I'm a second year at university and we live in private accommodation together (4 people including me) but the accommodation that we do live in isn't purely student accommodation, let alone the fact that the door outside doesn't automatically lock (i'm gonna make a maintenance report for this).

I've tried asking them nicely and persistently to just lock the door but they keep insisting its not that big of an issue. They also keep arguing that i'm lecturing them on locking the door when i shouldn't have to tell grown adults how to lock a door and it's seriously frustrating how they keep undermining our collective safety..

Do i just be really passive aggressive or something? Cause this is really irritating.

lowkey a rant but I'm irritated that I went to the tasters and they made it seem like "yeah we design clothes every week and film and do games" only for it to be like "buy the membership so you can get codes to this club we are going to from 1am to 4am and btw we are dressing up as shrimps so if you don't dress up as one you'll be banned for a week xo"

like just be transparent that its more of a clubbing discount society

Basically it was my last year of uni and I was in the trenches mentally, used to sleep all day, got into drugs, ghosted everyone including my friends and my uni ( bad decision ik ). Finally decided to not let it dictate my life and get back on track. Managed to quit everything and contacted my course leader who I guess clearly implied that it’s too late and there’s little to no chance that any of my appeals would be granted without substantive evidence of a reason of no contact which honestly I don’t have. They advised that I should re-enrol next year but I’m not in a position to pay for another year, this was supposed to be the last one. I’m totally gutted. Although, I mentioned that I have been registered with the uni’s inclusive support services but they said that’s not enough. Other than a prescription from my doctor I have nothing to show for it.
I’m in contact with the student support team but given what my tutor implied I’m thinking I really have no chance and I’m feeling lost. I haven’t started my appeal process yet so any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I'm an international student who has just started my first year at a reputable UK university. My flat is mostly made up of British people, and they've kind of excluded me. It's pretty obvious, as another flatmate who doesn't really hang out with them pointed it out, and I'm really sad about it. I feel I've treated them very kindly and generously, so I don't know what went wrong. I have no problem making friends with international students, so I mostly hang out with them now. I understand that one shouldn't force oneself into a group one doesn't belong to, but I'm just very sad and lost that all my effort and energy has been in vain. My friends told me it's mostly because the people in my flat went to private school and are being snobbish (but I'm not poor, and I speak perfect English). Since they were my first experience with British people, I've developed a genuine fear of talking to them. I haven't told my parents about this because I don't want them to know they're paying such high tuition fees for me to be sad here. What should I do?

Edit: if it helps I’m from Singapore 😭😭

I’m 18 (f) bi and a fresher, I’m pretty introverted and genuinely quiet until I’ve spoke to someone multiple times. I have a couple friends in my course who I get on with quite well. However I’ve never had a real relationship (I’ve kissed/made out with 2 people) and have found myself wanting to try one.

I know I’m not conventionally attractive and I’m a little chubby but I do go to the gym and I am active. Honestly sometimes I feel like it’s never gonna happen for me, thats not me being pick me it’s just factual I look at myself and can’t see myself as being wanted like that.

Basically I’ve been getting a bit down over it. I was just wondering for some advice. Is the best advice for it just to try being more confident? The only time I feel confident is when I’m drunk which is not healthy ha. Just wondered if anyone had any advice, even not about relationships, just how to settle in more socially?

Thanks! (:

This is kind of a vent post but I’ve also got a few questions as well.

I’m currently in my third year of University and I’ve only moved into accommodation this year as my previous Uni has unfortunately closed down, having lived at home for the past two years. I’m currently getting really pissed off at living in uni accommodation.

Genuinely what is wrong with like 90% of ppl in uni accommodation? Why is everyone so selfish and self centred, literally like everyone lives in their own little bubble where they don’t have any neighbours or anyone who might be bothered by their behaviour.

Pretty much every night recently has been hell due to multiple neighbours either above or below me. I’m currently writing this at nearly 1am as someone on the floor above me is clearly singing their heart out and it’s really quite noticeable.

I guess it’s kind of weird to me because I’ve come from a really quiet neighbourhood where apart from the odd house party every now and then, most nights past 10pm were really quiet.

Now I kinda wanted to make this post to get some opinions and advice from ppl who have been in accommodation for much longer than I have. Am I just overreacting? Or is there anything I can do to make my situation any better? I don’t really wanna report ppl for making noise because that feels kind of unnecessary as i suspect you only report ppl for really serious stuff.

I just want to get some opinions from ppl more used to this sort of thing. Are most Uni students really just self centred when it comes to the noise and disruption they make or is it just me.

