r/KAU • u/Acceptable-Plane-976 • 2d ago

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How to make friends in this uni? everybody is so unfriendly or seems to be.

Pathetic question ik

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u/aTOTOc 🛡️Mod•Medicine 2d ago

Not pathetic at all. Making friends in uni can be challenging especially if you are looking for ppl with similar interests. But the truth is, I think here is where you should develop a skill of just hanging out with anyone and everyone..

My personal tips:
1- try to build some persona, maybe make files that help people for a subject you like or make something that make other students life easier by any means lol .. that will give you a wider matchmaking pool you get to go through

2- Maybe join clubs ? There are some decent ones out there trust me

3-this one is a bit tricky but just initiate any small talk with anyone you see.. people aren’t used to this but lowkey will open you doors you never even imagined
Ofc not all will go the way you want, but the more ppl you go through the more likely to find someone decent

Honestly my last note, most of the friendship you will make here might not be super super duper genuine.. usually they are built on something, maybe something you are offering or they offering .. so don’t get your expectations too high but if you find just ONE good friend then don’t worry about widening your net and try to invest in that one friendship .. because if you perhaps acquired a really close friend at this stage then that mf will last you forever .. and honestly for me I’d take one good genuine mf over 100 surface level friendships in every single lifetime

Wish you a good luck

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u/Acceptable-Plane-976 1d ago

Thank u for taking the time to reply, I do have uni "friends" but honestly it feels like we're just using each other for convenience, Every conversation is about uni and midterms, and I'm honestly not interested in friendships like that, I agree with you about having one genuine friend over a hundred superficial ones, and frankly I never had that kind of friend.

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u/Perfect-Square8164 2d ago

You gotta basically go out of your way to some extent lol, put yourself out there, be a tiny bit more extroverted. Also the other dude who listed tips out, try those.

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u/Acceptable-Plane-976 1d ago

Im a very social person by nature its easy for me to talk to a stranger, but when I initiate a convo it just seems awkward and shy on the other person's side and that freaks me out honestly

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u/Mustafa-Ishag 2d ago

Senior student here, yeah you really can't make friends here.

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u/Acceptable-Plane-976 1d ago

Everyone here seems to be in a group and its hard to intervene