r/bisexual • u/Potential-Bed9287 • 16h ago

QUESTIONING Different attraction

I know that I am attracted to men as a female because my stomach swoops and I get overly awkward/flustered but I have grown up primarily around women and I do not get the same anxious and giddy feeling that I get around men towards women even though I can find them attractive and be interested in them. Is this normal or is it a sign that I am actually not attracted to women? I feel like I should get the same ‘butterflies’ that I get around men but I don’t know if it’s just because I am not really used to interacting with men as often as women.

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u/the_scapegoat_angel 16h ago

Hmm have you thought about what it would feel like to kiss a woman you find attractive?

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u/New-Guitar8584 16h ago

Same here, except in reverse! In the south here, so there's not many that understand...

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u/wyvern0814 15h ago

Personally I have diffrent attraction to men and women so I would say it’s normal. There were a few years I went back and forth if thinking I was straight and thinking I was a lesbian, but the wavering at least to me was a big sign of being bi . For me I get butterflies with women cause I get timid and nervous but have an overwhelming sense of comfort with my bf

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u/Samuel1880 14h ago

im a guy and its the same. I can feel butterflies wtih woman, and am sexually attracted to women, with guys, there is no butterflies, just physical attraction.

Im so glad to see this post because i felt like a fraud for being this way.

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u/Careless-Caramel-997 10h ago

Same! I’m both more romantically and physically attracted to women, and I can also get aroused by a cute and/or beautiful man, but it’s rarer.