Hi all. So my husband is a tier 2 RSO in Delaware, and we are currently living with my parents. We are hoping to move out asap. We’ve been working with a realtor and lender to try and buy a house. But right now, we both work part time (I also have a side business), and lenders want to see a FULL time job. So I’m at a point where I’d rather just rent a place if it means we can move. Together we pull in just about 3x the rent for most places. However, I start to get anxiety when I’m looking at properties and they mention a background check. Even if I were to put the rental in my name, I’m nervous about what might follow due to his charges. I fear neighbors, because with Megan’s law they get a flyer with his face and address. I guess I just need to prepare myself for rejection, but I’m wondering if anyone else in Delaware has had success in renting? Heck, even buying experiences would be helpful.

Thanks in advance.

Is anybody here in the IBEW? I’m trying to get in and just wondering if my record is gonna haunt me.

Hi, I was wondering if anyone had any experience in AZ state prisons? I am getting sentenced relatively soon, with my deal looking like a 10 year sentence. I understand I’d likely go to Yuma or Eyman where they have the dedicated SO medium security units. How’s life in these units? I heard there’s still a fair amount of politics in there to watch out for, but I only hear that from other none SO ex prisoners. Are they places where you can keep your head down and do your time? Is there any weird things to prepare for? How can I best prep for this sentence outside of the obvious basics of prepping for prison life.

Thank you in advance!

My common-law wife is moving from NY to FL. I have support in FL if needed. Are there any communities in those two areas that are RSO-friendly ? I'd prefer not living in a RSO community or under a bridge. I'm not on parole or probation. I have no issues with the NYS SOR nor have I missed a single 90 day update.

This may be of interest for those who are veterans

https://www.military.com/supreme-court-hears-case-of-jailed-veteran-challenging-va-claims-appeals-process

Is there any places in Orlando fl that accepts rso??

My friend was sentenced

So October 1st, my friend was sentenced to 15 years in TDCJ, with 7 years serve for chance of parole on a CP possession state charge. I'm still in shock, and trying to go through everyday with a smile knowing I'll see him again, but I can't help but worry. This is my best friend/roommate.

He's currently in Denton county jail at the moment, and we've been talking everyday whether it's calls or the texts they can send. I worry about his wellbeing given his case. He's looking into signing up for the SOPT to better himself and to possibly be housed in a unit (upon transfer from county to TDCJ) with sex offender housing.

That said, could anyone share their experience in one of these facilities? What can the family do for him? What are some good coping mechanisms to avoid madness for both his family/friends and himself? Anything positive he can do? I want to hear any negatives, but I want to give him solid advice to ease his nerves. I know the prisons are far different than they were 7 years ago, but I just....can't do anything but worry myself sick. I need tips, guidance really.

I am trying to help my nephew find a job and hope someone can provide some suggestions. We're already working with the state employment office, temporary agencies, and Goodwill. He is not Native American.

He lives in Muskogee, Oklahoma, but we are working to get him a car so that he can drive to Tulsa and the surrounding areas. He is a tier 3 violent registered offender. He worked for an industrial cleaning company for several years but lost his job when they lost their cleaning contract. The newly selected company did not hire offenders. In the past, he has worked in beverage bottling plants. He interviews extremely well, gets hired, and then the offer is withdrawn when the background check is completed. Unfortunately, he also has congestive heart disease. Although he is able to do the typical type of labor that you would see in manufacturing or cleaning, intense physical labor on a regular basis is not possible. Any suggestions are welcome, and thanks for your help.

Does anyone know if any of these places will hire a RSO? I have some interviews set up for management positions.

Also just wanted to share. I received an offer today from Ashley Furniture which is owned by Regency for a sales position. After I told the recruiter that my background check will show I'm a RSO she checked into the company policy and she had to refund the offer. That stung....so just note it will be a no go with this company.

Thanks for the feedback!

I recently was removed from SO probation, and am a level 1. I am trying to report an email address to DCJS per SORA regulations and they are not explaining to me the proper way to go about doing this. Is there a form? Do I just write it on a piece of paper? I am very confused. Can anyone who has gone through this process explain what steps I need to take?

I have tried doing my own research and am still having trouble. I dont understand the way insurance works and just want to choose a provider that will be accepted. The places I have called said they dont accept Molina which is what I have currently. Any relevant information would be appreciated please and thank you in advance.

First time posting. As the title says im looking for housing in indiana. If anyone has an aids or helpful sources. Im also looking for prrivate landlords but they are hard to come by. I was convicted in 2023 for possession of child pornagraphy. No longer on probation. Any help or advice in the search is appreciated.

Very excited to share my experience with a recent international travel vacation. Here is everything I did to prepare, execute, and come home. For context I live in Wisconsin. Convicted in 2001. Discharged from probation and parole in 2014. Convicted of 2nd degree SA of a child.

