r/weddingshaming • u/Impossible-Code9339 • Aug 28 '25

Dressed like a Bride It happened… his sister wore white.

Just need to vent….

Got married a couple of weeks ago and can’t stop thinking about it. I thought his sister and I got along well, no issues.

For our engagement party, she was the only attendee in cream and white besides me, the bride, in a white dress. Gave her the benefit of the doubt - it’s just our engagement, she came from out of province, etc etc.

Then came the giant texts about how offended her and her husband were about having a child-free wedding and how their kids were more important than all my cousins kids, so there should be an exception.

Wedding day arrived, and it being such a whirlwind I honestly didn’t notice what she was wearing. Then multiple guests started quietly coming up to me, asking who the one in white was. I guess word got back to her because at the end of the night, she went to my now husband, holding a flower against her dress and said “for the record”, implying it wasn’t white…. I suppose she is colourblind.

Not sure if we/he/I should be asking if there’s an issue or if we should address it at all.

Ugh.

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u/Distinct-Ant-9161 Aug 28 '25

This is such excellent advice! I'm really working hard on not responding to subtext (or what I imagine the subtext to be) and instead only responding to open and direct communication. It's tough to unpick old habits, but I am not responsible for anyone else's emotions; I don't need to tie myself up in knots or stand on my head to ferret out the meaning of unclear cues. Likewise, when I have issues with someone, it's my responsibility to speak to them directly and not hint at or punish them through my actions.

Also - your SIL has main character syndrome. That's a her problem, not a you one :)

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u/IdlesAtCranky Aug 29 '25

Here, maybe this will help 😎

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u/ShanLuvs2Read Aug 29 '25

Would it be rude if I set this as the picture on my phone to my MIL ? No one would see it… and it’s prob better the. Having a wild bore ….

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u/[deleted] Aug 29 '25

I was like "oh no but what if some zany mistake caused her to see it" then I got to the boar hahaha

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '25

Wild bore 😂😂😂😍