Bf says I taste bad…

[u/Kazen1Kura]

So for context me and my bf have been dating for a year. Normally I am super self conscious about receiving anything oral and always deny it. But my bf will insist and do it anyway. A few times he’s brought up about how I taste bad like piss.

Now I am someone who loves hygiene and body care, it’s like therapy for me. When he says this I try to take it into consideration and be extra clean but I just can’t see where he’s coming from. I have a wash for down there, i mostly eat clean whole foods, and i take pre/probiotics.

This time it hurt my feelings because before we did it I took an everything shower and felt so clean and pretty now all of a sudden he’s saying I tasted like pee. He doesn’t say it in a mean way. I made a joke about him not eating me like that when he was eating icecream and he went “I mean…the last two times it tasted like piss. I don’t know if you’re cleaning it. Clean it babe.” But i do? I’m not sure what to do i’m petrified of getting head now, I never want do it again. He’s apologizing profusely and saying he’ll never say it again but jeez now i’m scared.

He’s also done this by saying my breath stinks and my tongue is too white. I’ve never gotten butt hurt over this but I just don’t understand because I brush my teeth, floss, and have a tongue scrapper. Yes, my breath smells after eating fragrant foods or waking up in the morning or when i’m dehydrated. But his breath smells terrible too i’ve just never went up to him and said it.

I guess I just want advice is this normal? Should I be more receptive? I already have an intensive body care plan, what else can I do? He doesn’t even do half of what I do. He literally had 1 native body wash he used with his hands until I met him and changed his regimen so why is he so judgmental?

Dinner: Poke burrito with ramune soda!

**EDIT: So I use her fantasy box sensitive probiotic+ I use a wash because I work out a lot and I feel like it leaves so much sweat to use water. Should I try ditching the wash for a while and see?

[u/Midgetrails]

This was my thought too. He's negging on her and making her feel bad.

I'm glad OP has the receipts of already having a good body care routine because there's no way freshly showered genitals taste like piss.

Also what does tongue too white even mean

[u/Kazen1Kura → u/Midgetrails]

that’s why i’m so confused like what more can i do? i don’t get any cleaner then fresh out the shower.

[u/Fragmentedmindwar → u/Kazen1Kura]

Hey I read that you have a “wash for down there.” Listen, gynecologist recommended that you just wash the vulva with warm water. Otherwise you can throw off your pH by killing the good bacteria responsible for pH control, lubrication etc.

Some soaps have an ammonia smell, which could attribute to a “urine like smell” potentially. Especially if it’s non scented. I personally can smell the ammonia and chemicals of unscented soaps. I’ve heard others they can’t smell it. I’m going to say that that can be a variation from person to person on who can smell it or not.

Gynecologist also do not recommended “feminine washes” it’s all bullshit. Strips your natural protectant and is harmful to your delicate pH.

Now that’s addressed.

It’s far more likely that he’s being a jerk and tearing down your self esteem. Some guys do that. Pay attention if he does other put downs in the form of “joking.” I encourage you to start paying attention to said jokes and hear what he’s actually saying to you. Only you will know with any certainty if he is out of line.

Or it could be he genuinely doesn’t like the smell of vaginas. That happens, you don’t have to like the smell of vaginas. But if it’s a healthy vagina and taking care of it’s impolite to make comments on it.

I’ve been with a few women whose natural scent is just stronger and I personally didn’t find it the most pleasant. I’ve been with men that no matter how they wash still smell like strong on their genitals too. That’s just human variation. Some peoples smells are different than others. He should either not go down on you if he finds it unpleasant or if he still finds it a deed worth doing shut the fuck up about it.

Alright sis. Think about what we’ve been saying and analyze your situation in a logical way, try to not add your emotions to it. If this was a one time hook up how would you react.

[u/Still_Peach568 → u/Fragmentedmindwar]

Who doesn't like the smell? Smells wonderful. The propaganda against pussy has been one very weird cope of the patriarchy.

[u/Fragmentedmindwar → u/Still_Peach568]

Listen, not everyone likes eating pussy or smelling it. Go read through half the discussions going on at [r/lesbians](r/lesbians). Not everyone likes it.

Not all straight ladies like the smell of cock or sucking weeniers. Thats ok.

Doesn’t have to be systemic issue, just personal preference.

Now the shaming or negging or making a partner feel bad over normal genitals is a systemic and patriarchal issue.