Today, women are getting more rights and freedom which is absolutely good due to which they're getting more selective and hypergamous with lesser restrictions, they'll choose the best out of all and also social media provides that access.

Most women rate 80% or majority of men unattractive, they would always date that attractive chad guy. Meanwhile average guys would struggle and below average would not even get to experience anything.

Arranged marriage will no longer be a good solution because of the laws of the country as well as most women enjoying in their youth and settling with average and below average guys using them as ATM.

Are Indian guys ready to face this?

Is this normal during your first intimate experience? (19M)

Hey everyone, I'm 19M, and I had my first intimate experience with my partner yesterday

We used protection, took things slowly, communicated properly, and made sure we were both comfortable. However, when we tried to have sex, we couldn't go through with penetration.

I was fully aroused, and my partner seemed comfortable and naturally lubricated, but it felt like there was too much resistance, and I couldn't manage to enter. We tried taking things slowly, but it just wasn't happening, so we didn't force it.

I'm wondering whether not using additional lubricant could have been the reason, or whether this is something that can happen during a first experience. I had assumed things would be relatively straightforward if both partners were comfortable and aroused, but apparently that's not always the case.

For women who've experienced something similar, is this normal? Is there anything we might have overlooked or should do differently next time?

I'm genuinely looking for advice and would appreciate serious answers. Thanks!

So guys I am drunk writing this. Hope its Saturday already.

I am an Indian man. Yes I am a man. Whoo hoo. I like it. Because I have been in a lot of relationships. 😍

But you got to learn how to be a man. Let me teach you something.

First, always pay for dates. Why do you keep paying half half? Girls love a man. Who is responsible. Who is strong.

Strong se yaad aaya, second, be strong. Ye kya gym me you guys keep doing bodybuilding? Bhupp.. do powerlifting guys..tell me your bench, squat and deadlift. Egg ke jaise bicep is easy.

Third, respect her but respect yourself way more. Remember guyss, we are the prize. We. Not them, we!

Aur last me, enjoy karo bas. Its not easy. But its easier than being a woman. Their life is tougher than ours. So respect them. Dont make it hard for them. They have already seen 20 creeps by the time they turn 20. Don't be in that list.

I love you all. Muaah.

This ultimate simping is very prevalent on Indian forums.

I have seen it on Reddit, Facebook etc where poster will post on behalf of their "female friend".

Maybe the female friend is busy with her outings and dates, she does not have time for loser stuffs like posting online ads for rental etc.

She can post herself. If she doesnt have an account (obviously she doesnt, women are not losers to be on Reddit), she can ask another female friend to post.

Why are you posting it, fellow man?

Hi everyone,

I'm looking for honest perspectives from men who've been in long-term relationships (2+ years) and later realised the person wasn't right for marriage.

I'm not asking about early-dating red flags or short-term incompatibility. I mean the patterns that only become visible after you've spent significant time together: how she handled conflict, money, family, or life decisions over time.

A few things I'm curious about:

1) What was the moment or pattern that made you think "this won't work long-term"?

2) Were there choices or values that looked fine early on but became dealbreakers with time?

3) Looking back, what did you ignore that you wish you hadn't?

4) Was it something she did, or a fundamental mismatch in what you both wanted?

I'd also love to hear from those who stayed and made it work, especially what you saw that told you it was worth it. Contrast helps.

Please keep it constructive. I'm trying to learn what to look for, not to bash anyone.

Thanks in advance.

Note: I used AI to help polish the language of this post, but the question and context are my own.

Hi there, caucasin woman here, i pretty regularly get unsolicted dms from indian men or men from the indian sub continent. I answer dms because sometimes i wonder if someone needs something. But whenever i answer a lot of the time its an unsolicited pic from indian men. Usually of their dick. Whyyy? Indain people are so lovely in persob

I am a qualified lawyer. Working in the compliance department of a major NBFC. Passed cs inter and now preparing for CS finals.

Age: 26

Salary : 8LPA.

My parents have started searching for girls. I have been rejected by 1 family till now due to my salary.

I was in a relationship was 3 years. She cheated on me with her colleague. They are engaged now.

Now exploring the AM route.

So what now ? Should I prepare for a lone life ? I don't think it is going to get any better..

