I’ve been out as ftm for about 6 years now and for the longest time I tried my hardest to pass. Over the years I kinda realized I didn’t care and I’d do what I wanted. I was on t for about a year, had to stop because of new laws, and now that I’m 18 I’m back on it. I work in customer service at the cash register and see a shit ton of people daily, and while not everyone refers to me as male, many do. I’ve been called sir, young man, guy, etc. And this isn’t just people my age, even elderly people do it sometimes. Not sure what leads to that and after lots of thinking, I’ve come up with nothing. Is there something that would give me away as ftm or have people see me as male?

Edit: Ok, this got more attention than I wanted, I expected maybe 5 to 10 replies at most. Thank to everyone who had conversations in good faith, I knew it was a gamble coming to Reddit of all places.

-I know I don’t pass, and while I don’t care that people mention it, there have been people who talk to me like I’m super shocked about that revelation.
-No one at work knows I’m trans, not the customers or my coworkers. I’ve had one person come in that I’m out to and that was my own father.
- It’s not a small town, word didn’t “get around or whatever.

Honestly due to all the attention and eyes on this I’m gonna delete it soon.

Please find the program here

Hey everyone,

A few weeks ago, I made a post here responding to a discussion about how much lifting can help with developing a more masculine physique, with or without testosterone.

The response was overwhelmingly positive and quite a few people mentioned wanting to start going to the gym but not knowing where to begin. I intended to write up a beginner’s programme pack that weekend but life got in the way and I’ve only just gotten around to it.

I’ve called it Build Your Frame, dunno why, I just wanted to name it 😂.

It’s a simple three-day full-body programme designed around developing a V-taper. There’s also an optional fourth day for anyone who wants to give their legs some additional attention.

The programme is intentionally uncomplicated and is designed to be outgrown. It exists to get beginners into an easy routine of getting in the gym and comfortable with working out.

It’s important that I manage your expectations when it comes to this programme, this isn’t going to build you the most muscular or developed physique. It is just a starting point. You will see gains and growth, hopefully fall in love with the process and move on to more advanced routines as time goes on.

I also want to clarify something about my identity, I am transmasculine and I don’t specifically identify as a trans man. But being perceived or referred to as a man doesn’t feel alien to me. Most people in my life use he/him pronouns for me, and that feels just as natural as they/them or she/her. What I am very intentional about, however, is my masculine presentation.

A lot of my fitness journey has been about developing a physique that reflects that presentation. I think my experiences and training priorities overlap considerably with those of many trans men, even if our identities aren’t exactly the same. I have attached pictures of my physique to reinforce this point.

I also want to make sure that I hammer in this point: I am not against testosterone. I wish I was able to tolerate it better, I would still be on it if that was the case. But it is not currently an option for me or many others and we have to find ways to adapt our physical presentation in accordance.

I’m not a qualified personal trainer. I’m just someone who enjoys lifting, has spent a lot of time learning about it, and wanted to share something that might help people who are where I once was.

If any other experienced lifters want to review, add or even suggest revisions to the program, I am all ears.

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I'm aware my fat distribution isn't helping me one bit and I'm open to workout suggestions to help look boxier

Not on T, since I’m a minor :/ planning to get on it very soon

I’m pretty flat, with pretty even hips. No clue why I keep getting misgendered by strangers even before I speak (unfortunately, my voice is pretty feminine). Is there something I’m missing?

front and back camera (tattoo censored lol)

Just shy of 13 weeks post op. I am very grateful for top surgery but really am hoping my chest hair will cover them eventually or I will look into scar removal through laser etc, I am currently waiting for my hair to grow more to see if it will be cover the area! Tattoos covered for privacy.

”how do I pass without changing my fem/andro style?” Lift

”how do I pass without cutting my hair?” Lift.

”How do I pass without putting down makeup?” Lift.

”How do I pass while still presenting feminine?” Lift.

”How do I pass as a minor without T?” Voice train + lifting.

”How do I-“ PICK UP THE WEIGHTS. BUILD YOUR SHOULDERS, BACK, ARMS.

there are tons of androgynous/fem presenting/ pretty cis guys that pass as MALES because they have a MALE body that you can easily emulate with Body recomp and WEIGHTS. I’m an androgynous presenting/pretty BINARY trans guy(thats just my personal preference of what typa male i wanna look like🤷), i still PASS coz i go to the GYM.

Hi everyone I’m now 7.5 months on T and I have quite a bit of peach fuzz on my sides of my face and my chin and my neck will this eventually turn into terminal hair? In the meantime would trimming be good or shaving ? Also would you call my mustache an official dirt-stash?? (See last photo) Lemme know you guys think!! Thanks :)

19, 5 months on T. I used to have a shorter haircut but it grew out a lot. I pass about 50% of the time, but I have a babyface + my lazy eye definitely doesn’t help. Changing my glasses is out of question cause I have a $400 prescription.

