r/AskVet • u/Suns3t-is-gone • 2h ago
My Grandparents Cat Needs Help
Hi, I am asking here because I need some guidance on how to handle this situation with my grandparents, geriatric cat. (sorry for any typos, using voice to text for some of this) So I (22F) have grandparents in their 80s that should not be living alone, but miraculously pass, any cognitive test thrown their way. my grandpa largely immobile and my grandma has undiagnosed dementia. (it’s a whole situation, but this is important context) they don’t answer the door. They don’t go to doctors appointments and the only people allowed in the house on regular basis is me and my older brother. All this to say they have always had cats, most recently they had 3…then 2…now 1. The older my grandparents get the worst shape the cats have been in. In the past, when there was still two cats, I offered to take them to the vet, practically begged to no avail. Then one of them passed and many members of my family have tried to ask what they did with the body and we have gotten no answer. Now they have one cat left, Max. Max is somewhere between 15-17 years old at least. I just saw him for the first time today in AWHILE, and he is in BAD shape. Matted all over, down to the skin.
Claws that you can hear clicking on the floor when he walks, no doubt curled back into his paws and Sores around his eyes. I wanted to cry looking at this poor cat. He desperately needs to be euthanized. I tried to ask what happened to his eyes and got no answer. I have also heard from my dad that this cat has had a long history of convulsions. my family has always said there’s nothing we can do but it just doesn’t feel right. This cat is suffering and there is nothing I can do to end it? if I reported them to animal control, there is no way the animal control could get access to the house. I called an emergency veterinary clinic and they said without my grandparents consent that they can’t do anything, not even a nail trim. So now I come here to ask…is there anything I CAN do for Max? With any advice, assume I can’t get consent from my grandparents to do literally anything with the cat, asking to cut this cat’s nails would probably be a stretch if the cat would even let me. Any advice you can think of helps. I just can’t stand by and watch another cat go like this and except that’s just how things have to go.