I still can't believe I'm typing this. Today is pregnancy loss awareness day and I went into my scan this morning literally shaking from trepidation.

We've been doing IVF for years: 7 retrievals, 6 transfers. This is my sixth pregnancy, and we have one living child, our 2-year-old 💛

After so much loss, I've learned to hold every early scan at arm's length.

We transferred ONE PGT-tested embryo. We’ve never transferred more than one. We never thought this would happen. At my first ultrasound last week, they saw one gestational sac with two yolk sacs, and I honestly didn't let myself believe it. I convinced myself it was a double bleb misdiagnosed as a twin pregnancy. Today at my heartbeat scan (6w5d), there they were: TWO babies, both measuring 6w4d, with heartbeats of 124 and 126.

After everything, the idea that our one little embryo became two feels completely surreal. I'm equal parts overjoyed, terrified, and in total disbelief.

They're monochorionic, and the two yolk sacs make mono/di likely. We'll confirm amnionicity soon.

Would love to hear from anyone who's been here:

Anyone else have a single embryo transfer split? 👀

Any tips for navigating twin pregnancy after loss?

My plan is to take it one appointment at a time. IVF takes so much from you, so I’m really trying not to let it steal the joy of today with the worries of tomorrow.

I’m a medical professional so trying not to spiral with the high risk part of twin pregnancies. I’m also early 40s so naturally more high risk than a younger person.

Thanks for letting me share. I'm still processing! 🙏

Tired of counting to 16 scoops to make a 32oz pitcher? Count to 4 instead!

Method: using a baker's scale, and scraping each scoop I measured (all in grams), "formula scoop" means i scooped formula powder using the scoop that came with the formula, "gatorade scoop" means i scooped formula powder using the scoop that came with the gatorade mix-

1 formula scoop: 8, 9, 9, 8

2 formula scoops: 17, 16, 16, 17

4 formula scoops: 33, 35, 34, 33

1 gatorade scoop: 33, 34, 34, 32, 34, 32, 33

So if I am making a batch that requires 16 formula scoops, on average the scoops are about right, and certainly more accurate than when I lose track of how many little scoops i've already done.

I used an Enfamil scoop to do the initial measuring, but we converted to Kirkland(costco) and it measured the same. So i have confirmation it works for at least those 2 brands.

Added bonus that you can also use the formula scoop to get the gatorade mix into a narrow neck water bottle to stay hydrated!!

Currently 16w with mono di twins, and these are kids 3&4 for me. I’ve been seeing both my OB and an MFM. This morning at my OB appt, I found out (not even from the Dr but from the insurance person) that the hospital she delivers at absolutely does not allow vaginal births for multiples. The hospital has on call doctors only, so if you were to attempt vaginal and need an emergency C, there’s not another resident Dr to jump in to assist with surgery. I get it from that standpoint, but it’s incredibly disheartening to know I don’t even get a choice. I’ve used this same Dr for both kids already and have had 2 very easy, uneventful vaginal inductions. I was really hoping I’d be able to attempt vaginal this time too. After I left I sat in my car and just sobbed. This hospital also doesn’t allow vbac, so if I have a C now, I’d be stuck with them for any future kids too (we think we’ll be done with 4 but you obviously never know).

Now I’m not sure if I should keep the Dr I already know who knows me and just mentally accept the C-section over the next 20 weeks, or do I try and find a new Dr who would allow a vaginal if the stars align. But then if I find a new Dr and end up in an emergency C-section for whatever reason, it’d be frustrating to have gone through the headache of switching for nothing.

If you read this far, thank you. I don’t know if I’m looking for consolation over having a C-section, advice on which option to choose, or just needing to vent, but I’m glad to have found this community for support regardless.

I'm 11 weeks pregnant. At my last three scans, they found twins, and they are likely mo/mo boys, but with two yolk sacs. On the last scan, they thought they saw the umbilical cords already entangling, but they weren't sure if they were just covering one they couldn't find. This was with MFM. I'm very scared, because I have some health conditions that make having twins quite dangerous for me, and potentially fatal or causing a disability for myself. I'm also very worried for the babies, and what it will mean for their quality of life as they grow. I'm doing another scan at the end of my 12th week. I already have two children. Can people tell me about their experience with mo/mo twins, and how they are now milestone-wise, cognitively and physically?

