Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress

[u/AgoraphobicDisaster]

Hi, so I'm the bride (middle) and I included another guest in my cropping to show the dress code (Sunday best/dressy casual)

The guest on the left's dress was floor length and when I saw it in the lighting during the ceremony, my first thought was it was white.

Many of my bridesmaids said something to me. I said something to my husband, mom, and MOH and they all agreed, it was white. Rather than have one of my other friends attending offering to spill wine on her for me, I chose to speak with her and just ask about it. I was absolute drunk at that point but it had gone along the lines of why she chose the dress. Though a friend present did tell me this morning I came off as very passive aggressive.

I remember her response well, she was adamant that the dress was cream not white and that there's a difference and no one but me had said anything to her about it. She said anyone would be able to tell that it's not white.

She also claimed it was the only thing she had available to wear, which I highly doubt because she works for a bank, I'm sure she has plenty of appropriate business casual clothes that would have looked fine. I plan to just move on from it, but I did think it was highly inappropriate. In traditional Western/Christian weddings, there is ONE color reserved for the bride. Each guest has every other color under the sun to choose from. She also knew my dress had a lot of lace detail because we hung out after I had gone wedding dress shopping and I showed her a picture. It's not an outshining the bride thing for me, it's just a respect thing. And I feel a bit disrespected especially because when I had confronted her, she refused to see my side of it. If it was floral, patterned, or pastel, I'd have been fine with it. I even offered champagne and taupe as colors available to my bridesmaids, though none of them chose to wear it because they felt personally that it was too close to white.

[u/Emotional_Client9544]

The Mary connection is also why some religious groups associate blue with baby girls, instead of pink! Mostly out of fashion nowadays but I know many religious people who still use blue for girls and pink/red for boys (this is mostly in rural Europe).

[u/MrsBarneyFife → u/Emotional_Client9544]

Blue was originally meant to be a color for women. Because it's softer, calmer, muted, not very much of an in your face color. Pink was originally intended for men because it's so bright and flashy (usually more or less). It usually is a more noticeable color. Which is exactly why it was for men. For them to stand out, to draw others' attention. whereas women in blue are less likely to catch the eye. It doesn't really draw much attention, which, of course, women were not meant to do back then.