So I’ve “always” known I have PCOS and did all of the testing when I was in my early 20. I basically lied to all of my medical professionals and said I wanted to start a family because otherwise they wouldn’t do the tests. when it turned out I needed help in the reproductive health department and they wanted to send me to a clinic I said my circumstances had changed and so had my plans.

when I met my husband ten years later and we were on the same page about wanting children, I told my OBGYN that we had been trying for over a year and they send me to the clinic right away. so even with all of that fasttracking it took us 11 medicated months, ~3 chemicals, one miscarriage to have our daughter.

the thing about infertility is, that it doesnt leave you just because you had your baby.

I was just back from the hospital when I started calculating… so it took us 11 months… next time could be longer.. It could happen right away… what is the age gap if it happens right away… too small!… but what if it takes us again 11 months just to conceive.… it could take even longer..

can anyone relate? How did you solve this for you? I’m 8 months postpartum and we already had an appointment at our clinic. I’m just so unsure when to actively start trying.

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I (40F) had my son back in 2021, right after my first miscarriage in 2020. For multitude of reasons, we didn't try for a second until April 2024. I knew i was getting older but people get pregnant all the time, right? The problem for us was not getting pregnant - since 2024 until today, we got pregnant 3 more times. All 3 ended in a loss, right around at 6 weeks.

The most recent one happened yesterday and this was a gut punch for various reasons, with #1 being the fact that we saw cardiac activity 4 days prior. Going into the OB's office to get an ultrasound that day gave me so much anxiety, I remember crying on my way to the appointment. You see, the 2 prior miscarriages were technically a chemical pregnancy, so I didn't even get to hear the heartbeat. We found out during our first OB visit. My husband and I were so nervous but when we saw that cardiac activity, we knew we passed the first stage of relief. The OB was very hopeful for me - the few things she was concerned about on top of my age were a) I had a polycystic ovary (first time hearing about this! Not to be confused with PCOS), b) there was some fluid in my fallopian tube, and c) i had a degenerative fibroid (basically dying). But everything else looked perfect. I had a pretty busy Saturday and Sunday, I was feeling pretty fatigued, so I took it pretty easy. On Monday, I woke up feeling lethargic, but thought it was the hormones again. I was wrong. I started developing a fever that went up to 101F. I took some tylenol, took the day off, and just slept as much as I could. The fever eventually went away that night and I went to bed hoping it didn't affect my pregnancy.

Then yesterday happened. And man. Did it happen fast. This wasn't my first rodeo with pregnancy loss so I knew what was coming but my body never reacted this fast. What started as pink spotting at 7am turned into a whole miscarriage (passing tissue and clots) by 8pm. I didn't have any cramps. It's funny how even though this wasn't my first time experiencing a loss, I couldn't help but to turn to ChatGPT and Reddit to see if this could POSSIBLY be something else. Perhaps an SCH? But no. I know I am not that lucky. I know a loss when I experience one.

This pregnancy happened right before we were considering IVF. We felt so lucky. I thought since we saw the heartbeat, that meant our chances were much higher. I was wrong. And now, I don't know where to go from here. I know for the time being, I'll have to process this first. But do I even have hope moving forward? Is IVF going to be any different? Do I just need to give up? I honestly don't think I can ever be happy again being pregnant. Because it all leads to this tragic ending. I also don't know how many more losses my body can handle. And the worst of it all, it breaks my heart seeing my 5 year old son play by himself at home everyday, longing for a baby in the house. I see how he cares for his friend's siblings and like many of you out there, that was one of the most exciting things for me after seeing the cardiac activity.

Everything feels raw today. I wish my desire for a second kiddo could just disappear. If only life was that easy. Not sure if anybody else is going through the same thing but if you are, many hugs and love going your way. I hope we all get our happy endings eventually, whatever that may look like.

I’m very much suspecting I have this. I removed nexplanon in August to TTC for another and it was like a floodgate of symptoms started immediately. I have a dull ache in lower pelvis most my cycle and the pain is severe days leading to my period and burns around my c section scar BUT my period is very very light , never filling a pad and I have a lot of brown spotting at the end of this weird one/two day period. I have contacted my OBGYN , I have an ultrasound scheduled and will ask for a SIS if the ultrasound is not conclusive. Please share anyone that has had a symptomatic isthmocele and if there is anything I should know/ask. I know I am not very far into my TTC journey this time but I also have pku which makes me immediately high risk so I need to deal with inflammation issues right away before TTC. TIA!

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Hiii everyone!
I have been trying for a second baby since 09/25. Me and my husband are 27, and we have a 2 year old who we got pregnant with on our first try. I had been pregnant one time before that when my birth control failed. We thought we’d have no trouble conceiving given our age and previous proven fertility, but clearly have been struggling.

