And I'm ready to tie someone down. 🔗

I'm at the point in my life where all I want is someone who's just as enthusiastic and passionate about their interests as I am. Nothing is more endearing to me than unabashedly loving something. If you're that kind of person, you're probably my kind of person.

I'm looking for a long-term thing. Someone to spend my days and nights chatting away with when real life isn't intervening. If you like attention, affection, compliments, deeply unserious conversation (except for when it matters), and that feeling where you can't wait to pick up your phone to talk to each other again, then guess what? You're probably my kind of person.

Me: great hair, blue eyes, a well-kept beard and a few tattoos. Deeply unserious (except when it matters), good at remembering those little details. Musician and creative type with an IT-adjacent day job, with an array of hobbies, interests and kinks you'll just have to ask about. I take care of myself and hopefully you do too.

Obligatory: married, here in secret. Not here to change anyone's situation, just to find another attached/married person. Open talking to people from other countries as long as the time difference is manageable. Same with meeting IRL — if the logistics aren't difficult or stressful to arrange, I could be open to it. I don't have kids but don't mind if you do.

If you've read this far and you're picking up when I'm putting down, tell me what song you can't get out of your head or the last thing you watched/played/read that stuck with you.

married professional with full head of greying hair, average build, blue eyes, who seems to be missing that all important intimacy and craves secret special someone to share all each day has to bring.
Are you a woman in a similar situation but seeks that discreet little extra in life, that secret smile and excitement of a message that changes your, otherwise normal, day to day?
I am looking for just one woman, fun and as open and honest as this whole thing can be and circumstance allows (without creating unnecessary risk). Online or irl (although irl would be the sweet spot for that ultimate experience) and for the long term not just a quick thrill.
I have been here before and have experienced how it should be and crave that again (not too much to ask??), I only seek that one person though.
So if you got this far and your interest is peaked, then you only have one more step to take, maybe make both our time on here worthwhile ……….my chat inbox awaits!

Well we are all working adults so I'm going to cut straight to it no fluff.

28, 6ft, tanned, fairly high up in my line of work, been hugely into health and fitness for 10 years (athletic build, not a big meat head), I have business projects that I work on consistently and if I'm not doing one of those things I am probably cleaning something, or researching (maybe even researching things related to cleaning?! Who knows, don't know where my brain gets the energy). I rarely sit on my phone scrolling so if you're expecting non-stop messaging every 3 minutes ALL day then let me know and I'll pair you with my unemployed mate!

Why am I even here?

Call me a thrill seeker of some kind but I hate the mundane and I consistently CRAVE exciting things, novelty etc (my bank account hates this about me). Despite sounding like an old boring bastard that just works and goes to the gym, I'm quite impulsive and usually the life of the party. I have been in a long-term relationship for over 8 years and the lack of this energy and fun at home paired with a relentless sex drive, the result of the two is what you can probably expect.

What am I offering:

Flirty banter, a shoulder to cry on, a connection, a place to vent, intimacy, someone who will read your message and pay attention, not type as quick as I can as if talking to you is a chore. Excitement, thrill, I want to see how high we can get eachothers heart rate - choose any 3 options. £4 per added extra which is a steal in today's economy.

I've never been one for ghosting, if I'm not feeling it then I'm going to tell you. If I sense you're not that into me or you aren't comfortable, I'd rather you save your time and energy and tell me. I'm a big boy you don't have to tiptoe around my feelings.

You:

I want someone who's confident, who looks after themselves mentally and physically, and who can actually contribute towards a decent conversation and make me laugh. I want to think about you during the day, pretend I need a wee so I can go and text you, smile at my phone while you're updating me on your day, coffee dates in a quiet little town, evening drinks in the best bars before we drunkenly stumble back to our hotel, rip our clothes off, get ourselves a decaff tea from the hotel kettle and have an early night (thought that was why we were all here???)

Hoping for real, in-person contact eventually, but happy online until that naturally takes its course. No rush

Long post but thought I'd niche down to sift better. See, really do think of everything...

Ideal age 27 - 37 (some wiggle room though)

So, 42yr old straight man in a long-term relationship, no kids, 2 dogs, based in Cardiff. Happy for the most part, but dead bedroom is taking its toll. I don’t want to change anyone's situation, just make a new connection and move forward discreetly to a FWB type arrangement.

