refuse. Every time I would get in a relationship and it would start to fail, I would reach out to him over social media and would get met with silence. He hated me... it was fair, I hated myself.

Fast forward 16 years. My best friend and his best friend get married (they were also high school sweethearts). I wasn't invited to the very small wedding they had bc he was going to be there. He was living with them bc him and his friend had started a business. Well, I knew I was going to come visit my friend at some point and I felt I needed to clear the air bc I wouldn't be able to avoid him.

So, I reached out via FB. I'm a tech writer and had my QA person (my work mom) help me write a long diplomatic message to him. He never responded, but I was told he rarely gets on FB. I got his number from my friend and I texted him before even thinking about anything, "Hey, It's Tiffany... we cool?" and we hit it off like 16yrs just never happened. Did not skip a beat. He never hated me, he was hurt, but never once hated me.

We were married on our 3 year anniversary and it's coming up on our 1 year wedding anniversary next month. Last week I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy and I had to have emergency surgery. He never once left my side. He convinced me to go to the ER which probably saved my life. He helped me do everything and never once complained. He advocated for me when I wasn't being heard. I already loved him with every fiber of my being, but now... it's just radiating out of me and idk what to do with myself (and we literally have to wait 2 weeks before we can be intimate). He catches me staring at him constantly and I'm just telling him how much I love him every hour.

I always thought a successful relationship was something you both had to work for at all times, but this is the easiest thing in my entire life. We read each other's minds, we're always on the same wavelength, and we've never fought. HOW IS IT POSSIBLE TO LOVE ONE PERSON THIS MUCH??? (Fun Fact: Sleep Token is our favorite band and I walked down the aisle to Fall For Me. To the rhythm of eternity, won't you fall for me? 🖤🖤)

I've been married to my current husband, the actual love of my life, for a little over 2 years now. I came out of a marriage that I thought was going to be my forever love only to have that world come crashing down. But this is a reminder to everyone that love like this can still exist, good men are out there, and healthy communication is possible!

Last night my husband and I had a miscommunication about a comment I made. He reacted to the comment in a mode of "you're attacking me," when that was not my intention at all. We talked about it right then and there, I recognized how what I said could have been misconstrued, he apologized for his reaction, and we went to bed happy.

This morning I got this text from him:

"I’m feeling really bad about my response last night to you. I should never talk that way to the person I love the most. I was having a moment because I am trying to give my all to you and the family and trying to make sure I’m doing the right thing in every area of my life. I took that very wrong and I apologize. We are gonna grow old together and I’m sure there gonna be times that we get upset but I always wanna honor you and speak love to you ❤️ "

Ladies, healthy communication with a man is possible!

I’m a 27-year-old man. What do you think is the ideal age to get married?

I love my husband so much it hurts, he’s my whole heart and my best friend. My favourite part of the day is spending time snuggled on the couch together. I want to have kids, but I’m afraid that time raising children will pull us apart because there’s less quality time together when you’re focused on raising a family.

I’m not worried AT ALL that we won’t get along because of kids, I’m simply worried about our lost quality time. That being said, a family together sounds like a dream and a beautiful adventure.

Anyone else been through this and had kids? Please share your experience!!

What ordinary things make the biggest difference in your marriage?

This could include daily rituals, date nights, affection, communication habits, household teamwork, humor, thoughtful gestures, or ways you reconnect when life gets busy.

Share the practical habits that have worked in your marriage. Big romantic gestures are welcome, but we especially want to hear about the small, repeatable things.

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Hey everyone!

My parents’ 25th wedding anniversary is coming up, and I really want to make it memorable for them.

So far, I’ve booked a hall for the celebration, invited all our relatives and family members, and decided to make a video showcasing their memories over the years, including old photographs and special moments from their life together.

However, I still feel like something is missing, and I want to do something extra to make the day truly special for them.

One thing to keep in mind is that my parents had an arranged marriage, and they’re not really into the typical romantic games like “Who proposed first?” or questions about how they fell in love. So, I’m looking for ideas that would suit them and make them feel comfortable.

I’d love to hear your suggestions for activities, surprises, or thoughtful gestures that I could include in the celebration. It could be something emotional, fun, family-oriented, or even something simple but meaningful.

If you’ve organized a similar celebration for your parents or family members, what did you do that made the occasion memorable?

I really want them to feel loved and appreciated on this milestone, so any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

My husband tells me all the time how beautiful I am. I'm 40 and fat AF, but he thinks I'm beautiful and he tells me all the time. I catch him staring at me a lot and he always stops what he's doing to look at me when I walk into the room.

