Bf says I taste bad…

[u/Kazen1Kura]

So for context me and my bf have been dating for a year. Normally I am super self conscious about receiving anything oral and always deny it. But my bf will insist and do it anyway. A few times he’s brought up about how I taste bad like piss.

Now I am someone who loves hygiene and body care, it’s like therapy for me. When he says this I try to take it into consideration and be extra clean but I just can’t see where he’s coming from. I have a wash for down there, i mostly eat clean whole foods, and i take pre/probiotics.

This time it hurt my feelings because before we did it I took an everything shower and felt so clean and pretty now all of a sudden he’s saying I tasted like pee. He doesn’t say it in a mean way. I made a joke about him not eating me like that when he was eating icecream and he went “I mean…the last two times it tasted like piss. I don’t know if you’re cleaning it. Clean it babe.” But i do? I’m not sure what to do i’m petrified of getting head now, I never want do it again. He’s apologizing profusely and saying he’ll never say it again but jeez now i’m scared.

He’s also done this by saying my breath stinks and my tongue is too white. I’ve never gotten butt hurt over this but I just don’t understand because I brush my teeth, floss, and have a tongue scrapper. Yes, my breath smells after eating fragrant foods or waking up in the morning or when i’m dehydrated. But his breath smells terrible too i’ve just never went up to him and said it.

I guess I just want advice is this normal? Should I be more receptive? I already have an intensive body care plan, what else can I do? He doesn’t even do half of what I do. He literally had 1 native body wash he used with his hands until I met him and changed his regimen so why is he so judgmental?

Dinner: Poke burrito with ramune soda!

**EDIT: So I use her fantasy box sensitive probiotic+ I use a wash because I work out a lot and I feel like it leaves so much sweat to use water. Should I try ditching the wash for a while and see?

[u/Slothfulness69]

I wonder if maybe he’s tasting his own saliva on your skin? You said he has bad breath, so it tracks that it would taste bad to him.

Not to sound crass, but if you’re comfortable with it, you could try tasting yourself and seeing what it’s like. I have a feeling he’s exaggerating to break down your self esteem. Also like you said, he doesn’t have to be so mean about it. My husband and I tell each other when there’s a hygiene issue but we’re both very gentle about it because it’s obviously a sensitive topic

[u/noisy_goose → u/Slothfulness69]

Agree - OP find out for yourself!

It’s routine for me during sex to have some transfer so I know how I taste - I would definitely want some evidence to either troubleshoot the man or the flavor.

[u/randomcode411 → u/noisy_goose]

I need troubleshoot the man as a flair lmao

[u/BellamyDunn → u/randomcode411]

https://giphy.com/gifs/9PTaAhwri56V2

[u/chinchillazilla54 → u/BellamyDunn]

turinging?

[u/gill_smoke → u/randomcode411]

👆

[u/alexandria3142 → u/noisy_goose]

And could just be that you dislike your own flavor still. My husband absolutely loves how I taste but I can't stand it at all. If he goes inside, he does not go back in my mouth 😅

[u/noisy_goose → u/alexandria3142]

That’s also a good point - preference for specific tastes is subjective, and everyone has a different skill set for identifying taste/flavors.

At minimum “pee” is a common variable OP can at least hope to rule out.

[u/alexandria3142 → u/noisy_goose]

Kinda makes you wonder what he means by pee though. Like has he tasted pee before and knows the actual taste? Is he basing it off smell? Does it smell like pee a little and maybe that's affecting what he's tasting so it reminds him of pee? I dunno.

Mine is just very acidic which is why I'm not a fan

[u/Sweaty_Specialist_49 → u/noisy_goose]

This!! And it tastes different at times, I’ve tasted myself when kissing after eating out and sometimes I do nottttt like it and other times it’s fine or even nice to me

[u/GiraffeLiquid → u/Slothfulness69]

Yeah I was thinking maybe he has some halitosis or something and thinks everything smells off.

[u/ModeratelyAlive → u/Slothfulness69]

The meanness of it is such a huge red flag. I dated a man once who was like that, and it made me so self conscious - but no one after that had any problem enthusiastically making their way down there. Zero complaints.