Any advice or anything like that would be helpful :)

Ive only just started uni its my fourth week in and i’ve probably missed 2 weeks combined which i’m not proud of but its so hard for me to attend even though its close. It might be because I’ve still not made any friends or if i miss one i wont know what goes on in the next and that anxiety of not knowing anything in my seminar stops me i don’t know 😭 I think this is more of a rant tbh but yeah im just really struggling to attend most of them (currently debating on whether to go to todays or not) 🫠 AND ITS ONLY 3 DAYS A WEEK FOR ABOUT FOUR HOURSS WHY CANT I DO IT OMDSSS

So basically, I started uni last month, and I've just been eating tea and biscuits for breakfast, and noodles for dinner or frozen pizza for when I'm feeling a bit lazy, for lunch I just have snacks. How do I eat better? I don't how to cook but I'm willing to learn, but I also don't know what to cook, so I can't cook. I need suggestions, what do I cook? What are you guys eating?

Just thought it be interesting to put this out publicly.

I graduated with a 1:1 BA in Politics and International Relations from a non-RG in 2023. I left university without much of a plan. I had a scatter-shot approach to any role i thought sounded interesting. My applications weren't very strong and I didn't really have any experience anywhere.

I moved away from my family and worked as a Teaching Assistant for a year while i figured out what I wanted to do.

Went back to top-15 RG university to study Public Policy on a course that came with a placement option. Some thoughts:

Overall i would not rank the course i did very highly. I found the actual content we were studying to be more or less the same as i did on my undergrad and to be quite surface level. Obviously there were reading opportunities to go deeper but there was very little opportunity to engage with it in class and class discussions were very limited.

I was fortunate to build a small community on my course of like-minded people who were engaging in the content, but that was honestly luck more than anything. All but one of my friends during my masters were international students, and i'm so grateful i got to meet them. However, the vast majority of students on my course had either no interest in engaging with those from outside their country or lacked the English in order to do so. I had one group project and it was extremely difficult to effectively communicate with my group.

My Placement was amazing but with huge caveats:

• I found my own placement. The course did offer to find you a placement but i got the vibe early on that I would be disappointed if I let that happen. I approach a guest lecturer after a lecture and directly asked them about a placement. Had I not done that i feel i would have had a very different experience.
• Of my friends who were found placements by the University they were generally disappointed. One of my friends who had been a civil servant in his own country, felt like he was doing work he was extremely overqualified for. He also felt like he was being exploited by his placement supervisor.
• I know other people on the course were literally left doing manual labour at their placements and managing a social media page.

I graduated with a distinction and began searching for a job. I aimed for putting out one application a day, so give or take i've was searching for about 5 months. I also worked minimum wage part-time to afford to live at the same time. I had a very targeted, focused search.

It is exhausting refining your CV for every job, writing out statements and in many cases have to rewrite your entire work and educational experience for individual websites. Not to mention the anxiety of having to prepare for a interview.

I eventually received two offers in the £35k - to £40k range on the same week which is ironic. Undoubtedly my placement experience helped me here but again with the huge caveat that had i not sorted out my own placement i think i would be have screwed.

Prior to receiving an offer, it was incredibly psychologically hard for me to justify the £13,000 cost of my masters, giving the quality of the course itself. I'm a home student so I was able to pay that through SFE. Of my international friends who spent more than £25,000 on their masters, almost all of whom were aiming to get jobs in the UK and were willing to sponsor themselves for visas - they've all since returned to their home countries.

I feel my masters was only neccessary because I had completely failed to find myself appropiate work experience during my Bachelors . Of my friends who found jobs post undergraduate (not through family connections) they had all done so via work experience during their BAs/BsCs.

Idk how much longer I (20F) can wait for my meds. This year has been the absolute worst for me I recently got diagnosed after dealing with worsening symptoms every few months for the last 5 or 6 years.
This year I can’t even engage in hobbies or talk to my closest friends. I don’t even care about my studies anymore I just want to be able to brush my teeth and shower. I haven’t showered in the past 5 days. I feel so so crippled. I’m so sick and tired of this.
Idk if waiting for my meds is even worth it anymore and I just want to idk drop out and do fuck all and just disappear.

Not to mention I absolutely love the subject I study, and to think that I can’t even engage in my course is just so disheartening. I was so excited to study this degree. I was also so excited to dive back into my
Hobbies and I can’t even do that.

Honestly who decided to nerf me up so fucking bad with ADHD.

I struggle so badly with getting myself to do independent work so I feel like I will just fail everything because I won't hand in anything on time and my parents really aren't helping either because they shame me for not doing work. I genuinely can't help it and I'm convinced there's either something wrong with me or I'm genuinely chronically lazy but I feel like shit about it either way.

I'm worried about having to live away from family. I'm worried about having to take care of myself because I can't initiate tasks. I forget to eat some days when I'm home alone. Emotionally, I don't think I'll cope as I get lonely very easily.

