r/MadeMeSmile • u/VibeHumble • 27d ago
Wholesome Moments One of the most popular actors currently in India with a differently abled fan.
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u/Senior_Tooth_5332 27d ago
Just a clarification since many people are calling out the OP for the terminology he used, we were taught to use the term "differently abled" from a young age and were told to not call people disabled. It's also the officially recognised term by the Government of India iirc. So when we use it,it's not us trying to be woke or insulting (depending on what side of the aisle you are),it's just how we were taught.
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u/FlippinFine 27d ago
This was also a thing in the US for a time. I distinctly remember going through college, and being told to use differently abled rather than disabled. I get it's a touchy subject, but there's no need to crucify OP over it. And yes, I also agree some terms have become so sanitized that they've boomeranged around to being offensive/patronizing again.
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u/LegendofLove 27d ago
Everything ends up insulting if you use whatever the new word is with the intent to insult someone. It's kind of a no win. Changing the word won't change the condition or the attitudes
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u/samglit 27d ago
Euphemism treadmill. As Generation X I’ve seen the word disabled reverse at least twice. To a lesser extent, queer.
For people who are neutral on a particular issue (ie most people who aren’t engaged with it often), it can be irritating being told you’re a bad person for using today’s wrong word.
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u/digitaltransmutation 27d ago edited 26d ago
On top of that, India English is just a whole different beast from us/england English. If anyone gets on your case about it just inform them that they are colonizing your language, they'll love that =)
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u/calvin1408 27d ago
It really is lol my dad, when someone passes way, instead of saying they passed away, he says they expired like a product gone past the expiration date, cracks me up every time lol
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u/Anonymous_Autumn_ 27d ago
I’m not from India but when I was young, the old ladies’ group at church were always collecting “non-perishable” food (canned food) to donate to the food bank. Everytime I heard the word “perishable” I associated it with people perishing…
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u/Glum-Birthday-1496 27d ago
I’m from Burma and my parents still use British English, though they both went to Purdue and have lived in the US for decades. When my elderly dad was in the ER, a nurse asked him what he was wearing as a sort of mental status test. Dad said he was wearing a jumper (sweater) and a muffler (scarf). The nurse said, “Oooookay, I guess we’ll have to revisit that.” She thought he was experiencing confusion or had some cognitive decline. I had to clarify.
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u/urbanlocalnomad 27d ago
Thank you for saying that, people need to understand a lot of people speak and use the english language in different ways. In india calling someone “disabled” was used very condescendingly and a way to put people down whether or not they were actually disabled, kinda like throwing around the R word.
Using the word differently-abled comes out of understanding and respect and was not used as a patronising term. I totally get how people outside India would not get that though so it’s important to check the cultural context before judging.
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u/cynicallydev 27d ago
I was going to see why the OP got downvotes, and then I read your message.
In many European countries "differently abled" or "disabled" are synonymous.
Smh, people try to see woke in every little corner of their sad lives.
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u/BarelyHolding0n 27d ago
I was similarly confused that this is even an issue... I'm in Ireland and, whilst 'disabled' is still in use in many formal senses (though persons with disabilities is increasingly the government language rather than disabled), the preferred terminology by the communities of individuals and their families, educators, carers, and advocates is more usually special needs, additional needs, or differently abled.
Differently abled is more common with physical differences whereas special needs or additional needs tend to cover neurological differences and learning difficulties.
Most common though is to name the difference, somebody is blind or visually impaired, they have autism (or are autistic, that's a whole other debate), they have downs syndrome or cerebral palsy, they are an amputeee, they are a wheelchair user. Rather than othering them by just lumping them into a single category we centre the person and identify where they may need accomodations in order to access equal treatment because a person with a physical limitations is not the same as someone with a learning difficulty and therefore they should not be treated the same inorder to receive equal treatment
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u/SecurityCapable1163 27d ago edited 25d ago
Hey everyone
I know differentially abled sounds wrong but as OP is from India, we were told in schools that "differentially abled" is a better word than "disabled"
Reading the comments from actually disabled people and giving it a thought made me realize we have gotten this wrong.
I'm sure the system still teaches young children to use "differentially abled" and we're gonna be stuck with that usage because I don't see how the people who makes up this stuff realize the thing that they've done.