I’m honestly pretty happy with how I look, I’m going for jewel-eyed twink & that seems to be exactly how I’m read. was on T for 8 years, been off it for about 6 months now of my own volition bc I don’t wanna go bald and idc if I look like a femboy, but it does mean muscle definition is harder to keep up.

if y’all have fitness tips I’d appreciate that. I want more defined arms/abs, but I’m going for definition over bulk. Other than that, I’d appreciate fashion tips + hair tips. also my facial hair is pretty thick when it comes in, but it’s blonde, so ain’t nothing I can do about that

hey all, i am ftm and came out a couple years ago and have been on T for nearly 3.5 years, but I’m still a really short dude and I’m a little stocky but in all the places i would prefer not to be— that being said, i have been trying to hype myself up to go to the gym but i just get so scared of going to the gym and being put face to face with the state of my body which right now to me looks very feminine. i am so nervous about being looked at weird at the gym since i also don’t know what i’m doing. i’m just having so many irrational worries about going and i’m wondering if anyone else has advice or tips for me so i can actually get myself to go and reduce my anxiety 😭😭

I’m so sorry for the dirty mirror 😭. I’ve been on T for 9 months and had surgery 3 months ago. I am a feminine gay guy, so that’s the goal for my transition. My mannerisms and voice will always be effeminate but I want a more masculine body. I am dysphoric about my hips but maybe they’re not that bad. I definitely want to work out more, and I am just getting back into it after recovering from top surgery. What areas should I focus on?

Do I need a o ring? And if yes where would I get one? I shaved my hair down to be able to pack with tape and now I somehow gave myself bottom dysphoria even though I didn’t really have it preciously??

Been feeling like i dont pass lately... Been working out consistently and seeing hella progress but still feel like its not enough. Is there anything i can do?

Edit: tysm guys 😭 i appreciate all of you

I feel like these glasses make me look more feminine, what are some masc glasses sizes/styles?

I’ve completed my transition, been on T 8 years and had all the surgery. Life is just very hard and I have no family support. I’ve never dated anyone partially because I’m trans, partially because of the modern dating climate. I’ve gained a lot of weight in the past year due to depression and struggling to lose it. This question has probably been asked a thousand times but I’m just looking for some motivation really.

My mom says it's already dark enough, but it gets super light in the summertime. Is there any pros to darker hair bc I'm worried it'll somehow accentuate my facial structure and make me like more girly or somethin

Have I hit that peak yet, and do I pass yet, I’ve had some people even with just the hair style alone gender me correctly, but I don’t know if I’m seeing the vision yet. The balding and hair line issues in my 20s doesn’t help my confidence either

Wondering how much t you guys started with, personally I feel like I’ve always looked a bit more androgynous as it is. But is there anything I should expect if I do go on, besides more male patterns than I already have lmao. Any tips on how I can improve my appearance over all, I’m pretty unhappy with it atm.

this is like my third time posting because reddit filters keep getting mad at me but i’ve been super dysphoric recently. i know i pass as male but feel like i’m very visibly trans and don’t know what i can change. my shoulders and hands along with the roundness and redness of my face are really messing with me. any tips are appreciated

edit: i’m aware that my scars would clock me but i’m not going out in public shirtless anytime soon, i’m more wondering if my physique is masculine even with the love handles

Looking for advice for what hair style suits best. I’ve only had shorter hair for the last 2 yrs maybe and have been going a bit shorter each time. I’ve been seeing the same stylist but they’re too expensive to continue to go to if I’m going to have shorter hair that needs to be cut every few months. That being said, I went to a barber for the first time and the results were 😬

I have curly ish hair. When it’s mid length I can even get coils in the front. Kinda 2C/3A hair type.

Open to other styles, or like advice of what to say to get a similar ish haircut to pics 3/4? I showed the barber the pics and tried my best to explain. Could it just be a skill issue? Is it just the brain worms or is it not a terrible haircut?

Pic 1 - long length when I first chopped it…it’s giving lord farquad 🥲
Pic 2 - Mid length
Pic 3/4- last short cut with my stylist. I liked but the front grew back super fast
Pic 5/6 - chopped by the barber down the rd 🥲

Could I pass as a cis guy, or do my love handles ruin it? (Pretend you don't see my top surgery scars, I know they make me clocky.) What can I do to improve my physique?

When I tuck it, it constantly falls out before I even realize… I can hand sew though get kinda sloppy after a while. Also important that it doesn’t look very DIY

i work in construction and ive been using wonabi binders for some time now, casually they work really well for me but im struggling to find something i can wear to work, im using the tanktop sports binder rn, ive only had it for a few months, but i kinda feel like it already doesnt bind as well anymore

soo im looking for some advice on binders i could comfortably wear for about 9 hours if anyone has any advice id be soso grateful!!