27F, lesbian with moderate views looking for similar political views to chat and befriend cause it’s tough out here. Honestly, location doesn’t really matter either as online friends is fine too.

Edit: I’m looking to actually chat privately 😭 some of Yall have chats turned off

Any moderate or conservative lesbians in the DMV who want to chat? Surely, I can’t be the only one who exists here 😓

Same city? Different country? Different continent? Where do you draw the line?

Would anyone be up for a drink in Batignolles next Saturday at 7pm?

The idea is simply to meet and have a nice time with other women who don’t necessarily identify with the political culture that tends to dominate lesbian spaces.

No political debate intended — just a casual get-together and a chance to meet people with similar perspectives.

If you’re interested, feel free to comment !

Hey everyone! Wondering if you guys are having the same struggles on hinge, etc.

I actually hate talking about politics but I’m right leaning… and I refuse to date a liberal. Every moderate or conservative girl I match with (On the super rare occasion lol) has like no energy, no interest in me, or ends up having horrible vices. The list goes on…

I feel like the dating pool is so small for us. I want a life partner that wants a farm! Good intentions. We can do everything together. I feel like dating just be so much easier for liberals!

I am a trans woman and while not necessarily too conservative/reactionary/right-wing, I consider myself Nationalist and Pan-Germanist with moderate positions in most other political areas... (I belong in the 1800s I suppose since most LGBT areas treat me as if I am the devil)

I am also basically asexual and interested in both women and men (Though with a preference for women) and it seems as though lesbian/bisexual women hate my politics whereas men either do not like that I am trans and/or are put off by me not exactly willing to have sex...

Any advice would be appreciated, especially as to ways of meeting people online as I am in a more isolated location...

Anyone know where to find them? And also im looking if you want to DM.

Not sure this is the right channel to post as I'm base in Europe, but I would like to ask something:

I have made a profile in Bumble Date, and it says I'm conservative. It's been about 1 month since I'm there but I haven't seen yet one (1) conservative lesbian/woman there. Everyone is leftish, except for a couple of 'centre/moderate' ones. Is this only my experience or anyone else went thought this? Aren't there any conservative lesbians in this app, or is the algorythm simply off? Is there a better app?

Are there any athletic/chapstick/femme gals (around age 35) near the portland, OR area on here? I have tickets to the Thorns game on 07/05 and looking for someone to go!

Hello, i recently found this community and I just want to say that I'm neither left or right leaning, so my political opinion of you doesn't really matter! I'm F25 Latina (mexican) and Idk if I would be anyones type here, but if you love latinas who has a few taboo kinks and would love to talk, feel free to DM me! it's hard meeting any conservative lesbians in person 😭 All i meet are leftist lesbians that are so woke about everything to the point where you can't make a joke.

I’m a conservative homosexual woman, and I’ve realized I’ll probably be alone forever. I’m also probably a lot more conservative than the lesbians in this subreddit. I assume most of you are moderate or right-leaning, whereas I am actually far right. (I find it hilarious when the left-wing media call figures like Trump “far right.” To me, Trump is very much a moderate.) That’s completely fine. I know most people here won’t totally agree with me, but I’m confident that at the very least I can have some sort of honest discussion here, which would be impossible in other lesbian subreddits. I’m posting because I’d genuinely like some thoughts from women who might understand where I’m coming from.

I was never liberal. I grew up Republican (voted for Romney in my school’s mock election lol) and used to identify with MAGA. Over the years, I have gone further to the right. I identify myself politically as a paleoconservative Christian nationalist.

My Faith

As far as my faith, I grew up in a totally non-religious household. My father was culturally Jewish but not religious at all, and my mother was vaguely Christian but also not religious. However, even when I was very young, I used to read Christian theology books. I’ve always been drawn to Christianity. I have always had an interest in the Catholic faith. I went to Catholic school for one year growing up, and thoroughly enjoyed it. I also briefly lived in Madrid, Spain, for about two months and fell in love with the cathedrals there. I took an RCIA class and did not end up converting, just because I’m not sure it’s right for me at this moment in time. So, currently I’d say I’m a non-denominational Christian. I don’t have a specific branch or church, but I very much love God.

On Homosexuality & “Queer”

I’ve also come to terms with my homosexuality. I believe something very specific (which I’m not willing to share) based on my own personal interpretation, and I’m aware that I’m probably the only one with this viewpoint, and that’s okay.

Also, I’m not a queer. I don’t identify with that word at all. I have never been able to receive a clear definition of what that means and how it’s different from lesbian or gay. To me, it refers to a radical liberalist political ideology that I certainly don’t subscribe to. There are other homosexuals who don’t subscribe to it either. I don’t understand why just because someone happens to be a homosexual, they are automatically required to be a raging leftist. Where are the normal gays?