For my part atleast,I'll not be using the term "differentially abled" anymore because as you guys have pointed it out,"differentially abled" just sounds patronizing
Edit:Thank you everyone for the awards. This is my first comment ever to recieve one.
And I also forgot to include one thing
You're stretching there a Lil bit when you're saying "Most popular " actress. I mean I like Mamitha, but in no way is she "Most popular"
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u/chipcrazy 27d ago
But in India “disabled” has been used as a slur for so long. Calling someone with a disability, disabled in India would be taken as an insult.
Culture and context matters everywhere.
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u/Hour_Baby_3428 27d ago
Disabled is used as an insult wherever people think less of the disabled. We can call them oompah loompahs and some will still use that expression for other people they don’t like. Pretty much all words you can think off around this topic were once medical terms, including idiot
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u/chipcrazy 27d ago
Introducing a new term and educating the general population made a difference in India.
Government jobs have been allocated and scholarships provided to the differently abled, allowing them to become more independent.
The term was introduced along with actionable legislation.
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u/ZThick_8656 27d ago
American standards shouldn’t be the world standard. No one should feel the need to change their culture and heritage just to cater to the Americans and their marshmallow feelings and egotistical sense of exceptionalism.
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u/SevereSecurity8011 27d ago
I grew up in India as well. Is there another term we should be using? It’s a genuine question.
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u/rts1988 27d ago
Culture and context matters. Maybe we should listen to disabled/ differently abled people in India before we decide?
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u/01110101010010101011 27d ago
Disabled is a slur, and will be taken offensive. Hence differently abled is used.
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u/mobueo 27d ago
Or how about you ask the disabled people in India how they feel about it? Why would you change your usage of a word based on the feelings of people who are most likely from a different culture and who you’ll never meet or rarely meet?
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u/Ok_Tie_1428 27d ago
Again, disabled was used in a derogatory way here, and yes language can be weaponised so many reforms were made to give disabled people rights and the differently abled thing was made to empower them,along with government policy changes made life better for them.
It's also the government recognised term as well so of course people are taught that, there are people from my parents generation with disabilities who would take offense at being called disabled.
Context matters everywhere please do not default your environment.
That said I do realise how stupid it sounds now along with the other social media censorship. I hate it too but I didn't even clock differently abled with it since I had it taught to me since as far as I could remember.
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u/Familiar-Media-6718 27d ago
Better not. Because in India, the word disabled has been used as a slur. It is offensive to many people here. Different cultural contexts exist. Many people in comments act like only their perspective is valid.
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u/VaporCarpet 27d ago
A handful of reddit comments is hardly global consensus. I know disabled people in real life who are perfectly fine with "differently abled"
Also, if it's the appropriate vernacular in your society, why the hell would you change it because a different society does something else?
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u/InternalSituation985 27d ago
Well. Look on the bright side - it could have been worse. I have to teach my students that I tutor in English that they can't say "invalid", as we still commonly say in our mother tongue, only "disabled". I can't imagine how terrible it would have been if they called someone that without malicious intentions 💀💀💀
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u/Hot-Key2353 27d ago
Unfortunately the thought might not have made you realise it, but the Western influence did. You felt it wrong because you saw in the comments that disabled Westerners felt it wrong. If you talk to differently abled people in India, you'll know they're fine with this usage because the "disabled" is a misused word for them.
If years laterwesterners say people should use "differently abled" you might feel that's right too. Same with LGBT stuff. If majority of the West say it's some mental disorder, many Indians will flip.
I'm not accusing specifically you, but the unfortunate colonial mentality engraved in the Indian minds. It just won't go away.
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u/RS_UltraSSJ 27d ago
Her name is Mamitha Baiju if anyone is wondering
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u/icekyuu 27d ago
Thanks. I've been scrolling to find your comment. She's gorgeous, and seems kind.
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u/raidmytombBB 27d ago
She is one of the most popular actresses? In south india?
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u/SnarkySeahorse1103 27d ago
Of recent times. There are hundreds of bigger household names that dominate the industry (not unlike Hollywood), but she's a relatively new face blowing up I think.
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u/RS_UltraSSJ 26d ago
She is from Kerala, South India. She became one of the most popular actress here.
