r/weddingshaming • u/jazzertag • Aug 03 '26
Dressed like a Bride Two guests wore white at our wedding
Soooo.. 2 girls decided to wear white dresses at our wedding. It was this Saturday.
I didn’t comment on it, but I was def not ok with it.
We talked to our photographers about having them removed from all our photos, or change the colors of their dresses.
I can add photos of their dresses, but we haven’t gotten the pictures back yet.
One of the girls even asked my sister about the dress and she told her it most definitely wouldn’t be ok with me, but that she should ask. And she then decided not to ask me..
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u/Kindly-Necessary-596 Aug 04 '26
I'm going to start a business that evicts wedding guests in white. Subtlety so the bride doesn't notice. Send them home in an Uber or a dump truck.
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u/According-Garage4066 Aug 04 '26
or have giant Parkas is on hand. They can choose to go home and change or wear the parka.
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u/MyGeniusGrlMia Aug 06 '26
Can the parka be a neon color with big writing saying “I have to wear this parka because I m ignorant and disrespectful” 🤣
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u/espressomartini11 Aug 03 '26
What is wrong with people? Honestly? Hope you totally removed them from all photos and they realise that they didn’t make the cut…
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u/GormHub Aug 04 '26
I mean look at all the shitty comments on this post going after the OP for... doing exactly what the sub is for.
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u/BoopleBun Aug 04 '26 edited Aug 04 '26
Right?! I’m so confused. Two of her guests did something generally considered super tacky/rude, and she’s annoyed about it. But so many people are being super smug and condescending for her even daring to remark on it, like this isn’t a sub exactly for pointing out rude/tacky/inappropriate behavior surrounding weddings?
Like, she isn’t shouting this from the rooftops, she’s venting about it in a venue dedicated to that exact sort of thing?
(Then again, stuff about weddings always seems to devolve into some weird “who can care less” competition on the internet, for some reason.)
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u/GormHub Aug 04 '26
I actually think it's just people trolling the sub. The amount of childish brigading that happens on this site is wild honestly. But the mods doing nothing about it is enough for me to dip, I don't want to hang around and watch people passive-aggressively bully someone for doing exactly what the sub is for.
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u/cssc201 Aug 04 '26
This is every sub nowadays. Every time someone posts something that is mildly infuriating on the mildlyinfuriating sub, they are dragged for complaining about a minor problem because "it's not infuriating enough". I also am in r/ThriftGrift and every post about absurd thrift store pricing has a ton of people defending the stores pricing used puzzles at $10 each or whatever.
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u/wutheringfights_ Aug 04 '26
Sometimes it gives a lot of “I’m not high maintenance like those women” vibes. Like I can’t directly say it’s “pick me” or whatever but there is something really strange about not just bragging about how little you care, but also dogging on other women for caring about (what’s supposed to be) one of the most important days of their lives. It’s starting to become this weird competition of who can be the biggest doormat on their wedding day.
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u/BoopleBun Aug 04 '26
Oh yeah, I’ve definitely caught on to a similar vibe that certain people give to anything that’s “stereotypically feminine”. Reminds me of the “cool girl” monologue from Gone Girl.
But man, does it come out with a force when it comes to weddings. Yes, we get it, you’re sooooooo low maintenance and don’t care about anything and nothing ever bothers you and any person that does care or is bothered is beneath you.
Like, not to say there’s nothing about modern weddings or the wedding industrial complex that can’t be criticized but “Ew, why do you even care, what is wrong with you? I certainly don’t care about things like that, that’s dumb” is not an actual critique.
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u/wasted_wonderland Aug 07 '26
Remove them from the pictures and then remove them from your life. I would have had security remove them from the wedding. The doormatishnes people impose on women is ridiculous.
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u/mr_magoo505 Aug 03 '26
People just lack brain cells lately, I hope the photographer removes them from the photos. Seems like they shouldn't have been there anyway.
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u/Massive_Dig3963 Aug 04 '26
Oh it's not just lately. My father was ordained in 1974 in a centuries years old protestant denomination and retired in 2003. Between his stories about weddings and funerals, it's definitely always been there. We just notice more now and remember more because we've all got little computers in our pockets. Ironically my biggest issue on my wedding day to my ex husband was my father. And my ex husband. Separately over different things. Still have the father. Misplaced the ex husband.
