r/weddings • u/Initial_Landscape298 • 10d ago
Good wedding gift? Can married people answer please đ
I have a wedding coming up. The couple stated the gifts are not required but culturally I canât bring myself to show up empty handed. If cash is an answer whatâs a cute creative way youâve gifted cash whether it be bills or cheque? Any other gift suggestions are welcomed.
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u/Mountain-Status569 10d ago
Why does it need to be cute or creative?Â
Get a nice card and write something heartfelt in it, and pop some cash in. The end.Â
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u/allegedlydm 10d ago
Yeah, I got a couple of cards with truly personal messages that I loved but plenty of fancier / cuter cards that just said âAunt Sueâ or whoever with nothing else after the typed message and Iâd take the regular old card with a real note any day.
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u/mistyharborsn 9d ago
yeah seriously, a heartfelt card with cash is always the move. no need to overthink it
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u/sadiethislife 10d ago
Because she wants it to be cute or creative. Something wrong with that? đ¤
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u/Mountain-Status569 10d ago
Fair, but thatâs for her sake, not the recipientâs sake. Creativity in a wedding gift presentation often makes the gift impractical. After a wedding, the couple needs to pack up and travel somewhere usually. Transporting gifts should be practical.Â
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u/losingmymindsince93 10d ago
A beautiful card with cash is the way to go imo. I loved all the cards I got and ended up adding them to the empty pages in our guest book.
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u/hisokashole666 10d ago
as someone who will soon be begging ppl not to bring physical things to our wedding: a cute check in a heartfelt card or even gift cards would work perfectly!
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u/Brilliant-Diamond174 10d ago
I keep larger vintage toy cars on hand I decorate the car with the couples initials in a hear and their wedding date and honk 4 a kiss. I roll the dollar bills up like cans and attach them to the car with ribbons
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u/classiest_trashiest 10d ago
A card with cash/check is plenty. Dont try to overthink it - they donât want to be hauling more stuff than necessary after the wedding.
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u/Inevitable_Ferret186 10d ago
Someone gave us a giftcard for a fancy steakhouse near us and wrote a note to use it for our one year anniversary. We are so excited to use it (next week!). It was just a gift card, but definitely our favourite gift.
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u/EnnuiPigeon 10d ago
Gift card to a restaurant near them so they can go have a date.
But⌠itâs also totally good to not bring anything. Usually people are genuine when they say no gifts
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u/TOYMoose 10d ago
If you want to do cash, origami money would be different. You can do something simple like hearts, or in a box make a zoo.
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u/Rare-Progress5009 10d ago
Honestly, when I was married I didnât want to deal with any excess cutsey stuff.
Just get them a heartfelt card and if you want to give money just include a check (made out to one of the coupleâs names only since they may or may not have a joint account).
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u/Other_Juggernaut_674 10d ago
For weddings, if they donât want anything, they really donât want anything. If you feel like you must get them something, a nice card and some cash will do.
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u/gnirpss 10d ago
My favorite gifts from my wedding were heartfelt personal messages written in cards. Some people also gave cash, which I appreciated, but the note was the best part of the gift. We also liked the fancy wine and liquor we received.
If the couple says "no gifts" but you still want to give something, it's a good idea to keep it small or consumable. They probably have too much stuff already.
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u/More_Branch_5579 10d ago
I loved a beautiful picnic basket we got and an engraved picture frame with our names and wedding date
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u/LongjumpingAd833 10d ago
A nice card with cash inside is the best, we still keep our old cards since we love looking back at our old letters when we first started dating.
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u/bblapocalypse 10d ago
I made it my thing to give money in a cool wedding pop-up card. With any luck, maybe Iâll get a lot of cool pop up cards in return when I get married lol
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u/Accomplished_Cell976 10d ago
You need a card with cash that will fit through the slit of the envelope box. Be practical. I was at a quinceaĂąera the other day and the box didnât have a slit big enough for little jewelry boxes and other âcreativeâ money things. At that point, the likelihood it gets lost or stolen goes up. And certainly the bride isnât going to know what to do with it if you hand it to her.
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u/Interesting_Reply803 10d ago
We said gifts were not required but we did get several. We got an ice cream maker. Lots of Cards. We loved going through them even if they had no money in them. We got some good bourbon too
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u/maidofatoms 9d ago
How well do you know them? Is there any practical thing you know they need? Or anything you know they'd love? It's difficult to guess, and can often end with people getting stuff they don't need or really want.
I'd say it's really difficult without knowing them. Personally, we're saying "no gifts required", and we mean it! The only reason we're not saying it even stronger is that we know some crafty people, and if anyone gave us anything handmade, we'd be thrilled. But would be embarrassed to get money or expensive gifts. (And since time = money in the crafting world, we would be both thrilled and embarrassed to receive a gift that had taken a lot of work.)
My advice is to stay away from stuff unless you know something they'd need or treasure. How about an experience, a voucher for day trip or class or something? Possibly shared between multiple guests so you could get something really fun?
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u/Effective-Mongoose57 9d ago
Put cash in a card. Write something nice and sign your name. Itâs the best wedding gift ever.
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u/Sunnysideup2day 9d ago
Cash is great - in the card you can say it is for their honeymoon. We were thrilled with that.