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u/museinprogress 27d ago
Guys....in kerala (where she is from) disabled is considered offensive now to many 😭 It's an official term recognised by the government top. Different cultures and countries have different ideas of what is acceptable. And different disabled people may feel differently on this. Thankyou
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u/FlippinFine 27d ago
Thank you! So much US/West centrism in this thread. Like I get it, a lot of these terms carry negative connotations, but that's not universal. In fact, I even heard that "differently abled" was the term to use as I went through school in the US.
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u/Familiar-Media-6718 27d ago
This had to be said. People act like Western perspective is the only one.
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u/Waxveasle 27d ago
Europe uses differently abled to. This is mostly an American thing.
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u/Prestigious_Bison707 27d ago
This… People in the US really think the whole world revolves around them lol.
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u/ObscureEnchantment 27d ago edited 27d ago
Lots of people upset about the term differently abled. Everyone has had different experiences in life so they have different feelings. I respect that. Just want to say as a disabled person myself I don’t really care about the term.
Someone also pointed out that in India that is a normal phrase to use. At least try to understand cultural differences. You don’t have to agree with them but accept the whole world doesn’t follow American culture.
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u/mdevi94 27d ago
Trying to control language like this is one of the reasons the MAGA movement took off. Completely tone deaf people on here. There is nothing wrong with what OP said
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u/Rockalot_L 27d ago
Dude is handsome
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u/IonicColumnn 27d ago
I know right?! As soon as he feels the pride (?) of having her on his arm next to him, he shows off how incredibly handsome he is!
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u/Comprehensive-Task18 27d ago
Sad how all of the top comments are never going to be about the moment these two had.
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u/DMG_88 27d ago
Disabled is not a bad word.
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u/aphaits 27d ago
Its like "unhoused"
bitch im homeless
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u/Brave_Concern9181 27d ago
All the poor/broke people getting called “unfinanced” soon
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u/Aggravating-Pattern 27d ago
"Temporarily embarassed millionaires" as John Steinbeck said
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u/BoliticsAndBower 27d ago
You're suffering from the inability to occupy a space that you permanently own
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u/getmeoutofhere15 27d ago
One of my favorite memes is a homeless guy with a sign saying “homeless, anything helps” on the side of the street and an affluent white women comes up to him and says “don’t you mean houseless?”
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u/Nerd-Dad-2779 27d ago
This is funny really it is, but it’s an evidenced based practice that using dehumanizing language can harm the population. To me homeless isn’t a harmful word necessarily but our society has made it so. Same with disabled sadly.
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u/Exldk 27d ago
As another commenter said, these two are two different words.
I was homeless but I was not unhoused. I lived on my friends couch for two months, had my gaming set up done and it was basically a glorified LAN for us just gaming and eating junk food until I got back on my feet after being let go from my previous job.
and during that entire time I was, technically, homeless.
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u/kelsofox369 27d ago
Can we add rape and suicide to this list of crap that needs to stop being censored.
Say it how it is. It’s meant to impactful and factual.
Not everything is fucking rainbows. The world can be cruel place and censoring reality makes delusions.
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u/TheBookofBobaFett3 27d ago
1984 man
The ultimate goal of Newspeak in George Orwell's 1984 is to narrow the range of thought and make rebellious ideas, or thoughtcrime, literally impossible to express due to a lack of available words
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u/DivineCurses 27d ago
The real problem is social media algorithms, if saying one of these words demonetizes you or stops your videos from being recommended, people will censor themselves even if they dont agree with it
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u/Apprehensive_Art_47 27d ago
Also can we stop with this “pdf file” nonsense? The first few times I saw someone say that I was like ???? Wait are we talking about computers here or
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u/JalapenoPopPoop 27d ago
It's literally just less precise too. Like what "different" ability does he have that other people don't? He doesn't, that's not a thing
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u/EatOfTheBread 27d ago
Years ago I saw a trailer for a show which talked about "people with different abilities" navigating the jungle. I thought ok so there's going to be a big dude with a machete, a navigator, someone foraging for food. No, they meant disabled people.
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u/bm2i 27d ago
I prefer whoopsie-bodied.