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u/VivaLaEmpire Aug 04 '26
I feel like it would be better to just cut them out of all photos. Have them try to find themselves and mysteriously not find a hint of them, lol
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u/TheBeanBunny Aug 04 '26
My MIL wore white at my wedding, 11 years ago. I think some people are forever clueless. Or they never learned the different of good attention vs. bad attention.
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u/NukesAndSupers Aug 03 '26
If you change the colour, in 20 years you'll look at the pictures and smile.
if you keep the white, in 20 years you'll look at the pictures, go "hahaha look at these dumb assholes, remember that", laugh, then smile .
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u/Runamokamok Aug 03 '26
In 20 years. you will probably have looked at these pictures maybe two times anyway. I’ve been married 14 years and I think I looked at my album like once, so I guess I’m due for another look.
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u/SignificanceWitty210 Aug 04 '26
It’s fun to just go through it! I’m going on 2 years and still love seeing my photos and sometimes I go through our wedding album with my son and tell him about the day as “story time” (he’s a baby)
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u/wickedkittylitter Aug 04 '26
Still married? If so, look at the album together on your next anniversary. There might be some good laughs and memories to be shared.
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u/Runamokamok Aug 04 '26
Yes, we are still married. We got married on a small island in Alaska, so outdoor scenery in our photos is enjoyable to look at. Oddly, I can’t really think about much that we laughed at…I guess I was a serious bride
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u/Bajovane Aug 04 '26
My sister in law wore white to my wedding. Her two daughters did as well. What’s worse, the dress was exactly the same (but different colors) to my MOH and BM’s dresses. Even more worse, I nearly bought the white version of that very dress! (My mom talked me into a more traditional dress)
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u/garnerchandler Aug 03 '26
In 10 years, would you rather see their photos (regardless of the dress color), or would you rather not see them at all (or see them in dresses that they didn’t select) in your pictures.
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u/SignificanceWitty210 Aug 04 '26
I think OP would rather see these dear people looking like they have some respect for the event and the couple, but that’s just my take…
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u/Boleyn01 Aug 04 '26
My MIL wore a white lacy dress to my wedding. Honestly people kept asking if I was ok with it and whilst I wasn’t, I didn’t get too upset because the universal reaction of the guests was to judge her as a narcissist. So she hasn’t really achieved anything by it.
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u/psykiksid Aug 04 '26
Going to wedding at end of August and the bride asked we wear dresses with flowers and summer. The dress I found was covered in pink flowers and green foliage but the base colour is white. I asked partner to check with bride (groom is his best mate) ,reply was he didn’t need to it’ll be fine. Once I explained why we don’t wear white to weddings he thought it was daft , Asked 3 more times before I had to say either check with bride or I’m not going . So he did and luckily she was fine with it.
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u/Extension-Hand-7339 Aug 04 '26
A very much disliked gf of a family member wore white at my wedding. She was excluded from the pictures anyway & she only made herself a laughing stock that day so I didn’t bother too much. She’s not around anymore so I made the right decision with the photo’s.
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u/SNORALAXX Aug 03 '26
Let it go. I always think that the people who do this are making asses of themselves and are generally selish and attention-seeking...and in the long run I am right💓 Don't stress about it. They ruined their own karma 🤣
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u/wreckingrocc Aug 03 '26 edited Aug 03 '26
I feel like I go through waves of being really bad at letting things go and waves of being chill in life, but I admire people who can be even keeled.
I got married a bit ago and thankfully didn't have anyone try to wear white. Some stuff did go wrong (e.g. uninvited +1s taking our very limited room block and then not attending the wedding), but I didn't let it phase me. And now later I'm looking back and I'm mad, and I need to just let it go.
Earlier this week my mom, spouse and I went through my mom's old wedding photos, and one of my former aunts wore stark white. My wife and I were outraged and my mom said it had never bothered her. My mom would never do that as a guest at a wedding, but her wedding was great despite my ex aunt doing it.
