Got broken up with because of my test results

[u/sour-hearts]

I don’t know what I’m eating I just found it at work

I’m 22 and this guy I’m seeing asked me to get a full panel STD/STI test before we continue our relationship. I agreed because I know I’m clean. I found out I have HSV1, we opened the results together and prior to me opening my results he was all over me and kissing me. He saw it and then he backed away from me. I asked him what was wrong and he said he has to do his own research on it and then he left.

We were texting and I told him that I’m worried that my thing is bugging him and he sent me this: “I really like you and you've been sweeter than any other girl l've talked too but I don't think I'd be comfortable with it. Dating is already hard enough honestly but I'd still like to take you out and hangout this Saturday”

I’m so confused because I thought HSV1 cannot be transferred unless I have an active outbreak. I haven’t had one since I was a child, that was my first and only time I got a cold sore. It’s been nearly 2 decades since then. If he’s so worried about getting it I understand him not wanting to be with me, but we have already done stuff, so I kind of don’t get it?

I’m feeling really gross right now. I feel so incredibly disgusting and there’s no way for me to get rid of how dirty I feel. This thing is forever. I initially didn’t think it was a big deal until his reaction.

[u/Careful-Average73]

My partner has HSV1 and probably gave it to me and I don't even care lol I've never had an outbreak, why is it even an issue if you're asymptomatic 

[u/Ill-Bug745 → u/Careful-Average73]

Mines the opposite like I got tested and I was balling my eyes out like how I ruined him but he was like it’s okay baby. Lmao 😭 we’re still together and he didn’t seem too bothered by it. 

[u/Brilliant-Block-8200 → u/Careful-Average73]

Eh, it can affect some people differently. My brother ended up getting it from his partner and has really bad and painful breakouts due to it. Not wanting to risk that isn’t wrong imo (tho he should’ve talked to her about this before they had any intimate contact)