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u/cyricor 27d ago
At first I was against the differently able term, it's like a pity term I thought. Then I saw some guys doing pullups like they are nothing with the wheelchair tied on. I then embraced the term. Because, it's not that I'm unable to do the same, it's because he is differently able 🤣
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u/Realistic-Top-6654 27d ago
Dude, I'm going to hell now...
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u/raniwasacyborg 27d ago
As a disabled person I'm giving everyone in this thread permission to laugh as hard at that as I just did 😂
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u/CurrentlyObsolete 27d ago
I am going to use this when talking about myself and disability from now on. Hahaha
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u/urbanlocalnomad 27d ago
Ehhh important to understand context, OP is probably Indian and there saying ‘disabled’ was often said in a very condescending way. Not as bad as the R word but very rude. So there was a much needed cultural shift to instead say differently-abled to increase awareness that disabled people have abilities, just different and not throw around the word ‘disabled’ as a descriptor. There is nuance here.
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u/Familiar-Media-6718 27d ago
In India, the word "disabled" has been used as a slur in many places. Thus "differently abled" is taught as a better word. Context matters, and different cultural perspectives exist.
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u/CapN-Judaism 27d ago edited 27d ago
I agree, but try telling that to the deaf community
Edit: this is not a joke…many in the deaf community find it very insulting to be referred to as disabled. I think this is also true for many little people.
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u/PapayaJuice 27d ago
i have a speech disability and my sister is blind plus muscular deformities and the one thing both of us ever agreed on is the deaf community is INTENSE compared to other disabled communities. never understood why there’s such a massive gap between them and other disability communities.
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u/MyCarRoomba 27d ago
From what I understand, American deaf people have naturally created an insular community among themselves where they are able to feel completely normal (I acknowledge the loaded nature of the term 'normal,' but I hope you will bear with me for the sake of my point).
And many of the various conditions leading to deafness are heritable leading deaf/hoh parents to have deaf/hoh kids. A culture eventually emerged centered around similar language (ASL) and life experiences.
Personally, I think it's wonderful that deaf people can feel a sense of pride and belonging despite their physical limitations. I do think it crosses into harmful territory when some individuals refuse to acknowledge lack of hearing as a disability. I can't speak for the deaf community because I'm not deaf, but that's my perspective on the matter.
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u/ThisWasOurKaisen 27d ago
In Indian schools we are taught to not use the word "disabled"
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u/Hjem_D 27d ago edited 26d ago
In hindi, they replaced viklang- non functional body part with divyang- divine body part.
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u/KaffY- 27d ago
nor are
"kill" -> unalived
"rape" -> r*pe / "grape" etc
this shit is just so stupid
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u/DMG_88 27d ago
Blame the ridiculous censoring nonsense that all social media companies have been doing.
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u/folkkingdude 27d ago
Except it’s way less prevalent than people seem to think. I’ve never been banned from anything for using words.
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u/KaffY- 27d ago
i do. and i blame every person that actively uses these terms to support this censorship
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u/Luuks_thick_thighs 27d ago
caling someone disabled is considered rude in India, officially the word "differently abled" is used most of the time
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u/bringbackfireflypls 27d ago
Do you understand different countries have different cultural takes on this? Or is that too hard to understand from up there on top of your high horse.
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u/darkjedi1993 27d ago
THANK YOU. This needs to be said every time.
Years ago I had disabled people tell me to knock that shit off. It’s disabled. To say differently abled disregards the disability no matter how hard you try to make it sound like you’re being sensitive to it.
I’m disabled myself, but I just opt not to talk bring it up due to how awkward people get because mine didn’t put me in need of extremely noticeable assistive devices/aids. I’m tired of having to explain to people.
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u/Benjaphar 27d ago
It’s not offensive to have a disability or to be disabled.
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u/Noxon06 27d ago
Exactly. Drives me crazy when people try to butter it up.
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u/CharMakr90 27d ago
Kinda hijacking this thread, but "unhoused" instead of homeless pisses me off even more.
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u/MrdrOfCrws 27d ago
I actually have some info on that one! Another redditer commented that they worked in public services and they said that homeless is anyone without their own home - including people in shelters or couch surfing. Unhoused are people without any kind of place and are living on the streets.
I acknowledge that not everyone uses the words in that manner, but it was important in their work context when prioritizing and allotting resources.
