Diamond larger than expected (too big??)

[u/Beneficial_Pause_786]

My lovely fiance surprised me with a 2.5ct natural asscher cut ring. I love it and I'm so grateful, but sometimes I feel like it looks huge! We had tried on 1.5 and 2 carats together when looking for rings, so I was expecting something closer to that size. He said he picked this one because you can see the steps/cuts in the larger asscher diamonds better vs the smaller ones. Does it seem too large for me? The place he bought it from would buy it back from us at a slight loss if I wanted to trade down a size but idk. I love it because he chose it for me and I guess I'm just a little self conscious? Can anyone relate??

Edit: Jfc 😂 sorry everyone is offended by my car for some reason. I was just trying to show the ring on my hand from up close, medium distance, and farther away for size perspective. I am very lucky and grateful to have these things and am genuinely not trying to brag. I'm actually feeling self conscious about the ring because I don't want to be too showy!! Thank you to the people with legitimate feedback

[u/Mindless_Earth_2807]

It's not big. It's perfect on you. I can't relate because I'd actually prefer it to be another 0.5 carat bigger.

[u/Send_me_an_angel_ → u/Mindless_Earth_2807]

Haha same. I was thinking it wasn’t quite big enough!

[u/Junglebook82 → u/Send_me_an_angel_]

👀

[u/Active-Notice679 → u/Mindless_Earth_2807]

Same haha her hand could pull it off

[u/whimsicalsilly → u/Mindless_Earth_2807]

Yup. Especially in the first pic, I wouldn’t have guessed 2.5ct at all.

[u/Particular-Ant-2510 → u/whimsicalsilly]

It looks like a one carat maybe 1.5

[u/savvy-strawberry]

It's too small for a Porsche owner, however in a Toyota it would look massive. (Jk)

[u/Suspicious-Cell9947]

Help! My steak is too juicy and my lobster is too buttery

[u/VeniVidiVici_1960 → u/Suspicious-Cell9947]

OP wasn’t complaining. She just said she feels unsure about the size.

[u/waitwhat88 → u/VeniVidiVici_1960]

She’s attention seeking…

[u/waitwhat88]

It’s lovely and not “too large” but the unnecessary Porsche photo just sends this into humblebrag territory. Ewww.

[u/Moose-1211 → u/waitwhat88]

Tired of seeing this preposterous bullshit. Does this diamond look too big. Do I look too skinny. Does the perfect curvature of my face seem too stark against the collar of my $20,000 Brunello Cucinelli lamb shearling coat (made by hand from wool harvested from baby lambs in Spain & kissed by angel’s breath & licked with unicorn spit). AITA for insisting on a $3million dollar 55 room mansion in the desert but wanting a natural grass yard? I. Don’t. Even. Get. It. IYKYN & IYDK then puhlease FTLOG stop asking on forums like this which is really your passive aggressive “look at what I have don’t you wish you were me” crap. Cuz guess what, ‘sis, the answer is NO - it’s absolutely not too much - not compared to your ego….

[u/Uhohtallyho → u/Moose-1211]

This is such an epic rant I feel like historians need to flag this for posterity.

[u/AggravatingExcuse958 → u/Moose-1211]

The shitty stick and poke line down the middle finger tells me she rebelled in her 20s from her rich family life to vagabond around the us, but ultimately settled back in to the comforts of the upper crust 😂

[u/AmiraJ1 → u/Moose-1211]

Yes, my lobster is too buttery and my steak too juicy :(

[u/Own_Quail2973 → u/Moose-1211]

https://giphy.com/gifs/eevfPxSmGYu6k

[u/oceanblu28 → u/Moose-1211]

I find it funny how these privileged people are still so desperate for attention and validation from complete strangers. “Lobster too buttery” ass people. Shows that money doesn’t buy happiness or class lol.

[u/OperationFabulous225 → u/Moose-1211]

Agree. And slipping in the Porsche steering wheel. Ho, your thirst is too big for a fire hydrant.

[u/doryfishie → u/Moose-1211]

I cannot, take my poor man’s gold 🥇

[u/Own_Quail2973 → u/Moose-1211]

This right here! 😂

[u/unbenouncedtome → u/Moose-1211]

Lol what an absolutely unhinged response

[u/Klutzy-Delay-1933 → u/Moose-1211]

Slow down on drinking that hater-aid

[u/Optimal-Process337 → u/waitwhat88]

Right? The ring isn’t even in focus in that photo.

[u/No_Flamingo9331 → u/waitwhat88]

Lmao I’m such a loser I didn’t even know that was the Porsche logo (and didn’t read it). Still yuck.

