It does kinda suck (though just to be clear nowhere near to same extent as the shit women and sexual & gender minorities have to deal with every day) that my gender and sexuality are so heavily tied to misogynistic, abusive assholes, that objectify and treat women like shit.
Because it sucks that women have to fear me because of the completely rational fear that they might get raped, and with how much women are objectified and viewed as sex objects, it kinda makes me feel like I’m a pervert with how much I love women sexually and how beautiful I find them to be.
And I want to defend my gender, and I want to point out that not all men are like this, and that there are good men. But that doesn’t change the fact that far too many men are like this, that nearly every woman either has been, or knows somebody that has been raped or sexually abused, and that my struggles as a straight white cisgender man are incredibly minor compared to the shit other people have to deal with.