I’ve been on T for over 7 years now, I’ve had top surgery (no scars) for 3 years, passed consistently since I was like 15, and been completely stealth in my adult life.

Never been in a relationship. Never held hands, kissed someone, had sex, etc…. I’m about to turn 24 and I’m wondering if this is just wraps for me. I’m not an unattractive person (I think) and I’m doing well for myself in life so far. I have hobbies and a life and I take care of my physical health. I have fulfilling friendships with people I love and care about.

The one piece of my life that is missing is romance and intimacy. I feel like growing up I was so caught up with trying to figure myself out and my own identity that I missed out on that formative time where you learn how to interact in relationships. I’ve watched my whole life as the people around me seem to get in and out of relationships. Now as I’ve grown older, I’m seeing my friends grow with their partners and foster relationships that are a completely foreign idea to me.

Now at this point in my life I feel completely inexperienced and inadequate. I don’t know how to function as a person who is “romantically eligible” as I’ve kind of spent my whole life trying not to step on anyone’s toes or offend or possibly disgust someone by my liking them. Never have I ever received any kind of romantic interest either. It’s kind of fucked up, but sometimes I wish I could even understand what it would be like to be objectified because at least I would be desired.

I just have no idea how to navigate this and at this point it feels like I’m too behind to catch up. This is something I’ve yearned for deeply my entire life but sometimes it feels like I just wasn’t meant to participate.

I have never done it or took the courage to apprach and then how and when you disclose it ? is it a fantasy or it can happens? thanks

There’s this girl that im kinda interested in because i think our interests align, and from her social media i saw that she liked a post about dating trans guy.

However she’s openly queer and im stealth, im not that close to her but her circle of friends are pretty queer(i think), and not like mine. I’ve been stealth for safety for a few years, and i gave up on dating for a long time, but i feel like she could be the kind of person that can accept me/ see me as who i am.

I feel like i’d have a shot if i lowk out myself but it also feels like, i know she might be interested if she knows im trans, but that to me also feel like she wont see me as a real man/ is a chaser.

I also can’t tell if i actually like her, or just feel more comfortable around bi women that aren’t transphobic, and I’ve been single for way too long.

Does anyone have sone experience with this? Like a few years ago I’ve had experience where a girl is more interested after knowing im trans, and seems to just be curious about my “transness” and kept asking me disrespectful questions. When i first got outed to her (involuntarily), she had a good reaction and i trusted her, for like a day, then i realise shes talking behind my back 😭i dont want something like this to happen again, but at the same time i’d love a more lgbt friendly/educated environment :((

What packer do you use? Is it multi use? If not what your preferred for the different uses. I'm looking to get a new one that's not the Mr limpy

And this is advice I say to all the single men I know in my life.

You are worthy now.

It doesn’t matter what you look like, your height, your current stage in transitioning, your job status.

You are worthy now.

Don’t ever tell yourself you aren’t enough right now for your future girl.

Understand that she is also waiting for you to come into her life. And you wont be chosen because you’ve sharpened your dating skills enough, or whatever you guys try to work on to feel like you are enough. You’ll be chosen simply for just being you. Just the same as it is for you choosing her.

The truth is there is no trick to finding your girl.

It just happens.

So don’t break your back to change yourself to meet these ridiculous standards you see from shallow women and men out there. You don’t just want any girl that will just say yes to a date because you convinced her you are worth the time. You want a girl that genuinely likes who you naturally are, and wants that date just as much as you do. One that can love your flaws, and in flaws I mean your unique flaws, what makes you angry, sad, your trauma if you have it, and how you handle all of that, etc. You want a ride or die. And if you can provide that love in return. You are worthy right now.

So my advice to all you gentlemen here is to start moving through life like you deserve it now because you do! When this woman comes into your life, you will be glad you waited for her. You wouldn’t want it any other way.

Is it better to online date or just approach in person? I match with beautiful woman on dating apps but the convos never go anywhere it’s just hey wyd how your day I try sometimes to get their number to talk otp or FaceTime but they ghost I’m open about wing trans in my profile but idk I match with so many woman talk to a few but it never goes anywhere I also notice when I do get the number it’s like they don’t show high interest it’s like I have to chase & initiate & reach out first idk what to do I’m think it’s a number game just keep swiping & talking & trying I’m black so I use BLK Facebook dating & HER I deleted Tamia I didn’t really like that one

so i’ve started dating a straight woman, she has no problem that im trans but we haven’t had sex yet. i have a lot of bottom dysphoria and would prefer her not touch me down there for the time being and would just want to use a prosthetic on her. how do i casually whip out a life-like prosthetic without it being weird when the time comes?

I see so many people saying this, but I don't think it is true. We know how people just be saying shit, lol.

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My girlfriend makes me feel so manly when we're having sex. Like, effortlessly? She just... sees me like that.

Also I was so used to being the one that only gives pleasure, and I thought I preferred that, but she's kinda like that too so I had to learn to be the one that receives. And it's amazing. She knows exactly what to do to make me go feral.

I love how she craves feeling my growth in her pussy, and how addicted she is to me cumming while fucking her mouth (which is the best feeling EVER). She likes my packer but our sex doesn't feel incomplete without it.

