I want at least one more kid but I also don’t trust OBGYNs after what happened with my first pregnancy. I’m considering just getting sterilized so I don’t have to deal with the same garbage I did last time. It was basically a case of doctor ignoring everything that had been put in my file for what I wanted so she could make a little bit more money for the hospital. I’ll share more details about it if anyone is interested.

I guess my biggest question is would it be better to try and find a midwife willing to do a home birth for someone who is a clotting risk or get sterilized and adopt?

I do already know that I want to get sterilized when I turn 30 or after my second baby whichever comes first.

My bilateral salpingectomy is on Wednesday. My husband took the day off for that, but will I be okay the next day? We have a 3 month old, 5 year old, and 8 year old. He works long hours and I'm the only person that can drive them to school/pick them up. I don't want to make him miss more work if he doesn't need to. How much pain should I expect to be in after?

Title says everything but i finally found a doctor to do it but transportation might be an issue with family not supporting my decision. From what I heard, they cannot release you in an Uber.

I had my uterine ablation done 9 weeks ago, I’ve had 2 periods since then and they are SLIGHLTY lighter but still lots of bleeding for about 10-12 days. My periods before were very similar just more bleeding. Did anyone take a few months to stop bleeding? I know some never bleed again, I was hoping that would be the case but it’s not 😭. Just wondering if their is still hope or if I will eventually just do a hysterectomy. Just for reference I am 43 ♥️. Thank you in advance!

Hi, I am new to the community and need some advice. My doctor told my family I would be fine in 2 days but I ended up having complications day 0. My belly button incision (laparoscopic) would not close and was still bleeding 12 hours later and I was advised to go to ER. I am almost 2 weeks post op (10/2 was surgery). I still have this almost heaviness feeling in the bottom of my abdomen/stomach (especially under the bellybutton). So, I have to hold the bottom of my stomach whenever I move to mitigate pain. My surgeon basically said it is in my head and google was not fruitful with results. I am curious if anyone knows why my abdomen/stomach feels like this still and it is seemingly not getting better? Also, any advice on how to help this discomfort (particularly when sleeping) would be appreciated. Thank you 💜

I just had to ask Google what I’m supposed to do with my Steri-Strip incisions because I don’t remember what the doctor told me and the paper she gave me just says listen to your doctors instructions on postop care.. she literally told me all this while I was coming down off of anesthesia and on Dilaudid. I just don’t know why they don’t tell you before the surgery, it doesn’t make sense! Same thing happened after my wisdom tooth surgery. No post op care was given until I was high after the surgery and didn’t remember. 🙃

Hey im 36 i have huntington disease ive had 7 pregnancy no living babies ive watched 4 of them in my hands already passed away n i cant go thru that depression anymore but i wanna know best procedure n what happensa after

That they do wish they can undo the procedure.their period became heavier and painful I want to ask people who are done with their bisalp. Long time ago how are your harmones and period more than that how is your tokophobia if any of you have that .

Everything went smoothly and now I’m in bed recovering. My biggest fear was getting anesthesia, but once I was wheeled into the surgery room everything happened so fast that I didn’t have time to stress out about it.

I have some shoulder soreness but so far no pain (thank you oxycodone!). I read in other posts that walking helps, so I set a timer to get up every hour.

The only negative- my doctor tried to change my mind AGAIN after I was already prepped for surgery. She tried to dissuade me twice before and offered to put in an iud, even though I told her various times that my main motivation was cancer prevention. She said the same thing today and told me it wasn’t too late to change my mind. It made me really nervous that she was so against it, but I’m glad I did it.

i’m confused. I have a bilateral salpingectomy scheduled next month. Everyone has been telling me it should be fully covered and I should have to pay a penny. Even the surgeon I talked to said it should be fully covered. I just got a text message saying I need to pay $764 to have the surgery. So what's going on?

I have United Healthcare Choice Plus for my insurance. My mother is telling me I will still have a deductible and will have to pay for the surgery. Why was a told I wouldn't have to pay anything then? I am so confused and trying to do this completely on my own. Does anyone have any advice? I don't know how to take it from here.

I will say my experience is very different from a lot of people in this sub. My doctor didn’t give me any specific cleaning instructions, told me not to put anything on it or touch the incisions and not to really worry about them at all and then she also said I have no lifting restrictions and I can just do whatever I feel like doing. I’ve been home for a few hours now and I feel completely fine like I feel pretty much normal.. There’s like a little bit of pain in my shoulders, but it just feels like I worked out really hard. She said the incisions are so tiny I don’t have to worry about them. Anyone else have an experience like this?

I just came back from a gynecology consultation because I’m interested in getting a bisalp done. I went to Cohen Medical Practice in NYC, an office I saw on the list of doctors willing to do the procedure.

