I came up with a masculine name for myself!! Since everyone spams “she” all the time, having a masc name that I like very loosely driven from my actual name makes me feel euphoric! I came up with the name “Link”🩵
I love it sm

And yes, like the legends of Zelda😭 (it wasn’t intentional but AYE)

So i've been on a bit of a self discovery journey this year and i'm starting to think i am bigender. I'm perfectly comfortable being a man (AMAB) but theres definitely some woman in me, i just love getting all dressed up and feeling pretty sometimes! But what im wondering is, how do you all cope with any dysphoria you feel when x gender is 'active' shall we say?

For me, i have a hard time feeling pretty as a girl because of my masc body fat distribution and height (6'3). Obviously nothing can be done about bone structure, but ive been reading a little bit about hrt but then wont i just have the same problem in reverse? A girly figure to contend with when im feeling masc?

Are there any AMAB/AFAB people on here who are on hrt who would be happy to talk about their experience? Or anyone at all who can share some advice about not feeling fully content when presenting as either male/female!

TIA 🫶❤️

I recently figured out I'm bigender. I'm currently masc but want to get in that in-between. Should I try to get thick thighs, muscular arms, or both. I already know I want fat transfers to get breasts and a bigger ass along with wanting to take estrogen.

I didn’t know what flair to put this under so I deleted it and then reposted 😭but I thought this was relatable

I thought I was SOMEWHAT learning to be okay not having people calling me gender affirming language like “boy girl” “pretty dude” “cool guy” yk stuff that makes me feel like both a guy and a girl- and I realized I’m not. My anxiety is horrid and yk what that’s okay. It’s a process and it’s harder than I thought dealing with only being recognized as a girl and only being called pretty. It’s funny bc I feel like no one said “pretty GIRL” as much until after I came out😭. But I’m working on giving myself as much self validation as I can since no one else is. Im starting to dislike posting myself online bc of all the “girl” compliments. So ykw in general if everyone else spams “girl” I’ll just spam “boy”! IM THE PRETTIEST BOY😭💅

With agender people making a large majorty and others that don't seem to understand outside of their own heads (not their fault) I feel out of place. I knew I was a combination as a preteen and even tried mentioning it in the 80s and 90s. Here is a picture of me in the late 70s.

What restrooms are you supposed to use? Do I use the women's restroom when I'm a girl? Do I use the men's restroom when I'm a girl? As I was assigned male at birth, which one do I use when I'm out as a girl? If I use the men's restroom as a girl, I think it would become obvious that I'm not AFAB. However, if I use the women's restroom, I will feel weird even though I probably won't be questioned. Also, do the state laws that restrict transgender people from using the same bathrooms as their gender identity extend to bigendered people? I presume so unfortunately, but I'm not sure.

I just wanted to celebrate. After years of denial and finally admitting that part of me is a woman, I had coffee with a friend this morning as a girl. It was delightful. I was worried I was going to be overwhelmed or scared or gross or even that it would give me dysphoria.

Not even a little bit. It was so happy and comfortable. We just had coffee and talked. It could not have gone better.

Just wanted to celebrate!!

This might just be a me thing, but I feel like when I’m my born persona, with my short hair and glasses, I feel fine as me and ok with how I look, and even without glasses, but when I put on the wig, dress, and lipstick, I look weird. I feel like it just doesn’t look right, my male face on a female body, but that’s how my mind feels. Part of it is male and part is female. But when I want to express my female side, I just look like I am faking it.

I was at the mall once as my male persona, and had my female stuff in a backpack. I almost had the confidence to change, walk into MAC wearing my wig and dress and ask for a make up consultation, but I chickened out at the last second cause I just didn’t want to get stared at or be, frankly, assaulted for what I was doing. I want to be me, but I don’t have the confidence to leave the house in it. I’m not ashamed of my male or female side, but I don’t know if I can pass as female with a face like mine. How do y’all manage? I need a pick me up

I can’t come out to my family because they’re transphobic as hell😭✌️(I’m afab) but not being referred to as a boy sometimes by people is giving me extreme anxiety- sooo im coping. I feel like both a girl and a boy(she/he) And I’ve been told that because I present feminine that’s why I’m not referred to as a boy. It sucks - because when I see myself sometimes I see a boy but in a nonbinary kind of way. But no one else sees me that way. I just always look like a girl to everyone else. Whether I look like one or not I always feel like both and would like to be called both a boy and a girl 🫠💔
I just feel like a girl & a pretty boy.

