r/weddingshaming • u/AgoraphobicDisaster • Dec 08 '25

Dressed like a Bride Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress

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Hi, so I'm the bride (middle) and I included another guest in my cropping to show the dress code (Sunday best/dressy casual)

The guest on the left's dress was floor length and when I saw it in the lighting during the ceremony, my first thought was it was white.

Many of my bridesmaids said something to me. I said something to my husband, mom, and MOH and they all agreed, it was white. Rather than have one of my other friends attending offering to spill wine on her for me, I chose to speak with her and just ask about it. I was absolute drunk at that point but it had gone along the lines of why she chose the dress. Though a friend present did tell me this morning I came off as very passive aggressive.

I remember her response well, she was adamant that the dress was cream not white and that there's a difference and no one but me had said anything to her about it. She said anyone would be able to tell that it's not white.

She also claimed it was the only thing she had available to wear, which I highly doubt because she works for a bank, I'm sure she has plenty of appropriate business casual clothes that would have looked fine. I plan to just move on from it, but I did think it was highly inappropriate. In traditional Western/Christian weddings, there is ONE color reserved for the bride. Each guest has every other color under the sun to choose from. She also knew my dress had a lot of lace detail because we hung out after I had gone wedding dress shopping and I showed her a picture. It's not an outshining the bride thing for me, it's just a respect thing. And I feel a bit disrespected especially because when I had confronted her, she refused to see my side of it. If it was floral, patterned, or pastel, I'd have been fine with it. I even offered champagne and taupe as colors available to my bridesmaids, though none of them chose to wear it because they felt personally that it was too close to white.

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u/PaddyCow Dec 08 '25

It's not just the colour. Everything about the length and style is like a wedding dress. Remove the cardigan and it looks like a wedding dress.

Maybe no one said anything to her about the dress, but they definitely talked about her behind her back and not in a good way. She didn't upstage the bride and made herself look bad.

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u/Holiday_Objective_96 Dec 08 '25

I'm just as irritated about the cardigan as I am the dress color- like, girl. Get it together

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u/PaddyCow Dec 08 '25

It's like she was trying to tone down the very obvious wedding dress into a casual dress by adding a shabby cardigan lol.

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u/NooOfTheNah Dec 08 '25

Cardigan was off the floor looking at the state of it

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u/okpickle Mar 06 '26

I didn't even know it was a cardigan. It's so wrinkled and gross looking that I equated it with "flannel shirt that you do the last bit of yardwork before winter" in.

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u/Consistent_Slice_109 Dec 08 '25

Used tampon cardigan

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u/Inside_Sign_3402 Dec 12 '25

Log off 🥴🤣

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u/Irn_brunette Dec 08 '25

Can we also agree that waterfall cardigans should be left in 2010?

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u/SnooGoats7978 Dec 08 '25

The tartan cardigan is fine, especially because it's December. The dishrag that the "Guest" is wearing is so off-style that it emphasizes that the underlying dress is the problem.

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u/Irn_brunette Dec 08 '25

Tartan is fine (I live in Scotland FFS), but that waterfall cut should be blasted into the sun along with layered polo shirts, Twilight and Blackberry messenger.

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u/XiedneyDavis Dec 09 '25

this is killing me, along with your username.

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u/missiemarie Dec 10 '25

They always felt a bit too…. Labia-esque for me 🫢

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u/aardvarkmom Dec 12 '25

Please tell me what a waterfall cut is. I’m now afraid that all of my cardigans are out of style! Lol

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u/Penguin-clubber Dec 14 '25

I think she’s referring to how it tapers in length, with the back being longer than the front.

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u/Elysia99 Jan 10 '26

🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/Unlucky-Review-2410 Dec 09 '25

OMG it does look like a dishrag! Well done!

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u/tessatarragon Dec 11 '25

That tartan throw thing is creaaed and horrible. And who wears black dress and tights to a wedding?

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u/zephood75 May 07 '26

I thought someone had actually spilled red wine on it. Hideous.

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u/CremeComfortable7915 Dec 08 '25

I’m even more irritated that both of the guests pictured are apparently fine with wearing wrinkled clothing to a wedding.

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u/Successful_Baby6108 Dec 09 '25

Oh yes this! At least iron your clothes for a wedding.

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u/Lumpy_Square_2365 Dec 11 '25

At least throw them in the dryer with a damp cloth ffs 😂

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u/Substantial_Apple_ Dec 11 '25

My understanding is that only us GenX’rs (and Boomers, I presume) own irons these days, so that might be part of the problem 😅

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u/Trick-Statistician10 Dec 11 '25

I'm Gen X. I have an iron. I last used it May 2005. I burned a stripe into my leg and said I would never touch it again. Haven't. Don't know where it is, but I should probably locate it, it would make a good weapon.

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u/IimagineU Dec 11 '25

FFS Irons are not to be used on clothes while ON your body.

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u/CremeComfortable7915 Dec 11 '25

SMH No kidding?🤦‍♀️

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u/Nervous_Ladder_1860 Dec 12 '25

You own an iron? Because I don’t

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u/Longjumping_Ear1317 Dec 10 '25

Did no one iron their clothes before the wedding

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u/No-Shift-9620 Dec 08 '25

Right?! If you are going to troll the bride you might as well do it right. Her outfit choice is giving, I thought this was going to be fun trolling but I’m kind of regretting it. Let me hide behind this ugly cardigan.

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u/Fit_Faithlessness157 Dec 08 '25

That cardigan is a crime.

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u/Flat_Sea1418 Dec 11 '25

OP definitely wore it better. She doesn’t come close to “outshining the bride”. But it’s disrespectful as fuck. She knew what she was doing and her failure to see your side and double down just shows that she was looking for attention by doing this.

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u/Square-Sun654 Dec 13 '25

I know! Me also! So tacky!

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u/Organic_Sampler Dec 08 '25

I read the title, looked at the picture and took a second to work out bride in the image. This dress was not wedding appropriate. I would be cutting whatever ties the OP has to this person.

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u/srslytho1979 Dec 09 '25

The cardigan is how you know that she knew.

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u/thereare6ofus Dec 09 '25

The cardigan is also offensive. Eww.

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u/Smooth_List5773 Dec 11 '25

It doesn't help that the woman in cream is twice in size as the bride.
Thus making her standout even more.