I notified my local reporting agency of my trip about 28 days in advance. I included every flight number and time. And every hotel address and phone number of places I would be staying. I was required to give my passport number and reason for traveling.

I called the airline to verify I was allowed to go. I do have the updated passport with the IML stamp. I flew Turkish airlines. They said I was free to fly on their airline.

I flew out of ohare Chicago. Showed my passport to the Turkish airlines counter and checked my bags.

I had a layover in Istanbul and a plane change. However, I never had to switch terminals just gates. And never had to leave the airport so there was no passport control or additional security checks.

I boarded my flight and landed in Paris. We de boarded and went through passport control. They are using the EES system, this means I scanned my passport at a kiosk. Moved into the next turnstile. They took a photo, and I was on my way to get my bags.

That was it. Went to the hotel And started the vacation.

Half way through we took a plane (Easyjet which is their version of southwest) to Rome. No passport control. It’s basically a domestic flight so just like flying state to state in the US. Same thing flying back to Paris.

Flying home was also smooth. I did the same flights in reverse. Paris to Istanbul. Istanbul to Chicago. Once I landed in Chicago, I went to passport control. They took my photo then moved me to officer #2. He asked me about large purchases. Why I went. I answered, he told me I had to speak to another officer. That officer came, led me to the secondary screening room where I sat for no more then 3 minutes. They called my name, returned my passport and and a form and said I was good to go. I went, got my bags, linked back up with my wife and we went to customs. They took the form I was given and asked us again about purchases. Big items. Food etc. told us to take a seat. 2 minutes later they gave us the form back and told us we could go.

That was it. We left and drove home.
I was in Europe for 13 days total. Thank you for all the advice. It was a trip of a life time and felt amazing to be able to go!

I’ve been out of prison since 2017, and have been trying to find a job environment I like. I’m a 47yo male, locked up from 2009-2017, and released from parole 2022. Before prison I was doing manual software testing and IT helpdesk. I’m currently employed doing really simple work; labeling cables, installing equipment into server racks and sometimes going to a data center to rip out or install cables. Currently I’ve been at this job for 2 years and there seems to be no room for growth or advancement.

Since being out of prison I’ve also worked in warehouse manual labor, medical device automation machine operator, car manufacturing assembly line and office manager.

I want to start looking for another job because I sit and don’t do much during the day. I wait until the lead gives me work. With my mental health issues while I’m waiting I can’t focus on other tasks such as reading a text book or learning something new, so I doom scroll until I’m assigned work.

Any ideas for jobs that pay more than $26/hr that might hire an aging RSO? And btw, this current job didn’t do a background check that included the registry.

I got my Class A CDL license in the fall of 2024, but have not been able to find a job due to being a registered offender. Anyone know of any offender friendly CDL employers in or around Randolph County WV?

I'm looking to get in to the mental health career path and am looking for any advice. I'm looking in to getting my CRSS while actively in school to get my associates eventual bachelor's degree, masters and hopefully eventually my phd. Does anyone have and advice or expierence in this? I was 12 at the time of my adjudication and am currently almost 31. I live in Illinois but my record was from Washington state and is sealed there but since I moved to Illinois they require life time registration. Thanks in advance if you can give info or cant.

Hi, I have a close friend who is due to finish their time (2 months left of 5 years) on the Sex Offender Registery in Queensland, Australia, barring any new legislation that might extend his time on it.

I was wondering if there are any Aussies that might have some idea on what he will expect to happen coming up to or the last day.

I assuming that he isn't going to get a framed award, but do they come and visit him, or does he just get a phone call or does he have to come down to his local station to sign off on something.

He has Autism, anxiety, depression and has Agoraphobia due to locking himself away at home due to shame, self-hatred, and anxiety. I'm asking for some information as he's very confused, worried, and anxious about the whole process, and I'd like to have some answers to help him with his anxiety.

son forgot his reregistry date and was arrested Im being told even though he was wearing his ankle monitor and compliant in every other way it doesn’t matter He’s being held in jail with no access to phone and I have no way of knowing anything I’m terrified Probation officer says there is nothing they can do and now he is facing parchman prison I need advise I do not have the money for a lawyer

thank you

I am an adult child of a man who is currently being charged - I'm not 100% sure of what the exact charges are going to be, but he's admitted to soliciting to minors and exchanging photos. My family is reeling from this and we currently feel very isolated.

This man was a great father and grandfather. He did fall into alcoholism about 10 years ago, and fell even deeper about 5 years ago, but had recently been showing signs of progress. Finding out he has been speaking to children inappropriately was not on anyone's bingo card, despite all of his faults.

My family has been traumatized by everything from the no-knock warrant equipped with flash bangs and dogs, to him attempting to unalive himself while I stood in front of him. My mom has been so strong for all of us, I have been a neurotic mess, my sister is somewhat detached, and my brother has gone completely silent. We are all concerned about the future, our reputations in our community, and how we are going to break this news to his grandchildren. My daughter, in particular, is 14 - the age of the girls my father was speaking to. This is the part I'm struggling with the most, aside from mourning the loss of my father, who still has a heartbeat.

