I’m turning 21 soon. In my free time, I’m love doing anything physical, whether that’s rock climbing, skating, hiking, running, or even trying something completely new.

I love reading and learning about history and ancient civilisations, philosophy of religion and language. I’d also love to learn an instrument at some point. I love singing too, despite being objectively terrible at it. I love music overall, I listen to a lot of different genres and also would be happy exchanging songs.
I’m at a stage in life where I’m still figuring out exactly what I want. I’m fairly independent, spend a lot of time in my own head, and can definitely be self-critical lol. It can take me a while to open up fully.

To note I’d do want to have a few conversations and vet before moving onto a different app and exchanging photos.

Ideally, I’d like to meet someone around my age who shares a similar cultural background (I’m Somali for reference so preferably East African and broader Africa only). I value emotional intelligence, patience and authenticity, I’m also looking for someone with same political values; left-wing, pro-choice and supportive of LGBTQ+ rights etc. If this resonates with you send me over an intro (lazy ones don’t count, intentionality matters lol!

Hey there,

Occasional lurker, first time poster here.

To introduce myself I'm an Indian brought up in the UAE. I grew up as a traditional religious muslim, but I've always been ideologically a liberal.

A few years back I decided to examine my relationship with Islam, and since then I find no meaning in it. I don't hate the people who are practicing the religion,  I understand why and am indifferent to it. But unfortunately I live in a society with so many practicing Muslims, including my family. It would make things so much easier to be with someone who's gone through the same.

More about me - I am cis het, agnostic, socially left liberal and a feminist. I love art in any form - whether it is films, music, literature or anything else. I am someone who is intellectually curious and tries to keep learning and exploring. I can talk to you all day about my interests, you'll see my eyes light up lol. Okay the last few lines made me sound like a smug wannabe but I'd like to clarify that I am a total tomfool all the time, and will probably try to make you laugh at any given opportunity.

As of now I work a steady job but have various different aspirations for the future. I try to live a healthy lifestyle to keep myself sane.

If we were to be in a relationship or even get married (so delulu omg), I don't want you pretending to be a muslim, wear hijab or anything else to appease people around me. I desire for us to live as freely and as openly as possible. We would live separately in our own home. But if your family expects a muslim husband, I am willing to play the part.

If you find we share common ground, please feel free to reach out. I would be delighted to connect and have a conversation.

During this time of the year, I like to go barbecuing by myself. There is something deeply primal and connecting in cooking over an open fire and then sharing stories, hopes, and dreams – seeing the entire universe in the dancing flames. The same as opening your heart to the waves crashing on the shore. Both are much better with that special someone, yet perfectly fine by myself as the dancing flames and the crashing waves talk back to you and share your dreams.

One thing about me is that I am full of contradictions. I am the kind of person who likes to plan things meticulously, thinking things through from multiple angles, having several contingency plans, etc. But when it comes time to actually do it, I like to wing it and not be constrained by any plans. Seems irreconcilable, but they reconciled in me somehow. I made peace with my contradictions, and I grew to love them, as they are what makes me, me. I came to terms with the fact that to be human is to be contradictory.

I also found that minimizing options reduces anxiety immensely. I do not stress over what to eat, as I prepare my weekly meals. I even sold my car and started taking the bus. You see a lot more, and the city looks prettier, when you see it pass you by, rather than focusing on catching the light, speed cameras, and that jerk who is clearly trying to cut ahead of you, lol.

There is this alluring myth of the lone wolf that entices people who got burned by others before. Only someone who has been repeatedly and badly burned would romanticize being a lone wolf. The thing is, there is no such thing as a lone wolf, as wolves are pack animals that are deeply communal, and a lone wolf would simply die. A lot of people, myself included, prefer solitude, as it is simply enjoying your own company.

I have unlimited interests and curiosity. Among my interests is listening and learning new things, which feels like a cheat code, because we’ll always have something to talk about. Also, philosophy, literature, history, music, and anime, to name a few. I will be happy to hear about your interests, even if for nothing but listening, as I genuinely enjoy meeting new people and hearing about what they are all about.

I took salsa classes in another city once, which was my personal hell. You know the expression for someone who dances poorly, having two left feet? Well, I consider myself to have two left arms for feet. There is no happy ending here where I magically turned out to be a prodigy; I sucked. But I had fun and challenged myself.