I was denied the surgery because I’m “too small” which the doctor then explained my organs are close to my belly button and vessels (?) and she doesn’t want to risk accidentally injuring nearby organs. I’m 5’2, under but stable weight around 85-90 lbs range (no drastic weight loss or weight gain ever). I have 0 history of eating disorders, malnutrition, or any other underlying health issue that causes me to be underweight. My diet & health is good (wish I could eat more but I get full fast!) My tests & labs always come back with 0 issues. I know I’m underweight but I don’t struggle with anything or feel ill because of my weight, I promise! I just never heard of a woman being denied a bisalp for being overweight or underweight.

I’m not willing to try any other form of birth control, I know what I want. Anyone know any doctors willing to do a bisalp on someone who is “too small”? I’m from NYC! Thanks.

hi all, i just had my bisalp done a few hours ago, am at home resting. did anyone else have calf soreness after surgery? it almost feels as if i had charley horses in both legs while under anesthesia or something. just curious if this is common or what might be going on. thanks!

Hi everyone, long time lurker, first time poster. I'm 36f and kids have never been on the table for me. I've spent years jumping through hoops with IUDs while waiting for someone to finally take me seriously about something permanent. Now that it's actually happening, of course I'm stuck on which route to take, so I could really use some real experiences.

I'm scheduled for a laparoscopic hysterectomy (keeping my ovaries) and now I'm second guessing it and thinking about switching to a bisalp with ablation instead.
Some background: I don't have any diagnosed condition, my uterus is healthy in theory at least. The main reasons are permanent contraception and really debilitating period pain. I currently have a Mirena so I don't get periods, but it killed my sex drive and my migraines have gotten worse since I've had it, so I want it out.

On the other hand, I know ablation has a pretty high failure rate, especially when pain is the main issue and not heavy bleeding. Even my surgeon didn't seem too keen on it. I also don't have a ton of support at home for recovery, so the hysterectomy recovery worries me too.

So I'd love to hear from you!

If you had an ablation (with or without bisalp) mainly for pain, did it work for you?
If you had a hysterectomy with ovaries kept, did you notice any hormone changes or earlier menopause symptoms?
Anyone with migraines who went either route, did they get better or worse?
How was your recovery, especially if you didn't have much help?

Thanks in advance, I appreciate any input!

Pros and cons of tubal removal??
Am getting my tubes removed, my husband is getting a vasectomy but they say sometimes it can fall, we have 4 kids we’re don’t having kids and don’t want to risk it, so I want your opinion or experiences, thank you

I was always very clear with my husband that 2 kids was the most i would want. We have a 14 month old baby girl (she’s amazing) which we struggled to conceive with infertility for 5 years, and were shocked when we found out I was pregnant with our second 8 months postpartum after thinking it’d be hard to get pregnant again.

I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant with our baby boy, and we’ve been talking about tubal ligation/ Vasectomy.

He says he’s on board with wanting 2 kids and being done but that he doesn’t think I should make the decision at this moment in time due to the rough pregnancies I’ve had possibly influencing my decision and wants to minimize any regrets I may have in the future. I do not feel emotional about the decision, I have always felt confident and communicated it so but now I’m frustrated that I feel like I’m trying to make this an “us” decision but I relayed to him that in order for it to be an “us” decision I need to feel like we have an action plan that helps me feel more secure than just being “careful”. He’s unwilling to consider a vasectomy, and just wants me to wait for us to be clear minded. I told him I don’t want to go on birth control, and that I’m concerned it will impact an already impacted area in our intimacy because I will absolutely choose abstinence. I do not want accidental pregnancies, and I am sort of resenting him at this point because the burden feels like it’s solely on me now, but I’m trying so hard to continue to treat him like a partner in this and not go against his wishes. When every part of me is screaming to get my tubes tied at birth and not wait but it feels like a betrayal to him and respecting him as a partner.

I guess any advice or different perspective ?!

I (21f) Had my surgery this morning. Amazing staff and an amazing surgeon. They were able to expel a lot of the gas and thankfully haven't felt any discomfort from it. Very mild pain in the abdomen. Had a big meal an hour ago, about to go to sleep now. I had a phenomenal experience with Dr. Irvin in Parkersburg, WV at camden clark. Her and her team were more than stellar with me and made me feel so comfortable and safe. I was originally to be with another OBGYN for this, but unfortunately he had to take medical leave so i got referred to Dr. Irvin. Seemed like it was meant to be! Such an exciting day. Glad to join so many of you with this amazing decision!!! This is truly one of the best days of my life!

Huge shoutout to this subreddit for all the information so I could be more than prepared for this day, i really couldn't have done it without all of you.