All of my tests and his have came back well before my AMH being at a 1.7, which is low for my age. We started seeing an RE and after an unsuccessful round of IUI with clomid, I got pregnant my second round using letrozole. However this ended in a chemical (I wasn’t too surprised, my HCG was at a 7.44 at 14DPIUI).

I’ve obviously been doing a lot of research since getting our unexplained secondary infertility diagnosis, and have been reading more and more about silent or asymptomatic endo. I have some period and ovulation pain, and some pain during intercourse, but if it weren’t for the infertility, I don’t know that I would have known. I have a 3D ultrasound coming up whenever my period comes back to look for any markers. Looking to see if anyone has any experience with this! I have read that silent endometriosis potentially contributes up to fifty percent of unexplained infertility cases.

I had high blood pressure my whole first pregnancy, was induced, then had an emergent C section. I was never medicated for my high blood pressure but instead told I would need a c section at 37 weeks since I was still having elevated readings. I’m wanting to start trying for baby number 2 now that my first is 18mo. I’m stressed about having high blood pressure again in my next pregnancy. Anyone experience high blood pressure with their first but went on to have other normal, healthy pregnancies? Thank you in advance!

Signed a traumatized c section NICU mom <3 lol

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I got my progesterone tested yesterday at cd 24, 9 dpo. It came back at 2.7 ng/mL… I have no experience with this as we conceived our daughter first try (she’s almost 4.5). So many emotions. This leads me to believe I didn’t actually ovulate (correct me if I’m wrong), but I swear I can feel myself ovulating (or trying to) every month like clock work. I have tracked with LH strips the last 3 cycles. Does anyone have input or experience with this?

Looking for advice or hope. Has anyone ever tested negative on 11-12 DPO? But then ended up getting a positive ? I’m very sad right now and I’m hoping I just tested too early or don’t have enough HCG TO SHOW… I’ve lost hope. Convinced I am not pregnant. It’s a whirlwind of emotions. My expected period is the 15th….

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I am 34 years old and have one baby. She was also a preemie for context. She came 6 1/2 weeks early and I’m thinking about not delaying it too much to start for another baby given my age.

Curious about your experiences

My daughter is almost 4.5, and all she wants is a sibling. We got pregnant with her first try. I guess I was naive for assuming it would be the same with the second. I’m feeling resentful, and bitter. I don’t understand how we can spend all this time “trying not to get pregnant” when I can’t even get pregnant when I’m trying… doing all the things. I’m 8 DPO and emo.

2 years TTC — secondary infertility 💔

I had my son in 2020 with no issues. In 2024, we started trying for baby #2. I got pregnant the first month but miscarried at 8 weeks.

Since then, all our testing has come back normal. Tubes open, sperm good, regular cycles, and I ovulate monthly. My first IUI resulted in a chemical pregnancy, my second failed, and I’ve had 3 failed cycles with Clomid/timed intercourse and progesterone. Changed doctors did 2 cycles with him just progesterone.

I’m now 34 with an AMH of 2.83. My doctor wants me to try another IUI, but I’m self-pay and spending $1,500–$2,000 per cycle. I can use that money towards IVF

Would you keep trying IUIs or move on to IVF? I’m so overwhelmed and don’t know what to do. 😩💔

As the title says, I had no problem getting pregnant straight away three times no problem, was pregnant in no time but for some reason I can’t get pregnant for a fourth baby. We’ve been trying for 6 months and nothing. I’m 30 and my partner is 37. Not sure if age plays a role but I’m wondering why all of a sudden I’m not getting pregnant. :/

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Does breastfeeding make TTC harder? My son is 13 months and is a little boob barnacle. He rarely takes solids and I’m struggling with weaning him. He maybe latches at night for less than 5 minutes 1-2x between 10pm and 5am and then frequent feeds during the day.

My periods came back in April and since then my cycles have been 41, 42, and 43 days. I don’t track much outside of apps and my ultrahuman ring, and because I’ve been told ovulation can be delayed we try every day from the first day my period ends until my cycle starts up again.

I’m currently on CD42 and my pregnancy test was negative. The pharmacist told me that pregnancy wasn’t likely while breastfeeding and that I’m either having periods and not ovulating at all, ovulating very close to when my period starts, or my prolactin levels are too high to conceive.

I’m just looking for some advice. We’ve been trying for 5 cycles now.

Thank you!

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Guys so my periods have always been super regular and i use flo app to track them. But lately since the last 2-3 months my periods have been 1-3 days late.. obviously gives me false hopes and i do a million tests only for them all to come up negative and then i get my period 3 days late. Is that normal or happened to any of you??

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