r/lgbt • u/OFG_4066 • 20h ago

Hello

I've been straight my whole life, but recently I've been thinking alot about being with a man idk what to do

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u/No_External_539 Omnisexual and Demifluid Girl 19h ago

Describe this feeling to us. What do you mean when you say that, in your own words and perspective?  This way we can get a better understanding of it.

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u/OFG_4066 19h ago

Idk it's weird, I get turned on by the thought of it, then I would yk act on it. Then after think, was that just enjoyable cuz it was new. I don't often see a guy and think of wow he's attractive but it has happened once or twice

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u/No_External_539 Omnisexual and Demifluid Girl 19h ago

Yeah that sounds like you're under the bi umbrella. Being bi doesn't mean you have this strong sense of attraction to every gender, it just means you're capable of being attracted to more than one gender regardless of how strong that attraction is.

I'll use myself as an example. I have a massive preference for men over women and nonbinary people, but because I sometimes find them attractive and would like the idea of being with them romantically/sexually, it means I'm still not straight because a straight person would have ZERO sense of attraction to anyone who isn't the opposite sex/gender.

However, you can still identify whichever way you like. I've heard of some gay people who are technically bisexual claim the gay label because of how disproportionate their attraction felt in their opinion. So if you don't want to identify with the bi label, you don't have to.

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u/freekyfloyd 18h ago

The hate and violence didn't change. It's been an eventful life and I am thrilled that you don't have to go through what we all have fought for.

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u/OFG_4066 18h ago

Like I could never date a guy, it would be purely yk. If that makes sense, cuz I still really like girls and I'm going on a date on Sunday with her yk it's so new

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u/No_External_539 Omnisexual and Demifluid Girl 18h ago

There is also such a thing as bisexual but heteromantic.

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u/freekyfloyd 18h ago

My thoughts are you won't ever know how it feels until you try it . Many men have been in your same situation and I have been a first experience with quite a few. Either way you have to decide. Most important is that you be comfortable with you.

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u/Old-Conflict-9230 18h ago

How old are you? How long have you known you were straight, since birth?

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u/FringeBenefits_71 2h ago

Hi, I’m in the same boat as you. I’m 55 y/o and I was straight until I was 48 but since then I’ve been bisexual. I love the gay lifestyle once I came to terms with my gay side. My advice to you is to accept ur gay side and explore your sexuality in its full. God made you this way so embrace it.

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u/StrikeZestyclose7305 1h ago

It's usually easy to get along with men if you play video games often or communicate most often, but I would advise you to find out more often what he does most and other things

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u/Tustitus_Scuups #1 smoocher of fellas 1h ago

This might help you, so I'mma leave this here.
Sexual attraction: feeling drawn to someone sexually
Romantic attraction: feeling drawn to someone romantically
Sexual and romantic attractions don't have to align. You might be sexually attracted to men and women, but only romantically attracted to women. If you can imagine sexually engaging with both, but only romantically engaging with women, bisexual and heteromantic might help you understand your alignment.

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u/freekyfloyd 18h ago

I'm new to this site and I went back and read what's been discussed. I'm gay period. I've had sex with women during my exploration phase. I have never fucked a woman. My dick won't even get hard. So I have tried. I've never had to go into a depression because of it,lol. I came out when I was 15 . The age of GRID. AIDS . The 80's. I have been through a lot of hate . Once I became happy with who I am my life got better for me.