r/AbstinentDating • u/BeautifulSoul578 • 12h ago

WELCOME! Read Here to Get Approved to Post on r/AbstinentDating (20+)

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Welcome to r/AbstinentDating! This is a dedicated, high-boundary space for intentional dating. We are strictly a 20+ community focused on building emotional chemistry, deep conversation, and real compatibility completely free of physical pressure or hookup culture.

Because this is a Restricted community to protect our members from trolls, bad actors, and spam, you must be approved by the moderation team before you can submit a matchmaking post.

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How to Get Approved:

To apply for posting privileges, please leave a comment directly below on this thread with the following information:

  1. Your Age & Gender Identity (Reminder: You must be 20+)
  2. Your General Location (Country, state/region, or city)
  3. Your Abstinence Track (Secular/Wellness, Faith-Based, Open-Minded, or simply trying to date intentionally)
  4. Account Check: Confirm that your Reddit account is active and meets our baseline requirements.

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A Note on Safety and Conduct

  • Comment Restrictions: Anyone can comment on existing threads, but comments are monitored closely.
  • Zero Tolerance: Any explicit language, solicitation, or pushiness will result in an immediate, permanent ban.
  • User Flairs: Once approved, please assign yourself a User Flair so members can easily see your age and dating track!

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Our moderation team reviews applications regularly. Thank you for helping us keep this a safe, respectful, and intentional community!

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r/AbstinentDating • u/BeautifulSoul578 • 11h ago

Help us grow! Looking for our first mods to help build r/abstinentdating

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I'm looking for a small number of dedicated moderators to help grow r/abstinentdating and maintain a welcoming, respectful environment. If you're interested, feel free to send me a modmail!

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r/AbstinentDating • u/BeautifulSoul578 • 12h ago

Advice/Question What’s your biggest hurdle when bringing up boundaries on mainstream dating apps?

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Let’s be real—trying to date intentionally without the pressure of hookup culture feels like a part-time job sometimes. On most mainstream apps, immediate physical intimacy is the unspoken expectation, and having to constantly explain or defend your choice to practice abstinence is just plain exhausting.

Whether you’re choosing abstinence for personal growth, wellness, culture, or faith, you shouldn't feel weird or out-of-place for setting standards.

I'd love to hear your experiences. Drop a comment below:

  • What’s the most frustrating or awkward reaction you’ve gotten when telling a date your boundaries?
  • Have you found a good way to bring it up early on without making the conversation feel super heavy?
  • What are you most excited about finding differently here in r/AbstinentDating?

Vent, share your stories, or drop some advice if you've got it. We're all in this together!

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r/AbstinentDating • u/BeautifulSoul578 • 12h ago

General Discussion Icebreaker of the Day: Introduce Yourself- What made brought you to this sub?

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Hey everyone! Welcome to r/AbstinentDating.

Since we are a brand-new community, let's break the ice and get to know each other. This is a safe, judgment-free space to build real connections, so feel free to share as much or as little as you'd like!

To get started, drop a comment below and tell us:

  1. A little bit about yourself (Your hobbies, interests, or favorite way to spend a weekend).
  2. What brought you to this community or made you want to escape mainstream hookup culture?
  3. Your general region/location.

Friendly reminder: If you are looking to create an official matchmaking/personal ad, make sure you head over to our pinned "How to Get Approved to Post" mega-thread first to get vetted by the mod team. Otherwise, feel free to chat and mingle here in the comments!

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