r/GrindsMyGears • u/Evan_AFTON-1983 • 1d ago
I hate how some read posts
It's like they're itching for a argument when they don't read everything. You'd think it physically hurts them to read everything too! Example, you say you don't like dogs but maybe ten words later say that you respect people who do like dogs. they'll skip over that part just to argue or if you post a genuine hot take with no insults whatsoever, they'll still find a way to argue! They're so easily offended. It takes more time to argue than reading everything.
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u/Psych0PompOs 1d ago
People are emotional, reactive and stupid frequently. Their reading comprehension is also really poor generally too.
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u/vanillaninja777 1d ago
Yeah some like to be a contrarian that assumes you haven't thought it through. This really irks me because unless you go into detail about every aspect of something, they assume you don't know it.
Also some are there to deliberately derail the conversation or exhaust it with a shitty take
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u/Psych0PompOs 1d ago
I find that annoying frequently too. Obviously my full view on a complex topic isn't going to cover the whole subject in 3 sentences.
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u/Ok-Amphibian9104 1d ago
I made a post earlier. Regardless of what people felt about my take, I found it insane how incensed people get in comment sections and how a stranger is automatically an enemy. The first comments were incendiary rejections of kids outright.
Many lengthy responses were to things I didn’t say or even allude to, just general ire to the idea my post sparked in their mind.
And then when you mount a defense or are as pointed in response, you’re “butthurt”. Incredibly interesting experiment.
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u/Clean-Leather932 1d ago edited 1d ago
I was raised by a mother like this, so I've been coached my a few different therapists on how to best deal with people that act this way.
My favorite visual: I was told to think about a dog trying to get you to play tug-of-war. You know, jumping up & down, putting the rope toy in your lap, barking, etc. If you pick up the end of the toy, you've lost. You must let them act a fool while you calmly ignore them (but enforce any necessary boundaries). For some reason I can so clearly see them as an over excited dog and that makes it so much easier for me to not take it personally. It's wild how accurate the analogy is for some folks & now I can dispassionately watch them change tactics trying to pick a fight a different way & in my head I'm seeing a dog with a slobbery dirty toy I don't want to touch.
Some folks get a rush from fighting & they chase it, often unconsciously. No idea why that helps ground me so much, but thought I'd share in case anyone else would benefit.