I probably need to start a yearly ritual of forgiving trivial slights. Whether or not I tell the person, it'll be good to let go of that feeling. But also, getting mad about things is such good r/weddingshaming content and the karma must flow
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u/SNORALAXX Aug 03 '26
I meant their real karma irl- just meaning what you put out you tend to get. So if they want to play lil stupid games, they will get lil stupid games played on them. People like that only have fake friends and transactional relationships!!
And honestly, I wasn't so chill when I was younger. I'm 51 now. I just don't care about a lot of stuff any more and honestly its fun to watch stupid people like that bc they are actually pathetic. Usually they want to get married at any cost....which we know what that leads to!!
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u/GroundbreakingCap497 Aug 04 '26
My husband’s friend got married few months before ours but because it was a small wedding we weren’t invited. Anyway, his wife wore a white dress on our wedding day. 5 years later, they are divorced.
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u/BigRefrigerator9783 Aug 04 '26
Is there such a thing as opposite face tune? If there is, it should be used.
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u/Wooden_Kiwi_7362 Aug 04 '26
Please post the altered picture if you go for color change! And give them clown faces. What fun.
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u/No-Following-7882 Aug 06 '26
Change the color of their dresses to something hideous and then be sure to send them a picture letting them know you fixed it for them!
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u/RhubarbLiqueur Aug 03 '26
I just hope that's not the one and only thing you remember about your wedding! You're a newlywed! Enjoy this blissful time!!! Don't waste it obsessing about other people's outfits.
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u/Hot_Mistake3955 Aug 04 '26
They are just lucky no one asked them to leave. She even asked your sister who said it was not okay and did it anyway. She KNEW it would upset you so I would’ve had someone make her leave. I would also discontinue any relationship with that person bc she wanted to intentionally upset you at your wedding.
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u/Dangerous-Buffalo841 Aug 04 '26
Leave them in the photos with their white dresses, but photoshop an extra 20 lbs to each one of them.
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u/dragonrider1965 Aug 03 '26
Were they white dresses as in all white or where they dresses with white in them ? I see a lot of brides lose their minds over floral dresses with white backgrounds so I’m curious as to how white these two dresses were.
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u/jazzertag Aug 04 '26
They were both long white satin dresses, no pattern or flowers. Actually one of them wore a white dress with pink flowers, but I didn’t even notice until she changed into the pure white dress. (My bff told me about the first dress afterwards)
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u/piratepixie Aug 03 '26
General rule of thumb is *anything* majority white is a no no.
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u/North_Respond_6868 Aug 03 '26
I continue to not understand why people insist on wearing white of any kind to weddings. There are hundreds of other colors or color combinations out there. It baffles me.
It's incredibly easy to just... not wear any white? So why??
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u/kaja6583 Aug 04 '26
Main characters that want to be disrespectful, as pretty much every adult knows what theyre doing when wearing a whole white outfit to someone's wedding. It has been etiquette in so many countries for so many decades, not sure why lots of redditors pretend it isnt.
Then you have plenty of condenscending people being like "why does it bother you though? Just get over it"- um, because the people youve invited to one of the most important events of your life came in outfits that are pretty disrespectful? Because it is bothersome to a lot of people? Its like wearing a full rainbow outfit to someone's funeral.
This push to be like "i dont care about people disrespecting me, I am better than that, so i will just forget about it and not say anything" is not only enabling shitty behaviour, it also reeks of people pleasing disguised as "self respect" to be peaceful. Standing up for yourself brings internal peace a lot easier and faster. Calling people out on shitty behaviour is more likely to stop their behaviour, not enabling them by just going along with it.
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u/piratepixie Aug 03 '26
My own mother tried to send me a dress that was white "but it's got red flowers on it". It was a white dress with a sparse red floral overlay. Like, lady, it's your ONLY DAUGHTER'S WEDDING. Put the damn white dress down. She ended up wearing a red dress instead (which was a MUCH better choice for a Spanish wedding).