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u/BodyBy711 9d ago
My favourite that we received was the Hallmark Christmas tree decoration for the year we were married (they also gave cash) but it was small, thoughtful, and I think of my friend that gave it to us and our wedding day every year when we haul the decorations out.
Link to this year's - ours is from 2024 and more colorful, but you get the idea.
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u/newfriend836639 9d ago
A check is always appreciated. Don't do actual cash because of the card goes missing, so does the cash.
And make sure you give a sufficient amount. For example, if you have a comfortable income, and are close with the bride and groom, and you regularly drop $200 or $300 on a dinner out, that's what you should be giving.
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u/jmhendricks80 9d ago
I made my daughter a bridal âshowerâ. It was a lovely umbrella, which when opened, had cash shower down.
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u/HoneyCrisp4 9d ago
Cheque/Cash and card is always the way to go, BUT if you can get a really niche card, that's always a nice touch. We received one card with orcas made by a local artist (my partner loves orcas), and another friend got a card when she was in Italy with a cute lil Italian quote (I am Italian). These are the two that really stand out in my mind as "cute" while being practical.
Also, physical gifts are a pain to bring home if you are required to bring eberything home the night of the wedding
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u/Badger_State_John 9d ago
Cash is one that always goes over well, but tie it to something specific. Write in the card "for your first date night as a married couple" or "for your first home project." Same money, but it feels personal and they'll remember who gave it.
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u/No-Meringue5009 9d ago
Money in envelope. Addressed to the newlyweds from you. That's it.Â
Cover your plate cost, basically, unless you're close to them, then increase the amount.
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u/HatMuseum 9d ago
Just married! Like a lot of people have said a nice card with a personal message was the best. Based on my experience, if giving money give cash. If you need to do a cheque put it in one personâs name in case they donât have a joint account. If you must put both names use both their maiden names as name changes likely wonât be done before they want to deposit.
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u/Severe_Yesterday8518 8d ago
My favorite itemized gifts I got were a cheese board with our last name and wedding date, champagne glasses to match and then a national park sign with our names and date (we got married in a national park). The champagne glasses and the sign were things I wanted to buy but couldnât justify spending money on those when we still had actual wedding expenses. Beyond that, cash is great. It was a lot of fun opening cards at the end of our night and counting up hundreds lol
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u/Sudden-Stomach1383 6d ago
I live in TĂźrkiye, and at weddings, money or gold is usually pinned onto the bride and groom :D Or itâs placed in an envelope and put into a box. We call this the "gift-giving ceremony," and it lasts almost two hours :D
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u/alvarotrigo 8d ago
In Spain the norm is to do a bank transfer. Many still do in cash to safe the couple from having to pay the donations tax. Gifts are not common nowadays in Spain.
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u/lavenderhazydays 8d ago
If you write a cheque address it to one person only. We had a hell of a time depositing one cheque we got because it was made out to both of us and we didnt have a joint account.
Also if youâre making it out make sure if someone is or isnât changing their name. Again, I received a cheque to MyFirst HisLast but I kept my maiden name so I had to awkwardly ask the person to rewrite it haha
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u/Prestigious-Fan3122 7d ago
We need to see a picture of one of those! I think that's very, very clever. We once went to a wedding down in the deep south where the Groom was a big NASCAR fan. The Groom's cake was in the shape of a NASCAR, with the logo of their college mascot (the bride and groom of college sweethearts) on the hood, the logo for his fraternity on one side, and Hertz sorority on the other side, and the number of the car was the year of the wedding. IRC, it was' 14. But that was a long time ago. I could be off a year or two.
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u/ickiedoodoo 7d ago
I design custom tea towels using the wedding invitation and bundle them with a card. I'm doing one this week where I also made two kumihimo braids (think, really fancy friendship bracelet but longer) to tie the bundle to give a Japanese feel to the gift since the couple got engaged in Japan.
I'll be dropping the bundle off at their house either the day before or the day after the wedding.
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u/DesertBrickLab 7d ago
I make these, so obvious bias đ , but Saidscape could be a really meaningful wedding gift if theyâre sentimental. The guests leave handwritten messages at the wedding and afterward the couple uses those actual messages and their wedding photos to create their own framed keepsake.
You can buy one specifically as a gift, and they still get to create the finished design themselves: Saidscape.com
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u/Sudden-Stomach1383 6d ago
I prepared small ceramic jewelry dishes for my friends featuring their initials and wedding dates.
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u/yuriilobur 5d ago
Personally I prefer some nice card with a hand written note and a cash inside. The card to keep and a money to spend.
But if you want something creative - I saw someone gift a bag with $1 bills as a fun present. But it depends on a people you plan to gift it to. If it would give them some good laughter - then itâs nice, but for someone it might be more of a headache.
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u/Funnypotato12 4d ago
We put a honeymoon fund for ours and a dinner for 2, so leaving it up to our guests to pick
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u/DaBingeGirl 2d ago
Cash. No one wants to pack up physical gifts at the end of the evening. You're over thinking, just put it in a nice card.
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u/starflower42 10d ago
Weird that they said gifts are not required. By definition, a gift is not required, ever. But in any case... (I'm in the US so this might not be correct for your location) if they have a gift registry, give them something from that. If they don't, and you want to give cash/check, just put it in a nice card with a personal message. I would guess they'd have a box on a table for cards.
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