It sucks that guys get gaslit about dating struggles

[u/racecar67885]

I’m 22 years old and straight up… Dudes just aren’t allowed to talk about any male dating struggle especially the struggles surrounding looks. They get made fun of or told just go workout and fix yourself. Why are guys the only people who are not allowed to complain about anything. My cousin is 18 and my uncle gave him the work on yourself and girls will give you a chance talk. He did all of that and developed actual hobbies, still gets rejected because he is short for his age (5’2.) Once no other advice worked he was finally told “oh it’s because of the stuff you repost on social media” yeah I’m sure his beliefs are such a big deal. Hell, I also get rejected a lot despite expanding my personality. I’m not saying anyone else should be blamed for shortcomings, I’m just saying we should be able to vent lol

[u/superginseng]

Im so fucking over the incorrect use of the therapyspeak like “gaslighting/gaslit.”

The word has evolved so much from original meaning that apparently in OPs mind, it means mild disagreement or not allowing to do whatever he wants.

[u/Moopies → u/superginseng]

It's so goddamn annoying. Just read the definition. It's not hard.

[u/Odd-Swimming-8304 → u/Moopies]

Take your own advice

[u/Moopies → u/Odd-Swimming-8304]

Okay.

" a form of psychological and emotional abuse where a person systematically manipulates someone to make them question their memory, perception, sanity, or reality."

I'm failing to see how OP used this correctly.

[u/Odd-Swimming-8304 → u/Moopies]

And i’m failing to see how it isn’t

[u/Moopies → u/Odd-Swimming-8304]

Someone is systematically making OP doubt his own reality and memories?

[u/Odd-Swimming-8304 → u/Moopies]

This entire thread!

[u/Moopies → u/Odd-Swimming-8304]

Ah ya fucker

[u/Odd-Swimming-8304 → u/superginseng]

Galighting about gaslighting is a new low.

[u/Working_Cucumber_437 → u/superginseng]

Everyone will use the word if they think their beliefs are facts. If what I believe is a fact and not an opinion and you tell me otherwise you’re gaslighting me.

Way too many opinions taken as facts without good data (not anecdotes) to back it up.

[u/superginseng → u/Working_Cucumber_437]

That’s… not what gaslighting is.
One has to actively make the victim question their own sanity and reality, that’s just disagreement.

Please look up the origin of the term, it’s from the movie Gaslight.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslight_(1944_film)

[u/Pelican_meat → u/superginseng]

To fight this and distinguish between them, I call what you describe “gaslamping.”