We mistake “I got through the day” for “I’m okay,” and confusing the two is how people stay stuck for years while looking completely fine. I am trying to thrive rather than just survive.

Looking for a chill person to chat with and meet and laugh.

Hi everyone! I'm looking find a long-term friend/partner in the UK to hang out with, explore around, and just have someone to talk to.

I'm open to taking this further depending on how we get along and I'm posting here to find more like-minded people. I’m looking for a buddy to:

• Explore the outdoors: Wandering through local parks, finding quiet green spaces, or doing a bit of casual bird watching.
• Catch the sea breeze: Heading down to the coast to walk by the water and clear our heads.
• Day trips by train: Hopping on a train to check out nearby towns, hidden gems, and historic spots.
• The simple stuff: Grabbing a coffee, walking around, and just talking about anything and everything.

(A quick note: My background is South Asian and I'm saying this upfront just in case anyone has specific ethnic preferences. Ideally, I'm looking to spend a weekend outside, away from computers and screens.)

Please send me a message if you're interested!

Basic info about me:

29 years old

5'2" tall

Indian descent

3rd gen Brit

South West England based

University educated

Marketing professional

Never married

No kids

Hobbies:

Reading fiction

Writing poetry

Watching anime

Dancing salsa

Hiking

Playing ukulele

Travelling (I travel a lot for work too)

I am only out to my parents as ex Muslim, but I am very close to my family. Looking for a husband with similar values and life goals to me.

I'm based in the UK but willing to relocate to any other Western country (just not US 🤭) I've got a lot of family in Toronto, so might be fun to move there

Hey everyone! I’m at that point in life where I’d like to find my person, build a life together, and have someone to annoy with random documentary facts for the rest of our lives.

I’m 28M, South Asian, and agnostic. I have a good corporate job and am hoping to meet someone to share life’s ups and downs with.

A little about me: I love hiking, cooking, and watching documentaries. I’m looking for a relationship that feels like a partnership, where we can be ourselves, support each other, laugh together, and build a future.

I’d say I’m a feminist, and that’s a big part of why I’ve distanced myself from religion. I value equality, independence, and being able to question things without feeling restricted by religious expectations.

I’m open to all ethnicities and backgrounds. Ideally, I’m looking for someone between 22 and 30 who is also interested in settling down. My ideal timeline would be to get married within a year or so if we’re compatible, but I’m also open to seeing where life takes us. I’m not looking for an endless talking stage that goes nowhere, though. I’d rather get to know someone with genuine intentions and see whether we’re right for each other.

I’m also pragmatic about family expectations. If pretending to be religious around your family makes things easier, I’m open to that, provided we’re on the same page privately and it’s something we’re both comfortable with.

Ultimately, I’m hoping to meet someone who wants the same things in life and is ready to put in the effort to make a relationship work.

If you think we might be a good match, feel free to message me with a little introduction about yourself, including where you’re at in life and what you’re looking for. I’d much rather start with a bit about each other than just a “hey.”
Looking forward to hearing from you!

ex muslim for lavender

Looking for like-minded people or relationship if lucky enough, Difficult to explain anything here .. better to come dm to have a smooth chat. I am chef by profession.

Hi ex-Muslim Women! 👋

I'm helping organise a women-only meetup in London for ex-Muslim women, closeted ex-Muslims, women questioning their faith, and women from Muslim backgrounds exploring their beliefs or identity.

Leaving Islam or questioning your beliefs can sometimes feel incredibly isolating, especially when you can't openly talk about your experiences with the people around you. It would be lovely to bring women together who can relate to one another, make new friends and build a sense of community.

The idea is to have a relaxed, fun afternoon where we can chat, get to know each other and enjoy a day out together. There's absolutely no pressure to share your personal story or discuss anything you're not comfortable with. It's about connecting with like-minded women and having a good time! 🥰

📍 What's the plan?

• Meet in a safe London Location. 
• Head indoors for introductions, chats and getting to know one another. 
• Optional riverside walk to explore the local sights. 
• Optional dinner and drinks afterwards for anyone who wants to stay longer. 

You can stay for as little or as long as you like, and there's no pressure to join every activity.