I don't feel wrong. I actually feel sexy and desired. I'm 27 and I consider I've had a pretty active sex life for the past 5 years, but I literally never felt this good. I swear she's the best thing that happened to my self esteem and dysphoria. I didn't think a woman would ever desire me like that. She had never been with a trans man, but her willingness to learn how my body works makes her feel like an expert.

Almost can't believe this is how it's supposed to feel.

A couple days ago I had this random thought that maybe what I do is a bit weird but it makes sense to me and I was wondering if anyone else feels like this and does this.

So I use a strap on and no big surprise there but it makes me feel more comfortable and euphoric even if I don't technically use it. If I do use it I typically use a condom on it. I've always said it's for easier cleanup but tbh it makes me feel less special. If most guys have to do it, I don't want to be left out either. I wouldn't want to get anyone accidentally pregnant!

This is a post to hear about other experiences, not to help resolve mine. My girlfriend is a great partner who does my every wish so I don't feel dysphoric. This is not a debate about her. I wanna be clear I'm not inviting that.

Hey fellas. For those who are still pre-bottom surgery and deeply dysphoric, how do you or how would you approach the request of spicing things up?

My gf sometimes mentions she wants to "spicy things up", but I feel like it took such a long time for me to find a specific way to have sex so stepping into newer territories feels like also opening up a lot of room for dysphoria. Feels terrifying.

Plus, I'm not into any submission on any scale (I like to penetrate and would rather kms of it happening to me no matter the orifice) or BDSM weird stuff lol. So not exactly sure of what's there to do.

Any one got advice or personal experiences? Feel free to ask questions if I wasn't clear enough.

Are there any current FTM pornstars that top cis girls? Doesn't need to be hardcore BDSM, soft vanilla sex sounds amazing too🥺❤️

Please share the links if you have any! 🙈

Same shirt, just needed a haircut. If you’ve been thinking about cutting ur own shirts, this is ur sign.

If anyone wants to support an ftm creator, I’m on mens fashion TikTok @shorteditj :)

Hi all, I’ve posted a lot about dressing as a trans guy. What to wear to pass, what to wear to look your age, how to wear a suit, what to wear to pass, etc.

My aim has always been to help as many guys like me gain confidence and look good. W that said, I’ve started making tiktoks geared toward short guys. What kind of style/clothing advice would you like to see?

Ref: I’m 5’3 and these are my own outfits for inspo

What are you all's relationship to lesbianism, if you used to date as a lesbian?

I am in my 20's, 8 months on T and suddenly doubting myself- "what if im just a lesbian woman after all? What if I just met someone who won't make me dysphoric in the relationship?" I faced a lot of dysphoria in lesbian relationships so I know thats probably not true. I was always trying to prove my masculinity in the relationship, to the point that I couldn't enjoy the relationship. And I would make any girl I was dating feel like she couldn't express any masculinity because I was so toxic and fragile.

anyway. just wanted to hear other's experiences. I know i'm still early in transition, but I'm still very insecure.

Hey there,

I'm a straight masculine guy.

I met my (cis) girlfriend pre-transition and transitioned a year later into our relationship. When I first broke the news to her I was trans, she was very accepting and super chill. From the get go she treated me normal. I cannot fathom how easy it was. She does everything to accommodate no questions asked. Absolutely perfect girlfriend. I'm very lucky.

From very early on, she's aware I'm interested in phalloplasty. She has been supportive but I won't say enthusiastic or very curious necessarily, and I wanna know how you guys' partners reacted when you brought up phalloplasty.

I haven't had top surgery (coming up Jan 27'), but I've been on HRT for 1 year and a few months. We have sex but I'm very dysphoric and she does absolutely everything to make me comfortable.

My girlfriend absolutely loves dick, treats me as a man, loves my packer and to play with it (even the soft ones), but from time to time when I mention bottom surgery, I won't say she's crazy enthusiastic about it. I wonder if that's a red flag, but I dunno.

Important but TMI: she's bi and neutral leaning, no preference, but she truly likes dick and masculinity. She likes to be dominated, to suck on it, be fucked by me and likes to even ask me to slap her face w my prosthetic lol. So it makes me confused when I mention phallo she's not a giddy as when I mention top surgery.

How do you guys find women that are 1) into Trans guys and 2) into hookups?

I've tried all the dating apps and stuff but I get nothing, Nada, zilch. And when I finally do find someone who seems interested its usually "I dont like girls" *cue MASSIVE eye roll*, or " im not into ons". So like what do I do any advice?

I was always under the impression I was more of a "bad bitches is the only thing that I like" type fella but I noticed all of the women I been with, well, do have similar characteristics other than being baddies. I noticed I have a thing for bisexual/alt/creative girls, esp if they are black

Do y'all have a thing for a certain type of woman?

This one: https://transthetics.com/product/hot-rod-ftm-penis/

Hey everyone! I'm interested in buying this product and I wanted to know specifically for dudes who sleep with women (PIV in this case) if this a good affirming experience.

My bad for the typos in the title.