Honestly, no idea where to post this question but this seems like an ok starting point.
I (36f) grew up loving Christmas. My mom made the holidays so special for us. I've deliberately made a point of not working in retail over Christmas to avoid losing my joy.
My partner (33f) hates Christmas for a garden variety of absolutely valid, traumatic reasons.
She now has a 4 year old and while I'm not committed hard to making her love the holiday, I thought having the kiddo around might show her how magical this can actually be...
Except the custody order specifically granted Christmas evening and Christmas morning to her ex. Every. Single. Year.
I think I'm more crushed about this than she is. She didn't even want to do Santa stuff anyway and I respect that. But that was my favorite part about being the eldest around Christmas and the fact that she might never get to see his sweet little face light up at 5am Christmas morning... Ugh. I'm tearing up just thinking about how unfair and stupid and cruel this was of her ex.
I told her we can always do a pre-christmas day early and I expect we will. But I'm still so sad that her memories of the holiday are such garbage. Again, I'm not trying to force her to love it, but I do see an opportunity to make it special for the two of us somehow.
So, Reddit. If you previously hated Christmas and don't anymore, what changed? What are your favorite less over the top ways to spend the holiday? And if you hate Christmas but somehow ended up here, what would it take from your partner to make you feel a little better about celebrating?