Feel free to ask any questions 😁

Hi, everyone. Recovering is going well, my doctor was very supportive but....

I am in the throws of appeals, 3 way calls, fatigue, and frustration regarding my insurance still billing me, denying claims (even though it is being billed from my providers' correctly) and trying to run me in circles.

I've decided it may be best to submit a complaint to my state's insurance regulator. I am not sure what to include. I am trying to gather as much information as possible to send to them.

Perhaps some outlines from your personal experiences would be helpful.

My insurance is not from an employer. But is still ACA compliant, I shouldn't be charged for anything.

Any insight you all can provide to make this not so overwhelming would be very appreciated.

Edit: I am being charged for Labs and Pathology. Both were billed to include Z30.2, but insurance is pushing back on this.

Day 0 Post Op: Today was the day for my bisalp (BS as my care team lovingly called it. And I would like to go over the first few hours. Its 3pm now. Checking for surgery was 7:50am for a procedure time of 9:20am. I was sent to my hospital room where I met an RN. I already had anxiety due to a mix up yesterday between "Jell-O" and "Splash" (one is gelatin and one is not apparently). I can go into details if anyone wants me to. I smoked a few times this weekend 🌿 so I relayed that to my anesthesiologist. No worries as i live in CO. My team was my Obgyn, a nurse and my anesthesiologist. They all were sweet and understanding of my concerns. The only downside i found about the beginning was the put my IV in my hand. (It sucked, but TBH it was easier than them fighting to find a vein in my arm). They gave me anti anxiety medication and an antacid and tons of fluids to make me pee. I remember going into the OR and talking about Spain and Morocco then I was out. I woke up and cried (anesthesia does that to me) I was in a lot of pain at first then they gave me an oxy and waited for me to wake up a bit more before I was out the door. My partner got me home and I slept until 20 minutes ago (4 hours). My pain is really just in my legs (they put this wrap around them idk 🤷🏾‍♀️ why). Incisions dont hurt and I am groggy. But I got images of my tubes being removed (my OB would have fought for me to keep them but I didnt want to make more work on her). Pain 2/10. But guys, I. Sterile and so happy🥳🙌🏾🎊

My belly button incision and the surrounding is irritated it’s been 5 weeks since surgery. I have an innie and it’s been difficult to see inside and clean properly. any tips?

Hi, I’m 29 and work as an civil engineer. I’m currently in a year-long relationship. I was previously married young and divorced six years later. During my marriage, kids felt inevitable. We even picked out names. After the divorce, I finally had space to ask myself if I actually wanted that, and the honest answer has been no. Afterward, I noticed that whenever I pictured day-to-day with a child, it felt like a burden I didn’t want. I dated someone after my divorce who really wanted kids and that made me examine it hard. I realized parenting isn’t how I want to spend my time or energy. My current partner feels the same, but regardless of any relationship, my own feeling has been consistent. I’m seriously considering permanent sterilization. I’d appreciate perspectives that might help me examine this from an angle I’m missing. Not looking for medical advice, just life perspectives.

Hey guys, just want to see if anyone else has dealt with this.

I had a c-section and bisalp completed almost 10 weeks ago. I had some off and on bleeding but nothing crazy. I ovulated around 7 weeks pp and bled for three days after. At 9 weeks pp, I started having super heavy bleeding, it was through pads and tampons. I had never had bleeding like that before & believe me, my cycle was never fun when I had it before my third pregnancy (I had no period for 2 years before I was pregnant with my fourth thanks to nursing). My OB recommended that I go to the ER since I couldn't get to her until the 26th and the doctor there acted like he was shocked that they didn't have me on a birth control regimen for after the procedure. He put me on 10mg of Provera for 10 days and said to return if the bleeding didn't stop by day 5. I'm two days taking it & bleeding has stopped, but I've seen something about withdrawal bleeding after stopping Provera and I'm worried about that. Has anyone else had to use this and can share their experience? I'm a working mom and I can't exactly deal with an even heavier flow if that's going to happen after 🥲

My procedure is scheduled for 10/30. I was given two weeks off but it's not ideal given the holidays approaching nor do I think I will need it? I was planning to be off starting Friday (10/30) and returning Wednesday (11/4).

I'm basing this off my 3 c-section recoveries although I know they're vastly different.

Is this doable? 5 days off? I am an office manager and can definitely take it easy as needed.

I’ll likely be getting a bisalp done in the coming months and am wondering how to approach the leave request with work.

For people who have had this procedure - did you tell work the reason you needed time off or what was your cover story?

I thought about just requesting annual leave and lying and saying I’m going on a vacation, but I’d like to use sick leave. I just don’t know how management will feel about it.

Thank you.