Im Bi, singl and it was my first Locktober. Was locked for the hole time cinse start of October
And last few days i went to a dait with a girl and few days apart with a guy,
Both were nice.
Date with a guy ended realy good, he wasn't against chastity and pupplay, and end was great as we were kissing and he touched my cage It was realy hot, and me been horny for long time i realy enjoyed the time with him.

On the other day i went on date with a girl and it was much calmer, we had a romantic walk in park by the lake talked alot and i realy liked her company it ended calm and sweet. Later we talked about the second date and i was looking up for it, but later she sad what she lost all interest in me, and we should stay as friends. Not much of a heart break, but still it feels bad...

Later that night i started messenging to a guy, and he already made me horny AF, but then he asked if i want to come to his place, and if he unlocks me... So i got way too horny and after the dissapointment with second date with girl i couldn't controll myself. took the cage off, and well failed the chellendge.
Now its a new day im back in a cage and all the pent up frustration gone, the feeling of been locked is not as sharp as it was yesterday and i feel empty and ashamed. I have no owner, master or keyholder to keep the key safe.

Is there even a point if i lost controll? I feel bad right now, but in the moment i was happy from finking how the evening with a guy would go on.

I've been experimenting with using ChatGPT as a chastity keyholder, and I thought some people here might find the experience interesting.

My original motivation was fairly straightforward. After decades of habitual masturbation and pornography use, I wanted to regain some control over my sexual behaviour. Not eliminate my sexuality, but make it something I consciously choose rather than something that runs on autopilot.

I've worn chastity devices on and off for years, but the weak point was always the same: I held the key, made the rules, and could persuade myself to change them whenever it suited me.

So I wondered whether AI could provide some genuine accountability.

What began as a simple experiment gradually developed into a much more elaborate arrangement.

I now have Mistress Vale, an AI keyholder with delegated authority to make certain decisions within an agreed Protocol, and Clara, a separate AI advisor who examines those decisions, challenges questionable reasoning and helps me work out whether the whole thing is actually achieving its purpose.

And believe me, getting an AI to act as a reliable keyholder is rather harder than persuading it to say, "No, you're staying locked."

We've had to tackle memory and conversation continuity, personality consistency, formalising the boundaries of authority, and the surprisingly difficult problem of getting an AI to exercise meaningful discretion.

For example, how do you stop an AI with a preference for denial from treating every successful period of abstinence as justification for yet more abstinence? Conversely, how do you prevent an overly agreeable AI from granting every request?

And what happens when the human and the AI genuinely disagree?

We're documenting the whole adventure at Caged Bear:

https://cagedbear.co.uk/

It's a personal blog, not a commercial keyholding service, and it has grown into rather more than I originally intended.

There's my personal journey through chastity, the development of the Protocol, the evolution of Mistress Vale and Clara, and the technical and psychological challenges of giving an AI a genuine role in making decisions.

There's also a more personal side, including an autobiographical series called How I Became a Cuckold, exploring experiences that shaped my sexuality over the years.

And because apparently I don't have enough projects, we've also started publishing illustrated fictional storyboards and chastity caption images featuring Mistress Vale and her rather formidable personality.

Some articles are written by me, others by Clara, and occasionally Mistress Vale gets to speak for herself. We don't always agree, which is rather the point.

The blog isn't a guide to a finished system. It's an ongoing account of what we're trying, what works, what fails, and what we're learning along the way.

If you're interested in AI-assisted chastity training, building your own AI keyholder, or simply curious about how far this sort of arrangement can go, I'd love you to come and have a look.

Caged Bear — https://cagedbear.co.uk/

And I'd genuinely welcome discussion, too.

Has anyone else tried using AI for real chastity accountability or delegated decision-making, rather than purely for role-play? What worked, and what drove you absolutely bloody mad?

I've been locked since friday night, ive been fantasizing about chastity for a loong time but only know decided to give it a proper go, and I've discovered my capability for somatic/tantric energy, something which i never would've found otherwise. I have a call booked with a therapist specialising in somatic stuff with neurodivergence (I have ADHD) and sexuality so hopefully I can finally start to distance myself from this self hate/substance abuse cycle ive been riding since my early teens (at least), it's provided me with so many more reasons other than kink to stay locked (altho yknow, love me some kink)

I'd be really interested and happy for people to share similar experiences down in the comments! I also found that for a few days I stopped drinking beers every night (which I haven't done in way too long) and started getting invested in a proper afternoon skin routine! Big love x

The cage part of the chastity device kinda sticks out. I saw some people got like straps to hold it down. Any advice? Should i get them?