2.5 twins have zero chill when it comes to nap. They’ve always been great sleepers but last couple of months, it’s been hell. Either one or both are just being absolute rats, won’t lay down, won’t leave the other alone, bites, kicks. We’ve tried skipping naps but then they are absolutely miserable for most of the afternoon/evening until bed. It’s terrible for everyone and very obvious that they still need a nap. They are out of cribs bc they could climb out. They have twin and full mattress on the floor, with a baby gate around them so they don’t have free rein to the entire room. Separating rooms for nap isn’t really feasible at the moment. Does anyone have any tips, tricks, advice?
I’ve bought sleeping spray and rubs, weighted blanket , white noise, making it super cold, sleep sacks, no sleep sacks, turkey and butter before nap, Tylenol when they are teething, laying with them, scratching, patting, and rubbing back, reducing their nighttime sleep and getting them up earlier in the mornings. My husband is on the verge of popping one of them on the butt (the biter), despite me reminding him that it’s not appropriate for any age and especially now because they literally cannot understand why they are being smacked. and we are both at our wits end.
Thanks in advance 🥲🫠

So up until now (5 month old twins) the kids have ate “ready to go” formula. Every evening we would open x amount of cans and dump them into 14 bottles. Which is roughly 24 hours worth of bottles for us. But we are transitioning to powder formula and will be 100% on powder this time next week. But they just keep going up in formula amount and pre making the formula doesn’t feel as possible? Especially when it comes to fridge space. We were thinking about getting 2 64oz jugs with a spout but again fridge space is limited and we also just don’t know if that’s the smartest move.

What do you guys do? Are we just making bottles as we go? Filling the bottles with water in the moment or ahead of time? Pre making formula or do you pre measure it into containers??

Edit: I’d like to point out that they drink cold milk and we also don’t have a dishwasher. So every component is hand washed. We have a bottle washer than only handles 6 bottles at a time.

Our mono/di twins hit 6 months (5 months adjusted) and we’re trying to give them solids (so far with limited interest). They’re otherwise exclusively on breastmilk. Their doctor said iron-rich foods from 6 months onwards and left it at that, but I wondered what to do if they’re barely eating the food.

Then I read guidelines about iron and they say babies born at less than 2.5 kg/5.5ish lbs should be getting iron supplements from 6 weeks onwards (unless having iron-rich formula). No one said anything to us at the hospital (week long stay but no NICU) or any of our doctors appointments, even though we mentioned that one of our twins has always been hard to feed.

How have people’s experiences around iron been?

FTM, pregnant with twins. A lot of parents have been giving my husband and I the advice to do shifts at night so the other person can sleep (7pm -12am, 12am-5am, etc.).

How does this work when the babies are sleeping in the same room those first few months? Don't both parents wake up when they hear crying? Doesn't one baby crying wake up the other?

I'd love to hear what worked for everyone. Thanks!

Hi! Our twins are 10 months old and we are still using the duet. But I’m noticing some issues with it, one seat is tilted to the side so twin a is constantly leaning to one side. And the backs of the seat even though the straps are completed pulled to make it as high and straight as possible still leaves the seat semi reclined and the twins are now grabbing the bar Infront to pull themselves so they sit straight.

Anyone found ways around this pls as I don’t see myself being able to use this pushchair for years at this rate. It’s a big shame as we live in a small country with small pavements and the build of it just works here. I can’t imagine getting anything bigger.

Thank you 🙏

Hi everyone! I’m currently 31W6D pregnant with di-di twins. I’m a bit concerned and baffled because I’ve apparently lost 7 lbs in 1 week according to the weighing scale in the clinic. I did not change my diet this week and actually try my best to eat as much protein as I can, though my appetite has lessened in the 3rd trimester compared to the 2nd trimester. I did not gain any weight up until 14 weeks due to nausea, gained 27 lbs in the 2nd trimester, then my weight gain slowed down to about 1.5 lbs/ week until this week. I got COVID 2 weeks ago and had reduced appetite as I was also hospitalized then for preterm contractions, but at my clinic weigh-in a week later I was still up 3 lbs from my previous visit 2 weeks ago. Pre-pregnancy my BMI was 19.5 so it’s not like I was overweight where you don’t need to gain as much in pregnancy…. I was previously up 32 lbs at 30w6d which I though was a good weight gain rate, but with this weight loss I’m now up only 25 lbs at 31w6d. My girls are now at 13% and 19% for their weight so not yet dangerously low but definitely lower than it used to be (they used to be 50%+ at around 20W). Has this happened to anyone? And any tips on what I can do? I’m already eating 3 large meals a day and chugging a protein shake daily for a snack… I understand weight gain can slow down in the 3rd trimester but such a large weight loss in a week is baffling!

My husband and I have twins coming next year and plan to invest in a night nurse. I don’t even know where to begin looking or what to look for, so wanted to hear from experience!

What should we look for in a night nurse? Any learnings you’d share from the experience?