IF YOU HAVEN’T SEEN THE OTHER POST FOR MORE CONTEXT SEE IT here . Extra context I had been messaging the mods a few days back before I made the first post the tonight she randomly unblocked me and started messing me and it culminated in… this… I already had a really bad day bust I’ve never been called evil before… I wasn’t gonna post this but I legit can’t sleep now… lowkey I wanna warn users on a different sub they often syphon users off of but I don’t want to risk being Too specific and getting my account banned…

Edit: tried to add some context but I was over explaining it and not well I think lol. Can I just say as a sometimes literal speaker and understander… I am tired of ppl ascribing malice to neutral statements of thought.

Edit 2: also for the misogyny thing in the title radical *intersectional feminism is my special interest (which also btw is partially why I was so confused as I wasn’t talking about misogyny just the fanfic I personally saw was cool and the game I had played was fun.)

Edit 3: can I just say this comment had me spiraling and in a funk all day along with some other bts drama involving these mods and I just wanted to thank you, the threatened to report me to Reddit for questioning them after this but whatever happens, thank you all ❤️

This was in reply to someone finding out that asperger was a Nazi.

(Yes this is the same person I usually post about)

So someone posted a video of a mom working with a non-verbal teen with aggression issues. She is trying to work on decreasing it with some behavioral therapy and like always so many people were saying the kid needed to be beaten.

I didn't want to reply to everyone so I made one post saying everyone saying that is disgusting because corporal punishment has been proven numerous times to increase violent behavior.

This woman (in red) uses House to source her claims. Then says I shouldn't have been born while claiming to have had a son who was non-verbal as a child. Like how abusive is that? You're saying someone who is less disabled than your kid shouldn't be alive because they are against violence against children (yes I hold this belief for all children not just autistic kids)?! Like under that stance your son wouldn't be allowed to be alive either.

[alt text= red user "Monkey see monkey do. Beat his ass he will stop. There’s a whole episode of house on it."

blue user "Yes, beat him and he learns violence is the answer.

My source: World Health Organization
Your source: a fictional TV Show" Link to World Health Organization Article "Corporal punishment of children and health"]

[alt text= red user "No hit back and teach him that hitting hurts. Teach the child what hitting is. But let me guess you believe in talking thru big emotions huh and you hug it out. Notice what hugging it out does. It’s in the video."

blue user "I believe in behavioral therapy. But maybe try reading a real fucking source you child abuser."

red user "Child abuser?. Let’s see. Nope came from one but I know the difference in teaching them a lesson and allowing them to abuse me as their caretaker with the excuse of autism. Maybe that’s why my autistic son is in college about to graduate can regulate his emotions is verbal when they told me he wouldn’t be. Maybe because I know the difference between a diagnosis and a lifestyle. You dumb twat."

blue user "You fantasize about beating disabled children. That is child abuse."

red user "Where ya dumbass ? Please tell me where that was fucking said? Please. Why because I don’t hug someone being physically violent with me ? You’re momma should’ve swallowed you. Jesus fuck you’re stupid"]

Academics from Canada and Chile, writing in the journal Frontiers in Psychology, said: 'While some of women's cooperation is actually genuinely cooperative, we argue some is strategic, with a manipulative element. Displays of helping behaviour, kindness, and generosity may serve as a form of advertisement of one's qualities. We propose that some of women's prosocial behaviour is a low-risk competitive tactic in which kindness secures allies and reputation advantage while remaining deniable as competition. The familiar expression 'kill them with kindness' points to this possibility.'

This is the video they were commenting on btw

I'll admit, I don't suffer from any of the aforementioned disorders myself (besides BPD) but god, it's exhausting seeing such blatant ableism so often. This person isn't even the worst on that post, they were just the most violent. It's exhausting how much NTs are willing to call for our death for being different, using an entire group of people with that disorder as scapegoats for the abuse they suffered from a small handful of people.

So I go to a day program and I'm one the lowest supports needs people there. Not everyone is autistic, some have Downs Syndrome, Williams Syndrome or other conditions. I was told this girl has "high-functioning autism."* Though I think they only called her "high-functioning" because she's verbal.

For background, my legal name is Toni. I was bullied much of my childhood for having a "boy's name." Trans people have said that yes, my experiences can be called misgendering. I moved right before high school and bullying for my name basically ended. I was bullied for other things but that's not relevant for now. It was so bad, for about two years in middle school I tried to go by Antonette but no teachers would call me it, despite calling other student their preferred names, so none of my classmates did. I eventually gave up. So even as an adult, I'm sensitive about my name. If you spell it "Tony" or call it a boy's name. I get so pissed.

Onto the day program. This girl is obviously autistic, like anyone would tell upon meeting her she has some sort of disability without being told. She called me Tony Randall when I started and I was told she remembers names by associating them with an actor. I tried to be nice because of her higher support needs, figuring she just needed time to remember my name and it would stop. Over time I did say "Please don't call me a man's name." She just started calling me Tony Clifton on occasion alongside Tony Randall. So it didn't improve.

Two weeks ago, she yelled in my ear. This was an accident. She also has issues with volume control and I was standing right next to her. My reflex was to run away from her and telling her to not do that. But this brought my issues with the name more to the surface. I finally told staff about how I was bullied and her calling me a man's name was very triggering for me. While having this talk she came in and called me Tony Randall causing me to snap at her.

This week I did have a sit down. I did apologize for snapping. But I did explain why it happened and my feelings. But I'm unsure how much she understood. She mostly just cried. She might have thought she was in trouble. I don't know but I have noticed she has big mood swings. Like she will be laughing hard one second and crying the next and nothing happened in between to cause that change.

I'm going to admit I'm ranting a bit. I was told by staff that her mother said they couldn't guarantee it won't happen again. Like I get it. She is more disabled than I am but I have given her so much grace when it comes to something that is a sore spot for me. Meanwhile I would never be given this kind of grace by anyone.

*I don't like functioning labels, this was staffs' words not mine.