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u/CuteNautilus 27d ago
This was really informative, thank you! I didn't know there were functional differences with the words.
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u/Stock-Pattern-8635 27d ago
Try learning something about the usage of different words. The fact that you have as many upvotes as you do on this ignorant comment is an indictment upon this platform.
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u/Lazy_Wishbone_2341 27d ago
I'm disabled. "Differently abled" feels patronising as hell.
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u/VibeHumble 27d ago
thanks to those who corrected me on the terminology, because I used ‘differently abled’ as it is promoted as a respectful term here in India,but now I understand why ‘disabled’ or’person with a disability’ is preferred globally. I appreciate the education.
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u/Indigo-au-naturale 27d ago
This is a really kind and gracious comment in the face of a pile-on. I just want to say that it's clear you weren't being malicious and that this is just a somewhat unfortunate cultural difference. Username definitely checks out
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u/KeyKnoTheGreat 27d ago
I'm from India and disabled and I'd like to share my two cents. I prefer the term disabled over differently abled. Differently abled comes off as dismissive about my struggles due to my disability. It implies that I have the same ability as everyone, just differently. That's not the case, because I'm not differently abled, I lack some ability and that's okay. I've come to terms with it long ago. I never liked hearing that word in school. It's patronizing. They teach it because they think that disabled is somehow offensive. Thinking that being disabled is offensive, is offensive itself, because being disabled is normal. It's not something to take offense about.
I'm glad you're mature about this, because even when I tell that I don't like the term differently abled, some people continue using it anyway, just to feel better of themselves.
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u/taney71 27d ago
It’s all so confusing. These days people try too hard to change words and terms. It just ends up creating more problems than it helps
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u/axonxorz 27d ago
It just ends up creating more problems than it helps
Not sure if cross-sub links are allowed, but the current top post on r/science is to your point:
A new psychology study found that everyday phrases targeted by "harmful language guides" such as "master bedroom" do not cause measurable psychological harm, anxiety, or negative emotional effects for readers, including individuals from marginalized groups.
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u/teetheyes 27d ago
It's as if language and it's meaning evolve with culture over time, like how describing something as "gay" had a very different meaning in past centuries. We also have new understandings of things that need new terms. Language is fluid, trying to make rigid rules around words and their usage/meaning gets sticky.
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u/Oonz1337 27d ago
I’m deaf. I don’t need a lot of terms for it, just call it what it is.
Not like I’ll hear you anyway 🤷
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u/Its_apparent 27d ago
Yeah, that's wonky, no doubt.
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u/DoodleCard 27d ago edited 27d ago
I mean I'm as wonky-abled as all heck but I'm disabled. Not differently abled. 🤣
Edit: changed to wonky-abled from @TheRumpleForesk1n because it's just too funny boy to share.
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u/TheRumpleForesk1n 27d ago
Lmfao I was skimming through comments and thought you said "wonky-abled" and I fucking choked on my water laughing
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u/Mrlearnalot 27d ago
But in 2026 it’s more important that people who are not associated with a specific group don’t get their feelings hurt by improper language use. Would you prefer “other than abled”??
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u/Throwaway_eligere 27d ago
For context, in many schools in India we are encouraged to say Differently Abled. It is even accepted into the official lexicon of government.
I don't blame OP, they have been told that differently abled is more respectful than disabled.
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u/-Mandarin 27d ago
I don't blame OP, they have been told that differently abled is more respectful than disabled.
And they're not wrong, disabled is closer to a slur in India. No one is to blame here.
Redditors need to learn that the world does not revolve around America and that different regions have different cultural contexts. But apparently it's just better to complain about the title of this post instead of actually doing any investigation.
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u/DidYouJustSmellMe 27d ago
Mhm, makes me feel the same way when someone refers to a disability as a “superpower”.
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u/Meet_Foot 27d ago
I’m extremely sick of people referring to the shit I struggle with every day as a superpower.
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u/ICK_Metal 27d ago
People say that about adhd, or laugh it off like it’s a quirky “oh hey I get distracted by cute squirrels!” Issue. 😐
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u/weirdest_of_weird 27d ago
My daughter suffers from ADHD. Nothing irks me more than for someone to lose their train of thought and make a comment about ADD. Or to straighten something up and blame it on OCD. Like, no, thats just being being normal; real ADHD or OCD can be a real struggle to live with.
