I'm a trans guy now but this sub is so cool I hope everyone (yes EVERYONE) who has participated in it has a wonderful amazing day

So I tried changing my mii's gender in Tomodachi Life to Male and Female and I feel like I'm gonna throw up now like it just felt so wrong. I ran to change it back to non-binary so quickly. Ugh I never wanna do that again.

Hey so I (18M?) think my egg might have cracked. I put on some random outfit that was super andro coded (very baggy black sweatpants and a cute sweater) and I was like "holy shit I look andro this outfit is so cute" and it immeditaly became my favorite outfit and I want more. Now I'm really confused, I talked to my bf about it and he said I might be a demiboy because I like to present andro but also see myself as a boy and also I would like for people to call me they them but not personal friends or family. For them I want to still go by he and I think I might kinda feel uncomfortable if they started referring to me using they. I don't really feel dysphoria but I only feel euphoria when I pass. Also, it just comes and goes, like one day I would just show up in shorts and a t-shirt and not feel anything but other days I really want to wear an andro outfit (flux or fluid? idk lol). Then there is the weird part where I see myself as a women when I am comforting people and giving them love. Like one time when I was trying to comfort my bf when he was having a bad day I accidentally said come to mommy and it made me really confused. Looking for help because this is all really confusing.

i really struggle to find a name, but i want it to start with tam. i keep hearing the same names (tamlin, tain, tammy) but none of them click for me. i don't wanna be called just tam, i want something more. something longer maybe. does any1 have any ideas?

idk if this is exactly transphobic but thought I’d still add the flair in case!!

It just feels so fun not being in any gendered box it's like I see the world differently like everyone is their own person. I've only really identified as enby for a few months but I was already gender non-conforming for a few years before that and it's bot exactly that I hated being my AGAB it's just that it didn't feel like I was getting the full experience of being a person like I wanna do boy things and girl things while not identifying as either. It just feels so good. It's so fun. I don't wanna stop being enby. This is who I am now. I don't know why but the thought of not being a boy or a girl and just being me makes me happy like everything I choose for myself is chosen by me not by society.

The title basically asks it all but, can I call myself non binary even if what I know about my about my gender identity is it feeling cis??? I’m not 100% sure I’m cis but from what I do know I feel cis… but can I call myself non binary???

I live with conservative relatives in the south soooo I can't do anything too crazy quite yet... Kinda was wondering if this looks vaguely enby at all or not :p

I believe I am non-binary since I just don't understand the gender of things my usual reaction to someone telling me something is for boys or for girls is usually "what do I care if it's for boys or for girls I just care if I like it or not" like it doesn't make sense whu I should limit myself to things of a certain gender only. Like it is genuinely infuriating sometimes how much people apply gender to things. I feel like we'd be better off as a society if gender wasn't a thing and everyone just did what they wanted. Like why the hell should I care if it's a boy's hairbrush or a girl's hairbrush it does the exact same thing except one is pink and the other is blue. Which doesn't make sense either since they are literally just colours. I would be so much happier if people didn't try to assign a gender to me and just let me be myself. Like yes maybe I wanna wear a denim maxi skirt with a cool punk shirt.

If I were to get into a polycule with a man and a woman at the same time so f x nb x m would that be more lesbian, gay or straight since nobody there is the same gender.

Like I remember in middle school I became a rocker so I didn't have to conform to gender roles since I did feel like they were limiting. That did get me by for a while but then I started to feel like simply breaking the rules wasn't enough and that I had to get rid of them all together. Does this make sense.

Hi everyone, I’m curious to know what the reasons or realizations you had when you became non binary.

I was afab, and growing up I have always kind of presented more masculine in my opinion, like I would shop in the boys section for clothes, I wanted to be a boy when I was a child, like seven years old.

As I get older, I realize more and more that this femininity I have now is kind of this mask that I put on because it’s so normalized. I have four sisters, so part of getting older for me was being more like them.

Because children are often very impressionable, I thought that I would be considered older once I present more feminine, like them.

In this current state in my life, I’m kind of becoming my own person and realizing how much I don’t like the idea of being feminine or a girl in general.

I also didn’t know that it’s not common to be jealous of guys for their gender and freedom.

I feel like I would prefer she/they pronouns because I don’t like when people call me a girl and despise when people call me a woman. I’m already part of the LGBTQ+ community, being lesbian, but since this is an area of my identity I have never explored or questioned my pronouns until recently, I almost feel like it’s not valid in a way, but I would really appreciate other peoples opinions on this kind of ramble about my gender identity.

Feel more than free to leave a comment, I will definitely read it.

I've noticed that I like more masculine clothes but like more feminine hairstyles like a braid. Is that something common for enbies like you prefer one thing being more masculine and another more feminine.

Is that ridiculous by any chance? To be “thinking about it” for a year? And still not even close to an answer
I feel so cis honestly, I really truly feel very cis. I barely ever feel any gender euphoria, dysphoria or envy, and I’m usually just.. fine.
But the feelings I’ve been feeling have been bugging me for years and years and years, I was finding increasingly stupid ways to justify those very trans experiences as cis and it was just stupid. So I caved in and started going by the label “trans”
I am equally very sure that I’m trans and very sure that I’m cis
What the fuck does that even mean dawg like??? 😭😭
I mean what if it’s just internalized misogyny? Someone I know used to identify as trans, then she started going by she/her and dressing fem to see how it made her feel and she decided she was a cis girl. She told me try the same thing and see how I feel but like.. I lowkey don’t want to? Which my best friend tells me is a telling sign.
Idek
For me it’s just that, “girl” feels right, it feels comfortable and homey, but I don’t WANT to be a girl ? I don’t find it to be particularly something I desire? “boy” feels uncomfortable and weird, but it feels desirable and like something that I actually want
I don’t really wanna be “just in between” either, it feels uncertain, undecided ? Not that I don’t identify as an enby, ‘cause I do, but just not “just in between boy and girl” idk

What if I dressed like Cloud Strife while having a cute hairstyle like Aerith's. I mean it's a mix of masculine and feminine and it is how I feel most confident in my appearance.

Even as a kid I always thought that being exclusively male or exclusively female was unnatural I always thought that it was more natural for humans to take stuff from both boxes if that makes sense like wearing a cool masculine looking shirt while having a cute braid. Like I could never understand why people let their biology control them. I always had that desire to not play by the rules. I guess that's what they call living outside the binary. I do find the binary system to be unnatural and wrong for me like I don't want to live in a world where everyone is one way or the other. And I always did feel like my ideal body was androgynous. Is it just me that felt like this as a kid.