I'm angry, sad, confused, and sickened by all of this, not just for my family, but also his victims. He stole something from all of us that we can never get back...the innocence of the girls he took advantage of, the upstanding grandfather that was teaching our kids about the planets and music, the father that helped fix cars and rescue us when we were in trouble, and the husband that helped my mom build a life together with the hopes of retiring and enjoying their senior years.

In saying all of this, I have not been able to find a group that caters to the families of the perpetrators. I have looked into the Fearless Project and a few others that come up, but finding local groups has been difficult. At this point, I'll take whatever advice I can get...whether it's here on Reddit or some other online group. If anyone has any guidance, it would be greatly appreciated.

Anyone know anyone at Kraft so my partner can get an interview? He’s applied countless times and has incredible management and team experience but I was told you need to know someone to get an interview there. Because of his past this would be a great foot in the door as we know they hire with his background.

Hello everyone. I recently got discharged from prison for a level 3 violent crime and I'm having trouble securing full time work in the OKC area. I was hoping someone here might have any kinds of leads. Everywhere I've interviewed tells me I don't pass the background check or they don't have any positions open at the moment. I have years of experience in general labor warehousing as well as inventory control and clerical work inside a warehouse. Any ideas are welcome!

My partner was recently charged with possession of CSAM. One count, 5th degree felony charge. Police came and raided our house, guns drawn, shields up, the whole nine yards. The event still lives in my nightmares. My partner was at work, and they picked them up there.

Apparently they got the initial tip years ago. I bonded my partner out. I thought it was all some misunderstanding. I've come to find out it was not. This was a thing they'd been battling against. A porn addiction that led them to engage with some dark places online.

It was in finding out about this that I also found out about my partner's history of sexual trauma, starting from when they were young.

We notified their only relative in town. That relative isn't super willing to offer help. I think he figures that I'll handle things so he doesn't have to. If I told him I wasn't, maybe he'd step in to help, but I'm not sure.

I am trying to sort out my thoughts. The feelings of betrayal. The way my relationship, my best, most happy, most safe relationship, had crumbled around me out of nowhere.

I have only told a couple of people in my life. I wish I hadn't. I was just so panicked and I didn't know what was going on in the initial aftermath of the raid. Most of them, my therapist included, say I should kick my partner out of my house ASAP. I don't know how to make someone I love homeless. They lost their job, or are at least on hold for the time being, since they missed work due to the arrest.

This feels like a magnification of the main recurring problem in our relationship. We come from very different backgrounds. I went to college, and I've owned a house for a while now now and have always maintained jobs long-term. I'm fairly well-known in my community, and I fear jeopardizing the life I've built. They've had multiple job losses in our time together. They don't have a car and can't drive. If I wasn't the stable one, we wouldn't be able to stay above water. Which isn't to say they don't support me. They have provided a space that feels safe and compassionate, they have taken care of me a lot, especially as I've navigated chronic physical and mental health issues. They're my best friend. I pictured so many futures, all of which involved us together. Even with the times between jobs, I've always been fairly understanding, given the privileges I've had through my life that they didn't have, and the differences in how my workplace treats me versus how their workplaces have treated them. I just wanted to provide what I could so they could get stable, get their feet under them, and become self-sufficient. Now it feels like that might never happen, especially with this on their record.

I don't have quite as much venom in me as those around me do for things like this. I don't know. I've always felt that people are better than their worst moments. I also don't believe in how our criminal justice system handles things. I'd rather the system minimize future harm and heal people who hurt people because of the hurt they've experienced themselves. What if, when that initial tip came in two years ago, that it triggered a response that involved a social worker, a plan for accountability? I believe people can change and get better. I believe this of my partner. Maybe too much. I don't know.

Everyone expects me to just go and drop them off at the homeless shelter if they can't find some other place to live. I struggle to fathom it. Plus, I paid the bond, so I have at the very least a financial interest in them getting through this whole court process.

I have so many voices in my head, so many fears around what will happen if my community finds out, so much pain and betrayal and fear for what lies ahead, for me, but especially for this person who I've loved.

People who have been in my position. What did you do? And if given the choice, knowing then what you know now, would you make the same choice?

We live in Virginia. He wears an ankle monitor, can't go to parks or too far out into nature. He's restricted to travel only one hour outside of our county. He's on parole. What activities do you guys recommend?

I'm helping a couple of Texas guys who are currently already in HVAC school. Ones planning on moving to Oregon. Any help or advice? Thank you.

Hello all,
Wife of an RSO here - we are planning a 4 day trip to CA from OR for our 2 year anniversary. A little nervous because I’m not sure who to contact about the time limit to be in the state before my husband has to register, and also the process of flying? My husband got his current passport before his arrest/parole, what could the issues in the airport be?
Any help is appreciated!