r/polyamory • u/TestSignificant2678 • 5h ago

vent God I regret it sometimes

Bloody hell, we worked hard at polyamory but it got to the point where it was too much for me so I ended things. I lost an amazing metamour (we don't talk anymore) and a future life I had pictured very clearly for a very long time.

Looking back, it wasn't polyamory, it was us being too young. I really regret that my ex was the first person I did it with. With everything we know now, if we met now... I think we could have made it work. Maybe not. But honestly probably.

Time is sick. That's life I guess.

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u/EvelynnWithTheVibes 4h ago

It's easy to say that looking back, but keep in mind you have the knowledge now only because you had this experience. It was necessary for you to reach the point where you can look back and feel like you could handle it differently now.

When I look back with shame, sadness, or embarrassment because I was ignorant or immature, I know it's because I've grown from who I was. But at the time I was sincerely doing the best with what I had and I'm sure the same is true for you and those you were involved with<3

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u/TestSignificant2678 4h ago

Aw you're so right, thanks for the reminder. I'm feeling sorry for myself today so it's nice to have the kind wise words. Appreciate it.

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Bloody hell, we worked hard at polyamory but it got to the point where it was too much for me so I ended things. I lost an amazing metamour (we don't talk anymore) and a future life I had pictured very clearly for a very long time.

Looking back, it wasn't polyamory, it was us being too young. I really regret that my ex was the first person I did it with. With everything we know now, if we met now... I think we could have made it work. Maybe not. But honestly probably.

Time is sick. That's life I guess.

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