About me:

Welsh (no accent), 6'1, stocky, bald, blue eyes, clean shaven, no tattoos.
Very laid back and sarcastic.
I work in IT, mostly from home, definitely not a passion.
Creative and practical.
Enjoy good food and wine.
Film buff.
Wide variety of hobbies, interests and kinks.
Very handy in a pub quiz.

If any of this sounds like you I’d genuinely love to hear from you.

Initially chat here, moving to another medium (WhatsApp/Telegram if the connection seems good) and then ultimately a real life connection. No ghosting, I absolutely cannot stand that. Happy to swap photos early on and be 100% open.

Please tell me your favourite film in your message, any message without will be ignored.

Speak soon! x

Okay, I mean, not actually out of my league. Because what does that mean anyway, it's all subjective right? Right?!

I am: not as tall as I'd like to be, but exactly as chunky as I planned 😂 Someone who reads a lot, watches a lot of films, delighted by live music, and wastes an awful lot of tme doomscrolling in between those two activities (My new years resolution to be less online has, clearly, worked spectacularly well.) Interested in people and how they work, stuff and how it works, the world and how it doesn't work. A believer in socialism and class-centred politics (tell me you're left wing and northern without telling me etc etc). Hopefully a little bit funny, charming, sexy, and intriguing. At the very least maybe i'm a good chat pal. Not looking to change my etc etc no expectation of a new etc etc

You are: literally anyone. My physical taste in people is entirely related to everything else about them (vastly either taller or shorter than me usually helps, to be fair). It doesn't really matter how close to me you are, if we are willing to travel or make things work should we fancy saying hello in person. Aware that we both have real lives and out communication will very much be knocked around by that, it's kinda just the way it is.

Stunning, funny, witty, exciting, intriguing, spectacular.. which, if we get on, you absolutely will be anyway.

I think if I sound even a tiny bit intriguing then say hello! Let's at least figure out how much we might like each other, or love to hate each other, before we do anything more dramatic.

J x

Hey there!

I am a 6ft2, White British man, dad bod, bearded and glasses. I am in an LTR, and feel like I need a bit of adventure. She is busy most days due to working hours that make relationships tricky, as I work a classic 9-5. She is working a lot of evenings and weekends.

I am looking for someone to do things with in the evening or weekends, as both friends and an AP. I would love to chat first and build up some kind of social relationship before moving things physical, as I am somewhat Demi.

I enjoy a lot of different things, and while I am mostly vanilla, I do enjoy please so definitely kink friendly. I would love to chat and hear more from you.

I work in Central London, and live in West London. Anyone around the two would be perfect for me.

So I've found myself here as many have looking to reignite something that has gine out.

46 year old male who loves to travel, no kids helps with that.

I keep fit, and have a head of hair, albeit going/gone grey.

Looking for someone who can get me excited again, someone to make me laugh, initially chatting but with the build up of meeting up.

Chemistry is important and as much as we dont like to admit it, there also needs to be a physical attraction.

Just wanting to have someone in my arms again, someone who wants me, shows they want me.

I'm ideally looking for a lady in a similar situation for regular, discreet, respectful meet ups. Just to escape the monotany, put a smile back on our faces, be able to put away the mask and be myself, open, relaxed, and naughty! Connection, chemistry, and respect is massive for me.

I'm a self employed Electrician so can be fairly flexable time wise with a day or two notice. Like all Electricians, I'm skilled with my hands, easy going, immortal godlike creature, and hot between the sheets! What more does a lady want? lol. Get in touch if you're Intrested please. x

6ft 1, full head of dark hair, slightly peppered beard, slim/toned build.

I’m easy going, enjoy a good laugh, and don’t take life too seriously—but I’m also caring, respectful, and know how to treat someone well.

I’m married, so honesty and discretion are important.

I keep active with my job and workout at home.

I’m looking for someone I can genuinely connect with first—chemistry, conversation, and a bit of excitement that builds naturally rather than rushing into something meaningless.

I love touch, teasing, and taking my time to enjoy each other is a big thing for me. I enjoy giving as much as receiving, and I like exploring what makes someone tick.

Non-smoker.

You: fun, relaxed, can hold a conversation, enjoys closeness and chemistry, and ideally in a similar situation.

Hello, gents! I'm married.

Looking for one lucky guy to join me in some regular fun. Applications are now open, and I promise the interview process is only mildly unhinged.

I'm a chaotic alternative woman with tattoos, a few piercings, and a coffee addiction that probably deserves its own intervention. I've done this before, so I know what I'm looking for and have absolutely no intention of entertaining nonsense.