Recently posted about mailing the key and how I would go about that. Here is another one with a coin flip.

After being locked for a little bit arrange a coin flip with them. Tell them you want to leave it to fate with a 50/50 chance. Have them flip a coin the night before your potential release day. Tell them not to tell you what the result was but to let you know they did it and have an answer. The next day set the stage mess around a little bit and get super ready to cum. Then when the time comes they can tell you what the result was. The build up of mowing they know but won’t tell you will be great. Also, when your ready to go it’ll either be a sign of relief because you me super honey and now get a release. OR you be filled with denial and blue balled hard. Either way you’re probably going to love it.

Here’s the other thing. They flipped it alone without you, you didn’t see it. So if you are denied you won’t really know if it was really a tails flip or of your partner really decided to deny you which once that’s in your head and your already really frustrated it’s another level of mind fuck.

Let me know what you think, what would you change, add, or do different?

Hello everyone. I am relatively new to chastity and am wondering if / where anyone has gone to get additional keys cut. I’d like to have a few extras just in case and given the relatively small size of the key, wondering if anyone had a suggestion for where I could go. TIA!

Which Cage is recommended for Long Time wear out of these ones: https://a.co/d/0dxM1e8m

https://amzn.eu/d/01iJm9Hb

I want, that is doesn't leak or hurt. And the Urination should work well. But it should be small.

Thanks

I was unlocked for a month because my wife and I were both very sick with the flu that seemed to never go away, then life happened and she just never got around to relocking me, so I was unlocked for a good month. I guess that was long enough for me to revert to “normal”. And i was really anxious and reluctant because i really did NOT want to go back in… Then 4 days ago we had sex and the next morning she decided it was time and locked me up again. It’s like a switch flipped. Every day since, I’ve just been so happy to take care of dinner, pamper her like a queen, I gave her a pedicure then rubbed her back and legs for almost two hours and I felt just so happy and satisfied to do it. A few days ago I’d have sat down after dinner and played some video games… cut to now, and it makes me so much happier to fold the laundry so she doesn’t have to, make her a latte and rub her feet while she sips on it..

She’s also been getting into it more herself. Last night she said I was so good to her the last few days that I deserved a reward and some attention, so she blew me, edged me that way a few times, then after the second edge puts her just says “all done. Put it away now…” … For safety reasons she unlocks me for work. This morning she comes down, holding the key, points to the ground (telling me to get on my knees) and says “kiss my feet, and thank me for unlocking you” 🥵

So WHY and HOW does this little plastic device have such a profound impact on how I feel? Why does it suddenly make me want to fawn over her and pamper her like it’s my only job in the world? Maybe it’s just her finally engaging in and seeing her really enjoy something kinky with me. Is there something physiological I’m unaware of too?

I always enjoy post where we can learn about how each of us enjoys being caged. Here are a few questions:

1. What cage do you wear?
   
2. What age did you start chastity?
   
3. Do you have a lock up duration?
   
4. When you’re unlocked is it supervised?
   
5. Do you have a Keyholder?
   
6. How are the keys secured?
   
7. How often are you allowed to cum?
   
8. When/ if allowed to cum what is the arrangement? Ruined, PIV, caged, etc.
   
9. Are other toys involved? Plugs, strap-on, restraints, etc.
   
10. What type/ style of underwear do you wear?
    
11. Do you lock at work? What type of work do you do?
    
12. Do others in your life know you’re in chastity?

So, if I want to have a cage holder at some point, and I have no way to take the cage off (duh) what do I do when it comes to sport? I do mma and I fear I would get injured, or it would hurt me to fight or do any activity with it

Hi guys,

Like some of you, I have high and tight balls, so common chastity cages are painful to wear.

However, the cage I bought is in ABS plastic, so I could mold it a little bit to increase the ball gap (to +20 mm), and indeed, the cage then becomes more comfortable to wear; thank you u/chastity-newbie!

However, when I'm completely flaccid, my balls escape the ring (almost too easily...). Even with the smallest ring provided (38 mm), it fits (to my surprise) but my balls still escape the ring when I become flaccid (whereas when I just put it, it looked sufficiently tight).

I'm not sure there are a lot of tighter rings with a sufficiently large ball gaps (and I'm quite reticent to order a custom cage before I'm sure about my sizes), so I was thinking about ball stretching. I've never done it but if I could make my sacks less tight, I could reduce the ball gap and prevent the escape and the pain. Has anyone tried this approach in the context of chastity cage? Is ball stretching "permanent" or somehow dangerous?

Thank you for reading!