I met an Indian man that pursued me and showed interest in a relationship. Then he talked about debt and how debt recovery is bad in India before asking me for money.

He described threatening calls, visits to his home, calls to his mother, harassing his family and possibly going to jail. My question is for those in India, is debt recovery actually like this, if so what kind of people might this person owe money to?

Realised it lately but correctly that as a short ugly guy I'll never get love, and real not gold digger or settlement, but whatever that true love or desire people say so now going to live with that, it feels bad, hollow and depressing initially but will get better ig...

Like in my class 12, there's a girl who's good at studies and sits at front row in class so one day I went outside in breakup and when I came to class, i found that my bag has full of pen scratches like a someone used their pen to draw lines on my bag.

So i didn't know who did that and asked my male friends and they've no idea and then the girl and her female friend came and said (the friend of the girl) she did that and sorry for that. I was like okay I can't say anything/do anything because they are girls (i also never had much female interaction and don't know how to react with girls so I didn't say anything) and the female friend of the girl said you're so good and the next day the girl and her friend came and sit infront of my bench and that girl turned back and leaned her head very close to me like in a romantic mood/ to show interest in me.

I was like wth she's doing (her friend just seeing this scene) and i immediately got anxious and can't even move so she again leaned so close to my head with her head and i immediately got up and went to front row in my male friends group and sat there. And she understood I'm not interested in relationships so after few days I saw she got into relationship with back bencher(who's a rowdy) and that's it I don't know what happened to their relationship nor About anything related to them.

About my bag, that night I rubbed with baking soda/powder + water by seeing YouTube tutorials and after hours of rubbing i cleaned all.

Wth she was doing.

Fed up with the expectations which I develop involuntarily and feel hurt when someone doesn't meet them.

So how to come out of this???

What are some of the red flags in women one should look out ?

Women who call themselves modern and progressive how was your experience with them?

How's your experience in real life? Have u met women who call themselves feminists, preach about equality and don't expect you to pull most of the financial load and think it's not a gender-based role?

If your partner told you they hate gender roles.. Have u ever realised they are practising gender based roles for their own benefit?

During your dates or honeymoon, did they contribute enough?

Do they celebrate your birthday as you celebrate her birthday?

Do they make you feel special?

Do they give you expensive gifts when they expect you to give expensive gifts?

Whenever she is in stress she keeps saying that our marriage won’t be possible and this threatens me and my mind feels ill

We had a movie plan 2 days ago but we eventually went and last moment she said that she wanted to cancel.

1 day ago she told me that our marriage won’t be possible and she just does this in stress or anger

Is it a good decision to marry a women like this?

Hey everyone,

I’m looking for some genuine advice from mature Indian men who have experience with life, relationships, family expectations, and the realities of growing up in Indian society.

There’s something on my mind that I’ve been struggling to figure out, and I’d really appreciate hearing perspectives from people who are older and have more life experience.

I’m not looking for judgment, lectures, or generic motivational advice. I’d just like to have an honest conversation with someone who can understand the situation, look at it from a different perspective, and tell me what they genuinely think.

If you’re willing to listen and share your thoughts, please comment or DM me. I’d really appreciate it.

My life is total mess like i dont wanna talk about it it too unfair to me in young age i got parkinson thats make me feel like i cant do anything like normal people do, i am just watching enjoy people do fun, they have job, they have girlfried and my site full of lonelyness nothing going well even a single thing not working me, come and go visit to doc and med also runing out of money feel like i dont have purpose to live how much i try to find job not working, forgetting thing because of brain fog.

So what are your thoughts regarding the emotional independence of man, especially nowadays?

How Important and necessary is emotional independence?

It means men's emotional stability doesn't depend on other people's approval, attention, or behavior. You don't depend on others for your emotional needs. Whether they are with you or not.

In college times it was fun to get drunk and let it go. But it no longer is, now that I am in 30s. I don’t smoke anything and I am fully opposed to recreational drügs. So in this situation which is the next best way to relax and ‘let it go’?

To all men who are not virgins here, how was the first time losing your virginity to someone, whether it be your ex gf, wife, hookup partner or friend? Did you feel horny, excited, happy or scared? Let me know in the comments.