[u/Reckless_Secretions → u/ModeratelyAlive]

My high-school boyfriend went down on me for the first time...then ran to the bathroom gagging and rinsed out his mouth and brushed his teeth immediately like he couldn’t bare to taste me one second longer. As it turned out, he really liked to find any way to put me down, going as far as to chat up girls in my absence, then dare them to come up and flirt with him while we were walking around together.

Check yourself first, OP. If all is well with your little miss, dump him for being a shitty arsehole.

[u/ImWatermelonelyy → u/Reckless_Secretions]

I’m sorry but I would have laughed out loud at that kind of theatrical ass performance. Like brother fucking relax, it has never been that serious

[u/Reckless_Secretions → u/ImWatermelonelyy]

I rolled my eyes and broke up with him the next weekend. It was the last straw. I put up with way more than I should have because he was the only person that I felt comfortable enough to socialise with but in the end, being alone has been miles better than whatever the fuck that boy was.

He still reaches out to me through mutuals, begging to meet up...7 years post-breakup.

[u/ImWatermelonelyy → u/Reckless_Secretions]

What a fucking loser dude. Did he go through a Negging 101 course and think “surely I’ll get her this time!”

[u/Reckless_Secretions → u/ImWatermelonelyy]

He was a very weird boy and became a very strange man. Despite being a POC and the very Chad archetype this group like to place part of the blame on for their dating woes, he was very much redpilled and started bringing up little bits of the rhetoric up to me, his GIRLFRIEND. I wouldn't learn how deep into it he was until after the dumping.

[u/Lovelipgloss13 → u/Slothfulness69]

Oh wait this actually makes sense!!

[u/Bobpantyhose → u/Slothfulness69]

I agree with this heavily. I can smell or taste when someone is dehydrated, and almost everyone is, particularly at the end of a long day. I let my partners know, but it’s usually a gentle, “Hey, you might need some water. Want me to grab you some?” If they act confused, I say, “I can smell when someone’s dehydrated. Don’t worry, it’s not a stink, it is just something I pick up on.”

Similarly, my partner usually says something like, “I think I’m going to shower. Will you come with me?” when he thinks I’m a lil smelly (again, at the end of a long day, not like I’m a smelly person overall).
There’s no need to make them feel self conscious or bad about themselves in order to have that conversation.

[u/Charming_Garbage_161 → u/Slothfulness69]

I can also state on a random note that when I actually tasted bad it was bc I had the start of a yeast infection and didn’t know but tbf my ex husband was cheating and giving me infections frequently

[u/jmw112358 → u/Slothfulness69]

And if he doesn’t like the way she tastes and she doesn’t really love oral - why doesn’t he just….not? It makes more sense that he’s trying to neg her for sure (obligatory although we also don’t KNOW that is the reason but is harping on her personal hygiene lends itself to the theory for sure).

[u/ofcgoodnamesaretaken → u/Slothfulness69]

My bf always uses mouth wash beforehand!! But also I am blessed and he has a terrible sense of smell lol

[u/Kind_Application_893 → u/ofcgoodnamesaretaken]

And it doesn’t burn you at all?? I’m just imagining minty freshness on my bits 😬😬

[u/ofcgoodnamesaretaken → u/Kind_Application_893]

Noo it’s not like still in his mouth! It’s faint. He says it’s more so he doesn’t give me a UTI. But also they totally make like mentholy lube for tingly heat pleasure.

[u/RedDeadDemonGirl → u/Kind_Application_893]

It makes it harder for me to achieve my pinnacle. I always ask my partner to brush the teeth afterwards!

[u/amimaybeiam → u/Slothfulness69]

Get him to lick the back of his hand and sniff.

[u/Puzzled_History7265 → u/Slothfulness69]

Agreed and it’s probably weird but I taste smell myself before letting my man go down.

[u/Oi_Nander → u/Slothfulness69]

Do you think you have a strong smell coming from your vagina? Have you touched inside the opening with your fingers and then smelled or tasted your own fingers? I have I think I smell and taste great

[u/No_Preference_1218 → u/Slothfulness69]

My first thought was "get a second opinion" but i wasn't sure how to phrase it in a way that didn't come off as me suggesting something unethical 😅 this is perfect

[u/sacralnicity111 → u/Slothfulness69]

This. I regularly "taste test" my own ✨flavor ✨ for good measure. He's very likely negging you and making hyperbolic claims to make himself feel better, girl. Those are red flags. Run.