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u/NabelasGoldenCane Aug 03 '26
Not sure why you were downvoted - I agree, it’s wild how ppl who never wear white SUDDENLY want to wear white to a wedding. I still remember my maid of honor wearing all white at my bachelorette - she didn’t even wear white to hers! What a weird ass choice when there are so many colors and patterns to choose from.
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u/Ok_Storm5945 Aug 03 '26
I feel like white with floral pattern is okay but not a floral border. Im not sure what the etiquette is with this. a
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u/Beautiful_Race_11 Aug 04 '26
If you can manage grace, chalk it up to their pettiness and the realization that likely everyone else attending will know:
- the perps are rude/ill mannered and attention seeking
- guests will mention the faux pas to their mother (if in attendance),
- applaud your calm
- releases your to absorb the good wishes of other family and friends who did not wear white
You do NOT have to include their photos in your wedding book. They can get a copy from the photographer.
If you must say something, privately and in a calm, cold voice indicate:
- disrespect for YOUR special day was noted and walk away. You do not owe them access.
[[ One bride PRIVATELY told her other female guests to wear THEIR wedding dresses or white to the ceremony as a way of defusing mother in law’s stunt of insisting to wear her wedding dress (to upstage the bride). I found that hysterical and totally classy to turn it into a joke. ]]
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u/Worldly-Ad3211 Aug 04 '26
I’ll bet the dresses were low-cut and attention-getting in style, too? Change the colour to diarrhea green or brown, make the neckline a turtleneck, long sleeves, and have the dresses fall below the knees.
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u/FionaGoodeEnough Aug 05 '26
Ugh. I had a woman I did not invite (she cornered my husband at a party and he caved and invited her) come to the reception in jorts and a tank top, and then she won the bouquet toss, so I have no pictures of that.
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u/DntMindMeImNtRlyHere Aug 05 '26
Better yet, make their dresses a different color in each image. Let people wonder why they changed 20 times into various versions of the same dress.
Or have them reimagined into various furniture items. Pillars or flower displays or something that blends in with the background.
Make it a little weird. You'll laugh about the pictures forever. Keep a couple regular ones for sentimental purposes, but have fun with some of them. I mean, after all, it's YOUR wedding they wore white to. Reclaim your day. And how many pictures can those two actually be in when compared to all the other guests?
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u/Electronic-Stay-2369 Aug 04 '26
Shame you didn't try to change the colour at the time by adding, say, some red wine. But failing that, photoshop if they are in any official photos.
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u/bmw5986 Aug 03 '26
I feel like letting this live rent free in your head simply isnt worth it. The best revenge is to simply not care. Its attention seeking behavior so dont give them the attention they so clearly desire.
You got Married! Go bask in the newlywed bliss!
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u/gotohela Aug 03 '26
Its really frustrating when its a clear dig on you, and/or theyre acting willfully ignorant. Oh well. Hope everything else was great
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u/AlterEgoAmazonB Aug 03 '26
There's really no reason to fret over this. Just let it all go.
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u/ReginaPhalange128 Aug 08 '26
I can almost guarantee that people who fret over stuff like this would love to just let it go, but some brains just aren’t wired that way. I would love to live an unbothered life but some things itch my nerves like a bug bite would physically itch my body.
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u/Spy1843 Aug 03 '26
I agree. I feel like if you notice things like this on your wedding day then you’re missing out on the bigger picture. The whole goal of the day is to get married not to worry about what other people wear or don’t wear.
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u/PantsLio Aug 03 '26 edited Aug 04 '26
I don’t really get why this has become such a big issue. The bride is usually clearly the bride. I would never and I totally get it when MOB or MOG does it - I would be livid. But a regular guest? Everyone is going to judge them anyways. Unless the dress looks like a wedding dress, in which case get out of there!
Edit: typo
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u/AlterEgoAmazonB Aug 03 '26
For some reason, brides have been conditioned to consider this a personal affrontery. I don't get it. I will never get it. And yet, it is on Reddit at least twice a day. I find it to be immature, TBH. Who cares? Why care? It's a dress! And you are still married.
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u/GormHub Aug 04 '26
Because of how often it's being done specifically for attention?