[u/unbenouncedtome → u/waitwhat88]

Porsches have such a wide price range but regardless, so many people post steering wheel pics of their rings regardless of the vehicle make.

[u/WhileCrafty2395 → u/waitwhat88]

Would you be saying the same thing if it was a Toyota? Have you never taken a pic of your hand like this in your car? Weird comment.

[u/Rekeaki → u/WhileCrafty2395]

When you have money, you do actually stop and think “am I being an elitist ass by acting like this is nothing?”

In the same way you don’t take candid vacation pics while sitting in international 1st class or a private jet, you take care to avoid conspicuous shots of expensive badges and brands when taking selfies or pics. ESPECIALLY if you are posting it to a general audience and not just close friends

Its called “not being a dick”

You will get called out and you will deserve it. OP should know better.

[u/Adorable-Crazy-1067 → u/WhileCrafty2395]

Yeah the car is one of the most common places I see these ring photos taken, funnily enough

[u/waitwhat88 → u/WhileCrafty2395]

Hahaha lol no, I’ve never take photos of ANY of my diamonds in a car, OR asked strangers for validation of them (especially “Is THiS tOo BiG!? 🙄).

What is actually weird is how many people do one/both of those things. Adding a fake Birkin or Cartier item is the extension of this sad habit.

[u/VeniVidiVici_1960 → u/waitwhat88]

Come on. Why so judgey? So she drives a Porsche. So what? It’s a free country. Maybe she put herself through law or engineering school and makes a great salary and she just wanted what she wanted. Good on ya, OP.

[u/waitwhat88 → u/VeniVidiVici_1960]

https://giphy.com/gifs/1tHzw9PZCB3gY

[u/reality-bytes-]

No not at all. Asschers already face up smaller than other cuts. My 4ct asscher looks similar in size to my 2.5 ct round.

[u/Bellebutton2]

lol, the nails subreddit won’t allow pictures of hands on a steering wheel.

[u/countkahlua → u/Bellebutton2]

I came here to say this! So tacky.

[u/Agreeable-Badger2204]

No. Bigger would look even nicer. It looks a smidge small on your finger.

[u/catincombatboots → u/Agreeable-Badger2204]

I think its the band that's a smidge small for her hands. Maybe that'll be sorted with the wedding band or whatever they have planned there.

[u/Legovida8]

The addition of the Porsche picture screams “insecurity.” It’s a beautiful ring. Don’t try to overcompensate.

[u/theplacesiveseen]

This is not a large ring.

[u/notgonnatakethison]

Haha the Porsche pic. And no don’t think it’s big at all

[u/Munchi_azn]

Idt it looks big on you at all.

[u/camelz4]

I would never look at that ring and think it’s too big.

[u/Adorable-Raisin-8643]

Nice rental car

[u/lorilola]

If you’re driving a Porsche you should go bigger and go home. Come on now….

[u/oceanblu28]

Not sure who is more insufferable… people with obnoxiously big lab diamonds asking if they’re too big or people with huge natural diamonds asking if they’re too big. Either way it comes off as tacky and desperate for validation lol. Enjoy the nice ring sweetie. You don’t need our approval.

[u/Aggravating_Dig_8473]

Sprained my hammy running to comments for the Porsche roasting.

[u/Blackcatjt]

It looks really good. Enjoy it.

[u/NegativeCondition777]

It's in no way ostentatious or too big for your fingers at all. I think it suits your hand well.

[u/Professional-Yak6904]

Never too big honey! 🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️

[u/Impossible_Hair_8619]

I personally don’t like the huge diamond trend but I think this looks great!! Not too big at all.

[u/CompanyOther2608]

It’s perfect. Congratulations!

[u/Adorable-Crazy-1067]

It does not look too big looks perfect on your finger size

[u/truecakesnake]

It looks great, don't worry about the size.

[u/KTannman19]

It doesn’t even look big lol. Looks nice.

[u/Mamalovesgems]

Very traditional size. Not too big enjoy it.

[u/Beautiful-Rise-2010]

Your ring is Gorgeous. I love Asscher cut and am in the process of having a 3.05 set into a hand engraved setting, Show it off! It looks beautiful on your hand. PS. Like your car too!

[u/Due_Help_1639]

It’s an asscher cut, it appears smaller than its carat weight already compared to other shapes. I genuinely don’t feel like it looks like a “big” diamond. It fits your hand well.

[u/ajot-c]

Idk why you’re getting so much hate? Like this is your regular life? So what? 😂 so many people take the same photos but god forbid someone is wealthy and do the same. Hypocrites are annoying.

