r/TrigeminalNeuralgia • u/HairSavings7911 • 10h ago
Medication Our story
Hello! I just found this group today and want to introduce myself. I am here on behalf of my husband. We are older and both retired. About eight years he wanted to get a snack from the refrigerator. He opened the door and jumped back in terrible pain, bringing his hands to his face. He said he just got a massive shock from the refrigerator. Naturally after that I, too, was afraid to touch the refrigerator, but did and never got shocked. He had had an attack of Bell's Palsy about 20 years ago when we lived in a cold climate, and was hoping he wouldn't ever get that again. Not sure if that has anything to do with anything.
A few years ago he told me he was getting 'shocked' on the right side of his face and could hardly stand it. I could see it was starting to work on him and bring him down. He said he was almost afraid to move. I did plenty of research and figured it could only be that thing called "trigeminal neuralgia." This was when we thought about the refrigerator and realized it wasn't that, it was this.
Took him to the doctor. Since I am better at describing things, I told her the story, that I had done the research and believed it to be TN. She was a real witch and seemed quite angry at me for "making a diagnosis when I'm not a doctor." Whoa! I guess we aren't allowed to try to find out things for ourselves anymore! She all but ignored me, and asked him a bunch of questions to which he answered yes or no. I had also read up on carbamazepine but didn't dare ask anything. She gave him a prescription for it - 300mg.
A few months later we went back and he asked to try the oxcarbamazepine. He did, and he hated the way it made him feel. So it was back to the doctor, and back to the 300mg carbamazepine. That did seem to control it. There was no way my husband wanted to go through any kind of surgery, especially if it had the word "knife" in it.
My husband really wasn't the same on the 300mg. I could barely hold a conversation with him. I'd ask him something and he would just sit there with a blank look. Inwardly, I was worried that he was getting something else utterly horrible and made him go back to the doctor. I hated the thought of explaining to her what was going on but forced myself to. Without much explanation she reduced it too 100mg which he is still on. Thankfully he is back to his coherent self and has his energy back. He hasn't has an attack for over a year.
During this adventure I've learned a few things. Number one is not to deal with nasty doctors -- they only increase the stress and that makes it worse. Doctors need to be trained in how to just be nice to people and not hate the ones who ask questions. Next, TN isn't necessarily caused by dental pain and may not be related. His was not related to ongoing dental work at the time. After going through a bunch of youtube videos I saw one saying to try massaging on the opposite side and showed him how to do that. He thinks that has really helped to hold down an attack.
I'm glad to have found this group and pour my heart out to all of you having to deal with this in any way.






