Has anyone else here noticed how femboys are like trending for a long while now? I see it all over social media like Tik Tok.. the comments coming from "straight" and christian/conservative men openly lusting/fetishizing over femboy content, while in that same breath they shun and hate on trans women. Like their logic is crazy to me.. they will happily "bend" their sexual orientation and openly say they are attracted to a femboy, which literally would make them gay by definition but they draw the line at trans girls... like make it make sense. Unless all these men are actually lowkey gay and prefer the fact a femboy identifies as a male but a trans woman doesnt and expcts to be treated as a lady. But idk bc I see these comments coming from "straight" guys

For context, I am post op and I do not like anal. I never truly liked anal even before my SRS. Anal sex never did anything for me. It was painful, uncomfortable, and dysphoric. I somehow made it work back then because I liked to please my man and it's not like I had a choice if I wanted to be intimate with my man.

After my surgery, I have only had vaginal sex. Most of them also performed cunnilingus on me. Everything felt in harmony. I no longer had the dysphoria or crazy thoughts during sex. I could finally focus on my own pleasure.

What hasn't changed is that it's still not easy for me to achieve orgasm. I had issues with achieving orgasms pre-op. Post op it would still take me a while but I feel like I have different types of orgasms. When a man is very good at giving oral, my legs would sometimes start shaking but it's not the same types of orgasm I was used to. When a man is very good at penetrating me (not necessarily hard and fast. Most men get this wrong lol), I feel certain tingling and pulsating sensations at the top of my canal that is hard to describe. It's most intense than receiving oral but still not the same preop orgasms I was used to. What I call the big O is when I use my vibrator on my clit while getting penetrated. That O is most intense and more similar to the O before SRS, except it felt like the whole region radiating to the whole body. I am used to these three types of orgasms.

Then there is a fourth kind I learned recently. I have a friend I see from time to time. I met him on Tinder. I don't believe that he knows I am trans because he is always careful about making sure I don't get pregnant by asking me to take a pill or finishing outside. The last a couple of times I saw him, while he was inside me, he put one of his fingers on my clit and another one inside my anus. I was surprised that he did that and was wanting to ask him not to. He said that women can have stronger orgasms with anal stimulation and asked me to trust him on that. I was glad I did, because the sensation was weirdly intense, not like anything I have felt before. I was at some point scratching his back with my fingernails because I had no other way to express how I was feeling. It felt like I lost control of my pelvic region. The only similar feeling I could come up with is if you accidentally fall on your tailbone. It's a bit paralyzing and painful but it's also very pleasurable in a very weird way.

I don't think I had the same orgasm I would with my vibrator, but for real I had a different type of orgasm. Men's fingers can do wonderful things when used properly.

So this post is not really about my life as a straight trans woman but my path to feeling well in my own body

Now I know genetics play a big role even in surgical outcomes, but like from the results I see here most results from body contouring surgery (even with ribs done) look extremely natural, like its a cute body but not extremely curvaceous. But then I go on X or on instagram and I see these trans women with tiny waists, big round hips and butts and it gets me wondering what are these women getting done that the rest of us arent? Is it a combining of amazing bone structure and surgery? Is it multiple rounds of body contouring?

I say this because I had a bbl a year ago and even though my body has changed and looks way different than what it was, I guess I just had different expectations from seeing all these bodies online pre op, and that got me thinking about how my body doesnt even cooperate even when I pay for it.

long time stalker, first time poster..

A little over a week ago, I (22) met my long-distance partner (21) face-to-face for the first time ever. The trip was amazing - he is as kind, gentle and understanding as I could possibly hope for, I find him so unspeakably attractive, and he says he thinks the same of me. And, importantly, he really sees me as a woman. It was such a rush and relief to see how our connection wasn't just a product of the internet, but translated into real life better than I could ever have dreamt.

Though I won't go into specifics, but throughout the trip we were intimate on several occasions. I am pre-op (though I have a consultation booked in for December) and am severely dysphoric about my 'anatomy'. Initially I felt too dysphoric to let him touch me down there, even whilst fully clothed - so it was a little one-sided. But I gradually became more comfortable with him, and he wanted to reciprocate, so we tried a few different things together.