PS: I am 29 M and am not a virgin. My first experience was in Chennai 2 years back when I called my friend I met on an app over to my house and one thing led to another and we slowly made love. I was excited of course. Post that, I have had at least 2-3 more experiences in different cities. How about you all?

PS: Please be respectful nothing disrespectful or mean please

We’re in an LDR, and he’s visiting India for Diwali! His birthday is in December, so I’m planning a little pre-birthday celebration. 💗
We already have a staycation and cake planned, but I need gift ideas!
Things I can’t get:
Perfume – Gifted him his favourite last year.
Shoes – Just ordered him a pair he wanted.
Watches – He’s picky and recently bought one.
Sunglasses – We already have matching ones.
Wallets/clothes – Too generic.
Running gear – He’s a runner, but I don’t want anything technical.
Budget: ₹15k–35k ish .
I want something cute, silly, thoughtful, and a little indulgent. Open to multiple gifts instead of one big one!

Ps- certain point means you are able to fulfill your and family's wants and needs.

Hey guys, I (M22) met this girl (F24) on an online platform...had a chat and eventually we added each other...at first I didn't think much....but then she told me that she recently went through a breakup....and she's a person with with anxiety issues and she overthinks a lot and all this stuff...it was evident that she was hurt and very sad ....also she has very low self esteem....now the thing imwe are texting regularly now....i am not that busy nowadays and she is an active texter and she is very curious and asks a lot of questions which I don't mind honestly as I don't talk much myself.

So the thing is she is not at all normal and she's kinda suicidal(ik I'm dropping this suddenly). So like she said that she's enjoying my company very much and she's very happy now after a long time and allat....but she can't get over her past trauma....she didn't have a good childhood and even her school and Uni experience was very lonely and she didn't have many friends....also she's not so close with her family also....she feels she has failed them and all that stuff....now the thing is I'm scared ....I mean hella scared I feel if....if she takes any wrong step i might be a reason for that...also she sounds so depressed...like she's not faking it to get attention....ik it's real....and and and I'm not a great talker and I can't console people...ik that's my fault...but I want advice what should I do now or what should I say to her....like on texts and all she's says she's the one who's doing all the talking which I agree....I can't find words to talk to her without offending or making her sad...as she's already so vulnerable...and also she's always saying sorry even for the smallest things....like it's not even her fault...like she's saying "sorry I was asleep, so i couldn't reply to your text on time.."

I mean it's ok ...you were asleep...no big deal ....but she keeps on apologising and saying she can't disappoint me who's with her at this point of her life...and honestly I don't think I'm helping at all...im just a loser who can't even console people who r grieving...so yes I need help....pls tell me help....pls tell me how should I handle this and the what all should I talk with her without especially offending or saddening her....so that she gets over this phase or her life and she doesn't harm herself.

Also, recently she's been saying that she wants to go out somewhere...like just out of her house...and we were just talking about it....and in the beginning it was vague ....but eventually she asked me if we could go together....the thing is I'm not in a situation to go on that specific date...and like not in the near future as well due to some reasons... I kind of made an excuse yk....that I'll try and all....but she rly got mad and sad regarding it idk why....and then she was very sulky....and again blaming herself for that....

So pls guys help me....what should I do any advice is appreciated.

Note: I don't have any wrong intentions with her istg ...im just so ln edge after she was being suicidal and I just want to help her....and the whole need for this reddit post is that I'm a loser who can't communicate...so pls help me...I would really appreciate that.

Pardon the bad English and grammar.

TL;DR:

A 22-year-old man met a 24-year-old woman online who is recovering from a recent breakup, struggles with low self-esteem, has past trauma, and has expressed suicidal thoughts. She relies heavily on him for happiness, texts him constantly, and frequently apologizes out of fear of disappointing him.

The original poster (OP) is deeply anxious and terrified that he might say the wrong thing or be blamed if she harms herself. Because he considers himself a poor communicator who struggles to console others, he feels highly overwhelmed. The situation worsened when he made an excuse to decline her invitation to meet up in person, causing her to become upset and self-blaming. He is asking Reddit for advice on how to talk to her safely without triggering her, and how to handle this intense situation.