My Values

I am pro-life and don’t believe transgenderism is real. I don’t understand why lesbians and gays are lumped in with that nonsense. Regardless of how you view homosexuality (whether you believe it’s a sin or not), at least one can acknowledge that it is a real thing. Transgenderism, on the other hand, is a mentally ill delusion. You cannot alter biological, immutable characteristics. No matter how many hormones you pump into your body or how many surgeries you have, if you were born a male with XY chromosomes, you will die a male with XY chromosomes.

I’m a traditionalist and want a traditional lifestyle. My goal is to be a stay-at-home wife and mother, with children either through adoption or artificial insemination. I’m very feminine and dress femininely and modestly.

I want an older wife (I’m in my twenties). Due to maturity reasons. It’s not a fetish or anything weird like that. I just prefer a woman who is already established, who will provide, who shares my values, and who is mature.

I don’t do any drugs (no marijuana), none of that garbage. I have never done any of it. I drink alcohol (but never to excess, never get drunk). I don’t have tattoos or piercings, I don’t watch pornography, and I want a wife who does the same.

My ideal wife is someone like Alice Weidel (the leader of Germany’s conservative AfD party). She is tall, fit, and attractive, with no tattoos or piercings. She wears elegant, tailored suits and is a traditionalist. She provides for her wife. She’s hyper-intelligent with a doctorate in economics, is a high-level politician, doesn’t participate in or promote degeneracy, believes and promotes traditionalism, etc. Unfortunately, she is already married, but this is the exact archetype of a woman I want to spend my life with.

My Dating Experiences

I dated a liberal woman once. It was the worst experience of my life. I decided that I would simply not talk about politics so we could put our political views aside and just build a human connection. But I have since realized that I am unable to date liberal women. I don’t mind if my girlfriend or wife and I have some different views, but she must be conservative because I realized that politics equals values.

This woman treated me horribly. I never once discussed politics, but she constantly berated and bullied me for choosing to dress modestly. She’d tell me to burn my clothes, and she’d constantly push me towards degeneracy. She would mock and bully me for the fact that I don’t do drugs and don’t get drunk. I’m Native American, and she’d tell me to cut my very long hair short (which I found to be very disrespectful). She’d tell me to get piercings and tattoos. She’d bully me for not being promiscuous and for believing that sex is sacred and should be saved for either the right person who is deeply in love with you or marriage. She once said to me, “I believe women should do whatever the fuck they want,” but she was a massive hypocrite who was extremely offended by my lifestyle (me doing what I want). She refused to commit. She was a degenerate, dumpster fire of an individual. I realized that this wasn’t one bad apple. This is genuinely how the vast majority of leftists conduct themselves. I had other encounters (dates) with liberals, and they all acted exactly like this. I’m sure there are some exceptions, but this is genuinely how leftists behave, and I can’t be with someone like that. Our politics have to align. Also, I wouldn’t be caught dead at a pride parade. I don’t need to parade around telling everyone who I want to sleep with. That’s simply creepy and weird. I don’t need a special flag. I feel very represented by the American flag.

Where I’m At Now

With all of this, I realize the chances of finding a wife are very low. I have only met dates on apps and am never doing that again. I don’t know where to meet the woman that I want to be with. I even thought about joining the Log Cabin Republicans, but at least in my area it seems to be made up of only or a large majority of gay men, so I’m really at a loss. Should I just accept that I most likely will not be a wife and mother, or should I be looking somewhere specific? And I have been praying about finding a wife.

Thank you for reading.

Just want to put it out there that I have had the best luck lately. I met a conservative lesbian woman IRL in the wild a few months ago and we’ve been dating. It’s going great.
Then this weekend we discovered our two acquaintances are also conservative lesbians! We had a such an amazing bonding experience. We genuinely all like one another on personal levels and have known each other for months. This accidental clicking has really made my week. 💕
Lez4Lez in all forms of my relationships has paid off

Well, I did it. I went to Little Gay Books online 30's and 40's speed dating zoom event on the 29th. It was about an hour long in total, between the host talking and the 5 min breakout room "dates". This concept is definitely better than dating apps because you can actually feel out if someone has ANY chemistry with you, but I would say 5 min is definitely not enough time to really know if someone is still worth pursuing. So in the event that I host, it's going to be 10min that people have to test the waters.

I also think I am on the right track trying to have a conservative lesbian focused event because I would say the little gay book event suffered tremendously from being too much of a demographic catch all. There were 20 attendees but the majority of them immediately weren't an option because most were GBTQIA+, including men. Also, there were people from other countries, which would make trying to progress with someone to in person dating rather difficult. Also, there were serious age gaps because the event lumped 30 and 40 year olds together.

Alright, I'll start seriously looking at the logistics of how to get this set up. I'll start deliberating over whether zoom, discord or something else is a good better platform to get set up. I need to take a demographic poll of who is in this community so that I know who to cater the event to. So aside from this post being an update. So it would be helpful if you guys commented your age, political stance, if you're lesbian? Bi?, masc/femme? Seeking masc/femme? Honestly, any detail helps so that my efforts are actually helpful and will connect. Thanks!