In the moment, I felt secure enough with him to try things that would ordinarily have been out of my comfort zone (and I just want to state, this was all self-led, he did not pressure me in any way at all to do anything I felt uncomfortable with - he regularly checked in with me, asked me what I wanted, assured me that he would understand if I didn't want to do anything, he was truly perfect). But now, when I think back on some things we tried, I literally cringe with horror and disgust at myself, like shaking and tearing up with the shame and dysphoria. I've spoken to him since about it, and he's been so gentle and understanding.

So much of what we did was so thoroughly enjoyable for me, and I can't wait to see him again and pick up where we left off. But, I don't know what I can do about the dysphoria. Should I just avoid what didn't work for me? Has anyone else experienced this? And, if so, how do you cope with it, and what do you do differently because of it?

(Edit: apologies - posted several times, as it didn't show as having been posted on my browser! Have since deleted the duplicate posts)

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTf1NsFm9/

First off I know I am beautiful and I know that with or without the validation from men. But having them try to get my attention and leave their friends to talk to me, or me catching them looking at me and being nervous makes me feel cute. Watching them blush and suddenly get shy when I fold my legs up on the couch in my flowly satin dress shirt that I suddenly have on after I find out my roommate is inviting them over makes me feel cute. Hearing them fumble over their words or having them ask about me and if im going to also be at some event or not makes me feel cute.

Having them not obsess over me being trans and treat me like every other girl there makes me feel cute.

Hi girls im curious if any of you have tips for taking nudes to send to guys you like? Ive been on hormones for a bit but have no idea how to position myself/the camera in a way that shows off my curves. I want my nudes to be a little more tasteful than the classic bathroom mirror pic lol.

So im a newbie when it comes to this I've just finally at 22 accepted im mtf even tho I knew since 17 and I wanted some advice...I wanna start my transition but dont know where to start im in canada I know we have alot of resources but idk where to start looking I thought about calling one of the hospitals that deal with trans stuff maybe I can join smoothing but yea any advice for a newbie starting out

Was curious if there’s any girls here that have had luck meeting men (that wanna date) into tgirls in the DC area. Where do you go or where do u post? I’ve had mixed success going to drag show events n postin on Reddit. Thank u!

I have to vent a bit. Or maybe ask some advice. I'm at an impass in dating and its so frustrating. I started dating in July this year after being single for almost 7 years (mid 30s). I use bumble, other apps don't have many people on in my countrey or don't work well for me. Had a couple of dates (like 7 guys so far), none of them worked out for various reasons. One was overwhelmed by his own stuff, the other was poly, one was too slow for me, one I didn't have feelings for...

But since September it feels like my luck ran out. Every guy I match with, I ask them if they read my bio. First sentence is "I'm a trans woman". Since September I only get unmatched or ignored. I have so many likes on bumble but it's so frustratingly useless because apparently I pass well enough in pictures but these men can't commit to a trans woman. Or read a simple sentence...

Yesterday I matched with a guy. Bumble says he doesn't match with lots of people so I get my hopes up. I ask him "before we chat on, did you read my bio?" and go to bed. I wake up and he sent a reply and unmatched right after, so I cant even read the reply. He was exactly my type (tall, bearded, hairy, super nerdy, kinda chubby) so it's just extra frustrating.

It's so frustrating at the moment. I haven't been in a relationship for almost 7 years (pre transition) and I'm honestly also just getting frustrated because I MISS cuddling and having sex. And I'm demi, so I can't just have one night stands. I get feelings too quick, too. I'm too sensitive for all of this online dating bullshit. And the fact that I seem to pass well enough in my pictures for the men who match with me to run away as soon as I say the word trans is super frustrating. Bc I want a BF who knows about this and loves me just the same. I can't handle trying to be stealth in a relationship, i dont think it'd even work. But even if, I couldn't do it anyways.

Am I just being impatient? I met a lot of guys in July and August, I know 7 guys in 2 months is lots. Maybe I just have too high expectations? How are you handling this? Are there other ways of meeting guys I didn't think about? (I don't love going out, I'm introverted and slightly socially anxious.) Happy for any suggestions, even if it's just reassuring me, that I gotta be more patient.

