r/ExNoContact • u/_yuewah • 13h ago

Thinking about writing an apology letter to my ex

Hello! We broke up 3 years ago and I want to apologize again. Im kinda schizo not gonna lie, but there have been a lot of weird activities on my phone. Do you think thats a good idea with the letter?

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u/Project_Zombie_Panda 12h ago

Absolutely not walk away and never look back. Don't even think about them. Do some serious self care and love yourself more. Explore the world and find happiness.

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u/_yuewah 11h ago

I dream about him at lot and he was my only vent for 6 years. He isnt thinking about me at all and living a good life without me but I have some unresolved issues I think. He doesnt want to hear it. I know

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u/Project_Zombie_Panda 8h ago

Find some new hobbies and find yourself again being alone isn't bad at all, and hey you might even meet someone new to hangout with and make new friends. So it's a win win. I understand this is all easier said than done but trust me dwelling on the past is not the way to pave a beautiful future.

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u/Murhekryyni 12h ago

What did you do that you want to apologize? What do you mean that you are schizo?

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u/_yuewah 11h ago

Cheat. Some of my apps got lowkey hacked. I dont know if thats him tho.

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u/Murhekryyni 2h ago

Cheating is bad. If you really feel bad about that and have changed for the better then tell him you are sorry. It could be that you don't hear nothing from him but atleast you tried to apologize

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u/bennythefish 10h ago

Don’t bother . They won’t even read it . I know you mean well . Your ex is distancing themselves from you . That letter will go straight in the bin . Save your time and effort . Grieve your loss and keep busy . All the best

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u/_yuewah 9h ago

True Thanks <3

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u/SuburbanAnarchist 2h ago

Nah man, speaking as someone who gets one of these every few years from different exes… it’s just irritating. Have a friend send me some money for you, that’s an apology we can take to the bank.

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u/Snoopy_89_ 6h ago

It’s totally up to you and what you want. If you want to apologise and expect nothing in return e.g. Can handle it if they ignore it, can handle it if theyre defensive or annoyed etc then said it but you have to be clear of why youre sending it

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u/Soggy_Ground_9323 6h ago

Good luck 🫡🫡🫡

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u/1009naturelover 31m ago

Apologize again?

Just move on. Keep no contact, and continue to work on yourself.

This would come off as desperate to me.

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u/gatsbyurt 11h ago

Send it why not? Sometimes people appreciate closure.

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u/_yuewah 11h ago

I still in the process of writing it. Idk if he does do. At the end he really hated me

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u/Affectionate_Bed6083 10h ago

If he said to not contact him, then no.

If he said to contact him and it's been 3 years, then no.

It's been 3 years. Let it go. Maybe write it and save it for the possiblity of one day running into him and not a moment before. Leave it up to chance.

I also recommend writing a goodbye letter but never sending it. I keep mine in my notes app to remind myself when I strangely start missing him.

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u/_yuewah 9h ago

He gave me a lot of harddrives but I threw them away. idk. He said it maybe but I cant remember honestly. You are right thanks <3