And since I get lonely easily, I'm worried about what the people I'll share a living space with will be like. What if they're horrible? Don't clean? Are loud late into the night? What if, they're lovely, but for whatever reason we don't click? What if they all make friends faster than I do and then I can't make friends with them because they're all part of a readily established friend group?

I'm so worried. I can't study or force myself to be productive, I don't think I'll cope

I had the strangest situation happen last night.
A girl (21) bought me drinks. She was really nice. I'm a 22-year-old man. She asked me to walk her home. We were both pretty drunk, but I agreed because I figured I could make my own way back and it’s a nice thing to do. Also I lived quite close on the campus

Two girls (both 18, from another campus) followed us the whole way. She asked them to leave probably 100 times. They were also stone cold sober

When we got to her building, they insisted on coming in with her. Which she refused. I was really uncomfortable and starting to have a bit panic attack, but I kept a calm face. I was just trying to get someone home safe. And really wanted to leave at this point

She relented to these girls coming in. She then asked me to come into her flat with her.

I suggested the two girls and I should leave, but they insisted on staying I feel if they were acting like for her own safety they would have taken that offer.

Also she really wanted me to come in. So I went in and got her into the kitchen, she then over and over asked for these two girls to leave.

Once she was asleep (I made sure she got to bed), the two girls started insulting me, and one went to talk to a flatmate about me. They also claimed I was sober, when I clearly wasn't.

She asked me to walk her home, and I did. I feel it’s a kind gentlemanly thing to do.

Also if I’m honest I really didn’t trust these two strangers who she asked to leave multiple times with her alone. That’s what kind sent me into a bit of a panic attack was like I felt quite unsafe around these strangers.

I didn't want to go into her flat, but I was invited, and she had told these strangers to leave over and over.

Being trailed for a whole walk by two strangers who ignore repeated requests to leave was really strange and kinda creepy of them.

I don't think I did anything wrong. But the way those girls treated me has left me confused and really uncomfortable, and I don't know how to process it.

I’m so embarrassed and traumatized I haven’t told anyone yet but I was studying in the library with a friend and she was using nicotine patches. I very stupidly asked for one (never used a nicotine product in my life) and she very reluctantly gave me one. As soon as I put it I felt so relaxed and thought it was the best thing in the world but 10 seconds later it felt like the ground was pulling me down and my head was spinning in 50 different directions. I told my friend this and she was like “just relax its normal” eventually I couldn’t stand it so I tried running to the bathroom but the vomit couldn’t wait and I threw up all over the carpets then put my head in the nearest bin and vomitted my guts out. The worst part was hearing all the people in the library giggling and gossiping with friends then me having to take my head out the bin and walk to the bathroom with everyone staring at me with my clothes covered in vomit and my face full of tears.

I honestly dont know where to go from here I feel like my social life is ruined in uni SO many people saw it.

So im doing a geoscience course and the first 4 weeks, every single slide, handout and note has been ai generated, all the images all the text.

i have absolulutly no idea what im meant to learn because the ai is just puking words all over the pages with no coherence and im getting a little worried for the exams by now.

does anyone know how i can learn the stuff still cause im feeling a bit lost and i dont think i am alone in that sentiment either.

the lecturer said he wanted to try something new cause he is first time teaching and i appreciate that he wants to shake it up but its just really hard to learn what is in the course right now:(

I got a third in my BA. Don't even have an excuse; it was entirely because of handing in all my assignments late. But now I don't know what to do with my future. Everything I see needs at least a 2:2 to apply. Was considering doing a pgce in primary as I have 6 years of experience teaching but they all say 2:2 as well... now I'm just stuck.. what do I do?

I want to have a career that allows me to find work in another country if I decide to move but not sure what to do... wish I could start again, go to a different uni, do a better course but I don't want to spend another 3 years studying...

Is anyone else still waiting for their student finance to be processed? I applied late ish (July), but still?

Just a question for those who are diagnosed with either ADHD or autism.

Does it disrupt your uni life and how so?

Since starting uni, I have struggled a lot especially because I did an apprenticeship beforehand, so I was working and out of the school system.

I never suspected to have ADHD or autism and thought certain traits I had were normal but they’ve increasingly gotten worse since starting uni and it was never something I considered until my bf and mum kept bringing it up.

Also how long did it take to get diagnosed? Because I’m currently in second year and worried I might not get the support needed because I’m unsure what’s wrong with me.