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u/Lazy_Wishbone_2341 27d ago
I spent six months struggling to get up in the morning. Definitely not a super power.
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u/GetMaBFG 27d ago edited 27d ago
Yeah, i can relate wholly to this. 😂 Im black and have other stuff going on, and some of the things people call me to not be offensive is unironically offensive.
Edit: corrected spelling
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u/Lazy_Wishbone_2341 27d ago
Oh my god. I'm half Polish and I once had an old creep say I'd make a good mail order bride because I'm "not a toothless thief like all those other commies ". I was 12.
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u/GetMaBFG 27d ago edited 27d ago
Thats crazy! I have Similar experience. When I was in the 4th grade, I had this Teacher named Mrs. A. I was in special education and obviously not doing too well academically. Ive heard her refer to me as, "sped boy". Even worse, when I was having a parent teach meeting she told my mom that since I wasnt able to read that well, I will be lucky to get a job as a bell boy. 😡
Mind you, I was in 4th grade, highly insecure about myself, obese (at that time), and being bullied. Btw if you dont know, theres a ton of racial connotation behind all her comments. I work in a hospital now so I guess i showed her in some way. 😅
Edit: Grammer and spelling
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u/AMT35 27d ago
Wow, I thought it was just going to be the mail order bride comment but then I kept reading.
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u/Federal_Eagle_6565 27d ago
This term is very popularly used in the Indian state of Tamilnadu. When i made the exact same statement in a local sub they down voted me to he…
Thank you for stating this.
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u/touchmyfoodidareyou 27d ago
I am disabled. I prefer the term differently abled. I think there's no winning here, people will have different opinions about this.
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u/njan_ninde_thanda 27d ago edited 26d ago
These Americans need to calm their tits down. Its not our fault that you guys keep making normal words into a slur. Differently abled is the word used by the Indian government and that is fine. Initially it was mentally restarted , which meant delayed mentally. You guys made it an insult . Then it was specially abled , then you guys made it into a slur. Maybe stop making every word a slur and expect other countries to follow your standards of naming .
The world doesn’t revolve around America or the west. Don’t be ignorant. What is ok in the west may not be acceptable in India or other parts of the world. And vice versa
Illyanengil kininju irunu oomb
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u/iginca 27d ago
So she just smiled and took a picture with him? Is the bar that low?
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u/-Jimbles 27d ago
The more important thing I saw was that she was totally unbothered by him touching her arm, and then when she realized he needed help balancing she put his arm through his and leaned in.
Small gestures, but meaningful when interacting with people who have certain disabilities doesn’t always come naturally.
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u/This_ls_The_End 27d ago
Exactly. The moment he grabs her arm for balance because the two companions released him at the same time, she understands and immediately takes his wrist.
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u/huskers2468 27d ago
You have to be able to think regionally. It was not long ago where nearly every country treated the disabled like they were less than.
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u/LuceDuder 27d ago
Thing is, we still do. We just look at this and pretend like we don't. The video is proof.
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u/Humbi93 27d ago
Sadly. I am disabled and aren't able to find a job farthest I came was 3 job interviews for roughly 500 applications, and all those companies advertise with their "inclusiveness" yet they won't give a disabled person even a chance to work for them they rather pay 600 bucks in fines
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u/Doctor-Sincere 27d ago
that part, am i the only one who could feel her discomfort thru the screen? this ain’t make me smile at all..
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u/SuruchiSushi 27d ago
I didn’t sense any discomfort. She just seemed thrown off in the beginning. He put his hand on her arm for stability and she grabbed it, and even went back to hold him when he let go for the photo.
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u/JrRiggles 27d ago
Yes. I was born in the 90s and disabled people were insulted all the time. As a child it knew that “you did not want to be a disabled person; it sucks to be them”
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u/Azuras_Star8 27d ago
In many parts of the world, those who are disabled are shunned, cast out and left to fend for themselves.
Or worse.
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u/atreeismissing 27d ago
She even checked to make sure it was a good photo (also, most people in this thread quibbling over semantics and missing the entire point of the post).