ANYWAYSSSS ring isn’t too big on you honey. Looks just right AND you have the lifestyle that makes your 2.5ct “normal” if u get what i mean.

[u/waitwhat88 → u/ajot-c]

She’s getting dragged for being fake.

[u/ajot-c → u/waitwhat88]

Being fake? She’s just wealthy. That’s not fake lmao.

[u/O_hai_doggi → u/waitwhat88]

You’re so jealous omg you’ve made like 5 comments roasting her

[u/ajot-c → u/O_hai_doggi]

No dead assssss 😩 why do they care if she has a Porsche? And It’s okay to have a preference. She might’ve wanted a “smaller” ring bc they only tried on 1.5-2ct.

[u/Responsible_Ask3976 → u/ajot-c]

People are just jelly! Agreed, enjoy the ring and the car 😍

[u/LKNGRAY5]

You have chubby hands. It looks small on your fingers.

[u/fubooze]

"Hehe 🤭 too big" set against my GT3 steering wheel lolz

[u/Ashley_ann720]

Honey, we don't care that it's "natural". Please take your humble bragging and karma fishing elsewhere.

[u/Distinct_Print673]

You drive a Porsche, no diamond is too big 😂

[u/MentalCoconut7617]

It’s perfect!! I think it looks great

[u/Purplehearts59]

So beautiful! Too big? Absolutely not! Congratulations to you both!! 💜💍🎉🎉🎉🎉

[u/Italiansrbest]

It’s so beautiful and believe it or not, you do go size blind! I wore a 1 .10 ct lined princess for 20 years then hubby bought me a 2.25 round and thought it was huge!! After 6 mo, I don’t find it as huge!

[u/polka-d-ott]

I have a 2.8 ct loose asscher diamond and I keep thinking it’s too small! Yours is gorgeous and makes me realize mine is perfect and I need to have it set.

[u/shirlxyz]

It’s perfect on you 💕

[u/balancedinsanity]

Not at all.

[u/Expert_Sand_2622]

I love it on you and you have beautiful nails, too!

[u/Regular-Metal-321]

This fits your hand great! Especially because your hand looks rather long and not small and dainty so it doesn’t look big at all. I actually think it looks small fr.

[u/catincombatboots]

You have somewhat fuller fingers (me too) and I think the stone size is matched to your hands. The band however, is thinner which might be what's making the stone look big. Are you planning to wear a wedding band too? I think the balance here would be great if this ring was in a small stack.

[u/No_Improvement8498]

Relax with the Porsche girl.

[u/OhMyGains → u/No_Improvement8498]

It’s an older cayman (edit: macan) from the looks of it. Not too expensive tbh.

[u/WhileCrafty2395]

It’s perfect!! Coming from a fellow Asscher girly

[u/Just-a-mom-of-four]

That is just the right size on your hand! Sachets are one of those cuts that actually looks best over 8mm, so a 2.5-3ct is ideal.

[u/Gloomy_Swimming8863]

It looks good on your chubby fingers. The fat supports the carat weight.

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[u/literlily]

It looks perfect on you girl! I can relate definitely because we constantly look at our ring and pose our hands diff ways. It can put thoughts into our minds that either it’s too big, small, more diamonds, wish they bought a different ring, or it’s not sparkling enough. Don’t worry! It’s beautiful! everybody overthinks :)

[u/Sunflower_kizz]

I like it

[u/Original_Spot5786]

Is that even possible?

[u/ang2515]

Did you try on the 3ct or 3.5?

[u/No-Bed8211]

I know people who have 3 carat rings. I bought a piece of jewelry recently from a goldsmith and the designer had a diamond that had to be 5 carats. It was ast least as big as my thum nail...

[u/Spirited-Town-4618]

No not at all

[u/No_Flamingo9331]

Omg absolute perfection

[u/Spirited-Town-4618]

The asscher cut is my fav

[u/ComfortCreature88]

I think it looks like the perfect size for your finger! And it's beautiful.

[u/ashgfrank]

Who is saying this is too big?? Looks perfectly fine

[u/madhavstellar]

This size will grow on you , looks proportionate to me ! Would not go for something smaller after seeing this !

[u/Chance-Addendum-3068]

Esta muy grande para tu dedo la verdad, venderlo y manda hacer uno más pequeño o ve y haz un intercambio así pierdas dinero, si la UDA está en tu mente e spotque así es la realidad y no vas a estar contenta hasta que lo cambies

[u/Melodic_Historian669]

Doesn't look huge at all. It's on the smaller but classy side

[u/LKNGRAY5]

It’s too small

[u/Witty-Whatever]

The comments are weird, I didn’t notice the Porsche until I saw the comments. The cut looks great, the stone is beautiful and not too big. I would suggest a different nail shape/manicurist to flatter your hands more though.