💜 Who can come?
Women aged 18+ from all backgrounds, including ex-Muslim women, closeted ex-Muslims, those questioning their faith and women exploring their identity.

For privacy and confidentiality, the exact meeting location will be emailed to registered attendees 24 hours before the event.

If you'd like to join us, you can find the details and register here:

👉 https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/persepolis-womens-social-london-tickets-2003302268011?aff=oddtdtcreator

It would be lovely to meet some of you! Feel free to comment or message me if you have any questions. 💜

Hey everyone!

I’m a 30-year-old British guy, 6’4, working in finance, and I’m here hoping to find a genuine connection that can grow into something long-term.

I’m a feminist and believe a relationship should be built on equality, mutual respect, trust, and understanding. I’m also someone who wants to put his partner first, make her feel valued, supported, and appreciated, and give her the space to take the lead. I don’t believe a relationship needs to follow traditional gender roles — I’d much rather build something that works for both of us.

Being ex-Muslim is part of my journey, and it would be lovely to meet someone who understands that experience.

I’m looking for someone kind, emotionally mature, open-minded, and interested in building a future together. Someone I can be affectionate with, laugh with, have meaningful conversations with, and support through the ups and downs of life.

I’m not looking for anything casual. I’d rather take the time to get to know someone properly and see if we have the compatibility to build something real.

If this resonates with you, feel free to drop me a message and tell me a little about yourself. 😊

Looking forward to meeting you!

29 years old. I live in toronto, would prefer someone from the same area or close by at least. not a fan of long-distance. family is pakistani, sunni muslim.

I am an atheist (very much closeted with family), not because i hate the religion, I just don't believe in a god. i still enjoy the culture and i am not someone who has deep rooted hate for it . So looking for someone who sees it in a similar lens, and still wants to maintain relationship with their family.

bit of the fun stuff about me:

height: between 5'10 - 6' depending on how good my posture is that day.

hobbies: big into travelling, sports, eating chocolate. aside from all the basic activities that everyone here does, theres a lot of other things i enjoy, which im too paranoid to list off cause it would reveal to much about myself. very much a type of person down for anything that could be fun and loves staying active.

politics: left, not a communist but wont be mistaken for a centrist either. team blue and black dress since day 1.

job: yes, but unfortunately not gonna be a sugar daddy situation

vices: no smoking, drinks sometimes, no drugs, lindt milk chocolate, no sports betting.

previous relationships: nothing serious

song i have constant repeat right now: tame impala - loser

if you don't like what you're reading, drop a link to your local rishta aunties, somethings gotta work. also pre-apologizing if i take time to respond, for obvious reasons this is an alt account that i dont have notifications on for.

icebreakers so you don't have to put in the mental strength to come up with a opening hi: a dumb thing you have done? or favourite ice cream flavour (there is a right answer)? or we can talk about the economic and political state of the world right now.

Hey! I’m 23, British Pakistani and from Birmingham. I work in a STEM field, I’m ambitious and have a good career ahead of me, but I also love travelling, exploring new places and trying new things. I’m a bit of a nerd, so ideally someone who can enjoy both a deep conversation and a spontaneous trip

I’m looking to meet an ex Muslim guy aged 24 to 30, anywhere in the UK. I want someone who understands leaving Islam but still values their cultural background and family. I want to stay connected to my roots without religion dictating how I live. Being able to travel, go out, enjoy different foods and make our own choices is important to me.

I’m looking for something genuine that could lead to marriage if we’re right for each other. I’m attracted to someone affectionate, ambitious and good at communicating, who takes initiative, plans dates and knows how to enjoy life. I love romance and want someone who makes an effort, because I’ll do the same.

I’d love to have a family one day, so being on the same page about the future matters to me.

I’m open to any background as long as we click and want similar things out of life. I’m keeping this anonymous
for now but happy to chat privately.

If this sounds like you, tell me a bit about yourself :)

Im from birmingham and honestly I just want some people to connect with.

dm if interested.

Hey

I’m a Syrian guy, living in Germany, mid-20s, who left Islam a while ago.

hoping to meet a girl with a similar background (ex-Sunni Muslim)

Ideally, I’m looking for something meaningful, but I’m also open to starting with conversations and seeing where it goes.