It makes me quite hopeful to have found this conservative lesbian group on here, knowing there are others out there who are more right-leaning.

Anyway, I was broken up with over two months ago and I'm finally at a place where I feel ready to start dating again. My goal with dating is to find a person I can form a serious and long-lasting (hopefully life-long) relationship with. So, I've recently got back onto some dating apps (Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, and Her) and have been getting very few, if any, matches. I, of course, have explicitly put in each of my dating profiles that I am a right-leaning, Christian, lesbian which I am sure heavily decreases my odds of meeting anyone. I'm also very selective when looking on these apps and, unfortunately, it's so hard to find other right-leaning lesbians on there. To combat this, I am also trying to meet someone organically and have been reaching out to friends/close coworkers to see if they know people or know people who know people but so far, nothing's happening. It's frustrating just trying to enter the lesbian dating world again.

Does anyone else in this group have similar struggles with dating? Any tips on how to navigate finding other like-minded women on dating apps or even other ways to meet them? Thank you in advance!

Hey, so I was wondering if any of you guys would be interested in like an online speed dating event? I see all the time how many conservative lesbians are trying to find their person (me too) and it made me wonder how complicated it would really be to get us connected and talking.

What has prompted this idea is that I’ve signed up for an online speed dating event with Little Gay Book at the end of April just to try it out, as I’ve never done this before and want to get my feet wet. However, I noticed something, most online speed dating is hosted by liberal leaning organizations.

Anyway, what do you guys think? Am I on to something? Would this be something people would actually be excited about and think is a positive, helpful experience? Do you guys have any additional ideas?

I’m not seeking to monetize this..so I was thinking to keep things simple… like a large zoom conference? Let me know what y’all think! Please and thank you!! Hope to meet some of you ladies in the future!

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I can’t stand the people that are in LesbiansActually. And that’s really all i have to say. In a country where we’re supposed to have free will, i can’t. And the statement of me saying “My preference is hispanics” has pissed off the poc 😭 I can’t argue with retards anymore bro 😂 I just wanna know if there are any normal lesbians out there besides me and my girl who see things in a normal fucking light and not some oppressive theatrical show

I’m apparently racist for having a preference in who i wanna date as a mixed woman lmao. These people make it hard to care about any racism when the word is thrown around like a football, it has lost its meaning.

I genuinely dont understand how this America is better. If it is better for you, i must be in the wrong place. Everything and i mean everything is completely insanely unaffordable. My mortgage is through the roof, food costs, pet care even, not to mention the cost of health insurance sky rocketed. I dont understand what im missing?!? We have never been so divided, in my lifetime at least, and I have genuine distrust of the people around me. How is this better? If you can tell me where its better at? Id be grateful truly.

If feel so frustrated.  

TLDR; 

I can’t pick a struggle. I’m a newly hatched moderate, returning Christian, with all leftist friends. While I was blindly following other liberals, the party changed.  I’m also a bisexual who hasn’t been attracted to men for a year, so I don't fit in the community. So I’m just stuck being a contradiction. How am I supposed to come out as moderate?

The long version:

So I just went along with the crowd for 8 years and woke up to being moderate. I figured democrats would always be fact based and logical, so trusted them to figure it out. I really supported Obama thoroughly, disengaged with politics about  a year into Trump’s first term. When did the dems become the pro-crime, pro-fraud, pro-communism, no accountability, eternally victimized party? 50% of what Trump is doing is what Obama did too. Even as a teen I had republican friends. I'm from the southwest so I'm used purple groups.

Since I was just following blindly I made a bunch of far left friends. I started researching a big “current issue” accidentally, it became my first break with progressivism. I didn’t know that certain things were taboo, so they “know” my stance sorta, and that I should educate myself.  People have made comments before that I sounded conservative, over the last 8 years but I just brushed them off. 

That branched and I noticed that my intelligent friends were actually woefully uninformed for how intense they were about issues. It’s been about a year and I really can’t stand my friends sometimes. Like it was always a bit much but now it’s glaring how much disagree and I have to self censor.

Culturally I’ve always been more traditional but it didn’t come up as much because I had a balance of people in my life. People who wanted kids, marriage, monogamy, rule of law, mid-stage capitalism, patriotism, and were culturally Catholic. I recently even returned to Catholicism.  My friends are against all of it.   I feel like a secret far right person even though I’m center left!

So I’m just stuck in the middle of very blue city, with a leftist queer community. Also I’m a lifelong bisexual who can’t be with men anymore. Like I just don’t see them that way, something happened after I met this incredible NB last year. People recommend I go for men, I’ve told them I’m not interested.  Men would be easier but then I cried thinking about it. I love being with women too much and don’t want anything different. So now I’m really sick of people saying to date men.

If anyone has any advice, stories about coming out moderate to progressive/communist friends, I need it. 

1. Female. Having a very difficult time meeting other lesbian conservatives.