I’m also am aware that ADHD and autism usually gets diagnosed within women later in life. I’m 21.

ive suspected ive had anxiety for quite a few years now but since coming to uni its taken over my internal life. i still function fine- i go to my lectures, meet people etc but mentally im exhausted. my parents arent the “mental health doesnt exist” type but i still dont feel comfortable letting them know i plan to get tested, because i know the distress it’ll cause them(my background sees mental health issues to any degree as a very negative thing despite its prevalence)

im unsure whether i should contact my gp for a proper appointment or go through my schools mental health team. im looking for advice for anyone who has been diagnosed with anxiety, depression or any other disorders since starting university.

so following the post title, i am now in my second year. I got a very high 2:2 in first year exams (specifically 59.47, this does not round to 60%) and had to do a resit even. I got a really high mark in the module i resat in fact and since it was not capped it added to my grade, i received a distinction in that module. luckily 1st year has no weight to our final grade.

but i just overall feel down in the dumps and i wanted to further this 'redemption arc' with second year exams but we don't really have them/they are a small percentage of our final grade and are easily passable to the point where everyone gets 70s and above in them. i just want to prove to my tutors as well as myself that i can do better but there is nothing i can show for it.

also, don't get me started on internships and whatnot, since i'm essentially barred from everything :( luckily, i have no interest in law which i know is very bothered about grades.

i doubt there are others who have been in my situation, but what do you recommend i do to get a 1st or 2:1. this is a STEM degree with essay components alongside it so all advice is welcome. thank you.

Hi does anyone know any good uni counsellors that i can call for a meeting once or twice to review my academic profile + chances for getting in the courses i want to apply to along with assitance for my personal statement. My school uni counsellor is pretty bad since she has to deal with over 100 students and her advice is pretty bland. A lot of my friends have private uni counsellors but they all cost from 2-10K pounds for the entire two years, does anyone know someone good i can call once or twice to just assess everything. I've hear about chat university so if anyone has any feedback on them let me know.

Hey guys! We're building a startup in the dating and social space, and we’re looking for some confident, outgoing students/recent grads in London to help us create fun street interview content!

Essentially, you’d be interviewing other university students on campus, asking fun questions about dating, relationships, uni social life, and potentially even playing matchmaker!

We’re looking for someone who’s comfortable approaching people, has good energy on camera, and enjoys chatting to strangers.

A few details:

* Paid hourly

* Flexible hours around your studies

* No professional experience needed

* We’ll handle all the filming and editing. You’d just be on camera interviewing people!

Ideally, we’re hoping to find someone who’d genuinely enjoy doing this. Should be a pretty fun way to earn some extra money alongside uni!

If you’re interested, just comment or drop me a DM with a little about yourself and I’ll send over more details :)

Hi, I am at a top university for cs in the UK and last year I had severe depression and ocd that meant I missed the whole year including missing my exams and resits. I now have to repeat my exams for the 2nd year meaning I will finish my MEng course in 5 years instead of 4.

I fear this will impact my employability and my future career ambitions especially since I am considering a PhD in an already competitive field. I have struggled to come to terms with having to do another year.

Do you have any advice or experience going through something similar?

I’m worried as I’ve only just started the undergrad academic year, but my seminar tutor won’t respond to my emails about the work.

I have tried to engage with her a few times, and she’s either ignored me face to face, or not responded to my emails. It’s making me uncomfortable and I don’t know who to discuss this with as the all university staff are in cahoots with each other.

Some additional info as people seem to be calling me paranoid without knowing the details:

I have had issues with the university before, regarding lack of communication and support. Therefore, I’m wary that this could be another repeat.

im a first year (F), 3 weeks into uni and everyday im reminded of how lonely i am. most of my flatmates are okay and nice enough for small talk but im really not close with them at all. its all very cliquey and classist and i feel like im caught between 2 groups of them and i dont belong in either. no one knocks on my door to go for dinner (im catered) and i feel embarrassed going to the canteen by myself so most nights i end up buying or ordering food, which sucks because i literally pay for catered. also some of the girls are really bitchy and will hit me with the gen z stare if i ask them a normal question. i would like to preface that i am quite introverted but i wouldnt say that im awkward or socially inept as i used to be - but it still annoys me that i get ignored or shut down for doing basic small talk. its likely i wont get close to my flatmates or go out with them which ive come to terms with but it still hurts when i hear laughter in the corridors or people talking outside my window.

as for my course, ive started to like my coursemates alot and i do feel like theyre my people, but its all early days and im worried they'll just stay class friends and not people i can go out with regularly. ive joined a few societies and had really good one-off events that i think about alot but many of the people i meet i never speak to again despite having good chemistry. i'd also like to join more, but i dont have anyone to go with because flatmates are usually your first call and i dont have that connection. i just feel that im a likeable person surrounded by people i dont click with and ive just been so unfortunate with my chances. all i can do right now to keep myself from getting insanely depressed is to keep myself busy with studying, gym and looking for work. i really thought my accom would be my safe space but everytime im in my room i just feel insane FOMO, sadness and jealousy of what my uni life could have been.