I'm a size 18, if that matters to you, and come with a healthy dose of self-confidence, a wild sense of humour, and a brain that refuses to have just one thought at a time.

I'm a switch, so I can be a little bit of a menace or let you take the lead. Depends on the mood and whether you've earned your place in the chaos.

Looking for someone local-ish, as travelling far isn't really an option for me. Evening meets only, because apparently having a life and responsibilities is a thing.

Bonus points if you're into gaming, reading, or generally enjoy chatting absolute rubbish about anything and everything.

Now, if you happen to have tattoos and long hair, please make your way to the front of the queue. This is not a drill. I have a weakness, and apparently, it's men who look like they own at least three band T-shirts and a suspiciously good record collection.

I overthink everything, talk far too much, and can turn a completely innocent conversation into an Olympic-level exercise in nonsense.

If you can keep up with my brain, make me laugh, and hold an actual conversation, we might just get along brilliantly.

Don't open with "Hey, how are you?"

Please. I'm begging you. My coffee has more personality than that.

Come at me with something funny, weird, clever, or completely ridiculous. Make me laugh, make me curious, and give me a reason to reply.

Bonus points if your opening message makes me snort coffee through my nose.

Let's see what you've got, gents. 😏

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Are you in your midlife period, wondering is this it? Work, family, passing the time wondering what else is there? Probably not as you are on an affair subreddit!! But you are probably wondering where are the guys who can think without their penis, who might actually care about what you are looking for and actually be able to hold a conversation without becoming a horny neanderthal.

I mean I can't promise I'm all those things as I'm human and sometimes I do get bestial and horny but the rest of the time I'm going to be as normal a human being as I can be.

So me, I'm 6ft, good shape all in proportion, tattoos, piercings, love getting to know you and what makes you tick mainly so that when we meet it's comfortable and enjoyable and I'll have a good idea of exactly how to make you feel as good as possible.

I won't be doing dinners and meals, but woodland walks (or chases if you're feeling brave), random museums and exploring haunted houses are definitely on the cards. I'll make you smile and laugh, possibly even scream.

What I'm looking for: 40ish plus (if you're below 30 I'm going to feel like you're dad and you won't get my references, I have enough of that at work!!), living or able to travel in South Essex, preferably looking for an escape from your life but not to change it (,if you're unhappy at home, leave, don't set yourself up with another life while your partner is oblivious as thats not fair), want to do crazy things and experience life, jump to the front my witchy, alternative curvy types, bring the attitude as I'll match it. Lovers of live music especially, gamers are also appreciated

I'm not going to lie, vanilla is not really me but I'm also not full on Dom sub guy, I'm a pleasure Dom but nature and I like to earn my pleasure not be given it, things are better when you work for them. But open to most things, primal play especially.

So let me know the wildest thing you'd like to do or have done as an opener and we can go from there!

Slim fit fair skinned white male seeks female. I’m tested and clean and well endowed ☺️I’m the best eater you’ll ever meet 😋

I’m genuine, real and kind. Happy to meet somewhere public of your choice for a drink. Happy to book a hotel for our meet(s).

Like to take control, be dominant. Dominance is a spectrum and or first meet will be different to our tenth meet (say) whilst we build confidence and find what each other likes.

Outside the bedroom I like mountain biking, cooking roasts and curries, reading and travel - I’m a real person and I’d like to get to know you …

Tell me your age sex and location when you DM me.

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I'm going to be honest, I've found some great people here but none that live particularly close to me, usually just far enough away that it's hard to meet up regularly. Ideally I would like to find someone close to se Essex so fun could be had much easier.

As you can probably guess I'm kink friendly and I've found that running through the woods hunting and teasing someone is a lot of fun, or pinning them down in a hotel as an alternative. I'm a pleasure Dom naturally but happy to explore any kinks at all.

About me 6ft small trim beard, good shape for my age, few tattoos and piercings, everything in proportion. I'm alternative, quirky and eccentric so more of a Johnny Depp then a George Clooney.

I find personality attractive, have something to say and enjoy a conversation. Tell me what the wildest thing you have or want to do

I have no intention to blow up anyone’s life — just here to discover that real rush of passion again.

Thinking of mutual appreciation, flirtatious texts and photos that make you both blush and smile, sexy banter that gives you butterflies, and the kind of connection that has you thinking about someone first thing in the morning and last thing at night.