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u/No-Bookkeeper3067 Aug 04 '26
I would have the color changed for your personal photos, but make a post showing their dresses (face blurred, they'll know it's them) or have a friend make a post, tag everyone and put something like "can you believe people STILL have the audacity to wear white to a wedding?!". I'm petty, though.
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u/justjenniwestside Aug 05 '26
It would be hilarious to keep the faces and blur the dresses.
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u/scarletOwilde Aug 04 '26
I think some retouching is required. Add several pounds to the women concerned. And big noses.
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u/musicislife04 Aug 03 '26
Curious were the dresses anything that could be mistaken for bridal? Were they standing right next to you in the photos? If the answer to both is no just don’t worry about it and move on is what I would suggest. What a shame a beautiful, expensive party to marry the love of your life and on following Monday this is what’s on your mind.
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u/mnelaway Aug 03 '26
I guess it’s just me but I am continually baffled by this whole “no one wears white except the bride” issue.
I was a bride, I have also been a MotB 3 times, MotG twice and I can safely say neither myself, my 2 daughters-in-law or my 3 daughters cared one little bit what color the guests wore. I guess it would be different if they came in a white dress that confused everyone who the actual bride was…that would be an eyebrow raiser but a white sundress or other tasteful ensemble that didn’t scream bridal dress??? what actual bride has so little self confidence that she thinks another white dress will take away from the actual bride? I am still baffled by the immaturity of it all.
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u/Snoo_31427 Aug 04 '26
Thank you. I have made this argument so many times and feel like I’m an army of one.
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u/terisews Aug 03 '26
It is so ridiculous, especially when it is a much older woman. Pretty sure no one thinks she is bride
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u/nofaves Aug 04 '26
I've seen posts from brides who get irritated if an eight-year-old child wears white.
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u/Diasies_inMyHair Aug 04 '26
I would have the photographer change the colour of their dresses if you otherwise like the photos in question. Pick an unflattering colour.
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u/vwdriver95 Aug 04 '26
Your wedding, your photos so do whatever you want. Sorry this happened to you, EVERYONE knows only the bride wears white on the wedding day. If it makes you feel any better, for my wedding my boss' wife wore a black dress to mine. Of course she was always a tad off, personality wise.
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u/ElderberryNormal5035 Aug 05 '26
I am surprised you would think black is not an appropriate colour for a wedding. Black is a very common choice, especially for evening and formal weddings.
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u/jayhawkjoey65 Aug 04 '26
Yeah, I wouldn't want to be a bridezilla, but I'd reconsider those friendships tbh.
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u/laDDDy42 Aug 05 '26
Wear white to theirs if they ever get married and make sure to have it be glittery as well. When people ask, reply you followed their lead. Or...announce your pregnancy at their weddings. 😇
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u/DirectorConstant4066 Aug 05 '26
I wore a white dress with huge blue flowers all over it to my SIL’s wedding. It was definitely not bridal but I still sent photos of it to her before I even bought it to be sure she was okay with me wearing it. Thank goodness she was. It was super cute and very comfy for a late August wedding. Was definitely a more cute formal garden party dress
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u/Own-Eagle-2135 Aug 05 '26
not only should you have them removed from as many photos as possible, you should have the dresses recolored in the ones they can't be cut from and you should tell them what you did and why
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u/Enough-Register-4551 Aug 06 '26
How about explosive diarrhea brown to commemorate the weird times we are living through right now?
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u/brightener Aug 06 '26
“Girls”as in young children? Or grown women? I’d give the under 12 group a pass on this.
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u/Heart_of_Joy Aug 08 '26
I would just have them cut out of your pictures completely, because they disrespected you on purpose.
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u/LustfulEsme Aug 03 '26
Just let it go. Everyone knew who the bride was. She was standing at the altar.
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u/thewhiterosequeen Aug 03 '26
There's no point adding the photos once you get them. Is it tacky? Yes. Should you let it go and enjoy the start of the marriage? Also yes. If you know them, you can say your feelings. If they were your invitee's guests, just don't engage with them in the future. It's not worth the extra cost to edit dress colors on a couple of guests in crowd shots.
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u/horshack_test Aug 03 '26
"It's not worth the extra cost to edit dress colors on a couple of guests in crowd shots."