Seriously, the sticky is 4y old with a crazy amount of chasers.

No account limits are set so the new accounts can just come in with this trash. ​​​

As do bait-accounts from the phobes.​

Automod could easily be programmed to at least solve the problem partially. ​​​

[Posted some of this before but it was a part of a larger sad drunk vent so this is better]

For me personally, I don't think I have really any discomfort around my genitals other than like insecurity I guess? Like mostly around the fact that having them might seem weird to others and particular aspects of them currently appearing pretty masculine. If feminization changes them enough, I might feel better about them though, so all the pain, risks, and potential regret of bottom surgery would just not be worth it where I am right now. Yet, I still can't help but feel envious when cis girls talk about being eaten out. It just seems like such a special and unique female experience that I will probably never have and can't really emulate in a satisfactory way. Usually I'm pretty "service" when it comes to sex, like I don't care if I cum or whatever and I just want the guy to enjoy himself, but I think I would be able to be less (for lack of a better term) "selfless" if this was a possibility, which would be nice for a change.

I'm on this sub quite often and notice a lot of sadness and negativity being vented here. I think it's important for us to have a space for us to voice our frustrations, but misery loves company and we do need balance in all things.

For those of you who were struggling in terms of dating and finding male partners and then found success, what's your story? What did you change up that yielded different results? How did you make it happen? Please be as specific and detailed as possible.

Personally I'm taking a step back from dating right now. After being single for a long time I put a lot of effort into it only to burn myself out and not have much to show for all the energy spent. So I'm taking this time having stepped back to try and see what I can learn from those who have succeeded where I have not.

So, a girl's been struggling with loneliness for a long time. I've been on all the apps, but I can never seem to find a guy who is genuinely interested in me or wants to get to know me. I've never been on a date, and I'm not afraid to ask a guy out, but at the same time, I am? Dating apps are sketchy, and I have the crippling fear of getting hurt by some dude I meet up with. I guess my question is, where are you dolls going to find an actual connection? I don't do clubs or bars, and I'm not a very extroverted person. Am I looking in all the wrong places?

I have a consultation scheduled in February with Dr. Meltzer. I think I'm going to go with a standard penile inversion. I thought about doing other methods, like colon. I really do want to have the self lubrication so it can function more like a cis vagina. But I have hEDS, IBS, pelvic floor issues, I've had two hernias, and I have an abdominal diastasis, so I wonder if it would be too risky. I suppose if I get PIV surgery and hate it, I could always get a revision, right? Idk. I just want to have a vagina that my boyfriend can fuck me in that'll get me off, and if I have to use lube that's not the end of the world, right? I just don't know other straight trans girls IRL who've done this before so I don't have anyone to talk to about this.

P.S. if you're a lurking cis man, please do not dm me.

im pretty new on hrt. got my degree and now im looking at jobs. sliiiight hiccup, what to do with the whole job thing? do i say im a trans woman? is that an instant rejection? its the uk so :/ i dont think im even a protected class anymore. my degree is in the new girl name though so... ill have to explain that to hr when im being hired but it hopefully shouldnt be an issue?

or do i just show up as my girl name but he/him? or spring a brand new transition onto them once theyre interested in hiring me or have hired me or aaaaa idk stressy.

like obvi im boymoding till i pass consistently but..ah. hard one for these upcoming years

I am 19 and ive had a situationship-esque relationship with this also 19 year old dl guy for like 3 months. It's mostly been hooking up and talking about our lives and it's been nice. I am very very aware that a dl man will never be the one and I never plan on marrying him but I'm only my mother's daughter so when he started dropping love you's I fell for them.

Like 2 weeks ago, out of the blue he dropped a bomb text saying "talk soon, don't message till then" and then blocked me on everything we talk on. I've been mostly just trying to continue living life pretending I didn't just get thrown out like garbage by the same man who like a month ago was talking about taking me on a hypothetical yacht to the Bahamas.