If this resonates with you, feel free to DM me 🙂

I don’t really have any Somali friends and all the Somali girls I’m are Muslim and tbh I’m sick of only having Muslim friends but I want some ok I can relate to culturally if that makes sense.

I’m 18 (F4M) , Agnostic / non-religious / , looking for (18-21) male in Baghdad who is a shia muslim who privately identifies as an atheist / Agnostic / non-religious. Online relationship

Hey

I’m a 30yo that retired early. I come from a najdi tribe in Riyadh (Saudi Arabia).

180cm, average build

I usually find myself coming back to the US (i love the US), but still travel a lot and far between US visits and im flexible on where i eventually settle down.

I live on my own and know some acquaintances in different countries. I travelled for quite some time, and I am now looking to settle down.

I busy myself with following finance and the tech world and am fairly active in it. I like motorsports and try to race and get into fun experiences when there’s a chance to do so. I absolutely love nature, just walking around in it and melting in the peace of being there. I have an insatiable curiosity about interesting topics like history and complex systems, although, it’s not a career. I like learning languages and have learned a bit of Spanish and Chinese. And i like calisthenics training.

I am quite reserved and keep to myself, but open up when I feel comfortable. A little introverted, so some contrast with someone more extroverted may be the way. I always think positively and try to be grateful at every chance and hate negative talk or excessive complaining.

My lifestyle ranges from 5 star hotels to hostels, in pursuit of the experience. So i am adaptable and easy going and would want someone that is the same. Especially that i am financially independent but not rich.

\*\*My goal\*\* is to buy a home with my partner in the place/country we decide on and have many kids (4+) in the next 5 years. But we could start as long distance and meet in a month or two.

And i would like to meet someone that:

\\\\- has things they care about akin to hobbies,
\\\\- open to the idea of surrogacy if we decide to go to that.
\\\\- my age or younger,
\\\\- in good health, and comfortable with things like a lot of walking or hiking (I am),
\\\\- willing to relocate,
\\\\- loves travel!

And please write a little about yourself when you message me so i can reply out of genuine interest not randomly

— absolutely non smoking, weed, or any drugs! The occasional drink is fine.

Hey everyone! I’m looking for someone special that could lead to marriage. Someone I can talk to everyday, share memes/reels, music, game together, and enjoy special moments whether that’s watching football games, or just spending quality time. I’m always down for random adventures, late night snacks, and just enjoying life!

About me: I’m 31M, ex-Shia, atheist, white skin, 183 cm, with black hair. I’m Bahraini and Arab. I live in Bahrain and travel to the US pretty often. I’m into PC gaming, football, wrestling, anime, going to conventions, traveling, and I'm really into music! (mostly rock and metal!) I love to share some of my playlists and love to listen to your favorite bands/songs! I would love a concert buddy who’s down to go together!

About you: Must be in Bahrain, Arab or White (American, European, Slavic), atheist/not religious (ex-Shia or ex-Sunni either is completely fine by me!), must be a gamer (I’m open to playing pretty much anything so I’m down to try whatever games you're into!), open to similar music taste (into rock and metal!), into dark humor, confident, open minded, emotionally available, loyal, honest, and good at communication.

I’m totally cool with you texting a lot, long messages, double texts, blowing up my phone, and spamming memes/reels… I’m all for it :) I don’t mind if you’re clingy! I actually find that attractive :) Someone who is completely comfortable letting out their freaky, weird, and fun side!

I’m looking for something serious and long-term, and I value honesty and clear communication. If you’re not feeling it, no hard feelings, just don’t drag it out :)

If this sounds like you, feel free to reach out. Let’s connect, share music, game, and see where things go! Hit me up with your age and a quick intro of what you're into!