That is for OP to decide.
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u/Stormcaster06 Aug 03 '26
Disagree. Having the color of the dresses edited is an easy fix. Why live with it when OP doesn’t have to? If OP doesn’t think it is worth the money to fix, that’s fine. But it doesn’t make her petty or mean she is letting the insensitive actions of her guests prevent her from enjoying her marriage simply because she has opted to have the dress color edited.
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u/AmbientGravitas Aug 03 '26
Start with r/photoshoprequests. I swear, a quarter or more of the requests for photoshop help are wedding related. People can very likely remove those folks from pictures.
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u/PerspectiveEven9928 Aug 03 '26
You got married last Saturday and this is taking up your time and energy? Who cares? Did anyone mistake them for you , the bride ? Let it go. I worked as a wedding photographer for over ten years. Had a bride come to me with a request like this , sure I’d have done it for the right (high) price. But I’d have also laughed my way to the bank with it. And seriously rolled my eyes at someone wanting me to pick thru what is likely the background of someone’s photos to change a dress color.
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u/Swimming_Taro_5556 Aug 04 '26
Everyone is jumping on the "photoshop them an ugly color " train, but wouldn't that also ruin the photos? I do support asking to photoshop them a color that won't stand out though.
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u/queensnotmemes Aug 04 '26
I would ask the photographer to crop or edit them out. I wouldn’t even change the color. You are the one who has to look at the photos for the rest of your life and it will annoy you. It would annoy me too. Photoshop them out and forget about it. People think it’s petty to care if your guests wear white, but I think it’s very easy not to wear white to a wedding (yes even if the dress is floral) so why as a guest would you insist? Just don’t wear white. The bride wears white. Don’t wear white unless the bride asks you to wear white. If you are in some kind of unusual situation where you only have access to a white dress, reach out the couple to explain and troubleshoot. I don’t get it.
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u/Birdy304 Aug 04 '26
Why allow people to upset you on what should be a very happy day. You are giving them a lot of power over you. Forget it!
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u/Nautigirl Aug 03 '26
You've been married 2 days. Presumably you spent weeks/months/a year planning this event - one of the most significant events of your life - and 48ish hours later, you're posting about it on Reddit.
Now it's been 13 years since I was married, but I can tell you that the days after my wedding - to be honest, even during my wedding! - I didn't notice or care what colour any of my guests were wearing. I was too enraptured with that whole post-wedding glow. Glad it was over. Enjoying the memories. Feeling the love of everyone who came out to celebrate us.
For your own sake, I suggest you find something else about your day to focus on.
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u/Josie_F Aug 03 '26
Oh no. I can’t imagine them being in any wedding pictures unless background anyway. In the grand scheme of things, who cares.
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u/missmisfit Aug 03 '26
Changing the colors of the dresses in the photos is not something I understand. Are you afraid you will look back at these pictures in 30 years and mistake one of them for you?
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u/Familiar_Home_7737 Aug 03 '26
I think it's seen as a passive aggressive message to them when they see the photos, but if it bugged me I'll just tell them. Even just a quick message of "hey, just a heads up for future weddings you attend, it's a faux pas to wear white as a wedding guest"
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u/missmisfit Aug 03 '26
If OP posts colored over photos to her socials she's just going to looking insecure.
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u/ReadyGo6828 Aug 03 '26
Frankly, weddings are so weird these days it really is better to just elope and not be disappointed.
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u/yeahipostedthat Aug 03 '26
Dude this is what you're thinking about? No honeymoon or anything to enjoy?
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u/splattermatters Aug 04 '26
You’re married! Who the hell cares? I don’t even remember what anyone wore to my wedding. I remember the love of my life with me. That’s all.
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u/TheHotMetallurgist Aug 04 '26
I had one girl show up and luckily out of our huge group photo she was on the end so we cropped her out! But I was so mad and still am. It was my cousin (female) brought a female friend, whom neither never of us knew, and she showed up wearing a white dress! Like you were not even an invited guest and you decide to wear white! What is wrong with people!!??? Hope you are able to crop them out or change the dress color best of luck to you!!