I recently asked him if we could consider a nose job for me; I've been self conscious about it my whole life. I think it's too big and bulbous. He flipped out, said hell no, because he thinks my nose is perfect and adorable and he doesn't want me to change it.

I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, never have been, but knowing that my husband thinks I'm beautiful exactly as I am is the best feeling in the world.

Today is my husband's and I's 3yr anniversary. I am thinking of us going out to get ice cream and to go to a park maybe. It's a beautiful day today! I'm so excited to be celebrating this with my best friend! Happy 3 yrs my love!

Share an approach, agreement, or habit that has helped you manage money together. What has worked in your marriage?

I'm child free due to medical issues.. and Ive started asking around when you have a baby is there a feeling that comes with being a parent? I equate it to looking at a spouse.. but then again I don't know..

Childfree couples how old are you and how is life without kids. Has the marriage benefited since you don’t have kids.

Thoughts on best friends of the opposite sex? One on one texting? Adding on social media, etc? Making new opposite sex friendships?

Do you have boundaries surrounding this in your marriage?

Share something your spouse did this week that made you smile, feel loved, or appreciate them a little more.

Our contributions from a fun discussion my partner and I had yesterday (a couple decades of doing this thing).

Remember this! In every marriage there is one person who loads the dishwasher the right way, and one person who loads it the wrong way. You are both of you both of those people. If a chore gets done, that's dedication in action. Don't critique the little shit you see.

Straight from the Bible: Whom cookes, washes not dishes. Whom shops, doth not take out the trash. Whom bathes the dogs, takes them not to the vet or the dog park. Whom cleans the bathrooms, shall neither vacuum nor dust. And so on!

A five minute cuddle before and/or after work is a truly great ritual. Both is a magic thing to separate the day of being a work person and demarcate being a couple person.

Important stuff like budgeting, budget review, scary health care decisions, etc: Have an actual meeting like you are running a business, with an agenda and worksheets and - I know this sounds silly, but if something is tricky or complicated break out the powerpoint. The setup for the discussion is thus planned which really reduces the stress of the problem solving. Especially helpful if you are proposing some big change (new house, new job, new furniture, new car...)

Managing the burn rate on "stuff": Merge your Amazon (and etc) accounts, or create a new one. When someone wants something, it goes on the wishlist. Same for other types of purchases, we share a list on our Apple devices. Once a month we look at our budget reality and then the lists - an amazing amount of stuff that seemed compelling is now meh. This means we buy more books instead :-/

We've each a personal account, and put our personal 'bad habits' monthly allowance in there. No more arguing about who is wasting money on fancy coffee drinks vs who is wasting money on pricey wine - we've each got our $75 and no explanations or excuses are needed.

Fun one! Up on the fireplace mantle, put a quart jar or something and label it "TIPS". When your partner surprises you or just makes you smile, you say "That deserves a tip" and put some cash in it. When it gets full, you do a fancy couple date night!

... whatcha got that helps keep the joy and love strong?

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I'm in my early 20s, and my boyfriend and I have been having serious conversations about our future together, including marriage, finances, careers, where we'd settle down, and eventually starting a family.

We're both still young, and while we love each other very much, I understand that love alone isn't enough to sustain a marriage. I want to make sure we're building a strong foundation rather than making decisions based purely on our feelings right now.

I'd really appreciate advice from people who have more life experience, especially those over 35 or who've been married for 10, 20, or even 30+ years.

A few things I'm curious about:

• What do you wish you'd known about your partner before getting married?
• What conversations should couples absolutely have before marriage?
• What qualities matter most in a lifelong partner that younger people tend to overlook?
• How does love change as you grow older together? Does the affection and effort naturally fade?
• What are some mistakes you made early in your marriage that younger couples could learn from?
• Looking back, would you still choose the same person? Why or why not?

I'm especially interested in hearing both the good and the bad, including advice from people whose marriages didn't work out.

I know no relationship is perfect, but I want to learn from people who've experienced the realities of marriage beyond the honeymoon phase.

If you could go back and give your younger self one piece of relationship or marriage advice, what would it be?

Celabrating a wedding. Makes me cherish our love.

Share a milestone, breakthrough, kind moment, or ordinary win you’re celebrating with your spouse.

Share a simple tradition, routine, or activity that helps you feel connected.

For me, it's how we still make time for each other even when life gets busy. We don't have to do anything special or spend money to have a good time. Sometimes just eating together, talking about our day, or laughing at something silly is enough. I hope we never lose that, no matter how many years we're married.