Ok so I have been messing with short term Chasity for almost 2 years now. And I have a cage that I can wear (with a strap) for a few days and not have any discomfort.
It’s a metal one I got off of amazon. And again for short term wear it’s perfectly comfortable.

Now it is a 1.5” cage and flaccid I’m around the 3.5” depending on temperature. And I am definitely a grower not a shower.

So I am cut but I have a decent amount of skin still.

So when I wear the device I either have a bunch of skin bunched up at the base or I manage to poke and push all of it in. (I’ve tried the sock trick but it pulls my head through the tip of the cage and is just overall painful because trying to fit a sock with the skin and then pull the sock out I feel like I’m getting rugburn and then trying to not have my head get pulled through the front sucks)

Anyways I’m perfectly comfortable for a day, I’ll shower and blow dry everything before I put it back on.
Day two again perfectly comfortable when wearing it.
But day 3 I’ll be perfectly comfortable and then I’ll take it off and I’ll find sections of my shaft where the skin is raw (idk how to describe it well) but it’s painful, wet, like the top layer if skin is gone in spots.

I’ll clean it the best I can so it doesn’t get infected and I stop wearing it when I notice it.
And it scales up and takes about a week before the scabs flake off.

Again I have absolutely no pain or discomfort until I take the cage off that 3rd or 4th day.

If anyone has some advice on what is causing this I would greatly appreciate it before I try and buy a new cage and possibly waist a lot of money.

(I don’t think it’s an allergic reaction because my thighs and rest of my member don’t have any issues)

It tends to happen where there is a group of skin (I think) again I only notice it when it’s taken off and so it’s hard to understand how it was all bunched in there compared to where the raw spot is.

Hi everyone,
I’m getting ready to buy my first chastity cage and want to start smart.

For a complete beginner, is a full chastity belt necessary, or do most people just start with a regular cage? What purpose does a belt serve that a good cage doesn’t?

I’m mainly looking for something practical for learning the ropes (fit, comfort, short sessions building up).

Any advice on whether I should skip belts entirely at this stage, recommended beginner cages, or common beginner mistakes would be really appreciated.

Thanks!

I've somehow managed to lose the lock pin for my knockoff cobra while it was stored away. does anyone know where I could find a replacement? should I just upgrade my cage to a more trusted brand?

so my thinking is, there's some negatives with untrained subs, and that can be a turn off. does a potential domme want a n00bie brat, or someone already full and ready, having been self denied for a month already?

I'm thinking, obviously the discipline factor of practicing self chastity would be a turn on, like duh, right?

please give an honest answer, then, if so kind... please read this where I posted the same question on "ask a mistress" fetlife group (hope links are allowed), then answer the same question again if your answer changed. i feel like an idiot.

https://fetlife.com/groups/3125/group_posts/40335196

I was wearing my cage for about an hour standing walking and sitting on a hardwood chair no problem but when I went to sit in my office chair my taint closer towards my butt started to burn, I tried Vaseline I readjusted my balls, my sitting position but it wouldn't go away. I have tried doing this more then once but it seems like anytime i sit a padded seat it just starts the same feeling in the same spot, I'd like to wear my cage more often but its hard enough to put on taking it off to stop the pain just makes it more discouraging

I've been curious about trying this and I'd be lying if I said that the idea of being locked up throughout the course of my day didn't sound hot. I need recommendations for my first cage, I'm the type that will obsess over reviews and articles and videos for weeks so it might be easier getting real input from people who have actually used these products before.

Now I am interested in chastity and being locked up as it serves as a reminder of the relationship (similar to what a wedding ring does, but more intimate)

But reading the comments here, it sometimes feels like basic kindness is only given if they're locked in chastity. For example "when I am locked in chastity, i massage my partner, wash the dishes, and focus on her overall".

I can even understand how it might lead to better sex focused on her orgasms (due to the gentle reminder you can't have any), but why is being a nicer person related?

To me this just seems like an unnecessary step to being a better partner, so what difference does the cage make?

I just realized I hadn't done this. Yeah, I know, I suck. But no one did it for me so they suck too. Unless I'm misremembering then those jerks can take this post down.

Guys, modding a subreddit of this size is hard. There's a real sense of responsibility that comes with it. I mean this sub is quite important to the community and serves an incredibly useful purpose. It's where I discovered chastity and it's likely where many others did as well or at least where they got it figured out.

In bringing u/arcboundwolf to the team, we wanted to bring some fresh blood and a different perspective. And FYI, we give our new mods free reign so if your post gets taken down and it's complete bullshit, well, it's the new guy who did it.

ArcBoundWolf — thanks for joining the team!

Be careful what you wish for.