As for Me:
Married .. happy to a point but something is missing.
5ft 5” tall, gym fit – muscular arms, great bum.
Look younger than my age, hazel eyes, and a dry sense of humour.
After genuine chemistry, not just a quick fumble .. I want to feel wanted and excited again with someone on the same page as me.

You:
Probably taken, but definitely not dead inside
Missing the attention, excitement, touch and spark that used to make life feel electric.. I want to drown in your eyes and feel that genuine connection again.
Up for fun, flirty conversation at first that might lead to more — but only if it feels right for us both.

I’m based just outside Blackpool, but prepared to travel so meeting isn’t just fantasy. I also travel with work fairly often so lots of hotels.

No pressure, no drama — just two people rediscovering what it’s like to feel truly seen.

If any of this resonates, DM me and see where all this can take us x

Completely first time doing anything like this, so I’m not looking to immediately get creepy and start begging for sex.

I’d rather take my time and build something that feels worth the risk. I work professionally in central London, so I’d genuinely be happy starting with a coffee or lunch, (laptop out so it looks like we’re colleagues), and just have a proper chat to feel eachother out.

From there, we can go as far or as slowly as nature takes its course. If that means a couple more “coffee meets” and then a hotel a few weeks later, great. If that means we immediately hit it off and start getting naughty in the coffee shop toilet then and there, then that’s what it is. Im open to anything.

I’m 6ft tall, white, muscular build, fit in shape but not insane gym shredded, handsome face, strong short beard/stubble, with piercing blue/grey eyes. Im the "emotionally intelligent" one out of my mates (apparently) and can certainly hold a conversation (Was a bit of a playboy before my 10 year LTR). 

Of course, everyone’s ideal is to find someone missing the exact same things as them in their marriage or LTR. So for me, that’s the chase, the anticipation, the desire to be desired again, some downright sweaty hot sex and someone who’s got their own perpetually ignored fantasies that need to be explored. 

Looking for married or LTR women aged 25 to 50. If you think we might be an item. Shoot me a DM! If not, all good and I wish you all the best in your search!

24 [M4F] UK — Looking for an Affair Partner
Maybe I’m looking for something I probably shouldn’t want… but here we are. 😉
I’m 24, UK-based, and looking for a woman who wants that secret little world between two people — the flirting, the anticipation, the late-night conversations, and the excitement of having someone who’s genuinely yours for those moments.

Been in a LTR for 6 years. I’m seeking someone on the side.

I’m not looking to rush into anything or collect random conversations. I’d rather find one person where there’s real chemistry and let things develop naturally.
Discretion, honesty and respect are important to me. Good banter is practically mandatory. 😏
If you’re looking for something similar, come say hello. Tell me something about yourself that would make me want to reply.

Hey! 👋 I’m 24, based in the North East, and thought I’d put myself out there and see what happens.

I’m a bigger/heavier-set guy with a laid-back personality, a good sense of humour and a genuine appreciation for a woman who can make me laugh.

I’m much more interested in chemistry and connection than finding someone just for a quick hookup.
I’d love to meet someone I can actually get to know — someone warm, easy to talk to, affectionate, and up for those random conversations that somehow turn into hours.

Someone whose face lights up when they see me would be a pretty nice bonus. ❤️
I tend to be attracted to women with long dark hair, beautiful eyes and a lovely smile, but personality is ultimately what gets me hooked.

I’m currently in a relationship, so I want to be completely upfront about that from the beginning. I’m figuring some things out at the moment and would rather be honest than mislead anyone.

I don’t mind height, race, age.

If you fancy getting to know a slightly chunky bloke with a sense of humour and a soft side, feel free to drop me a message. 😊

Alright, cards on the table… I’m a happily-unhappy married bloke. Not here to blow up anyone’s life — just here to find that rush again.

You know the one: flirty texts that make you grin at your phone, cheeky banter that gives you butterflies, and the kind of connection that has you thinking about someone long after you should be asleep.

Me:
6ft tall, rugby build – solid arms, even better hugs
Dark hair, green eyes, and a grin that says “trouble”
Wicked sense of humour (I roast myself better than anyone else could)
After genuine chemistry, not just a quick fumble

You:
Probably taken, but definitely not dead inside
Missing the attention, excitement, and spark that used to make life feel electric
Up for fun, flirty conversation that might lead to more — but only if it feels right for us both

I’m Yorkshire based, but close enough to the North East, Manchester, Merseyside, Derbyshire, or Nottinghamshire that meeting isn’t just fantasy.