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u/whataquokka 27d ago
I noticed he calmed instantly when she grabbed his arm. This will be a moment he will remember forever.
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u/asdfj24 27d ago
Who is she (m indian)
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u/VibeHumble 27d ago
Mamitha Baiju
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u/Spacedoutworlder 27d ago edited 27d ago
Outside of Tamil Nadu and Kerala i doubt people know her. Calling her one of the most popular is a crazy choice.
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u/Altruistic_Arm_2777 27d ago
Why is it always Americans and their inability to grasp that there is a world outside of their four quarters?
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u/Calm-Gur563 27d ago
It's nice that the paparazzi held their flashes until he got his photo. You don't see that kind of consideration with the western paps
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u/CapmyCup 27d ago
Amazing, a human interacting with a human
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u/BrownSugarBare 27d ago
Lotta comments in here and I just came to say that's a handsome lad. Look how sweet he looked for the picture
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u/JoyeuxMiguel 27d ago
So handsome and such a beautiful smile.
She's okay too ofcourse
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u/PotLuckyPodcast 27d ago
Hey, as a disabled person, differently able is an insulting term. Just call us disabled, it isn't a dirty word and has less of a negative association for most disabled people.
Also, disabled people don't exist to bring you gratitude or inspiration porn. We're just people
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u/Primary_Wind15 27d ago
Over here in india we are taught to use differently abled instead of disabled. I am guessing that op is indian as well
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u/Familiar-Media-6718 27d ago
In many places in India, calling someone disabled is insulting, not calling someone differently abled. "Disabled" is a slur-like word in some parts of India. Many differently abled people in India don't want to be called that. OP is likely from India. You could understand the cultural context.
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u/Ninja-Panda70 27d ago
Differently abled was the official govt term in India so everyone learned to use it growing up
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u/kickbutowskiiiii 27d ago
And that's what most disabled people of our country prefer actually, I dealt with lots of disabled patients during my internship as a doctor and lots of patients prefer differently abled term, one of my patient even reminded me to call him differently abled , sooo.. , since we ain't trying to impress other country people, we should stick to what our people feel comfortable with
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u/Luuks_thick_thighs 27d ago
you do realise that the world is a big place with different ways of speaking right?
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u/ErenNoWaifu 27d ago edited 27d ago
In India, "disabled" is the outdated and offensive term to use. All teaching programmes now specifically tell Indian teachers in making to use the term "differently abled" because "disabled" was previously noted to have been discriminatory in the Indian context. Thus, the education department saw it fitting to have the term replaced by something more inclusive. Differently abled just means you have different abilities from the norm. Dis-ability insinuates having no abilities.
The world doesn't revolve around you Americans and your sensibilities. Learn to deal with and respect cultural differences.
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u/averageindiankid22 27d ago
Documents and formal events have to use "differently abled" in India, people have just picked it up from that ig, it's not meant to offend anyone, opposite actually
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u/generalgreyone 27d ago
I love that she checks the photo after to make sure it’s decent. That’s a sweet move.
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u/MisterYin4444 26d ago
She handled that incredibly professionally, when he grabbed her arm that could've turn sour very quickly. You can see his face change completely when she takes his arm and puts him at ease. It costs nothing to be kind.
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u/ItHappens23 27d ago
That's a good looking man. When he's taking the selfie he looks like a star himself.
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u/PopsiclesForChickens 27d ago
I would really encourage you to look up the TED talk by Stella Young to understand why this is inspiration porn.
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u/ReplyNo7464 27d ago
For people saying saying disabled is okay, differently abled feels wrong, India recently started saying differently abled, it was promoted by the government. They said disabled feels wrong
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u/Salmonella4Skin 27d ago
It's a nice video, but I can't be the only one that feels like we shouldn't be impressed when someone is treated with basic human decency...?
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u/Snacks7777 27d ago
Nothing wrong with seeing someone influential setting an example of how we should all behave. Unfortunately, there are a shit ton of people in the world that need those reminders.
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u/Humble-Blueberry4571 27d ago
I’m sure this woman is a lovely person but we really don’t need to gush over someone and give them brownie points for simply treating a disabled person with the respect they deserve.
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u/TheDarkZone2 27d ago
True but maybe we should until the rest of the world gets with the program 🤷🏻♀️
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