A little about me: I’m a teacher by profession, an overthinker by nature, and someone who gets excited about everything from astrophysics and existential questions to Harry Potter lore and planning trips to places I’ve never been. I care about education, social issues, the world we live in, and the little things that make life interesting.
I love travelling, mountains, deep conversations, dark psychological thrillers, and people who have something to say beyond the usual small talk. I can talk about the universe one minute and make the most unserious joke the next. I have a soft spot for people who are passionate about something, whatever it happens to be.
I’m pretty self-aware, independent, and comfortable with my own company, but I also think there’s something lovely about finding someone you genuinely look forward to talking to.
What I’m looking for: Someone intellectually curious, emotionally mature, kind, funny without being mean, and capable of communicating like an adult. Someone who has their own interests, opinions, and inner world. We don’t have to agree on everything, but we should be able to have an actual conversation about it.
I’m not looking for forced chemistry, performative deepness, or conversations where one person has to do all the work. I’d rather have a connection that develops naturally, with mutual effort, consistency, and a healthy amount of teasing.
Tell me something you’re passionate about, a place you’d revisit in a heartbeat, or a completely random thought you’ve had recently. Bonus points if you can recommend a book, challenge one of my opinions, or explain something fascinating that I didn’t know yesterday.
Please be capable of introducing yourself with more than just hey. I promise to do the same.

Hi everyone

I'm 35M living in Saudi Arabia between Riyadh and the Eastern Province

I'm looking to meet new people and make friends and maybe something more if we get along

I enjoy reading books, watching movies and TV shows, and going for walks. I'm also a big foodie and love trying new restaurants and different kinds of food

If we have similar interests, feel free to DM me. I'd love to get to know you :)

I just need someone that I could share my experience with. I might be risking myself of getting a fine from where I live atm but I'm not really sure and I also don't care. I also love watching anime/Shows/movies and am open to being an antinatalist. I also love listening to music (as music is the only thing that has kept me going while being pressured to be someone who I really am not while living with my parents). I just wanted to know if any of us are still active. If you wanna get to know each other or ask any questions, feel free to chat me up ✌️💯

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31 M 4 F

31M Egyptian, living in China, looking for a genuine connection

Hey!

I'm an Egyptian guy living in China, looking for a real relationship—not into games, ghosting, or wasting each other's time.

I have a stable career, and a clear plan for my future. Outside of work, I enjoy traveling, going to the gym, hiking, learning languages, exploring different cultures, and having conversations that go beyond small talk.

A few things about me:

• Ex-Muslim & open-minded

• Financially stable with a good sense of where I'm heading in life

• More of a gym, coffee, and travel person than a party person

• child free

• Looking for a life partner and open to marriage if we’re a good match

I connect best with someone who's kind, emotionally mature, curious, and values honesty and communication. Nationality doesn't matter to me—I'm more interested in finding the right person than anything else

Reddit is really not working well for me at all for messaging, so if it's not too much to ask drop me a message on Telegram, or D.M your favorite way of connecting and I will out to you.

P.S telegram keeps things private too where you don't have to share your phone number

Telegram @No_pain_no_gain_yo

I’m just trying to find other friends that hate Islam just like me but also trying to live outside of it and hang out just as friends!
Just have not found any like minded friends that understand being nonbinary and reason to disliking Islam ! I also hope to find someone that share same creative interests and type of life style!
I just hope to find more likeminded friends
I like gaming , reading , playing D&D, watching anime , shows and also love love alt rock and nu metal!
Where we can do things while also complain about Islam or even the ways that it hindered us in living a normal life and stopping us from so many opportunities in life

Hello, I am a 29 year old woman and I am looking for longterm female friends from similar backgrounds or those who can relate to such background (south Asian, south east Asian, or anyone from a western country who can also relate to this post). I grew up in a religious environment but lost my faith during my early teenage years due to a number of reasons. It’s difficult to meet people like me offline so I am looking forward to meeting some people online instead.

About me:
• I like traveling solo and have been to 14 countries in total. Not much compared to other people but it’s not bad if you factor passport strength in.
• I like reading about philosophy, theology, science and social/environmental issues. I also like writing novels and short stories.
• I like to cook different recipes from various cuisines. I am recently experimenting with the French cuisine.
• Don’t have many friends irl. It can get quite lonely sometimes.
• Listen to most types of music but mainly Alt rock and classical music.
• Can speak Arabic, English, German, some Japanese and French. Would like to learn a Scandinavian language in the future too.

I hope to find someone likeminded through posting here. I am also interested in new book recommendations, so please let me know if you have any suggestions for me. I would also love for us to plan to visit each other’s countries or places or residence in the future if we become good friends.

Thank you for reading this far!