No pressure, no drama — just two people rediscovering what it’s like to feel seen.

If your heart’s racing just reading this, slide into my DMs… I’m ready when you are.

Hey everyone.
I’m a 24-year-old guy from the UK who’s feeling pretty lonely right now.
Life hasn’t been easy recently, and I’ve realised how much I miss having someone to talk to, laugh with, and genuinely connect with. I’m looking to meet someone who enjoys chatting, getting to know each other, and seeing where things naturally go.
A little about me:
🎵 I love music and writing lyrics.
🎨 I’m into art and painting.
🎮 I enjoy gaming and random late-night conversations.
💪 I work in security and try to keep active when I can.
I’m not interested in playing games or messing anyone around. I’d just like to meet someone kind, honest, and emotionally open. Whether it starts as a friendship or grows into something more, I’m happy to take things one step at a time.
If you think we’d get on, feel free to send me a message. 🙂

Slim fit fair skinned white male seeks female. I’m tested and clean and well endowed ☺️I’m the best eater you’ll ever meet 😋

I’m genuine, real and kind. Happy to meet somewhere public of your choice for a drink. Happy to book a hotel for our meet(s).

Like to take control, be dominant. Dominance is a spectrum and or first meet will be different to our tenth meet (say) whilst we build confidence and find what each other likes.

Outside the bedroom I like mountain biking, cooking roasts and curries, reading and travel - I’m a real person and I’d like to get to know you …

Tell me your age sex and location when you DM me.

M4F – 24 | Looking for More Than Just Existing Together
I never thought I’d be writing one of these, but here we are.
I’m 24, from the UK, and lately I’ve realised I miss feeling wanted. Not just having someone around, but feeling chosen, flirted with, laughed with, and genuinely desired. It’s a lonely feeling when a relationship starts to feel more like living with a roommate than sharing life with a partner.
I’m looking to chat with a woman who enjoys meaningful conversation, a bit of banter, and seeing where things naturally go. I appreciate kindness, honesty, a good sense of humour, and someone who isn’t afraid to show affection.
A little more about me: I work in security, enjoy music, painting, long drives, and spending time by the sea. I have a dry sense of humour, enjoy deep conversations, and I’m always up for learning about someone else’s passions and interests.
If any of this resonates with you, send me a message. Tell me a little about yourself, what you’re enjoy doing, or even just what made you smile today.
Let’s see if we can make each other’s days a little brighter.

Hello Reddit,

Welcome to our attempt of naughtiness.

Yes, you read the title correctly! We are indeed a couple seeking a married female to explore with. I appreciate this is somewhat niche but it’s worth a shot in the dark.

We are very open minded and non judgmental. Seeking someone who has a bi-sexual side and perhaps missing that connection in their marriage, maybe you’ve fantasised about playing with a couple, if so here we are!

Ideally seeking a friendship for ongoing fun, aged between 30-50 to join us for some no pressure drinks hopefully leading to a meet, some giggles and maybe some slap and tickle if you fancy too 😅

We’re attracted to someone that we can share a laugh with who’s lovely, open minded and of course naughty. We love kissing and sensual play but also enjoy some dom/ sub fun - nothing too crazy.

We’re both very fit. Workout 4 times a week and have athletic bodies. We class ourselves as attractive and happy to share photos once we’ve had an initial chat to establish some chemistry. Both very sexual and tactile, being naughty is deep within us. Based in West London, but happy to travel.

Like everyone we lead busy lives and professional jobs but will make time when necessary. Please get in touch if you’d like to know more. We both have telegram to chat further.

Here’s to hope.

24-year-old guy from the North East looking to chat and see where things go. Open to anything from casual conversation to dating if we click.
A little about me:
Work in security, so my hours can be a bit all over the place but at the moment I’m unable to due to a few injuries.
Big fan of comedy, pubs, road trips, gaming, and getting out for food.
I enjoy a good laugh and don’t take myself too seriously.
Loyal (ik ironic), affectionate, and looking for someone who’s kind, honest, and enjoys good banter.
Not expecting perfection—just someone genuine who wants to get to know each other. If we hit it off, great. If not, no hard feelings.

Tbh I’d like to meet someone who knows the struggle. Whom knows what it’s like to wake up and feel alone, to feel small cause their partner makes em feel that way.

Age isn’t an issue but please be married, taken or willing to be with a taken man as I don’t want you to end up getting jealous or anything. Also, no preference for hair colour etc.

Drop me a message with a bit about yourself. 😊