[u/Specialist-Win-8038]

Your ring is beautiful, not big at all. Looks great next to your Porsche steering wheel. If you are blessed to be able to have all these things in this lifetime, then you enjoy. People that can’t afford these material things get mad at others that can, just pure hate. Misery loves company. I worry about my life and what I have, not what others have. People just love to judge. 

[u/OperationFabulous225]

It’s definitely too Big for that Porsche, honey

[u/killer-queen]

In pictures it looks perfect but I totally get why you feel it looks too big in person. I remember trying almost the exact cut and carat on when we were ring shopping and it was HUGE in person but when I looked back photos it looked smaller. Just enjoy it! Congratulations!!

[u/mustIovebooks]

Perfect beautiful Asscher!

[u/MaiBoo18]

No not too large

[u/DorothyZbornak72]

Doesnt look big to me. Maybe a carat. Its lovely.

[u/IndependentSimple779]

It’s an absolutely gorgeous and perfect ring and the diamond is absolutely not too big! It looks perfectly proportioned to your hand. Keep in mind the shrinkage factor is real 🤪 Enjoy and congrats! P.S. Haters will always be haters, just ignore. There are many other cars much more expensive than Porsche… Did they expect you to intentionally hide what kind of car you’re driving?!

[u/lovers_andfriends]

Not too big! It suits your hand.

[u/CupSea5782]

It’s nice!

[u/vintage_diamond]

I think it looks proportional on your hand, which is what I always focus on when it comes to stone size. I don't think you need to go smaller. But if it really bothers you, then size down. Do what makes you comfortable! Congratulations! 💜

[u/RipApprehensive9314]

It’s gorgeous don’t even think twice about it

[u/whateverhouseplease]

Your fingers are not very slim- I think 2.5 is too small to offset your natural finger fat. Not sure why you'd be embarrassed by a 2.5, those are a dime a dozen?

[u/Lulubelle4548]

It looks like the perfect size in every photo except the Porsche photo. In the Porsche photo it looks way too small. Kidding kidding. It’s beautiful. Congratulations!

[u/Particular-Ant-2510 → u/Lulubelle4548]

LOL

[u/Dramatic_Substance36]

Too small. You got Porsche money.

[u/nationalparkhopper]

Its gorgeous. I have a ~3 ct asscher, 8mm square, ant it feels substantial without being too much. IMO!

[u/Constant-Voice9505]

Perfect size. Beautiful!

[u/unbenouncedtome]

I don’t think it’s too big - it looks modest for coastal California

[u/Cwilde7]

90% of the time I think most large rings look tacky and scream fake from a mile a way, real or not.

Yours looks just about right and I would love it if I were you.

[u/Particular-Ant-2510]

If anything I’d say go bigger it’s not even big at all even for a “natural diamond”

[u/Antique-guinep]

It’s not too big. It’s perfect and exactly the ring I would want down to the side stones 🥰

[u/opisica]

Your ring is fine, asscher cuts look smaller so this looks good imo. As for the people triggered by the car…there’s something about Porsches that really triggers people. When my husband and I bought our first, someone keyed it while we were out celebrating the purchase with my family. Just miserable losers everywhere. People take photos against their steering wheel all the time, but since it’s not a cheap car I guess you’re not allowed to do what everyone else does. Gotta protect feelings lol

[u/TheXcapeArtist]

This is a very tasteful size on you- I love it. Not too large at all. What a natural beauty. Congrats!

[u/NoPumpkin3844]

I feel like I tried this ring on do you know if it’s from dubai?

[u/NoPumpkin3844]

that would be crazy if same ring

[u/Own_Quail2973]

Since you asked, my opinion.. 2.5ct is not too large. I would actually consider it small.

It is a very pretty ring. Dont go smaller, shrinkage is a real thing. Congrats on your engagement.

[u/dukeparm]

Wow people are so bitter. If not the porsche roasting, it’s making fun of OP’s finger size..

[u/O_hai_doggi]

Why’s everyone so butt hurt about your car lol who cares. Reeks of jealousy in here

[u/Mysterious-Art8838]

I think it’s great and I personally think large diamonds look silly but this one is totally reasonable. And stunning. Good job, bf.

[u/rushfd69]

Tell me you borrowed a Porsche to show off your CZ without telling me you borrowed a Porsche to show off your CZ.

[u/LKNGRAY5]

Your big hands can handle it.