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u/shakka74 Aug 03 '26
So what. Get over it.
No one cares about your wedding pictures but you.
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u/Alewo27 Aug 03 '26
Were they fully only white or were they white with other color or pattern? Honestly either way, it is what it is and you can't change it and I really hope for your own sake you don't let something trivial ruin your wedding photos for you. Because unless they were wearing big white gowns and standing next to you in every shot......you were still the bride and the center of attention and people will know who is who in your photos. But if you can afford to photoshop all of your wedding photos, have at it.
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u/Standard-Park Aug 03 '26
I'd like to know too. The amount of people in the wedding attire sub that think a fully Floral dress on a white background is a "white dress" is truly astounding 🤯
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u/bare_thoughts Aug 04 '26
Not to mention they extend it beyond the wedding day to bridal shower, rehearsal dinner and so forth...
Some just way nuts over the "no white" idea.
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u/Alewo27 Aug 03 '26
Exactly! My dress for my cousin's wedding had a white background covered in colorful florals. It was a "garden party" theme. I think half the women had some white on them. It really is insanity to me. I think it's pure narcissism. If it's your wedding day and you are the bride, it's going to be YOUR day regardless of all that stupid nonsense.
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u/luvkaybay Aug 03 '26
Does it really matter what people wear? Isn’t the important part is that they came to share in your special day?
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u/Certain-Western-5432 Aug 03 '26
I couldn’t care less who wore white to my wedding! And there was a few!! There’s more to worry about than that!🙄
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u/Ill-Comedian9514 Aug 03 '26
Why does it matter? Really. Getting married is not about the ceremony or the party. It’s about the lifetime commitment. Be glad some one came to help you celebrate. I am sure everyone knew who the bride was.
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u/demonspawn9 Aug 04 '26
I'd have the colors changed in the photos, and just to stir the pot, I'd have a bill made up for the touch ups and send them to the girls, without saying anything else.
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u/Traditional_Set_858 Aug 05 '26
You’re better than me OP I would have told somebody to tell them to leave on my behalf if that were my wedding. So sorry that happened to you
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u/dekage55 Aug 05 '26
Yes, photoshop them but don’t put them in some garish or noticeable color. Put them in some dull, boring color, where they almost blend into the scenery.
After all, the point is to make sure they DON’T stand out…& make the color the same for both. Same rudeness, same color for both.
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u/ChamaGo2000 Aug 05 '26
See if they can edit the one who didn't ask to look a lil funny (big big smile, ugly dress, bad smile) because she said "fck your sister, fck the wedding ethics and, most important of all, f*ck the bride to be im wearing my favorite white dress" so your only option is to respond with the same energy idk that's what my mom taught me
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u/longestyeahboiiiever Aug 05 '26
Get the photographer to change the dress colour, make the dress ill fitting, add spots, put extra weight on them, turn their make-up into a mess and post them EVERYWHERE! But keep versions of some with them removed for your photo book and for family!
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u/hafree27 Aug 06 '26
I would like to add- although I’m aged out of my bridesmaid days, my gal pals and I all had an agreement to spill red wine on anyone the bride needed us to. Never happened, but there were a couple of times the question was asked. Talk to your tribe, ladies! This is not ok.
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u/cautionjaniebites Aug 08 '26
Have the dresses photoshopped like others suggested. Something that clashes with their skin tones.
Then if they complain, deny it. If they continue, ask them, publicly if possible, what color they thought their dresses were. Make them admit they wore white rather than you admitting you changed the dress colors.
It might seem there's not any difference but it's public opinion on whether they did something wrong or are you being petty. Them coming out and openly admitting they wore white will look worse.
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u/iridescentllemon Aug 08 '26
As MOH in an upcoming wedding, one of my day-of tasks is having a water gun with red wine inside to spray at someone who wears white. Their other option is to just simply ask them to gtfo
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u/Linux4ever_Leo Aug 09 '26
Yes, have your photographer change the color of their dresses. Maybe when they see that after you post the wedding album they'll realize their stupidity at trying to upstage the bride.
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u/Harry_Iconic_Jr Aug 03 '26
change the color, absolutely. your wedding, your pics, your color.