I’ve been experiencing dysphoria because everyone around me keeps calling me a girl🫠 (I’m afab)and it’s giving me so much anxiety and I finally spoke up about it to my bestf and he said “what if I start referring to you as a boy?” Sooo now I’m just super happy😭

Backstory ig! I feel like both! So blehh it just makes me super happy to be referred to as both a girl and a boy 🖤

I like to feminize myself but I have baldness. I feel ugly because I want to have all my hairs.

I like to shave my beard, wear feminine clothes, put nails polish 💅🏼 and have a feminine perfume.

I still come across as a manly man which doesn't bother me. I am tall and strong.

However, when I try to have pictures of myself as a feminine woman, it doesn't work. I still have baldness and a very masculine face.

I'm okay with it, after all, I am a man. But as for my woman side, how can I be feminine ? I would like to have a wig but it's expensive. Do you have any other advice ?

I'm sorry for my English.

* ...for now.

Day 10 winner (by default):

make the kirbies wear both ties and ribbons
- u/PlayerJE, 4 upvotes
https://www.reddit.com/r/bigender/comments/1x04qol/comment/pehp0rg

I'm sorry that it took me so long to make and post the next edit of the flag. It was in part because I had a ton of important stuff to do beforehand, but also because I wanted to see if... more than one person would comment anything.

I've noticed that my latest posts have been slowly having fewer and fewer comments, as well as fewer and fewer upvotes for the winning comment. Last post only had a single comment, and I'm not really sure why this happening. Maybe you guys are already happy with how the flag looks? Maybe you just don't have any ideas to bring to the table (which is fine, I too am dry as a bone creatively)? Or, as much as I'd hate for that to be the case... maybe you guys simply aren't interested in the series anymore? 🥺

Whatever the case may be, it doesn't really matter.

I've decided to take an indefinite break from the series. Not just because of the decline in engagement, but also because it's taking slightly more of my time than I anticipated at first. But it's also because I think the flag is already gorgeous as it is right now, after 10 changes! 😁

I might resume the thread sometime in the future, either here or on r/TopCommentChangeFlag. But for now, I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who contributed their lovely ideas to make this flag a reality! I genuinely expected this thread to descend into pure madness, but instead we got the most beautiful flag I've ever seen! ☺️💖

I recently did the big hair chop for the “boy hair” I’ve been waiting to do for a long time and got a wig for when I want to be femme. but now that I have the short hair I want more?! Like I want to be a fem boy or a masc girl if that makes sense but I never seem to get either. I want to fully be a boy which I feel like would be amazing…I was seriously considering T this past summer but never followed through because I assumed I would have the same “grass is greener on the other side” situation but as a guy. But now I don’t know. It’s so frustrating and confusing. But then when I’m masc I see a pretty girl with long hair and yoga pants and a cute top walk by and I feel so chud and ugly and jealous. Also I feel like no one will ever be attracted to me and this gender flipping I do other than maybe a pan person who is also gnc but I haven’t clicked with those ppl in my community yet (just started college in new state, haven’t found the trans ppl yet haha). Advice? Knowledge? Help? Thanks sm.

This is kinda a vibe post, but since a long time I feel happy with my gender and looks. I am just lying in bed rn feeling this warm feeling of gender euphoria because I finally got my gender under control. I got an NB name, dress both mask and femme, i got long hair, and I got great friends who respect my identity.
My gender life just feels really good and euphoric rn, and I just wanted to tell the world, and this sub fitted the best. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

I don't know if I'm really bigender because sometimes my genders feel like different people. I'm a cis male but it's like sharing a body with a women that I know will arise in a certain situation. Once I feel like her, I would begin to desire having a woman body and suddenly start seeing the male me as a past depressed version of me.

Once I lean into one gender, the other becomes more and more unreal.

I feel insecure about my voice and body because it isn't masculine enough and I would want to grow to have that body. But, as a woman, it's the opposite that I wish both were feminine instead.

I really would want to medically transition into a woman to prevent more masculinization but my male half wants that. And he doesn't want to be feminized.

They're both at opposite ends of an extreme and neither will be happy for a between. Feeling both of them makes me feel dysphoric over my existence.

They also have triggers (?) that pushes me into one gender.

My male half is triggered by discomfort and arousal while my female half is triggered by socializing and upbeat songs. He's gay but she doesn't feel any sexual attraction.

I'm 17 and I feel like I need to make a decision cuz it feels like neither of us are living our lives. Either way I'm gonna be missing a part of me that I don't know is real or not.