Again girls I must preface I see no good ending with him but I also don't want this to be the end end so tell me do y'all think he'll ever come back some day? From what I know about him he is kinda DL by force as he said his mother goes through his phone a lot which ngl ick ur a grown man but whatever. I also very quickly clocked he is textbook avoidant, like going a week without talking after booking up type avoidant and if you haven't figured by my cadence I am incredibly anxiously attached

I'm just like no shade I doubt he's gonna find many other people that are willing to um.. accommodate his sexual kinks like I did. Again this whole body of text makes me sound self sabotaging but I genuinely just wanted some fun summer fling love yk? I am aware he's a loser zont worry that's why I'm taking my thoughts here instead of a burner phone and calling him cause I know a bit of my self worth.

I don't understand. I pass decently well, I'm open about being trans on every app, but the only men who send me likes are chasers, or, people who didn't read my profile and unmatch me the moment I say I'm trans.

I'm so tired of this.

Didn’t disclose to him prior to the date, got in his car, 3 minutes into us interacting he asks “have you ever been a guy before?” i say no (i lied) and i’m like “do i look like a guy to you?” and he was like “kinda” and then he takes me back to my home where he picked me up from cuz he doesn’t want to be seen with me in public…and that was the end of the date. proceeded to cry myself to sleep. no more dating guys, no more being involved with guys at all, i’m done. only gonna be involved with women from now on. at least i didn’t get hurt physically or killed, so i guess it could’ve been worse, “thanks for not killing me bro”

I have this guy. We started out as friends and he soon showed his appreciation for me. It’s been months. We’d walk every week. Then we started going to the cinema, cafes. He said he liked me and had feelings but I wanted to be careful.

At fourth month we kissed the first time. He would pay for me everywhere and acted like a boyfriend. Lately he suggested a trip to the mineral resort here in the mountains. He said he’d pay everything and even suggested an option to have two separate rooms. I said one room will do it…

I’m a good girl but sometimes can be a very strict and capricious person.
He takes it as a hero. He’s open to solve and fix things.

In the past I’d chase guys who I adored physically. Like a tall guy with grey eyes and wow. Then my teacher told me I’m almost 30 and settling down would be great with a guy who understands me and respects, not the tall guy with golden curls. Maybe she’s right.

So we go to this mineral water resort. How do I act soft and nice to him? I’m so overwhelmed and stressed out so he always sees me tense. I might have sex with him there but you won’t go into deep emotional relationship only with that.

I am both Excited and Nervous as hell for this.

So I plan on having a bilateral orchiectomy about this time next year. I have the Doctor, and the beginning stages of a pre surgery plan. Finances, recovery time, letters ect. Well the finances are coming together, I have a loose schedule for the letters, and have been ok’d for the time off from work for recovery. The little things to be healthier are coming along as well. Well Yesterday I called the Surgeons office and asked if I should be starting HRT now, or hold off on it until after the surgery and they gave me a nice honest answer. We aren’t really sure, and you should reach out to an endocrinologist for better and more specific answers. Well I tried to find one, but 4 out of 5 that I called that had decent reviews, didn’t have an opening for at least 3 months. Which as you know just sux. So after digging around I found that Planned Parenthood offers gender affirming care, including HRT. So I made an appointment and was able to get into see a wonderful NP today. She listened and heard what I was saying and said that yes I should be starting my HRT NOW. Asked hard to answer questions, not because of shame, or embarrassment, but because the answers were complicated, or at least to me they were. So long story short I was prescribed Estradiol and Spironolactone today.

Here’s to all you girls that are well into your own journey, just starting it, or waiting to start. Know that patience (as hard as it is to be), will be your best friend.

I bumped into this guy a couple times when going out and talked with him and kissed, and had sex once after clubbing but it was very spontaneous and don't know for sure if it will lead somewhere.

I posted this post here about him before we had sex, you can read it for more context

He told me afterwards he wanted to see me again and asked if I was going to this clubbing street the next day, I told him that I couldn't because I was going away on a weekend with friends. He told me he was going away on holiday to his parents' province in Turkey, so we couldn't see eachother for a while. Now he's on a two month vacation and I don't know when he'll back, so I can't get any closure about our potential so I keep fantasizing about him and I'm sick of it.